one of the hardest inevitables that I had to accept that comes with life is that you're going to outgrow people you know sometimes you're going to go on two different paths and you guys no longer lying in each other's lives sometimes you might be close one day and then two months later you're completely apart and having talked for weeks you know disconnecting from people is an inevitable that comes with life and sometimes you do more damage trying to force people into your life then you do just letting them go you know I learned this process
as I was on my journey of kind of self-growth and kind of being on my own I started to notice things I started to notice the people who actually reached out to me started to notice the people who would only talk to me unless I talk to them start to realize who only reached out to me if they wanted something from me and throughout this you kind of understand like who's an outlier who's a close friend who you should value who you should keep close and kind of who's just like in your life from time
to time but not really a a core person not really a person you can rely on not really a person that you can trust and as I I started to grow myself as I started to become a better person as I started to improve my life and how I viewed the world my mindset and things like that and the type of person I wanted to be I started gaining an understanding of who I needed around me I started gaining an understanding of the type of people I need around me um that align with the person
I was trying to become so whether that was a content creator whether that was someone out of college who was like striving to be successful by a certain age or striving to be out of my parents house by a certain point in time you know I had to surround myself around people who enabled me to accomplish that life because say I'm around people who smoke all day say I'm around people who are lazy say I'm around people who normalize not giving their best uh every single day you know that's going to rub off of me
like you are a product of your environment and if you're constantly around people who give off the energy that you know it's going to be okay everything's going to work out eventually and that you don't have to be in control of your own life at actually and that life is just going to come to you and that you don't actually have to take any action you know it's going to rub off on you it's going to make it seem like oh you know what that is a a way that I could live my life that's
a normal way of living your life that's how I should live my life but in reality bro nothing's going to come your way unless you go out and get it like you know opportunities are going to arise but you can't just sit around waiting for them to come and then even when they do come you know you have to take action on them and so what I had to realize is that I am going to outgrow people you you know sometimes you and another person are just going to be in two completely different mindsets and
what I learned to do was determine how much you could tolerate of a single person before their habits and the way they live their life rubs off on you so maybe you do have a lazy friend maybe you have a person who is comfortable where they are in life but you're trying to strive for better you know they're comfortable being average or they're comfortable not giving every day their best so it doesn't necessarily mean you have to be like you know what I'm no longer friends with you or I I no longer with you whatever
like sometimes it's just a matter of you know I can only hang out with you once a month I can only hang out with you every couple weeks because I can't allow how your your way of living to basically rub off of me or you know maybe you have a friend that smokes every single day you know maybe you don't go around them when they smoke or maybe you don't go around them um every day whatever like you learn to gain an understanding of how much you can tolerate certain people um and then there's other
people where it's like you know they just don't belong in your life anymore like sometimes you you literally outgrow people and their way of living the type of person they are maybe the mindset they're in their maturity level where it's like you know you no longer serve a purpose in my life you know I'm trying to move forward in life and you're going the complete opposite way to where you serve no purpose being around me you know maybe a year or two ago I was where you were but you know now I'm trying to grow
into something better and my better doesn't allow with who you are and the thing with that is that sometimes that's going to bring you a lot of heat you know sometimes people are going to call you out calling you fake saying you change saying you're too good for them or in reality bro all you're doing is doing what's best for you and that's all you could do at the end of the day you know you're not obligated to spend time around certain people you're not obligated to give people your time in general so for people
to have an expectation that you owe them something you owe them your time you owe them um conversations you owe them explanations for you distancing yourself from their lives is like it's crazy because you you truly don't like sometimes you literally just have to understand what's best for you and just do that with no no explanation to other people no trying to negotiate because at the end of the day your first instinct and knowing the person you're trying to become is what you should go with and when you start trying to gain other people's opinions
for them to kind of negotiate why you should be in their life why you should keep them around you know that's when you start second guessing yourself and not doing what you feel called to do but rather like forming into the person who others want you to be because the truth is everybody's life Journey looks different you know I'm at the age of 20 and I'm in the mindset of you know I'm trying to grind I'm trying to move out of my parents house I'm trying to get successful as early as possible where you know
I know other people who are like you know I'm comfortable living at my my parents crib or I'm in college so I'm chilling or I'm just waiting around for opportunities to arise and things like that like everybody has different circumstances everybody has different mentalities and it doesn't mean it's anything personal it's just an understanding of like where we are and understanding like what type of people I need around me for what I'm trying to accomplish at this point in my life you know for me personally the people I want around me is people who are
in my same mindset who are trying to grow into the best version of themselves and actually taking action towards it you know when you surround yourself around people who are in a negative mindset of just complaining or uh all they do is talk words but never put AC actions or they're constantly living in fear you know that stuff begins to rub off on you like every time I talk to a person I don't want to hear them complaining about where they are in life and I'm observing them and then they're taking no action towards it
I don't want to be around someone who's constantly trying to project their fears onto me and saying why I shouldn't live my life this way or why I shouldn't live my life that way I don't want to be around someone who's just comfortable being average and saying like bro you're working too hard or bro you you can relax like you don't need you don't need to work that hard whatever like you know you got to gain an understanding of the type of people you want around you because you want people to enable you to move
forward you want people who support you and encourage you for what you're doing you want people who you could go to and ask for help for how can I do this better how can I improve in this area of my life you want people around you who are better than you like people who are at that high place or near that high place that you're looking to go up to so say I'm a YouTuber I'm at 500 Subs you know and I know a friend who's at 5 ,000 Subs you know I I should want
that person around me to gain an understanding of what I need to do to get to that point in my career or get to that point with my YouTube channel growth or maybe for me I have a bunch of followers on Tik Tok like other people should want me around them to be like hey how do I get to that point how do I grow my Tik Tok into how you grew yours like you want people around you who truly challenge you to become a better version of you who truly can give you IDE ideas
different perspectives different tips on how you can grow into a better person because the truth is when you're only around people who are levels below you or just at a completely different place that you've passed maybe you know you've got past that maturity stage you got past that level of trying to um improve yourself or you got past that level of living in fear and things like that no now you you pass that level but you know you still have people around you who are down at those levels like they have nothing new to offer
you because they haven't even gotten up to where you are they can't even see the things that are above you that you eventually have to take on and overcome because they're still down there and so they have no no value to offer you essentially and in that aspect of your life like some people are going to be in your life and you know they're the ones you could trust they're the ones you can rely on they're the ones that you can ask for help and you know they'll show up like those people you want to
keep around you but then it gets to a point where there's like pointless people around you where they really don't serve a big or deep purpose in your life and they're kind of just there and you know they might be in a negative head space and it's just like unnecessary people in your life to where like it's unnecessary opinions it's unnecessary complaining it's unnecessary drama like you got to gain an understanding of the type of environment you need around you at this point in your life because I'll be real it's hard as finding people who
truly are on the same mindset that I'm on at this point in time like it's truly hard to find people who arey trying to become a better version of themselves it's truly hard to find people who don't just value sex and actually value like real relationships and things like that so I have to understand that when I find certain people like I have to Value them I have to make sure I'm showing up for them I have to make sure I'm showing that love to them and I'm returning the value that they bring into my
life because at this point in the world like good genuine people are rare people who are loyal people who you could trust people who you can rely on is genuinely rare so when you come across those types of people you have to understand like keep them around you value them you have to make sure that you give them your best if they're giving their best to you and you know when it comes to those hard moments where you have to outgrow certain people you have to understand that it's not your responsibility for other people to
grow like one thing I used to struggle with was trying to force people to become somebody they're not ready to be like trying to force them to have a mindset trying to force them to be in the mental state that I am in but in reality like everybody has their own Journey everybody has to go through their own experiences in order to shift their mindset and realize that they need to make changes or they have to go through that one tragic event that makes them want to change because for myself you know I was that
person who was cool being immature cool being where I was and not striving towards anything and you know then I went through a tragic event where I hit rock bottom where I had where I came to realization you know I had to change something in my life where I started tring striving towards being something better you know I can't force that on the other people because sometimes they just have to go through their own journey and everybody's journey is going to look different so who am I to judge somebody for where they are in their
Journey knowing that I used to be in that same exact spot so I can't make myself responsible for trying to change them into somebody they're not ready to become because I'm not responsible for the events that they need to go through in their Journey you know God has a plan for them and you know I I'm not responsible for making them follow that plan I'm not responsible for for trying to turn that plan into my own plan for who I want them to be and so what I had to understand was that sometimes you just
going to have to leave people behind like sometimes you're going to have to go on with your life and go on with your journey and keep leveling up in your life and not feel bad for having to leave people behind like if they're true genuine friends like they will feel a sense of proudness for you becoming the person that you want to be for you leveling up your life for you becoming a better person and they won't feel any type of way for you not taking the time to bring them with you essentially like you
not trying to force your journey into their Journey or you trying to force your vision into their Vision like some people will be proud of you doing what's best for you and understand like that they are responsible for their own journey and their own growth but yeah if you're currently in that stage of outg growing people where it feels like you know nobody relates to where you are in Life or it feels like you you're trying to move on from people or you feel obligated or like you owe people your time because they've been in
your life but they really don't align with who you're trying to become like understand that it is okay to outgrow people it is okay to move on from people and understand that they serve no purpose in your life they aren't the person that you need them to be at this point in time you might have to distance yourself from certain people that you you used to be close with or you might have to distance yourself from certain family members because they live in a negative mindset they living fear like only you know what's truly best
for you only you truly know what environment need around you in order to become the person that you're trying to become and with that knowledge take that action to know what you need to do do what you need to do but yeah I appreciate you if you made it to the end of this video hopefully it brought you some value and you learned a thing or two join up on the Discord follow the Instagram and the Tik Tok and as always I love and appreciate y'all and I'll catch y'all in the next video peace
