in this video I'm going to share a secret with you a secret that will give you extraordinary power so much so that you won't even have time to respond to the girls who admire you you'll gain loyal friends who will form a Brotherhood with you for life and you'll build Social Circles and connections like a celebrity everyone will respect you and promotions will become a regular part of your daily routine this extraordinary power you'll gain from me today is psychopathic confidence forget everything you've ever heard about self-confidence because in this video I'll take you deep
inside your own mind and into the mind of others transforming you from an ordinary person into someone capable of Conquering the world on their own the person who is confident in themselves simply trusts in who they are phrases like open your hand stand tall speak boldly do this do that are all outcomes of self-confidence but confidence is something that comes from deep within you something that exists inside you without your conscious awareness and when we talk about the subconscious we're talking about something you can't control directly you can't just wake up one morning and say
I am confident and be done with it confidence needs to be planted deep inside you and only then will you notice that your life has changed so how do you plant this confidence if we were to explain self-confidence it's simply that a person who is confident in themselves has self-sufficiency meaning they don't need others approval they know very well why they are capable and qualified this is the principle I want you to focus on we as humans love talking about ourselves people are obsessed with their own personalities and everyone wants to share their life experiences
adventures and achievements to prove themselves and find their place among others except for one person the one who doesn't need others approval the person who has already established their place in society the person who is self-sufficient and confident this is the person who earns respect and acceptance without even seeking it for example if you buy a new car it doesn't mean you have to tell everyone you meet about it or if you get a promotion at work you don't need to bring it up repeatedly or if you visit Paris you don't have to tell everyone
you meet that you've been to Paris in other words keep your achievements to yourself and even if you feel the urge to brag resist it stay silent and let people discover it on their own for instance if you bought a new car and you're hanging out with someone one day don't say I bought a new car wait for an opportunity to say do you need a ride and if the opportunity doesn't come there's no need to mention it I know this example might seem strange or a bit robotic but generally speaking don't try to prove
yourself directly rest assured your qualities and achievements will inevitably be noticed there's no need to tell people about them and when they find out they will value you more than if had said it yourself but you should do this for yourself because you've made that decision not to gain people's admiration self-confidence is about you not about how others see you I'm not sure how else to explain this but simply put don't try to prove yourself don't go to someone and say I'm smart or I don't lie or I'm confident let people discover who you are
through your actions and accomplishments one of the key differences between an ordinary person and a confident one is that the ordinary person hides their weaknesses and shows off their strengths while The Confident person hides their strengths and turns their weaknesses into strengths the first thing you need to do is to accept those weaknesses not just with words but with genuine internal acceptance for example if you're short this can be considered a weakness let's be realistic and honest with ourselves being short is often seen as a disadvantage what I want you to do here is ask
yourself is being short something I can control the answer is no you are short and you will remain short for the rest of your life if you keep running away from this fact it will cause you problems but if you accept your height no one will be able to use it against you if someone says you're short you can simply reply yes I'm short so what there are plenty of short people who have achieved great things history is full of examples of great individuals who were short another example if your hair starts falling out and
You Begin going bold shave it off and accept yourself as you are be proud of your flaws don't be afraid to show them and don't try to present A Perfect Image all the time laugh at yourself and take pride in your imperfections if someone tells you you're a liar don't try to justify Yourself by saying no I don't lie and getting into details just say yes I lie and go on with your day without giving it much thought if someone says you're stupid say yes I'm stupid if they say You're fat reply yes I'm fat
and don't care about others opinions if you have a flaw accept it and be proud of it aside from the discussion on self-confidence if you have a flaw the first thing you need to do is accept it don't resist it if you consider yourself unattractive stand in front of the mirror and say yes I'm I'm unattractive and then carry on with your life when you accept your flaws anyone who tries to bring them up or use them against you will find that you simply don't care in turn they will sense your inner confidence confidence is
an internal game you need to understand this we humans communicate more through emotions than through words words make up only a small part of communication your feelings about your floor are transmitted to others and they will automatically feel that you are confident if you have accepted your imperfection so now I want you to think about any flaw you have accept it and say this is who I am of course if it's something you can change then go ahead and do it for example if you're overweight you should start exercising and eating healthy I think you
get the idea give yourself value especially when you're around other people how do you give yourself value take what I'm about to tell you internalize it and remind yourself of it every day first of all no one knows who you are or what you're truly like for example if you're sitting in a meeting you shouldn't feel inferior to those around you you might actually be less accomplish than others but the truth is no one knows that there could be someone else in the room in a worse situation than you but because they give themselves a
high sense of selfworth people around them perceive them as important and have no idea about their reality what am I trying to say here give yourself value because the people around you don't know anything about you even if you have little money in your pocket act as though you are a person of great importance in society if you rate yourself a 6 out of 10 increase it by two points and give yourself an 8 out of 10 you have nothing to lose when we talk talk about value we also need to address social media the
new generation lives in a world of Instagram and Tik Tok for example a 19 year-old girl might spend 4 hours a day on Instagram she sees pictures and videos of people living the life she dreams of she sees her friend traveling and others having Adventures while she sits at home all day this feeling begins to creep inside her making her feel less than others even though social media is full of Illusions the girl who looks beautiful is often using filters and makeup and the person who appears to be traveling frequently might be on their only
trip ever everyone shows the best side of their life portraying it as much better than it really is this makes us lower our selfworth so my dear friend remember that what you see on Instagram is Just an Illusion don't let it affect you or make you feel inferior to others you are better than all those images you see remember that those people showing off a perfect life are often lying to you this is not their true life don't let these Illusions bring you down or lower your self-esteem Nothing in life gives you value it's you
who gives value to yourself so whether you're with your colleagues or with girls remember what I'm telling you now the value others give you is the value you give yourself don't be stingy give yourself a high value no matter how you see yourself raise that selfworth a little you deserve more before we continue I'd like to let you know that this video you're watching is the first episode of a new series on the channel about social skills if you'd like me to continue with this series please let me know in the comments now we will
move on to something important and to explain it to you I'll start with an example let's say you enjoy listening to rap music and someone comes up to you and says I like listening to pop music what do you like to listen to in that moment don't say I also like pop just to agree with him or say pop is great when in reality you can't even stand listening to it simply say I like rap now a few scenarios might unfold there are two possibilities either the person will say is rap even music it's just
nonsense and criticize you or they might ask hm have you ever listened to pop in the first scenario if they criticize rap music as someone who is confident in yourself you'd simply say I like it or you might say maybe it's nonsense to you but I enjoy rap the important thing is don't try to say I listen to Pop sometimes or change your opinion or lie just to go along with them at the same time don't feel the need to defend rap as if you were in a battle don't say rap is great millions of
people listen to it it's real art just say I like it and be confident in your choices without needing to defend or change them in the second scenario if they ask do you like pop and you actually don't like it just say no I don't like pop if they start defending pop or attacking rap stick to the same idea I don't like pop because it's not my taste and that's it don't try to justify yourself or get into a long discussion to convince them that pop isn't good or that everyone has their own preferences simply
say I don't like it and leave it at that point is you don't need others approval you need to fully understand this and not just follow this advice like a robot tell yourself honestly I don't need other people's approval and I don't need every everyone to like me I have my life and I know my own worth and here we've come to the end of the video always remember to give yourself value and don't wait for anyone else's [Music] approval I know something's going on there's dishes in the sink and trash in the front yard
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