I'm going to share with you three steps to end any toxic relationship with the narcissistic person not only will these three steps in the current mess that you're Tangled Up in with narcissists whether it's your family members friends lovers co-workers whomever but if you implement these three steps in your daily life I promise you that you will never again deal with narcissistic people they will be running from you my name is Kevin and this is the Royal weed now before I continue I want to let you know that I'm here to support you down in
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schedule some time with me now today we are going to be talking about three powerful steps these steps sound simple but in practicality they're not that simple hopefully I plan to make them that simple by the end of this message are you ready let's do this step number one make sure that ending any toxic relationship is coming from your heart's decision it must be a heart's decision to end a toxic relationship with a narcissistic person you do not need permission from the outside which means you don't need closure you don't need to write some fancy
long letter you don't need to call them up on the phone and tell them all the reasons why you want the relationship to end because the reality is is none of that stuff is coming from a decision for you to end the relationship that's coming from looking for permission you're fishing for something anytime you want to put out there this long reason and excuse to get them to change what you're really doing is throwing out a fishing line saying give me a reason to stay give me just one tell me you're gonna work on yourself
blah blah blah blah blah and by the way narcissistic people will they'll see that crack wide open in you and they will weasel right in there and say oh okay no I will change I'll go to counseling I'll I'll go I'll be better okay I'll be better how many how many times have you already heard that nonsense it may have worked the first second third fourth fifth shame on you however many times right now your decision has to come from within from your heart to where you've seen enough and your heart has now made a
decision saying I'm done everybody say this with me I am done I am done with the lies I am done being cheated on I am done being mocked I'm done being criticized I'm done with the abuse I'm done I am done I'm so done I'm ready to build a wall against me and the narcissistic person I am done now this is important because none of the other steps are going to work unless you get this down as a matter of fact if you're not in a place where you're ready from within your heart to be
done with the narcissistic people turn the video off right now go watch something else go watch Conspiracy Theory videos because the other steps aren't going to make sense to you so I don't want to waste your time I know I said that number three is the most important but I'm actually now challenging that I think number one is the most important if you are not a place if you're not at a place yet where your heart is done with the relationship then there's nothing you can do there's no YouTube video you can watch I don't
care if it's Dr Romani or if Dr Carter or Dr Jordan Peterson none of their none of what they say will ever matter until you are done in your heart and you're ready to seal up and get that relationship at a distance that allows you to feel safe all right so for those of you who are at a place where you are done within your heart let's continue step number two now is start with slow nose slow nose say this with me everybody slow nose what's a slow no a slow no is actually just saying
no learn the habit of saying no to people narcissistic person boyfriend girlfriend calls you up hey what are you doing you want to Netflix and chill haven't seen you in a week no I'm busy sorry not sorry bye thanks for the offer that's no narcissistic family members call you up hey you really need to come over to the barbecue this weekend your aunt your uncle and your brothers and sisters everybody's going to be there and they all think you're very weird because you've been keeping yourself kind of distant and we're all kind of tired of
it you really show up and it's your family you can't just stay away from your family yeah yeah look I'm I'm busy no yeah all right thanks for offering maybe another time I'll catch up with y'all later bye that's no you don't have to give a long excuse a long reason you can if you want make something up washing my hair sorry can't do it sorry not sorry yeah I'll be in the bath I'm not gonna be able to make it bye no some of you right now might be saying yeah Kevin you've never said
no to a narcissistic person then because you don't know they go off the handle they fly into a rage they make your life miserable blah blah blah listen yes I have been there and every time it happens you know how I respond to it yeah the answer is still no let your yes BS and your no be know yes they're going to fly off the handle who cares so what they're like toddlers in a grocery store toy aisle right Mommy Daddy I want that toy buy me that toy you haven't bought me a toy in
in over a month you don't love me anymore if you don't buy me that toy I want I want I want no no I'm not getting you a toy but you said I'm not no the answer's still no still no like a wall still no as a matter of fact the more you rage the more no it's going to be the more aggressive I know becomes the more aggressive you push that button Mr narcissistic person so let them get raged at you and let it Harden your know even more and here's what you're going to
do you're going to start to develop the pattern in your life the habit of saying no which is going to change you from being the yes person you've always been I'm a giver yes yes sir yes ma'am whatever you want yes yes and listen by the way it's not your fault we've all been that yes person modern christianese kind of taught us to be that way say yes to everything be all things to all people on and on and on right which turned us into a bunch of yes people being in situations around people and
doing things we have no business being and why because we arrogantly think we're doing the right thing it's we become prideful in saying yes and hoping that they're accepting us really they're just taking advantage so it builds the habit of saying no instead of yes listen Jesus wasn't a yes boy he wasn't a yes simp walking around saying yes to everybody right I know there's a hill song out there all your promises are yesterday men yes and amen wrong the Lord is not all about yes to the Lord was no he wasn't joking around there
was plenty of nose plenty of get out of here it wasn't just a yes to everybody kidding me you're not supposed to be a yes person to everybody and neither am I so we've got to crush that squash that develop the habit of saying no and here's what's going to happen The Narcissist will leave you don't go no contact with you that's why you don't have to worry about no contact with a narcissistic person all you got to do is start saying no and narcissists will leave you alone this is what gets them running after
they throw their temper tantrum after they yell and scream and fight they'll realize we're not getting anywhere I'm not getting anything I'm not getting my sexy time I'm not getting affection I'm not getting my money they'll have no choice they'll freak out they'll get mad they'll get angry at you they'll cuss and scream and shout like a child not getting their toy and then they'll realize I better move on and they will go no contact with you to try to find Supply elsewhere but this only works like I said if you follow step number one
which is make the decision from your heart because it has to come from your heart that you develop this solid wall of no if you haven't first made the decision in your heart then you'll always have cracks in your no and narcissists will weasel their way in through their yelling and screaming and temper tantrum throwing or making promises they'll find the cracks and get in so that's why step number one is important but then step number two just learn to say no and if you do this the right way narcissists will go no contact with
you and they'll have to go find their stuff somewhere else all right step number three then which is the one I said is the most important step number three is to replace your addiction oh I said it I know you're addicted I know listen I've been doing this for five years talking with people about narcissistic abuse helping people out of broken relationships and I've had to get out of it myself so I know you're addicted as I was addicted listen the reality is is we are by our very nature addictive if I said that right
creatures listen let me put it to you this way this is how God designed us right because we have to survive in this world we would not survive in this world if we did not have biochemistry that produces what we need to be doing right if it wasn't for adrenaline for example we would have not had any motivation to get up and run away from the jackals that were chasing us out in the wild when we were naked before civilization was even built we all would we wouldn't be here we'd all be mauled to death
a long time ago but because of adrenaline we're able to get up and turn these legs into wheels and get the heck out of there what powers that adrenaline we are biochemical beings what motivates us and drives Us in life it's a reward-based system internally endorphins serotonin these Juices Flow and it makes the rewards in life worth obtaining without that we'd sit around like a rock s don't need adrenaline but rocks don't need endorphins or serotonin rocks don't need chemicals right that's what we would be but we need to accomplish things so we need biochemistry
this is important to understand because narcissistic people toxic relationships if you will hijack all these bio chemicals they hijack our system the sex is good the fighting is good everything is good and all of our juices go from where they should be in life to get us to a healthy place and they all go into the relationship this relationship grabs on and engages all of our chemistry you are addicted how many of you have said it seems like I no longer Know Who I Am anymore I've lost my passions I've lost the things I once
used to like doing yeah you traded it in because the fighting and the sex and the name calling and all the stuff pulled your juices if you will your biochemistry it sunk it into that relationship it became the most exciting thing because it was so intense and as a result your painting hobby or your flutophone or whatever you did back in the day can't compete or compare with getting your hair pulled and called names and then having rough sex or whatever or all that stuff in that relationship so you have to find a way to
balance out your nose with creating exciting things to do in your life it's okay to take some time to process on your own and do some self-isolation but then you have to develop some exciting things even if you have to lie to your body and trick your body make yourself do things you can't just sit on the couch eating potato chips and watching movies your body will disagree with you strongly and it will straight up tell you if all you're going to do is sit here and eat hot cheetos I'm going to let that narcissistic
person back in your life because that's more exciting than sitting here eating hot Cheetos and you'll have no control over your body so it's better to start to make plans test yourself test your limits in a healthy way hit the gym lift weights join a race go join a boxing club get ready to fight somebody wearing gloves for the first time risk getting knocked out see how strong you are maybe go skydiving parasailing go on a trip by yourself do something scare yourself do something that's going to be healthy and strengthen you in some ways
but is going to satisfy your your your addictive needs get your juices flowing a different direction from the narcissistic person this will ensure that you're not tempted to go back that's why it's so important so let's recap the three important things I know this has been long-winded thank you for bearing with me but I hope this is a powerful lesson for you number one was once again make sure it's a heart's decision or else nothing works number two is just give slow no's deny yourself and deny the narcissistic person right and over time they'll leave
you alone number three replace your addiction you do this your life will change forever like I said before I'm here to support you down in the description box you'll find access for one-on-one appointments with me in addition to that brand new life coaching program it's all down below so get down there get registered I'll be back with more videos for you right here on the Royal week
