Ross Jeffries La99 Speed Seduction Divx Tape 1 Of 8

Hi I'm Ross Jeffries and welcome to the power of setting frames and speed seduction videos these videos are from the first seminar we've done in 1999 in Los Angeles throughout these videos will be discussing the power of frames how to set frames that serve you and put you in the driver's seat in the position of power and choice these are dynamite videos you're going to see some powerful change work plus We'll be discussing how to structure your own patterns how to understand themes on the deep deep deep level and lots of other wonderful things sitting

here beside me is my code trainer good friend Maj mark Kennedy a major Marco tell us a little bit about these videos and what you think they're going to be honestly I think this is the best work we've ever done the combination of the overall structure the themes the liberating effect of frames on the Students life coupling that with the dramatic improvement that we have done in our basic technique weaving even more powerful hypnotic techniques all throughout the entire presentation that all modesty aside this is the best this is far and away the best we've

done and for those who have given me the feedback saying Ross you need to structure the presentation more I sat down and deliberate structured this it's still not linear you will not get Connect-the-dot step-by-step this is once again now but there is a structure that really helps you get the material move out to the world with so sit back and relax you'll get more and more out of these tapes and thanks for your time in your attention let's do it is interesting to say the least I'm here to give you your wake-up call I'm here

to tell you that some of the things that you might experience it will Be well outside their previous experience which in part is why you're here you're not entirely satisfied with what's going on before you suspect that perhaps there's more or they can be done more within yourself I can't tell you that the process is as Paul was saying it's we're not terribly interested in your intellectual understanding okay we're interested in change change itself we're about to go through an experience where I'm I don't want you to try to Understand once you've entered into our

reality we don't try things we because there's a big difference trying is a mechanism that we all use when we want to cushion the downside the frustration of possible failure think about it you say you know come on come on come on let's go do something you go oh okay what the hell I'll try it okay now you try it because you think well you know maybe it's gonna work maybe it's not we use the mechanism to because We think that at some level there's a possibility of success there's a possibility of failure in frustration

and we don't want to get too emotionally committed to whatever it is we're about to embark upon because after all what happens that if you set out and it turns out you end up frustrated or you didn't get the outcomes you wanted well that's a negative thing in less than positive thing as we say in hypnosis and so you want to just since you've experienced That before you want to just go ahead and avoid it but see the thing is a lot of what we're going to be doing this weekend doesn't involve to your conscious

mind oK you've got various parts at your mental makeup you've got the conscious mind which is the part of you that thinks it's in charge in reality it's a pimple on the butt of your overall consciousness but you know it does in fact think that it's In charge just a part of you that's a wide-awake looking around absorbing data is basically there to solve problems is the part of you that can conceptualize when you think about how your life is gonna be on Monday it's your conscious mind that's coming up with these scenarios let's see

there's another thing there's the unconscious mind now the unconscious has roles and Responsibilities as well the unconscious mind is there it's the prominent repository of your memories everything that has ever happened to you around you everything you've ever thought about everything ever felt it's all stored away in perfect finality and available to you if you know how to open the door it's the repository of all your emotions which is why I'm sure you've had the experience before of an emotion welling up from inside it's like Jesus not the Christ where did that come from the

emotion just Wells up and grabs you by the balls takes you for this Brown right then also just disappears again it's your unconscious mind providing for this but it has another function it's something it's a behavior called the protective of mind and what it is your unconscious mind has the responsibility to watch over you to protect you and to help you wherever possible now The catcher is your unconscious mind is not logical is not linear it's highly emotional and so when it makes decisions about how to help you it may not make a whole hell

of a lot of sense okay now Paul was talking earlier about how you all have problems now being a highly skilled hypnotist I would prefer to reframe that as you've all experienced significant challenges in your life but I'm here to tell you that you're all okay there's nothing wrong With you throughout your entire life you've been making the best decisions you could with the information you had a pen I mean none of you set out on say a Saturday night to get cleaned up you know head out to where the women are hanging out and

you say you know I'm gonna engage in some behavior that's so disgusting so repulsive this one I lose myself in the morning okay let's do it you don't do that in but you do find yourself behaving in certain ways Certain ways that were not helpful did not lead you towards your consciously chosen goal we call these things because the behavior manifests itself before you consciously aware of it it's not under your conscious control your helpful unconscious mind is trying to do things for you that it thinks you want so if for example just a hypothetical

you've been spending some time in the past saying why am I such a dildo when it comes to women okay your unconscious Mind says why he's asking why question he wants a list I can do that and start giving you this long list of reasons why you're we're going to be talking to your unconscious mind because you're unconscious well it's not terribly energetic it tends to give you what you rehearsed instead of what you intend okay that's why you find yourself falling back into old behaviors objectionable behaviors if you are not giving it a clear-cut

Option so that your unconscious mind can say all that's what getting laid oh I thought I wanted to screw up that's because thinking about then see your hunk conscious mind doesn't know the difference between mental rehearsal and physical rehearsal it has no [ __ ] clue it's all real - you're okay think about this every time you flash back on Wow I walked up to this hot babe I finally screwed up my courage or what you know I Call courage walk I've talked to his hot babe and she just looked over a little looking but

urges me and she said [ __ ] off we go it goes inside and you start to think about that we are unconscious mind says man this is what he's practicing it must be really important so I'll pay attention and make sure at the earliest opportunity I'll give it back to it that'd be pretty helpful we're going to be going through things you can take your jacket off it's the Only linear on the East Coast we're gonna be going through processes that involve your unconscious mind you are certainly welcome to take all the conscious understanding

you might wish but in particular when I'm talking that's really not we're going to be working with you to help you begin to imagine new ways of thinking new ways of feeling possible new behaviors that heavy much higher probability of leading directly before The streets so as part of this process as I'm saying we don't try things we do things if I were to tell you that as we go through this weekend we are gonna teach you a technology a technology that is so refined so powerful so effective that all you have to do is

to do what we tell you and you'll have a hundred percent chance of success 100 percent chance of success no chance of failure whatsoever given that would you try it or would you Do it so chances are you're going to do it because there's no chance of failure right so I guess that means if we're trying something work unconsciously going chant familiar chant to success in your unconscious mind says hell failure I know how to do failure okay and that's what Gina doesn't doing now we don't ask for blind faith blind faith is the province

of religion and despite what some are critics say that is now okay instead we don't care if you're Skeptical all skepticism means is alright cunningham i'm gonna do what you say I'm gonna see what changed manifested in my life and then leave well I make up my mind what it is it's a good thing a bad thing and whether I want to keep it or throw it away that's perfectly okay with us we don't mind skepticism because we know this [ __ ] works I mean this is not exactly a uncharted path here we've been

doing this for years and we're Accustomed to wild successes people ask me all the time they say well Jesus you know you say you're this world-class hypnotist you know you charge big bucks for all kinds of things what's your channel what's your rate of success I go look yeah that's a challenging question and as a trained ethical professional life it's my obligation to be frankly okay my success rates 100% my success rates 100% I've been doing This for a long time I know exactly what to say just the right tempo just the right tone allottee

in just the right sequence in order to manifest and powerful and permanent change supply success rates under percent the question is what your success rate is going to be right and it has to do with the attitude then you bring to this now some things have to be true we know in order for you to have a wild success within our program first is A collection of factors about who you are okay you have to be human because every human is capable of accessing trance States you have to have an IQ over 70 so we

know we have an imagination in there to work with okay and you can't be psychotic because psychotics are already in trance okay now we're not gonna call your friends and family and co-workers but we're gonna take your word for it now the second thing it has to be true has to do With the quality of your imagination and how you air accustomed to using it so if I were to ask you if you could imagine now [Music] a time when you actually you're relaxed you're confident you're successful you're moving directly towards your goals which after

all is one of the outcomes I would imagine you want from this seminar are you capable of imagining such a time yeah okay how are You doing okay let me ask you something what do you imagine that are you thinking about are you remembering a time in the past so you remember how it felt are you thinking about how it will feel in the future don't don't start it okay good that's important because see the thing is a lot of people make the mistake when they wanted to get any more permanent state they first flash

back on who this Is where I experienced it so I know that's when it was possible and he end up setting your goals as recreating the past well your unconscious mind is not logical as I say it's terribly emotional but it's certainly not stupid it's just as the telogen as the rest of you and it knows everything you know and one of the things that knows is setting your goals in the past just will work okay it knows you're not serious because you're setting your goals in the past so it Says [ __ ] that

[ __ ] don't have to do that here let's feed him some more failure that worked pretty well last week and you're right back this family so what we want you to do just throughout the course of the weekend begin to think about how things will be mental rehearsal we want you to use your imagination to practice only success okay I mean if you're gonna be pounding experience into your brain you may as well make it good you may as well make It work it's your imagination you can do anything one now a lot of

people think that the process of investigating trance States and I hope you people understand that we're not doing experience to their experiments in massive doses here we call trance States just the ability to step out of the normal consensual reality to begin to dream up whole new realities and then find ways of making these new realities for you okay what we do is not about controlling you It's not about uncovering past traumas and reliving them in helpful ways okay all we're doing is changing your model of the leaf we all have models that we use

as a shorthand for reality okay if you've tried to go through your day in a raw receptive state you find that it's it's a challenge it's fatiguing okay so what we all do is we we substitute a shorthand of assumptions that we call reality and we use it as we hold it up it's like A screen in front of us so that everything has to pass through that filter in order for us to know that it's real it's true it's beneficial desirable whatever now problems can arise with this kind of strategy because what happens is

if you have a model that is not helpful or if you have a model that for example assumes that women are hostile to you then your unconscious mind acts as an infallible target finder and since you Have this model of unhelpful hostile women it will find hordes of them for you and in order to reassure you that your model is correct some of you this may be ringing a true huge kuniva okay why are there so many amazingly [ __ ] up women in my life boss because you said your criteria to go out and

find them okay or they put me absolutely wonderful people but as normal people they can receive signals that are not necessarily verbal they're not Necessarily written down there are things that are emanating from you and so on the unconscious level they manifest the reality you desire you can walk up to a perfectly fine woman and if you are just so cranked up still tense so expecting that she's going to do something undesirable she will instinctively go ahead and do the very thing that you think is the worst outcome because after all you're projecting your reality

models so Strongly that she picks up on it and she manifests it for you the universe says kind of damn it today is your day we're going to grant your wish the first thing comes to your mind is I failed with women done we're here to teach you ways to not only change those enough amounts but they actually give control now I don't mean control in the sense of hands originally in the control I am now in control okay because you can't possibly be in control You can never know for a fact that you're in

control unless you had the ability to let go and then pick it up once again make sense say yes okay that's another thing we're gonna be going we're a real big on affirmation than understanding if for example one of us goes say yes we expect you to say yes because what happens is the unconscious mind is listening it's your own little not terribly logical highly emotional personal assistant it's like a real dim Bulb personal assistant you know that means very well but it's not going to be reasoning very strongly about the outcome so we need

you to just go ahead give it clear instructions as Paul says relax just relax I mean look it this way you're stuck okay your check the credit card is already cleared you're already in the Windham Gardens he makes well doesn't have the experience okay and that's all we had so we're gonna take you on a ride as part of the process We're gonna do something now it sounds so uncommon like it noses that it may it's not something you can take no time it's not something that oh we're gonna challenge you to do but you

do have responsibilities okay in the experience you're about to undergo your responsibility is to sit quietly a lot of your body to relax let your mind drift off including a drowsy state and you'll be aware the sound of my voice I'm not talking to the part of your mind that requires conscious attention so just be aware of the sound of my voice in the same way that you're aware of the weight of your body against the chair I want you to close your eyes I want you to sit with arms and legs under cross I

want you to take a deep breath and it out for this time just let go let go of all thoughts all feelings that there was something in the past that could control you because the past is Over the best it's gone no negative emotions no negative experiences that can exert any control over you at this or any other level of consciousness so as you begin a program of deep regular breathing I want you to allow the body to relax every muscle every fiber all throughout your body you might lose limb and relaxed beginning the process

where with the regular breathing your body relaxes your Mind your soft and delicious creamy drowsy comfortable stick and your unconscious mind opens up opens up for new thoughts you understand as you begin to learn [Music] in the past you've had patterns of behavior patterns of feelings that came to you unawares even to the point where your conscious mind to become aware but Way after the fact oh my after those thoughts and those feelings begin to come out and in the past they may have done so in unhelpful ways but the thing is you're okay and

everyone around you is doing the very best they can with the information so as you allow the muscles and tendons to go loose and relaxed each and every deep breath can allow you to breathe in oxygen to breathe out stress and to continue the progress of becoming more And more there's a way of hypnotic trance is a way of communicating within your as you continue the process and you feel the relaxation going through your shoulders all the way down to your arms tips [Music] can begin to learn to learn that the universe will manifest itself

in a different way a way the Begins to bring new colors new attitudes playful behaviors interesting insights the lessons that [Music] because in the past you had a model it was a way of thinking a way of thinking about the work and you held this model in front of you and you may have really enjoyed the model are perhaps the model allowed you to feel things to obtain things that you hadn't been able to get people There are new way building models and belief beliefs about yourself belief that you have the power the power to

choose and choose to relax to enjoy your life bar more and to begin to get things that you really ways to get your unconscious and your conscious mind to relax and work again [Music] in order to obtain the goals for yourself goals that allow you to be on back better now some of you may feel it as a lightness as you let the weight of the past go just let the weight of the past go and feel increase typhoons Because that you're off this is your this is your opportunity to begin change change in your

thoughts change in your attitude your beliefs and your behaviors as we go from this the next become each and every of the relaxation where your body relaxed Than your chest in fact in your abdomen [Music] you can begin you to anticipate adventure how good can this possibly be even now as usual it's beginning to wonder just how to where all you have to do is continue the relax learn to enjoy it by far more as the hips The hips thighs and knees doin we're just totally and then company I relaxed Iran she's fine can be

akin to oh good can I feel just how much pleasure in all the ways that's right change can begin change that allows you to know that you're in the right place at the right time the right things in the right sequence As you feel the change begin from the right to the left side of your brain connecting your creativity and your logic new communication new thoughts these images new sensations moving back as the me the shins in the feet totally an income each and every time you just take a deep breath allow the body to

relax remain aware of the voice talking to your Unconscious deep inside change begin you may not understand how change will manifest in it's not important that you understand support that youth be the change occur because there is you'll notice change isn't happening some of your changes will happen as you listen to the sound of my voice change begins to certainly go with every beat of your heart your heart beats over Fifty thousand times each and every day circulating blood from the top of your head to the tips of your toes on the way out to

your fingertips each the circulating new ideas possibilities that will allow you to look at your life to relax to enjoy your life and began the process of allowing yourself reality a reality that change is the Constant the universe change is the most powerful force in all the universe because everything is subject to change and what you're learning now the way to allow your unconscious mind words thoughts physical sensations that beat you and take you right to the point where you can say this is what I want this is what I find again Deeper and deeper

into the possibility that for you there are even greater possibilities that you've ever met so what I want you is to allow your body to absorb the relaxation as your unconscious mind absorbs the thoughts absorbs the word it begins to wonder begins to anticipate just how good can this be there's a process because a process that is unconscious A process where your unconscious can begin to look for ways to allow change that's what we do we learn when you were very small there are rules never given to you in order to help you and protect

you to guide you in the right but just as you would not allow that very young version of you to make your decisions to drive your car or to choose what you're allowed in your life you can easily understand now that it's time For you to make adult choices for adult reasons in ways that would be and as your unconscious learns and new instructions new idea needs to do now in order for you to achieve your goal and you can begin to enjoy as you imagine at time you Venus a few months berries and so

in your life in ways that allow you to Feel comfortable enjoy your life bar desire in a moment my voice will promise and as it does so I want you to take all the time of the next few moments to begin the change that your unconscious the processed ham and when my voice returns it will not startle and distract you in any way the only increase and intensify the Suggestions and this is something and deeper and out more relaxed than ever before more comfortable with the process each and every time you feel this helpful trance

state coming over you this weekend you can smile the Android smile recognition and now you're on your way you're I'm right change is happening for you as my voice Mr. Holmes you can return back to the rim taking a deep breath only as slowly as you acknowledge that there's a process unconscious and yet automatic one that will allow you to begin to relax you feel far more and begin to enjoy your learning the things that it's time for you to the things that it's time for you to change understanding [Music] to begin begin the process

of accepting new thoughts new behaviors new attitudes today all right now I want you to open your eyes take a deep breath and we're going to do a strange and esoteric Hindu ritual I want you to stand up stand up return all the way back in the room and we're going to perform the ritual it Goes like this now chances are you are now wide awake okay I want you to sit down and this opportunity I want to introduce my good friend consummate companion the left lobe to my right lobe mr. Ross Jeffrey 20 class

let's have a hand for major mark couple of things here anyone here from out of town yeah yeah who came the furthest how do you answer that question again we have any Canadians here oh yeah I remember you You were in nowhere Cancun Spain canoes a good time ivory I wrote revived the pop-tart tradition so if you ask a good question you know pop-tart you asked a bad impression I've got some of tabbies dried cat litter there are no bad questions except the ones that you keep to yourself so ask up Seth how are you

you stud boy we're gonna have you come up and tell your story okay I'm getting ready here They're double bagged well I had a student come to me actually he called me on the phone and by the way we are going to be inviting you to participate in some very interesting and different states of consciousness throughout the weekend so for those of you who learn in a linear fashion who need to be told this is what you're about to learn now you're learning and congratulations you've just learned it you may view this space as the

palace of Puzzlement the concordance of confusion the Oracle of overwhelm and that's all fine and since we are dealing this weekend with both illusion and genuine magic I thought I'd take a minute to shatter a big illusion and the first illusion I want to shatter that is that this is a traditional classroom first of all I'm not a traditional teacher but I know this looks like a traditional classroom after all you have the authority figure here in the front of The room you're sitting here at desks just like in school you have you're taking notes

right you have your notepads you have your pens and your various writing instruments of various kinds so it looks like a traditional classroom we need to destroy that illusion this is not a traditional classroom if we think about traditional learning for a second in traditional classrooms let's just draw that frame here okay Traditional learning let's call it trad l okay traditional learning is what I call educational bulimia how many people here have ever been past high school in the college okay how many people studied really hard and did fairly well on their tests how many

people actually remember any of what they learned on those tests okay very little traditional education is what I call educational bulimia okay Does everyone know what bulimia is I was joking around with my friend Joel polish I said I have asked Fellini I eat tons of food then I stick my finger up my ass and it all comes yeah a nice metaphor bulimia is an eating disorder where you eat tons and tons of food and then you run into the bathroom to stick your fingers down your throat you throw it all back up okay it's

common eating disorder you may be dating someone who has it well educational bulimia is just Like that you study you memorize educational bulimia is foundationally based on memorizing it's not based on comprehension it's based on memorizing memorization is the least important thing in mastering the skills we're going to teach you I've had people who have very what they would call poor memories although memory is of course a normalization for those of you who are NL peers anyone here who's trained in NLP one person will work extra with you Sir we'll get you past it okay

so traditional educational frame has to do with memorizing it has to do with obeying Authority with doing the teacher is being unquestionable with demonstrating that you can kiss the teachers ass by agreeing with the teacher and all that other [ __ ] those things are not useful for real learning let me talk to you about real learning how many people here can walk how many people here can ride a bicycle How many people here can jack off okay you didn't I didn't and he learned that when you learn to touch yourself you didn't do a

one-year thesis on the history of self-exploration he didn't memorize facts about the hydrostatic structure of the penis all of that's very interesting stuff now I read an article in Discovery magazine I really did this is not a pattern I swear you pick up this month's Discovery magazine they had an article about a female Scientist who does nothing but investigate thiness isn't I sweaty she died sex animal penises and she subjects him to torsion and stress tests they had a male reporter writing the story he was going oh my god at this point I really wanted

to leave the room she had a freshly amputated rat penis she put wires on one in tied it into some kind of torsion bar and was testing it now she's an expert on the structure of the mammalian penis now what she discovered Is the penis is not a helical structure it's actually orthogonal which means it has longitudinal and latitudinal fibers that allows it to inflate without bending or breaking very interesting but the bottom line is that well why mine is dead she is not a traditional learner she's in there with her hands on the subject

okay stretching our ideas of what is possible so real learning has to do not with memorizing facts with all the other [ __ ] real learning has to do with wonderful things like absorption immersion comprehension okay with real learning you want to put yourself into the subject you cannot really learn to dance by studying dance books you have to get out there and do the steps and when you first do the steps you're going to be a little clunky we have people here in the stream who have various levels of skills and in some special

disciplines and I'm Willing to bet that when you learn those skills you weren't that good at them at first though maybe some of you have some natural propensity some natural talent and still and all to really master it you had to get out there and do it so real learning is about absorption immersion and it's about comprehension it's about understanding what you're doing and one of the keys to getting when I'm going to be teaching what marks going to be teaching and the other Members of the training team are gonna be teaching is understanding asking

yourself what is this tool or set of tools designed to do what is its purpose if you understand the purpose of the tools you're learning then you can apply them in all sorts of situations let's say you're an alien from planet remulac you land on earth and I give you a hammer I tell you use this tool now if you don't know what it's designed to do you're gonna be puzzled but if I tell You it's designed to drive little pointed things into a wall then you have a good idea how to use it and

which end to use how to hold and where to point it you're not gonna hold it by the metal end and try and pound by the way okay even though you've never seen the tool before if I tell you the purpose you'll have a better idea of how to use it we can reverse it let's say I'm the alien from remulac I hand you a tool I don't tell you what it is but I tell you it's Designed to levitate objects at least you get a better idea of what direction to point it okay you

may not know exactly which buttons to push so I want you to totally discard the notion of traditional learning this is not about traditional learning okay this is about immersion absorption drill we're going to be doing drills and exercises and above all it's about your willingness to take responsibility for drilling with the tools I am NOT going to dump Information into your head I don't believe in that model of teaching I don't believe you can install skill yes you can install beliefs you can install attitude but I'm going to be giving you tools that you

must drill with and you must work with that means the person responsible for your results is whom you not me no I'd love to hear these stories Ross you and Yates and Mark and everyone are gods you know look what I didn't like what you showed me And all these turn around and say we may have designed the tools but you picked them up and made them part of who you are and you took responsibility for learning the tools does that make sense so your agreement with me is that you're going to understand what I

teach if you don't understand it would like a better understanding you will ask questions okay there may be some times throughout the presentation when we're doing trance induction and that sort of thing overtly Where it's not appropriate to ask questions but generally speaking if we're up here during the lecture or the drill part it's fine to ask questions I encourage it good questioners get pop-tarts maybe condoms you know okay it's very important because people come to me in the garage you know I tried this pattern exactly the way you wrote it and didn't it didn't

work what what happened well the patterns are not scripts that you Throw up like information on the test they're examples of the kinds of communication excuse me that we'll get to the kind of results you want so anyway the student says to me whenever I see a beautiful woman I still feel like I'm going to get shot down so I said to him oh by the way let me take a minute to introduce the the training team of course already this morning you met the amazing major mark Cunningham to stand up major mark Yeah do

we need room I just pick up other people um major mark I'm sure that you were an instant success at speed seduction the minute you got your home study course you went out there applied it and we're seducing women left or right left and right is that not true when I first ran across Ross's stuff then I set out like so many successful students in the past to prove that he was just this screaming egomaniac [ __ ] and his stuff wouldn't work and The way you do that is you test of course okay and

I went out and I took some of his stuff actually I well we had this bizarre correspondence going on for a while but then I started running the patterns and what I would do would be I would memorize the patterns and then I would go out and actually initially my success rate went down because what happened was instead of relying on my natural skills and abilities that had carried me to the point where I was I Shifted over to attempting to deliver the patterns it was a new behavior and so I went on I tripped

over my dick a lot okay had some outstanding successes and the successes initially came about because you're in it sometimes you run across women who are just ready I mean you could walk up and start talking about how you know I just took the top the block off of my Camaro and it doesn't matter they're ready to go you know but What I found was that I got increasing levels to success my percentage rate went up just from delivering the patterns well I started thinking that this is not 100 percent success and I'm oriented towards

100 percent success I don't like failure failure is so astonishingly easy you can hire a bunch of winos off the street and have failure you know and so that's the lowest common denominator what what leads to success and I started thinking about well how Does this stuff work why does this stuff work and I realized that the attitude I was bringing to the work was in fact the attitude that was holding me back it was the very thing that was [ __ ] me up I realized I was bringing too much of the old mark

to the new behavior so I was getting in my own way and I decided well for exam I've gone lots of different places I've done lots of different things I mean if you've been following the the recorded Coursework you've heard some of the stories but I still had this bizarre thing about beautiful women I say bizarre because I mean I've come from a scenario where you jump out of a helicopter and kill everything they moved before they got you and I could handle that go walking up to a beautiful girl in the bar I mean

it's like you know I break out in the cold sweat to start rehearsing all the different ways I can fail to make sure it I've got it Firmly in my head so by the time I'm up in front of her I'm ready to really [ __ ] it up you know and so I thought well maybe what I need to do is talk to more women and so I set off with the assumption that every day is Disneyland I'm going to go up and I'm gonna talk to every single woman that comes within the range

of my voice and I did this for 3-4 weeks I mean standing in a line at Kroger's buying groceries I talked the woman in Front of me talk someone behind me okay drive in line at the bank I'd be chatting up the woman through the speaker box I mean you know any place I would run across anyone with any age any description I just start chatting her up until I decided okay I can handle women in general now I'm ready to go take a shot at all these beautiful women so I started selecting every time

I saw a beautiful woman I would just immediately come up and I would say something Something that was true something that she could easily notice in the environment around it to start the conversation and I would just I would force myself to go up and do this horrible objectionable behavior of talking to beautiful women until I got to the point where I had done this so often to such degree of detail that I'd be sitting at the food court at the mall okay and here comes his hot babe I go oh [ __ ] another

beautiful one time to go to Work okay hi honey how you doing you know until I completely lost that block okay talking to beautiful women was no longer a bizarre thing and the interesting thing is I knew in the back of my head I had a construct that I could use I knew for example the average person when they graduate out of high school has a working vocabulary of 1,500 words that's it I mean there are hundreds of thousands of English words we normally Use about 1,500 now if you've gone to school it could be

like go to college the average college graduate has an extra thousand words up to 2,500 if you go to grad school I mean like you're really into punishment you go to grad school and yet it was about 3,500 words and so I thought well geez what would happen if instead of taking these patterns and delivering them in such a way that it only increased my hit rate what if all the components of patterns Were in fact my natural working vocabulary well then I wouldn't have to remember a single [ __ ] thing okay all I'd

have to do would be go up and talk to women and I'd already fixed that part okay and that's where I started getting tremendous power tremendous growth from the work you manipulative bastard and and by the way people often ask is this manipulative I go you better [ __ ] believe it we worked very hard to make it extremely effectively Manipulative we'll talk about manipulation in short order by the way Yates did well we don't have a VCR they're not going to give us one oh well can we get one or yeah let's get one

so we can show that crackerjack video of me all right and though since we're speaking to Yates let's introduce my business partner and surrogate dad and a brilliant guy in his own right dr. Yates can I now many of you have had the experience Of calling up Yeats and asking questions and he's always happy to help unless you're a [ __ ] rude [ __ ] then he tells you to go [ __ ] yourself and we cut you off our list that's the way we like it tell a little bit about your story how

you came to this technology and how you've seen a girl what do you think about at all I used to use this technology in fixing broken companies I took over bankrupt Companies as a chief executive officer and turned them around in very short order and never fired anybody that's not to say people didn't leave and the appropriate people left to make the company productive again but I didn't have to fire I just had to talk to him in a certain way and I decided to I didn't wanna do that anymore because I was spending 7

18 hours a day 7 days a week you know doing this and I said I can use this and be a lot more fun so I Started doing the experimental things of you know teaching this teaching that seeing what else I want to do in life and that's where I met Ross and we met through a very brainless court reporter a mutual mutual female friend how beautiful but dumb as a post yes like she was she was a good court reporter yes very good card and so I asked him I says what did you uh

you know what are you doing he told me he says I wrote this book I said yeah he says yeah how To get to women you desire in a bit so I like the title and so I got the book and and and read it and I call Ross up and I says he never says if you read the book you know all of you happy he's never says an LP in it or never says what he's doing he simply starts doing stuff and I recognized what he was doing I called him up and I

says you know this is brilliant I says your sense of humor and your style of writing and your knowledge of The technology is tremendous I said we can build a business out of this and Ross says I like the sound of that sit down talk so I went over to his place and we sat down and talked and I says what have you done with this and he says well I put an ad in gallery magazine for this book and at that time for the you old old guys in fact whereas Clifford Clifford still got

our original copy it was it was printed at Kinkos with red glue down a night Without a cover on it no no that was the advancement the original edition my mom would staple the cover is huh we sat there at the [ __ ] kitchen table at my montage she would step on the covers we'd go through the orders she'd keep the cash I'd take jacks yeah it was uh I said what have you done with this he said put an ad gallery magazine and I said and he said I sold you know thousands of

copies and I said it I said and he said I spent the money you put One ad you took all the earnings and spin it well that's not good business strategy I said what else DV what else you done he said well I kept all the names and addresses of Isis that's smart so where are they he says in my bedroom can you show me sure so we walk in his bedroom and literally there's boxes away to the damn ceiling there must have been must've been 40 boxes with envelopes and pieces of your paper and

torn off the console our computers and databases had Not occurred to me I said I said okay the first thing we got to do is we got to take care of all this stuff so we we consolidated the boxes and pushed all the stuff into the number of boxes that would fit into my car that was a criteria and I took him down to my office and had my girls enter all that stuff in the database and and we've been we've been doing it ever since you know yeah that was God it was almost nine

years ago yeah cuz marquita just turned Nine yeah okay thank you and that's basically the begins give exp Ken and uh I also want to introduce I got a Khmer eternities someone who's made absolutely remarkable changes he'll talk about it later this is Paul our sound engineer say hada Paul Paul is a very special person who's undergone some very special changes working with what he's learned from us and some of our trainers in Cancun and I'm immensely proud of him he's just Made leaps and bounds and if he take a good look in his eye

you'll know he's a person who doesn't [ __ ] around and when he stands behind something he only does it if he believes in it true absolutely so Paul will tell his story so and of course we have some other returning students here who are available to help you nuisance so anyway the student says to me you know whenever I I meet a beautiful woman I still get this fear that I'm gonna get Shot down and I said to him rather than viewing yourself as an aircraft that can get shot down and go crashing and

Burnie and explode in a fireball and be absolutely vaporized or get permission to fly freely and come in for a nice landing what if he just viewed it as an opportunity for her to show you what kind of woman she is and there is a moment of dead silence on the phone and I could hear all his internal representations all his negative Pictures I could hear them like glass tinkling falling to the ground like as if you drop the chandelier anyway now he had organized his entire consciousness sir you with your hand on your mouth

writing notes yes this is not the way for you to learn put your notes away okay listen and pay attention and understand okay now he had organized his entire consciousness around the subject of meeting women he had put a frame around it his frame was the Crash-and-burn frame now let's listen to the language he used he said I'm afraid I'll be shot down okay he's using fighter pilot metaphors don't you know dogfighting now this metaphor controlled all his visual imagery he probably literally made images of himself crashing Bernie he controlled how he felt inside the

voices he heard in his head and the minute I shifted him off the crash-and-burn frame which is really a Frame about his having to do a performance into a frame about it being an opportunity for her what happened what happened to all those representations in the way he felt in his body that's right he shifted the framer I shifted the frame for him when you shift frames everything contained within the frame shifts right along with it think about this when I said to him what if he viewed it as an opportunity for her to show

you what kind of woman She is what if you guys took that viewpoint what if that really was the canopy of consciousness you spread over all your interactions with women that you were only creating an opportunity for her to show you what kind of woman she is how would that shift everything inside of you how would it shift the way you speak to yourself the way the voices in your head sound the way you feel in your body the Way you carry yourself the way you move and now let me ask you guys a question

do you think he consciously sat down and thought okay I'm gonna pick the frame I'm gonna put around meeting women I'm gonna choose this frame do you think he did that yes or no okay no so the thing about frames they control our consciousness and what we do and yet they're usually not selected with deliberateness now we can certainly design little pieces within the frame I Could have had him redesigned the voice in his head I could have said to him well when you listen to that voice in your head talking to you how do

you hear it and we'll work with those things too in here so I could have a attacked the problem from the smaller pieces inside the frame I chose to break his frame and put another one in does this make sense so we've already talked about traditional learning frames versus real learning frames we've now talked About the example of frames with this fellow so let me talk about a frame I absolutely loathe hate and abhor haha a whole ha thud [ __ ] hey a frame which kept me trapped frustrated for many years in fact they

named a company after my sex like Microsoft and of course I'm talking about the dating frame you've heard of the dating game let's talk about the dating frame now when you guys think about Dating let's have some participation here what kind of terms concepts ideas and imagery come to your mind spending money okay boy is that true spending money you'll notice he didn't say investing money yeah yeah who said that major okay spending money what else come on chimed in here there's intellectual conversation hangout intellectual conversation what did you say lawns Minh what of Course

you would think about spring on hang on you tell your car impress her helping no this is all great baggie hold on hold on this is all great I can't get out pop-tarts in getting lucky now I don't know if you need to see this with the camera or not but I'm gonna I'll repeat it for those of you at home who are lucky enough to buy these videos spending money intellectual conversation detailing your car sprucing up from press are hoping begging getting Lucky no one said cleaning up your place and even as desperate as

I was I never did doc that's impossible you know the phrase clever less is next to godliness cleanliness is next to impossible I'm teasing it's not that I'm sloppy I'm just relaxed so I can reframe anything my chronic reframing okay what else getting lucky oh man come in O rules don't weigh in it that's great rules on sex rules on sex set by whom the talk what Does that mean I think I know what you mean but wait what's the talk can we hear him let's be friends she has power she has powers bullshitting what

she's really saying is I don't do that with you ever now let's go to a really expensive restaurant am i lyin by the way let me make something very clear I love women honest to god I really truly absolutely adore women I think I can share in exchange and not just sexually but emotionally and in other levels I Can share and exchange things with women that I just can't do with men so I really truly absolutely love women I think by breaking this frame we help them I don't think it serves them to be trapped

in that frame I don't think it serves them at all they're just stuck with what they're used to okay there's a sense in which speed seduction is about asking question it's about asking the question what is the process that a woman can undergo that allows her to Realize that she wants to be with a man not because he's someone her friends would approve of or because he's what her parents would like or he's because it's because he's her type or he's because or because he's who happened to come along in the moment or because he's

who she happened to be stuck with but because somehow in some mysterious way that maybe she can't even put her finger on he touches her in all those special places and all those special ways she Longs to be touched maybe since she's been a little girl maybe he touches her in ways she didn't even know we're possible okay and that's not possible within this spring okay this frame just triggers [ __ ] it triggers hesitation she begins to wonder well what I really think of really how many people here have ever had great first day

or so it seen everything is clicking it seemed great and then you could not get her on the phone every Excuse was thrown your way all my parakeets having an existential crisis and my mom has psittacosis or whatever non-existent relatives suddenly come into town you know companies have they've been would have been bankrupt and out of business 10 years wonder to work overtime it's amazing what happens the planets really well what happens when you put her to this traditional framework there's a lot of pressure on her yeah she has a lot of control a lot

Of power but there's also a lot of pressure on her oh did you know I've got to find mr. right I hope the date goes well all the southern [ __ ] this frame does not work for anyone really it works for women to get free dinners free entertainment all that other cool stuff and it works for the restaurant movie and entertainment industries okay so women hang on it so if you think this is a class on using Techniques to do traditional dating you're dead wrong my mother used to say to me you're gonna grow

up to be in a conic class I said mmm sounds like a cool world what does that mean mom and you go around kicking over idols of it cool buy some idols so I can kick them over I don't see any you know what's an idol mom what Idol is oh go [ __ ] look it up yes your question well first of all women have the control of the power Because they're sitting on 100% of the world supply of food Angus so if they have half the money and all them and they get to

say yes or no because we're the pursuers okay so they get down the choice they get to have the selectivity they get to control when you're gonna get access to the bootay now it's still uncomfortable them on some levels you're a lot of pressure on them oh do I look good enough and all this other chick this Frank just doesn't work too well For anyone and most of all but I don't like about it is it's a frame that's highly reliant on luck begging yes but it's also relying on luck how many people have heard

the phrase I got lucky how many people have heard it okay what does that imply huh it plies it he didn't have control if you got a how many people flew here how many people have ever flown on an airplane how many people have a flying phobia I can fix that 50 bucks extra but I can do that I can't I had someone who's working on the script for the speed seduction movie his wife has a thirteen-year phobia of flying so I went and I not only cured the phobia by linked her linked it to

sexual arousal so that when she got on that plane instead of viewing herself as trapped she would view it as a 200 foot long [ __ ] that she was straddling at 600 miles an hour and the higher the plane got the more the altitude increased the More her horniness for her husband would intensify so they're very happy couple they believe in this technology worse so you know this getting lucky you know if you got on a plane and you said to the pilot how are you gonna make sure we get to the destination and

he said with full sincerity and congruence I don't know maybe we'll get lucky and you and he really believed it what would you do now I know you're a skilled firearms instructor yes but if you were in a real Genuine fire fight for your life this is you versus someone who truly wanted to kill you would you want to rely on a lucky shot or would you want to have skill skill okay so skill comes skill comes from commitment and drill and constant practice so I don't like this frame also because it relies on a

word I call wait there's a lot of talk about this on the speed seduction on this supplication okay now believe me it feels better to Be something than to do the something what's up okay you let me sound what's up the supplicate means to plea to make earnest entreaties to bet in the Middle Ages you if you had a dispute with another peasant you'd go to the feudal lord and beg his favor and he'd kill you both sort of like government Wow hello Rick bang any Czechoslovakian Twins lately okay I don't want to know we'll

talk to you later okay okay so we don't want to Do any of this do we all agree this frame sucks yeah we are bladder straining do we need a pee break no we'll keep going then you go ahead he's carrying a knife and that's the most important thing about seduction now notice this uh notice this frame was not consciously chosen by any of us how many of us sat down and said I'm gonna design a frame called dating that really works for me did we sit down and do this so how did This frame

get imposed on us well this the mechanism yes hello this is pallone my attack dog on the list stand up semper five there you go semper Kali semper sergeant yeah how did this frame get imposed by the media media learns what we've learned from other people its traditional there's social control mechanisms that are designed to restrain male impulses social control mechanism designed to Restrain male impulsive by the way who is an engineer or a software software person here we have any engineers or programmers here okay hello mr. pagan where's Billy hello Billy okay so let's

talk about a better frame a frame that works much better okay cuz he you supplicates that's masking tape now there are some exceptions to this you'll meet some women and when you supplicate they love it why because they want to exploit that And hurt you or they're so absorbed in their own consciousness they're not paying attention to what you're doing they're in la-la land now women like this are known by title women who are so absorbed in their own consciousness that they're not even paying attention to anything you're doing are called actresses think of it

as although in Los Angeles they're all known by another name waitresses I'm smoking this Martin on our night Yeah mark mark and I've actually had discussions about structuring these seminars you know and there is a structure to what's happening we're getting closer all the time yes it is not a linear structure I mean we're gonna constantly frustrate those of you who need to have all the dots connected for you step by step that's not gonna happen okay so let's talk about a better friend and that frame is called speed secretion Seduction I need to put

TM on the advice of my wire we've actually trademarked it followed all the proper procedures and all that so maybe she'll show up this weekend I don't know what is speed seduction primarily rely on what are they what are before we get into the details of this let's talk about what we'd want to have if we could design a frame that really worked for us what are the results we want inside of that frame what are some of the results we'd like To have in a frame that works for us we can have control control

no matter yes no money I'm done the prey i seduce five million women tonight to square foot apartment it's been except on my little hair spiky things that are considered a deadly weapon in 50 counties okay no money what else come on speak up sex whenever you want sex when you want it in the spirit of clarity let's say they do they do the work what they want to please on no commitments check out the Bondage show can I bring my friend so three sons doing doubles on them let's just say non-traditional sexual combinations I'm

serious what else do you want in there guys come on let's design something this is your seminar as well as mine even though I'm making all the money you'll do what I say minimum investment of time and money efficiency or speed I like it what else you get to like yourself self respect self-respect and [ __ ] for those of you at home were Offended by the word [ __ ] I can use other terms I can use stratified squamous epithelium whatever like trying to be more politically correct come on guys what else this is

not bad but it's not really sizzling beautiful women beautiful in what way beautiful young women beautiful in what ways beautiful physically mentally stimulating fun well it sounds a lot better than the other one is it the choice sure man oh man you know I once Had someone demand his money back cuz he said I didn't use enough variety of colors in the ink and the seminar now when you talk about chunking down small I mean really I mean that is really small chunk thinking that is useless thinking that guy will get nowhere no geez I

mean think about that like if I offered him a [ __ ] treasure map showing him with the gold and diamonds are I'm sorry I don't like the font in the print okay Loser [ __ ] loser now I was talking to nevermind okay what else do we want well we know that word freedom smell good yes soap and water are non-negotiable [Laughter] now how many people believe this is at least theoretically possible how many people don't believe it's theoretically possible mm-hmm I know at least one person is going yeah it is but not for

me yeah here's what's inside the frame This is the result what do we have to put on the outside to hold the frame together what has to go in here that's gonna make all of this possible what's gots to go on the outside to make all of this possible so I can Majan a water balloon okay we filled them we've got the water now how does the balloon have to be constructed to hold the water yes but what is that what are the what are the major yeah I know you guys know are you returning

student okay what has To go outside there then your skills my skills well skills specifically in doing what yeah but what are those pieces okay let's let someone just set it okay one of them one of the major elements let's let's draw the frame again we already know what we can put inside let's look at the supports for that frame capture and lead the imagination and emotions this is one of the one of the major Pieces of that framework when you can capture and lead the imagination and the emotions then you begin to have tremendous

power let's talk about that how many people here have ever been to the movies okay no one says anyone here he's never been to the movies when you go to the movies when you go to the movies you know what you're going to see you go to see the feature presentation and there are lots of ways to decide what you're going to Go see right maybe you call seven seven seven films they have seven seven seven film in Canada or something like that maybe you check out the calendar pages of your local newspaper maybe you

talk to friends or you watch cisco leave it or whatever but before the feature presentation you get to see scenes from coming attractions now I sit there nagas but every once in a while the imagery and the feelings of a coming attraction evoke so much that you just know you Have to take in the entire feature now what is the difference between the the coming attractions where you go no way and the ones here you go I've got to go see that sometimes the point when you mark a calendar in your mind and go opening

an a I gotta watch the tapers for that because I want to see that [ __ ] what is the difference the difference is in some way the trailers that really got your attention they captured your imagination they evoke Something they evoke imagery and feelings okay well we don't want to be those boring trailers those boring coming attractions we want to be the coming attraction where she looks at us and goes damn that is a coming attraction I want to take in his feature okay how did that metaphor come to my mind I don't know

so we have to capture and leave the imagination okay now the tools we do the tools we're gonna use to do that I'll leave this Diagram up I don't want notes right now I want you to understand okay the tools were gonna do that are your language how you use language and within that there's a smaller tool set and that's tonality commands etc okay capture and lead the imagination and the emotions now what else do we have to have right what's that belief one confidence belief I think this all comes under designing your own state

of mind designing your own state of mind if you're not in the Right state of mind nothing's going to work I said how many people here know their home address what'swhat's your home address okay stop I don't need to know what it is but that's fine you got it right now let's say you're driving on the freeway suddenly it's real busy and traffic suddenly smoke and flames start pouring out from under your hood okay your tires pop there's a semi going 70 miles an hour and your rear-view mirror coming Right at you and then I

asked you what's your address could you tell me probably not okay so you have to have the right frame of mind we can change it let's say you're walking down the street suddenly who's your favorite who's your favorite fantasy [ __ ] what actress or model what you really love to do okay Pamela Anderson suddenly walks up to you strips off her top pours hot oil on it shelter kits in your face and then Starts going down on you okay then I ask you what's your address could you tell me my address Fantasyland all right

you have to have the right frame of mind now what is it the smaller tools we're going to show you to get that well we're going to show you how to control your we're gonna teach you the equalizer and some things about sound and some other things we're gonna we're going to show you how to do all that okay so that's good you got one too what Else well I think one of the things that you need is some learning skills learning how to learn learning how to stay on track so let's just say learning

skills rehearsal skills okay yes creativity and flexibility absolutely good so you notice it's a much different framework we're talking about completely different things here aren't we Time for another students story a female made it a mistake with one of my advanced students she had the audacity and the foolishness to tell him that she just wasn't quite attracted to him and it's amazing you can stop crunching with a look and he said to her what if you could grow more and more attractive to the belief that you could learn to choose who you were attracted to

more and more and more if you could look into my heart and see the person That I am would you choose to grow more and more attracted to me for all the right reasons that makes so much sense to you I thought wow that's really [ __ ] cool in fact it's such an agreeable example of how the languaging works we're gonna spend the next hour or so or however long it takes to look at that we're gonna go through it piece by piece because I think this is a really agreeable example of how to

use some seductive languaging so we're now gonna Go small child a look at some pieces okay by the way she sucked him so hard that minute okay so she said her wording was I just not attracted to you so what frame was she putting everything in what was the overall frame that this woman was setting around their transaction I think the overall frame I would say is there's nothing we can do about it it's a fait accompli fait accompli She's also describing a strategy where she can't move forward unless something outside of herself causes her

to do this is how it is I can't help it and now that frames not a very useful one for her either so what did the students say he said we're gonna take it apart piece by piece and here it is appropriate to take notes when I tell you not yet okay not yet wait for it okay first thing he says is what yeah now let's stop let's look at that wonderful phrase what yes What is when you say what yeah or just suppose or supposing what does that do to the person listening it opens

up the possibility it causes them to go into their imagination it's there's no functional difference between saying what if and saying once upon a time when someone tells you a story if you and I'm gonna here ever seen a classic Monty Python film Life of Brian and Brian who's supposed to be like Jesus it's Brian of Nazareth instead of Jesus of Nazareth and brian is there preaching to the people of jerusalem he said there are these two men and someone interrupts and says what will their knives says well I don't know Herman and Samuel oh

you're making it up but you go he says well alright consider the birds what's wrong with birds then there's nothing wrong with in they're quite lovely well why are you attackers birds so usually when someone says this is a Story you don't think that way you go okay so what if is activating the imagination let's say just consider ponder wonder about the possibility so right there he's stepping in what if is sort of what we would call a trance phrase it's a phrase that sort of induces a trance so remember that so you may write

this down write down what if and next to what if I want you to draw an arrow and write what it does what does using the words what if do it Induces an imaginative state it activates the imagination okay I want you when you study the pieces to understand the purpose of the piece if you understand the purpose and the design of the piece you could substitute in your own because you don't want to use my piece you want to be using your piece there's an ambiguity for you my massage therapist was working I mean

she's doing my buttocks and she said look Ross on kneading your buns that's K And EAD ing and I said well I'm gonna buy massages for you know Yates and Mark so I want you to treat my staff really well be good to my staff she didn't get that one because when you do massaging you do it right you help a person's body to move in a new direction okay what if okay so what if you you could grow more and more attracted okay let's look at this what if you could grow more and more

attracted now he's what is he doing here first of all he's Using this more and more when you use something like more and more the more you listen to what I say the more it allows you to realize the importance of learning these skills more the more directional eise's the brain it's setting a direction for the brain so I want you to circle more L'Amour and above it right direction Eliza's it sets a direction or sets a direction the more you listen to the speed seduction material the more you realize just how Much you want

to learn it the more you can make the decision right now to commit yourself the mastery of these skills doesn't that just make sense okay does this make sense any not yet okay so when you use phrases like the more the more or more and more you're setting a direction you're saying your mind's gonna go this way and it's gonna keep going that way faster and faster so he really said in real fast so in the space of five seconds he's already pounding Away loosening up the frame what if you could grow more and more

attracted now here he's using her own word she used the word attracted so he's repeating it right back he's just repeating back her own word okay he didn't say aroused he didn't say what if she could grow more and more aroused he used her own wording okay what if he could grow more and more attracted to the belief and then he paused pause he didn't say what do you think it grow more and more attracted to The belief he said what if he could grow more and more attracted and then he paused why did he

pause because she's going to be thinking more more attracted to what it creates response potential so we're I've written pause above it right response potential some of the women on my list my romantic list are going to be getting something for Valentine's Day but guess what I'm going to do guys I'm going to send it to them a week early And on the envelope seal the envelope it's gonna say do not open till Valentine's Day now what are they going to do they're probably gonna open it but they're gonna be thinking what's in here what's

in here what's in it yeah okay what if you could grow more and more attracted pause to the belief uh-huh well let's stop right here the minute he says to the belief he's raising out of the frame of what of what she's stuck with and into the rumble what she can Choose what is he could grow more and more attracted to the belief that you could learn to choose who you were attracted to more and more and more now let's stop right here put your notes down put your pencils down put your pens down look

up here what if you could grow more and more attracted to the more and more attracted to the belief that you could learn to choose who you were attracted to more and more and more now let me ask You something what he's really saying is this is about an opportunity for you he's setting an opportunity frame here what woman wouldn't want to be able to choose who she's attracted to who's gonna say no I don't want to learn how to do that what if you could learn to choose more and more and more what you

could quickly and easily learn absorb and utilize in your life who would say no to that would anyone say no than that even if internally they wanted to say no Would they be able to in a hole and have any dignity and face in your eyes answer who's not getting this who is anyone not getting this you are you getting it then explain it to him what it means explain it to him what you're doing when you say that don't look at me look at him and explain it exactly okay you do understand you're making

it impossible for them to say no because who wouldn't want to have it you're not saying to her do you believe You can do this you're saying what if you could it's just like saying to a woman I think it's so interesting you learned so much about people by learning how they do the following what person's gonna say I'm not interested in learning about people who's gonna say that it's a it's the functional equivalent saying I have every venereal disease no the mankind you know no woman is gonna say that she may have it she's

not gonna say so does That make sense yes or no come on your sleigh I can't hear you everybody fights no one quits Starship Troopers did they ruin a great novel with that movie I was so disappointed but you got to see Denise Richards oh if only the bug is smart enough to rip her bra you know that would be an intelligent insect okay that you could learn to choose who you're attracted to more and more and more now notice the next slick part he Said if you could if you could if you could that's

just like what if when you say to someone if you could what are you saying to them look appear when you say the words if you could in effect you're saying try on the possibility if you could imagine yourself driving home in this brand-new Mercedes today would you show your friends right away or do you just enjoy cruising by yourself knowing they can't even touch you okay if you could if you could is a weasel phrase in A trance phrase if you could is say just imagine the possibility it's saying go into a trance and

hallucinate this okay it's the functional equivalent of saying that only it works a lot better because if you walk up to someone and say going to trans Quentin and imagine the possibility giving me all your money you know [ __ ] you but if I said if you could imagine making the best investment of your life seeing all the things they'll bring you I don't want you to go Meaning to your future and with delicious anticipation imagine all the things that will bring you because you may say no that's not going to happen I refuse

to let that happen I'd much rather have a moment-by-moment experience of convincing myself that this is what I want to do and even if you don't say it I know you're thinking it so where does that leave us so okay boy that was really good but you know what I practice I just drill over And over I'm in love with the stuff I do it with my cat I'll do it to anybody that's I'm in love with it okay yes sir there are no dumb questions like let's see it again oh you mean with the

woman getting around okay the quickest I've ever had I'm gonna get back to this story this one is actually worse getting into this pretty early on well when was I probably 94 there's a very attractive very attractive black woman doing candy on samples in the Grocery and she said would you like to do a free drawing I said okay I put the piece of paper and I drew something I walked away then I came back to her like 10 minutes later I said do you find funny men attractive or just irresistible sexy now how didn't

you ever get that sense that you've known someone a long time just immediately could feel comfortable could feel a sense of injury well I gave her my number And how are later she calls me and says I'm getting off work could you pick me up at the supermarket I picked her up at the supermarket took her home I went in two minutes two or three minutes of having her in my front door I had a top-off of world going at it and on my living room floor that was real fast but now let me say

something she was in port in her life where she was looking for a guy okay women you're gonna find women in different stages okay and she Was also there we'll get into those factors that determine the speed anyway so if you could these are ways of inducing a trans people have traditional frames around hypnosis major mark is gonna be here shattering those frames for you traditional hypnosis says it's not hypnosis unless you're waving and magic you know doing the hypno wheel thing those things only make me nauseous I'm they never worked on me or you're

Dangling a little watch Bob and the person goes to sleep yes sleep sleep and now you're going further down the staircase of [ __ ] okay I am Telling You that they there is no functional difference between traditional trance induction and this kind of thing because it's activating the same part of the mind do you get that it's activating the same part of the mind it's activating the same part of your mind do you get it and the more you understand deeply Understand your mind the better the quality of your life and your learnings will

be now okay if you could and then notice the command he gives if you could look into my heart that's the command he give so he says if you could look into my heart he's giving you her command to look into us right now what does it mean is he telling her to split open my chest slice open the superior vena cava and examine my heart muscle is that what he's saying what does it mean to look Into someone's apart say it again say it again exactly it doesn't mean anything specific so she has to

fill in the details so on that phrase look into my heart I want you to circle and put command it is a command and it's also vague this is the power of being vague vagueness has tremendous power why is it important to be vague because when you're vague the only way the other person can understand is to fill in just like you just did exactly they have To fill in the write themselves and that's a profoundly hypnotic process is when you fill in details what mechanism are you using in your mind the same mechanism you

would use to hallucinate a 30-foot tall rabbit if we had you in the stage hypnosis shot okay part of what we're doing here is also breaking your frames about what hypnosis really is people are trance machines people enjoy going into trance I love going into tents my favorite hypnotist Is sitting right there he will talk about something I closed my eyes and just do it he was telling me how he he has a window out into the alternate realities I didn't take it as an intellectual discussion I close my eyes and hallucinate of one for

myself and that just shows I'm intelligent right what's it what's the correlation between intelligence and suggestibility it's one to one the smarter you are the more suggestible you are so and once a Difference between suggestible and gullible if you would for a moment okay suggestibility is a term that we use in order to refer to the the rate and speed with which a person is capable of learning there have been a lot of studies that show that the most capable most successful people of our time are in fact highly suggestible which means that when they

encounter new experience the first thing they do is they just absorb it and they start trying it out In all different areas in their life and only when they see the result do they make the decision is this a good thing a bad thing do I keep it or throw it away it sounds familiar it's what I was talking about earlier today now gullibility is just the opposite gullibility is a state of no control gullibility is a state where you are at the absolute mercy of the next thing that happens to you you cannot control

your reality whatsoever a highly Suggestible person is not only controlling their 'edit they're creating their reality right now I'm extremely suggestible with yes you are well I'm not gullible okay so those two those two things do not at all correlate so that I hope answers part of the issue of manipulation the ethical issue are you taking advantage of someone no that would be if you wanted to appeal to their gullibility you would lie about yourself you would go well I may look Like a skinny Jewish geek boy but in reality I am a Greek god

who's hiding in the shell because you know and I also owned the entire Aegean Sea and the name is bond James Bond okay that's manipulation manipulation is when you appeal to gullibility okay what we're doing is is appealing to the natural mechanisms of suggestion and we're doing it to help her why do I say that because if you can get a woman off her traditional ideas about what she Finds attractive and open an opportunity for her to find someone attractive new in the new interesting and different way how are you hurting her you know you're

really not I truly believe and there's something else to understand these skills are not a way of begging you're way past your flaws okay when you understand how these skills work when you understand that these skills allow you to present the emotional and imaginative experiences that women truly Crave then you realize that when you thought was valuable all along was really the shock that the real value lies and being able to do exactly that to create the emotional and imagine an experiences for her that she really wants that is the true gold everything else the

looks the money that's the fool's gold that she thinks will bring her those experiences sometimes they do sometimes they don't they're ways of trying to reach at what You will provide for her much more directly do you understand so if you're hiding behind these tools going I really don't look very good I don't have as much to offer as the other guy no no the very thing you have to offer is the thing she's been seeking for her whole life but but could never put a name to all right if you could look into my

heart so it's a command and it's vague right if you could look into my heart and see the Person that I am that's the next command see the person that I am so circle that and put command and also put vague what does it mean to see the person that I am does that mean you're gonna look at my genetic structure does it mean you're gonna look at my vas deferens you're gonna palpate my scrotum what does it mean what does it mean to see the person that I am it's so vague it doesn't have

any meaning she has to find the meaning for herself She will also assume that the earlier impression must be wrong yes it also presupposes that her early impression of you was wrong that she was just looking at the surface of things that don't count it's loaded with stuff she went from a position of power to desperately trying to not be a flake in about 30 seconds right this is mental jujitsu she think I was okay this is my standard bomb I Erlik guys and it always [ __ ] him up And they leave me alone

here we go she tosses the bomb and you throw back a thermonuclear warhead gone all gone bye-bye Teletubbies say good night good night oh I love the Teletubbies they are frightening man and they're freaking see the person that I am if you could look into my heart and see the person that I am would you choose and here's your actually giving you a command would you and then here comes the command choose to grow more and more attracted to me Okay so you're giving your command would you choose to grow more and more attracted to

me okay for all the right reasons that feels so good to you more and more and more now let's look at this bit okay I'll take a minute for you to write it would you choose to grow more and more attracted to me I want you to circle choose to grow more and more attracted to me okay I want you to put command and also put implies it is her Doing what does it mean to say choose to grow more and more attracted to me it means it's her doing she's she's volunteering to do this

it's not that she's doing it because you've mind-fucked her into it or you've reframed it or you've opened up the frame what you're really doing here is opening up the frame of possibility mindfuck is a bad word you're truly giving her a chance to experience something she couldn't experience before Would you choose to grow more and more attracted to me the command has choose to grow more and more attracted to me and it's implying that it's her doing not my doing so why should she resist it you shouldn't for all the right reasons what does

that mean for all who's right reasons did I say for all your own right reasons I said for all the right reasons it's vague again yes all the right reasons not some not a few but all the right Reasons yes there are right reasons to choose you yes it's presupposing there are right reasons Yujin for all the right reasons so you want to underline this phrase and put presuppositions now a presupposition is just any part of the sentence that has to be true for the sentence to make sense if I say have you seen Jon's

red car what's the presupposition John has a red car okay so for all the right reasons this presupposes that there are right reasons To choose you okay did she overlooked before that feels so good too you feel so good to you this is giving her a command the command is feel so good there's embedded command in that phrase so I want you to circle the phrase feel so good that feels so good you're telling her to feel so good about it okay more and more and more what is more and more and more do it

direction Eliza's the brain so you're setting that Direction now how many of you think that's a pretty big mouthful to split a woman how many of you think that's a pretty big presentation that no how many you think that's a lot actually he said that this under like 30 seconds and and and something else what if you had a sense that a woman you were with wasn't quite attracted enough to you yet how would you like to be able to use this with her before she even brings up the objection Would you like that how

would we do that we put it in quotes so I'm gonna teach you another tool okay okay clubs yeah quotes it's a great tool we use all the time I was watching a show last night on none the deep Learning Channel and they're talking about swearing and how swearing is a universal phenomenon now in some cultures a personal walk right up to you and signal [ __ ] yourself scumbag and other cultures we'll watch some New Jersey some Israeli pig butt or Or they'll walk up to someone to go what a [ __ ] idiot

you are for taking this summer but in other cultures they're a lot more subtle like in the Japanese culture we'll just imply something now what am i doing I'm quoting okay quote is a way of introducing material into the conversation that's all that's what it does so here's how you could do this with a woman you can go you know what my friend Debbie had the most unusual experience she was out on a date and she Said to a guy I'm really just not that attracted to you you won't believe what he said there he

said this and then just quoted and she will go through the entire experience right there with you it's a structure she cannot deny or say no to because after all it's outside of herself you're talking about a friend and authority something you I saw on TV what's she gonna do say no you didn't see it on TV or no you didn't have the Conversation with your friend you get it you get how plugs works you simply take anything you want to run any patterning or language construction and you see you talk about what are some

ways that we can see it on TV we've heard it on the radio we read in the magazine a friend told us their experience come all who will be here this weekend quotes squirrels he said that a woman a squirrel looked at me and said go right now in NLP we call that a selectional Restriction violation there's a technical NLP jargon for everything under the Sun and NLP they call it a technical selectional restriction violation I don't even know the jargon so I would flunk in NLP best yes I will put in stumbling I'll go

he said something like well what if what if he could grow more and more attracted to the belief that that you could learn to choose who you were attracted to more and more and more if you could What did He say if you could look into my heart and see the person that I am would you um would you choose to grow more and more attracted to me for all the right reasons that feel so good more and more and more did he actually believed that she would absorb them [Music] let it happen of course

and they make me sound sincere like I'm struggling for the words it's the funniest thing in the World to hear me struggle for but you know what at one level it's a fake in another level it's not because I truly listen to me put your notes down and get this I mean this I truly believe that I am opening a frame by doing this I'm hoping a possibility frame for her that she didn't have before her mental structure her belief system says I can only be attracted to people when it just happens out of my

control I'm opening up that frame and going no there are other Possibilities where you can be in control and you can choose options that you didn't know you had I am opening so in that sense I am being sincere I'm being slick in the presentation and it's definitely structured I've thought it through it's done with deliberateness but it also is sincere I'd completely believe that I really believe that you know you can open possibilities for women they didn't have before you're open I'm opening possibilities for you To believe and try things that you didn't know

we're out there before I'm showing you how to do with women in the sense what I'm doing for you mentally which is opening up frames I had I'll tell you know example I was at California Pizza Kitchen and behind the counter was a woman telling me she's an artist and she said but you know I tend to think very concretely my art is not very abstract I said wow that's a pretty abstract way of thinking to realize at What level abstraction you can think and I saw her do this I saw her do this I

saw the frame get bigger I went I reached down that grab that word got bigger didn't it joy see possibilities you didn't see before don't judge looks real interesting doesn't it I'm gonna go home and paint something new and interesting aren't you free dessert right now now I serve myself there but I so did I know let me ask what's your name Did I hurt her Evan no not at all does anyone think I hurt that woman well you've got to get past the traditional dating frame [ __ ] that says well you're manipulating women

you're just trying to you know no there's a difference between manipulation and misleading magic in a sense is wonderful when you see the magician doing things he's not really doing what you're focusing on okay but when you suspend that disbelief You get a sense of wonder you get a treat as a result okay and so you're introducing in a way you're introducing a sense of wonder into her model you're expanding her model and I think that serves her now I advocate being honest be honest about if she says are you looking for a commitment you

go well what specifically do you mean by a commitment if it's not what you're looking for go no I'm not this gives you so much choice in so much Power and so many options that you don't have to be dishonest it's only in a frame of scarcity that people get dishonest okay you will lie cheat and steal to defend something you believe is scarce but you believe if you believe there's plenty around you don't need them to try and hold on to it Jenny Stein what I'm saying this is where I get into a very

big discussion about relationships and commitment I have no problem those things they can be Beautiful when they're done out of choice now I do have a problem with people who get into relationships by default many men are in relationships not because there really was someone who they truly admire that they truly love and respect they're in a relationship because they just happen to meet someone who accidentally was attracted to them and decided to end their sexual starvation no I don't think that being cynical here we've all experienced this We've all gone through it I want

men and women to have more choice than that and I don't think the traditional tools that are being taught work to do that everything else out there it's just another variation on traditional tools John Gray will give you different rules for dating the rules would give you different rules for dating or they'll give women differ goals but they're still in that old framework I'm saying break that frame and create a new one That works better for everybody you buy that I know right the one to come up here and talk about the ethical issues of

this because he's very he's the soul of rectitude and you know alright is this making sense yes right you're gonna unstick them so you can that part of me keeps popping up and they had a suppress a yes how do you say a Luke yes he's teaching me physics and math he's a very very brilliant man yes well I don't I'm women he said I tell first of all that's a good question I tell women I do hypnosis now can you explain to me the physics of how it heats up within the bag yeah okay

I tell women when I tell women I do hypnosis and personal change they go can you help me stop smoking but why would I want to take away a pleasure from you I'm not about taking away pleasure I don't fix what's broken I can refer you to people to do that I'd rather take something inside you that Already works really well and make it even better make it more exquisite I want to help you move in it magnificent new direction okay you know the thing about new directions not small new directions with big powerful new

directions I don't know if you can get this as I say it Debbie I think you can't is that you don't want to just play with them I'm gonna take a man join with them right to make part of who you are You don't want to talk to God you want to taste God a friend of mine agency the build-a-bear mark Major marks magnificent build a better girlfriend video series any ones have that remember Dana from that a Dana and I hang out Dana invited me to this Hollywood Bible study because this Hollywood Bible studies

done by this preacher by the name of Tim story now Tim story is the pet of the pet preacher of Dyan Cannon who plays judge whipper Cohen on Ally McBeal as a result he gets huge crowds to to his little Hollywood Bible sites and there's beautiful women everywhere okay and anyway so this guy from jump I saw him doing NLP he was chaining anchors and doing all sorts of technically I know but he was really good I was looking Danica he's good he's real good and at one point he says you don't just want to

think about God you've got to experience God you've got to reach Out and touch God it's not enough to just touch him you want to put him in your mouth you want to taste him you want to put him in your mouth and Dana looked at me and I looked at Dana was now Dana's cousin Wood was with us but she wanted to sit up front afterwards she didn't she doesn't know any of this stuff she looked at me she went I was having sexual feelings for him and is he doing something I explained her

the exact structure I was Gonna go up there and afterwards and go put him in your mouth bad boy so this stuff is going on everywhere the White House oh yeah well I came across her face a few times and staff [Music]