ever felt that little gut feeling that something's off in your relationship maybe she's doing all the right things on the surface but deep down something just doesn't sit right well here's the truth relationships don't just implode overnight there are hidden sneaky signs that reveal a relationship isn't built to last and they're not the obvious ones that you're thinking of today I'm going to tell you about the subtle red flags that scream that this won't work and if you spot these signs it might be time to start rethinking things Jessica ow here welcome to the Channel
Sign one she's always too busy for you but finds time for others guys when someone's genuinely into you you'll know it not because they tell you but because their actions make it obvious now don't get me wrong everyone has a busy life between work family friends personal goals our schedules can fill up really fast but know this if she's always somehow squeezing in time for brunch with friends an extra Project work or even an impromptu week can getaway but says she's too busy every time you want to spend quality time together it's a major red
flag and you don't need me to tell you really now I get it life can be unpredictable and everyone deserves a balance between relationships and personal time right but relationships are built on intentional effort if she's generally interested she'll find ways to make you a part of her day even if it's just a quick call to say hey I'm thinking about you or rearranging a small part of her schedule to catch up with you it doesn't have to be huge but it has to be there and if she's not making time what she's doing instead
is showing you where her priorities lie if everything else in her life comes first and you're the one constantly initiating and chasing you need to recognize that she's giving you a clear message it may be subtle but it's still a message that says I'm not as invested as you are here's a truth bomb effort isn't measured by grand gestures it's found in the little things it's being present available when life is hectic if she isn't making that effort to connect it's often a sign she's already emotionally checked out pay attention to how she spends her
time because time is the one thing that we all have the same amount of and how we choose to spend it tells you a lot about what and who truly matters sign two you never really feel like you know her all right think about it in a solid lasting relationship there's a natural drive to connect to peel back the layers and really understand each other right you should be getting closer as time goes on not feeling like you're still dealing with a stranger but if every time you try to get to know her deeper you
hit a all there's a big problem Brewing so what does it actually look like you ask her about stuff and her answers are always surface level or vague she deflects personal questions she gives you half-hearted responses or seems uncomfortable opening up about her past she might tell you the basics her favorite food where she went to college what she does on weekends but that's about it there's no depth no real emotional sharing it's like she's built a wall and you're on the other side looking in here's the thing if she's holding back ask yourself why
there are two main reasons why people keep their Partners at arms length one is self- protection they've been hurt before and they're afraid of getting close again if your months even years in and she still hasn't let her guard down this isn't just a case of emotional caution it's a sign she's not willing to go all in she's keeping you at a distance even if she's with you physically and without true emotional intimacy you're building a relationship on a hollow Foundation the second reason she might not see a future with you and that's the truth
some people keep things casual or light because they don't want to get too invested she enjoys your company but she doesn't want to let you in too deep because in her mind you're not the one it's a tough pill to swallow but the sooner you see it the sooner you can make the right decision for yourself if you're not in a relationship where every time you ask something personal you get the oh I don't want to talk about it or why do you want to know response then that's not just her being private it's her
keeping you out in a relationship that's meant to last both people have to be willing to let their guard down to let each other in sign number three arguments end with you feeling alone now this is something that's easy to overlook but it's super important how you feel after an argument now every relationship has its fair share of disagreements and that's just part of being close to someone the difference here is in a healthy relationship conflicts bring you closer there a chance to understand each other better to learn to find Common Ground if every argument
leaves you feeling completely isolated misunderstood or like you're carrying the emotional load alone that's a major warning sign so what does this actually look like say you get into a an argument right over something small or maybe even something significant now instead of working through it she shuts down maybe she walks away without a word gives you silent treatment or ends the conversation abruptly leaving you hanging there's no closure there's no followup just a cold silence that makes you feel like you're in it alone it's as if she's telling you well deal with it yourself
here's the reality someone who's truly invested in a relationship wants to find a resolution even if the issue is tough or emotionally charged she wants to understand your perspective and she's willing to put in the emotional work but if she's checking out emotionally every time things get intense it's a sign that she's not interested in investing in the hard parts of the relationship in other words she wants the good times without the effort it takes to navigate the rough patches and this will OB ly leave you feeling disconnected when you're the only one trying to
fix things to communicate to bring issues to light it's exhausting and deeply isolating and let me tell you feeling alone in a relationship is one of the lonliest feelings in the world you're physically together but emotionally she's already somewhere else relationships aren't just about sharing the good times they're about supporting each other through the storms and despite everything I'm saying I know there's still some people who will say well maybe she just needs time to cool off and sure some space can be help healthy but if every single argument ends with her shutting down or
ignoring your attempts to resolve the issue it's a pattern it's not a one-off right and patterns like this are incredibly telling when someone isn't interested in resolving a conflict it's a sign that they're not willing to put in the work to make things last so here's what you should remember relationships that last are built on connection even in the face of conflict after an argument you should feel like you're working towards a solution together not left wondering if you're even on the same team pay attention to how you feel after the arguments because sometimes those
are the moments that reveal the true foundation of what you have sign four she's always keeping score now with this you may not notice it until it's too late right keeping schore so what does it actually look like when someone's keeping schore um let me give you an example so you mess up maybe it's something minor like I don't know forgetting to pick something up on your way home for instance rather than letting it go she brings it up not just one but repeatedly maybe even weeks later in totally unrelated arguments or maybe go out
of your way to make her feel special take her out on a nice date surpris there was something thoughtful but instead of feeling appreciated you feel like it's just another entry into her mental debt Ledger I mean she's saying things like well remember when I did X Y and Z for you or I've been way more invested than you have what she's doing is turning your relationship into a transaction in a healthy relationship guys people don't keep tabs on each other because they're giving and receiving out of genuine care and not because they're going to
get something back when someone is constantly measuring who owes what it's a sign that they're more invested in keeping power than keeping love and trust me a relationship where one person feels they're always in the right and the other is constantly indebted or wrong will drain you emotionally over time here's another issue with scorekeeping it kills trust what every action you take can be used against you it makes you hesitant to open up and be vulnerable and to be human right you start to feel like you're on trial instead of in a partnership and let's
be real no one wants to be with someone who makes them feel like they're always walking on eggshells just waiting for their mistakes to be thrown back in their face think about it love isn't about I did this for you so you owe me that it's more about mutual respect understanding supporting each other without needing a scoreboard so I guess here's a takeaway from this point relationships that last are built on generosity and not calculation you give because you care not because you want something in return but if you're constantly being reminded of all she's
done for you or if she's stacking up every minor thing as evidence it's a warning sign that this relationship is more about control than connection sign five you feel more stressed than satisfied all righty so I get it that relationships aren't supposed to be a constant state of bliss I mean there'll be challenges rough patches days where you're just not in sync the thing is though overall your relationship should add more happiness than stress to your life if you find yourself constantly feeling exhausted tensor on edge whenever you're around her that's a serious red flag
a relationship that brings more stress than satisfaction isn't just tough It's unsustainable okay think about it if the majority of your time together feels like work if you're always feeling drained or weighed down after a conversation or encounter is a sign that there's something wrong inherently relationships that last are meant to in enhance your life not deplete you okay you should feel like a better version of yourself because of the person that you're with not feel like someone who's barely hanging on so what does it look like well maybe you find yourself dreading certain conversations
because you know they're going to lead to more conflict or perhaps you're constantly worrying about what she's going to say or how she's going to react if you make even a small mistake you shouldn't be tiptoeing around your partner fearful of setting off another disagreement or a judgmental comment that kind of tension is Tire it's not just tiring it's toxic and over time that stress can have a serious impact on your mental health and your self-esteem and even your physical well-being I'll dig deeper a healthy relationship should bring Comfort even during tough times there's a
sense of security knowing that you're both in it together supporting each other no matter what but if you feel like you're constantly Under Pressure if she criticizes you more than she appreciates you or if you're walking on eggshells to avoid set getting her off you're not in a partnership I'm sorry you're in a battlefield that's not love H another thing to consider stress is a silent killer of Attraction and intimacy if you're always anxious or worried about her it's hard to feel close to feel affectionate or even to feel attracted to her the stress will
build walls between you and those walls will make it impossible for you guys to connect on a deeper level over time of course you'll create emotional distance and that will be a tough place to come back from some people may say well relationships are supposed to be hard work yes relationships require effort but there's a difference between healthy effort and toxic stress when you're in a healthy relationship you'll face challenges together but you'll walk away from them feeling closer not like you've been drained or defeated don't ignore how your relationship makes you feel because your
emotions are telling you something valuable trust them and remember real love doesn't make you question your worth or leave you feeling empty real love brings peace sign six she's secretly competitive with you now a little friendly rivalry can be fun and even healthy but when your partner starts competing with you in a way that feels off like she's trying to one up you or subtly make you feel less than it's a red flag a relationship should be a partnership and not a contest if she's constantly competing and and creates tension jealousy and eventually resentment none
of which are building blocks of a lasting relationship what are you doing in that relationship ship you know what does it look like maybe you share some good news like getting a promotion at work or finishing a big project that you're proud of and instead of being genuinely happy for you she downplays it or immediately shifts the spotlight back to herself saying something like well I had a very productive day at work too or maybe you reach a new personal goal like hitting the gym consistently or starting a side hustle and instead of supporting you
she makes comments that undermine the things you're saying you know saying things like oh that's nice but anyone can do that if they try hard enough now this kind of behavior isn't just a lack of support it's an indication that she sees your achievements as a threat rather than being your biggest cheerleader she's acting more like a competitor and the harsh reality is when someone's competing with you they're focused on their own needs their own status and how they measure up against you instead of focusing on your shared Journey as a couple this mindset will
create a toxic Dynamic where you both pull in different directions rather than lifting each other up in some cases her competitive streak may come off subtly you know she might be jokingly putting you down in front of others or talk about her own accomplishments right after you share with yours as if to say look I'm better or maybe she keeps comparing you to her friends's Partners or even Exes in a way that makes you feel like you're not measuring up this is another way of maintaining an upper hand making you feel like you're constantly in
a race to prove yourself the truth is a lasting relationship requires Mutual ual support okay both of you should feel like you're each other's biggest fans in a solid relationship your success should feel like her success and vice versa and if you're constantly in a tug-of war over who's winning or who's more successful it'll be hard to build something real and Lasting number seven she doesn't share your excitement so here's one that can really sting and often gets overlooked if she doesn't seem to share your excitement you know that feeling when something happen something amazing
happens to you right maybe you land a new job accomplish personal goal or even just have an awesome day and you can't wait to tell your partner in a healthy relationship your partner will feel your excitement right along with you right celebrating those wins as if they were their own but if you're with someone who responds with indifference or worse is has a dismissive attitude it's a sign that she may not be as invested as you hope and here's why this matters guys when someone truly cares about you they naturally want to be part of
your joy they see your success and happiness as something to cherish and to celebrate if she's indifferent or acts like your achievements aren't a big deal it might be because she doesn't feel emotionally invested in your happiness or worse she could be feeling a bit resentful or envious which could stem from her own insecurities or dissatisfaction with life either way that lack of enthusiasm is telling listen when you're the right person their excitement for your wins makes you feel happier they're the person you look forward to sharing those moments with because you know that they
generally care for you so what you want to do is pay attention to how she reacts when you share excitement it's a little thing but it says a lot if she's not willing to celebrate your happiness ask yourself if she's truly the right person to share your journey because real love isn't just about sticking together it means being each other's biggest cheerleaders rooting for one another through every Victory big or small and you deserve someone who not only sees your success but feels it and celebrates it as much as you do I hope you found
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