Narcissistic Mom Kicked Me Out at 18 to Marry a Rich Guy Then Invited Me to Her Wedding After...

narcissistic mom kicked me out at 18 to marry a rich guy then invited me to her wedding after six years to look good but I ruined her big day and now her new husband wants to leave her hi so I'm 24f and for the last 6 years I have not been in touch with my mother 46f which is quite unfortunate since she was the only parent that I had my father passed away when I was really little maybe when I was around 4 years old so he was never in the picture he had an accident

it was his fault he was driving drunk while coming back home from a party in well it did not too well for him my mother had cut her family off after she got married to my father since they were not ready to accept the fact that she was getting married so young and they had a lot of fights about it but once she was pregnant with me there was no turning back my dad was pretty rich and I guess that was one of the main reasons why my mother got married to him so early regardless

of my existence getting pregnant with me was just an excuse for her to rush the wedding at least that's what I'm guessing because of the way she treated me after I was born I really don't think that she wanted me in her life I never felt very connected to her and it was definitely not my fault because honestly she never showed me any love or affection that one deserves to have experienced as a child I don't even think I can remember a time that she actually hugged me or told me that she loved me when

I was little I actually felt a lot more connected to my grandparents on my father's side of the family because most of the time I used to spend my day with them my mother would go out for work and then return in the evening but as soon as she was back she would get busy again she would either invite her friends or she would go out with them it never seemed like she had any time for me when I was really young she would invite them over to babysit me and pretend to be on good

terms with them and be really sweet to them but as soon as I was little she started leaving me home alone and I got really bored so I would end up going over to their house and when I would come back she would scold me for even though she knew that had nothing to do with anything and she was at home because she was not talking to me she was busy with her friends the reason that she did not want me to visit my grandparents once I got a little older and she didn't exactly need

them to babysit me was because she did not want to come off like she was ill- treating me or something which wasn't I don't think so but I do think that I was emotionally neglected in that household and that's why I kept going to my grandparents she was done pretending to be nice to them because now that I was older and I got three on my own she did not need their help anymore and so they had been discarded but I was not going to treat them the same way because for me they were the

only family that I had my grandparents would never talk about my mother and it felt like they would steer clear of the topic on purpose it was not until later that I found out why for almost 18 years of my life I lived with my mother and managed to never form a real bond with her we were related by blood but that was about it there was nothing more to our relationship than that she made sure of it I tried to reach out to her several times in order to connect but As I Grew Older

it was harder for me to actually get along with her and after one point we just stopped talking we would only speak to each other if it was absolutely necessary and never otherwise I did not have anything to do with her because everything that I wanted was mostly paid for by my grandparents they were pretty they could afford it I did not want to ask my mother for anything either regardless of how much she earned I did not feel comfortable doing it because we hardly ever spoke to each other we did get into a really

big fight once though I think I was in my freshman year and I don't remember what happened in detail but I think I had asked her to attend some event that was participating in and she had told me that she was going to go out on a date that day so it would not be possible for her I found it really insulting that she was going to choose a first date over my event and I told her that I was done with her and I wanted to move in with my grandparents because I did not

want to live with her anymore since it was very obvious that she did not care about me that day she told me never to say that again because regardless of who I consider family she still was my parent and she had apparently promised my father that I would live with her and she would be there for me so we ended up fighting and it went on for a long time but after that she started crying and completely broke down or maybe she was acting I don't really know but watching her cry made me feel a

little weak and I ended up telling her that I wouldn't go to my grandparents she made me promise that I would never bring it up again and I would live with her until I was old enough to move out so I ended up spending my life with her until she eventually decided to kick me out my mom switched boyfriends pretty often and I was aware of it I never judged her for it because honestly I don't think it's my business however when I was in my sophomore year she started dating Dale 50m I didn't think

that this Dale guy would stick around for long because he was not exactly my mother's type since he was kind of short and my mom really doesn't like short guys since she herself is almost 5'9 in but then I found out that he was rich and Rich I mean he was really Filthy Rich he came from one of the most influential business families in the state and they had met online on a dating app then it suddenly all started making sense but he was putting in so much effort to get him to like her and

acting so different and sweet around him whenever he would come over she even introduced me to him and that was something new since usually whenever her boyfriends would come over I had strict instructions to either clear out or stay in my room and not make any noise that would disturb them but with him she actually treated me like family probably in a bid to make herself seem like a good mother and a good person I found it all a little disorienting and really fake but it was not my business so I did not say anything

about it they dated for 2 years and then Dale asked her to move in with him I was actually there when that happened because he did it at a family dinner and he had specifically asked for me to be present there because he believed that with her he also had to accept me and he was ready to do that for my mom so technically he asked both of us to move in with him and even told me that I would have my own separate room there and it would be much bigger than what I had

now I was actually really happy when that happened because I thought that maybe he would treat me better than my mother had and I thought it was really nice of him I thought that my mother would be pleased that Dale was so in love with her that he was ready to accept me as his own daughter and treat me like that but for some reason she did not like it one bit and after d left that day she told me that she had to discuss something very serious with me I think she was not happy

about the fact that even after getting together with Dale she would still have to deal with my presence in her life and she wanted to make sure that I did not go with her to the new home so she told me that now that I was legally an adult she did not want to be tagging along anymore I did not even understand what she was talking about until she explained to me that now that I had turned 18 she wanted to move in by herself she told me that she could understand why Dale had assumed

that she would want me to come along with her but that was not the case she wanted to have a life of her her own now and she was done being a mother to me she told me that she believed now that I was an adult I was old enough to handle life on my own and I didn't even have to worry about money because my grandparents were well enough to handle everything for me and in a couple of months I was going to be in college so I shouldn't take it too hard I was

really shocked that she was actually acknowledging the fact that she did not want to be a mother to me anymore but then again she had never really been a mother to me at any point in time so that's not too surprising that this was her take on the entire situation I did not say much to her that day I just told her that I would understand and I really didn't care I would have much rather stayed with my grandparents I told her very bluntly that I did not want anything to do with her after this

point and she could do whatever she wanted to do I did not want to be a part of her life anymore I also told her that I could finally understand what she had when we had our first fight when I mentioned going a way to live with my grandparents it had always been fake she did not even bother to deny any of it and just stood there without saying anything the only thing that she told me before I left was that she would only request me not to say anything about this to Dale because it

would ruin his impression of her it was really laughable but I told her that I wouldn't say anything because honestly I did not care anymore I did not even care enough to ruin her life that's how relieved I was now that I could finally go away and live with people who actually wanted me around them I left her home that very night and never went back whatever I had left there my grandparents retrieved it from me a couple of days later and soon enough we had cut all ties with her from then on I have

never looked back and I have had absolutely zero contact with my mother so much has happened since then I have graduated from high school then from college and I even got married and had a child a couple of years ago I am a mother myself now and I can't imagine putting my child through whatever she put me through so there is no forgiveness for her that day after I moved in with my grandparents and I told him everything about what my mother had said I got to find out a lot of things about her I

found out that my father was actually not in a rush to get married and wanted to enjoy his life but then she got pregnant with me and obviously she kept the baby because she wanted to get married to my dad so that she could spend the rest of her life living off of his money she had every intention of quitting her job and then staying at home with me but then unfortunately my dad got into an accident and then life took an unexpected turn for all of us and for yours my grandparents know to send

her money for my expenses which went into her own expenses from what I know she never spent a dime on me because anytime I wanted something I would just ask my grandparents to buy it for me and they would do it no questions asked she was clever enough to keep her mouth shut about the money that she was receiving from my grandparents so she could continue pulling off this huge scam when my grandparents found out about it they told me that they knew about this but they really didn't want to fight her or argue with

her after my fight with my mother in my sophomore year after which she had made me promise to never to talk about leaving her and going to live with my grandparents I never really brought up any of this with them anyway but after I moved in with them I realized that all of us had wasted a lot of time and money on that woman and we were pissed about it but there was not much that we could do she had kind of played us all in good for her I guess at least after that I

knew where I stood and I did not try to get back in touch with her ever again I went to college on my grandparents money and got a degree in finance then I got my first job and there I met my husband we were together for 2 years before he proposed and then we got married about 1 and 1/2 years ago and 3 months back I had my first child with him our daughter life has been pretty good to me after I cut ties with my mother and I don't have much to complain about I

am really lucky that I had such supportive grandparents with me standing by my side every step of the way and after that I'm really thankful for my husband who completed me in every way possible as for my mother she was really living it up with her new rich boyfriend and new rich friends and a home in the rich neighborhood I know that because my grandparents did kind of keep tabs on her and other nosy relatives would often times tell them about what she was up to she had undergone a complete makeover and now she was

part of the elite club and was too high up there for her to bother looking down on us but I didn't care she could do whatever she wanted to it did not really make a difference to me since I was happy with my own life I had a nice job and earned a decent amount of money I had a great husband and a loving family that's more than what I could ask for I don't know how she might have explained my absence in her life to Dale though I guess she must have cooked up some

story about me not wanting to come along with her and cut ties with her to make me seem like the bad guy and her seem like the innocent person in this whole situation anyway for the past 6 years we have had no contact with her but about 2 weeks ago I received a phone call from her and it was quite desperate since she told me that she really wanted me to attend her wedding that was happening in one week I thought that it was a bit weird that she was inviting me on the phone in

just one week before the event when I asked her why she told me that a lot of people had a lot to say about the fact that she was no longer in touch with her daughter and in order to save face she had to invite me and make sure that everybody knew that we did not have a terrible relationship so we could at least reconcile at the wedding for the public and then we could go our separate ways once again so it was basically all to whitewash Her Image since people were raising questions about the

reason behind our strained relationship I thought that it was really bold to make such a demand after 6 years of not being in touch with me and I was about to decline the invitation but then I thought that I would go along with it and teach her a lesson for a lifetime it was petty I'll give you that but I really just wanted her to know exactly what I thought of her and so I did what I had to so I agreed to attend the event and she was quite thankful to me at the moment

not having any idea what was allowed to happen later for the next couple of days we did not have any contact and we then met straight on the day of the wedding itself for the record my grandparents did not know what was going to happen and I did not tell them because I knew that they would discourage me from doing it and I just wanted to do something bad for once in my life and get back at somebody who would put me down I did not want to be the bigger person in this situation basically

I told my husband what had happened and he agreed to go along with my plan so on the day of the wedding I showed up with my husband and my daughter we had shown up right before the ceremony and after that once the vows had been exchanged she started attending to all the guests and when she came to us she made a huge show of hugging me with tears in her eyes and reconciling with me she kept talking about how difficult these past 6 years had been without me and how she was so happy that

I decided to apologize and attend her wedding I was really confused but then I figured that she must have come up with some story where I was the bad guy and I was the one who apologized to her and accepted the invitation I didn't care about about it because everything would be exposed in just a matter of an hour or so even Dale came up to me and told me that he was so glad that I had chosen to reconcile with my mother and apologized to her and told me that he hoped that nothing of

this sort would ever occur again and he looked quite serious while telling me that so I'm guessing that she must have come up with something terrible that I had done to her or said to her anyway after all that was done people started making the wedding speeches and after the people who were supposed to make the speeches were done I decided to get up and put my plan into action when I stood up my mother started looking really alarmed but she couldn't actly tell me to sit down or whatever since that would be a little

weird so she had no choice but to let me get to the mic and start speaking I started off congratulating the happy couple and then I started telling everybody about what a wonderful mother she had always been to me I talked a bit about how she had treated me when I was younger and then I got to the part where she told me that I could not move into the new house with her and because she wanted a fresh start and she did not want to be a mother to me anymore I thanked her for

not giving me a room in the new house that day and I told her that had she not done that I might never have moved in with my grandparents and my life might not have been what it is today and I really am thankful to her because I'm really happy with the life that I have now I told her about my wonderful job and the people that I call family now and said that they are a billion times better than she could ever be to me then after I had one final look at everybody's shocked

faces in the audience especially my mom's I decided to walk out of the wedding after congratulating her on her face then my husband and I drove home with our daughter and had a good laugh about everybody's faces at the event however now she is really mad I'm not concerned about that but unfortunately she got in touch with with my grandparents she told them all about what had happened at the wedding and now my grandparents think that I took it a little too far and I should have just declined the invitation if I did not want

to go instead of attending the event and then ruining it for her they think that it was really Petty and I agree with them it really was but I don't think that I did anything wrong she had the audacity to call me after 6 years of having no contact with me I think what I did was the right thing to do somebody needed to take her down and I did what I had to do I have no regrets about what I did but my grandparents think that it would be better if I apologized because right

now her life is in shambles after my speech obviously since now all her lies have been exposed and I'm guessing that Dale also has a huge problem with what I said now that the truth is out people are obviously not going to like it and the consequences of her own actions so I don't see my fault here Ida for attending my mother's wedding and making a speech about how badly she had treated me earlier update one hi so I decided to talk to my grandparents and I explained to them just how hurt and angry i'

been in the past they told me that they understood but the mature thing to do would have been to just decline the invitation and block her number she had only been able to contact me because it was a new phone number and I didn't know it was her I was really curious which is why I had even spoken to her instead of hanging up the second that I figured out it was my mother anyway that's beside the point my parents told me that they thought I was being a little too Petty and that I was

not fully over what had happened yet and I told them that I wasn't I don't think anybody in my place would have been either it's been 6 years but I spent 18 years with that woman and it still hurts when I think about it because at the end of the day she was still my mother and she owed certain things to me but she did not live up to any of my my expectations so maybe I might have been Petty and I don't know if what I did was right or wrong but one thing is

for sure it really made me feel better it made me feel like I had gotten my revenge was not a good thing but at least I did not feel like a total fool anymore we had a hard conversation and we were able to talk about it they apologized to me for judging me too hard and said that maybe they wouldn't understand what I was going through because they were in a different place in their lives and it was okay for us to have differing views on what happened and agree with them as long as it

does not get in the way of our relationship so for now my grandpar parents and I are cool it has been a couple of days since the wedding ceremony and personally I haven't received any word from my mother yet she had only been in touch with my grandparents not me I don't think she's going to get back in touch with me either after what happened update to hello so it has been a week since the wedding and I guess I was wrong about what I said my mother definitely did get back in touch with me

she really is absolutely Shameless she sent me a message from another number since I had blocked the previous one and she probably guessed that this time if she tried to call me and I realized that it was her I would probably block that number as well so she did the clever thing and decided to send me a message instead in the message she told me that I had absolutely ruined her wedding and now her entire family hated her I don't even know who she's talking about when she says family because I know for a fact

that she's not actually in touch with her biological family anymore and I also know that she is not talking about me or my grandparents so I'm guessing that she's probably talking about her husband's family right now and I think it's perfectly reasonable for them to hate her because the things that I said were not nice but to be fair the things that she did were also not nice and I just spoke my truth so if she wanted me to say good things about her she probably should have coached me on what to say instead of

just inviting me and expecting me to be fake after 6 years of no contact she told me that Dale was also not speaking to her and they were supposed to leave for their honeymoon in a couple of days so before that I had to fix the situation and tell everybody that I was just mad and I had only accepted the invitation because I wanted to ruin her wedding since I still resented her for what had happened all those years ago I don't even know what she's talking about and she says what happened all those years

ago so there's absolutely no chance that I'm going to own up to mistakes that I have not even made I'm not going to pretend to be the bad guy here just so she can save face and the audacity to still expect me to be fake and cover up her lies it's just insane how she's acting I did not even bother to respond to that message and just blocked her it's infuriating she thinks that she is entitled to anything that she asks for and I should just roll with it at this point I'm just considering sending

that message to Dale somehow and forcing him to open his eyes and really see what a terrible person he has been involved with all this time she is the fake one she is the pretentious one and she is the one who deserves every bad thing that is coming her way right now I don't even feel sorry for her because she's never going to become a better person update three so I was about to reach out to Dale myself but luckily he was the one who reached out to me first it's been a couple of days

since I Reed the last message from my mother and I thought that they were going to leave for their honeymoon anyway because Dale has been with my mom for a really long time now and I didn't think that he would believe her but he does which is why he reached out to me in the first place he reached out to me on social media since he did did not have my phone number and sent me a message on Facebook he told me that he had decided to anull his marriage with my mother after the speech

that I had made at the wedding after that he confronted my mother after the event and tried to get the truth out of her for the next couple of days she had resisted really hard and tried to tell him that I was lying and that I was out of my mind and stuff but I seemed pretty sane and reasonable at the wedding itself so he found it hard to believe that I had suddenly just lost my mind so he kept pushing and pushing and finally my mother had to come out and tell him the truth

she confirmed that what I had said was indeed true and tried to defend herself by saying that she did not even want to be my mother anymore since she was not cut out for that job and she had realized after I was born now this did not align with the story that she had told him initially that I had decided not to move into the new house with the deal and had insulted her called her a gold digger and a lot of other things apparently that's the story that she had fed him for years that

I resented her for having a new boyfriend and apparently I believed that this was a betrayal to my father so now that the truth was finally out he had decided to separate in part ways with my mother he thought that it was important to tell me because I deserve to know this he did not say anything else but I'm just grateful that I was able to save at least one man by doing all of this I really hope he finds somebody better he seems like a nice person I know what it feels like to find

out that you have wasted so many years of your life giving to the wrong person anyway I'm happy and I'm just going to move on from this now