foreign [Applause] she's a coach a relationship is an example and worship and then prominent of God's grace [Applause] so many things to my path and she's the mother of a company family she's president of an NGO is involved in so many ways foreign [Applause] very very soon red brain mixes okay fairies [Applause] thank you Hallelujah ladies and Gentlemen let's meet you downtown there are two major things you must give to your wife as a married man space and place I was watching your man of God when he was brought up to declare this conference open and he made his wife stand beside him now listen Beloved the literate of the 21st century are not the people that cannot read or write they are the people that cannot unlearn and rename so stop saying that behind every successful man is a woman that is a life from the pit of Hell it is not scriptural when God was going to create the woman he didn't take the bone from behind he didn't take the bone from the head he took the bone from the side I feel it was the left ventricle so it is beside every successful man there is a woman be hind a successful man is a stupid woman [Applause] what are you doing behind what are you doing behind [Applause] besides the man fund him to Flame encourage his heart and the man should do the same for the woman you brought me here to speak on marriage so let's hit the ground running [Applause] marriage is many things to many people to some people it is a necessary evil so some people is a formal formal relationship in which a woman should give birth to children so some people it is a servant Master relationship so some people it is let's just do it because everybody is doing it but we are believers and the Bible rule Our Lives marriage is neither African nor Western marriage is biblical marriage is a gift of God and a gift from God to humanity in the African culture the core African culture there is nothing called marriage a woman is only sin that is if and where she's sin and never had that's why a man can marry Five Wives a man can marry 19 wives a man can marry as many as possible and when he feels like it he can send any of them out and I'm so sorry to say it's pathetic that even though some men are born again tongue talking Heaven bound but they still need deliverance from that aspect of the African culture and mentality where the woman is nothing and it's a picture that some of them are in Ministry if every time please come my sister if every time you and your wife are going and you leave her behind you need Deliverance you're always in the front and the woman is running to catch up with you I don't care how anointed you are you need help when last did you open the card door for your wife [Applause] when last did you wake up in the middle of the night and you walk your wife up to thank her for bearing with you who would have married you 15 20 25 years ago with all your idiosyncrasies one last they do did you wake your wife up in the dead of the night not because you want sex but to just say I just want to thank you she made life simple for me you made Ministry easy for me I I know you're not perfect but I want to bless you today when last did you leave a check under the pillow for your wife it's not her birthday not wedding anniversary just to thank her when last did you finish having sex with your wife and you thanked her instead of can I be real I'm going to quote the scriptures but I'm not here so stand by pastors that don't know how to handle their wives all they know is the book of Hebrews to the book of Zephaniah let's be real you want to be successful in Ministry maybe you need to add this a lot of pastors wise I'm in pain because pastors can be polygamists you are married to the church that Jesus gave you and you're married to your wife I remember reading about yongi Cho one of his books he said one day the Lord said to him I'm going to take my bride from you because you don't know how to take care of your bride when you look at the Bible marriage was in the Book of Genesis the church was born in the book of Exodus in the Old Testament in the New Testament the church was born when Jesus's body was pierced but in the in the Old Testament marriage preceded the church please listen to me few minutes that I have to spend with you today I have prayed and I trust God that it will be about Destiny this is the order according to God's Council God first you next your family life before the church or the business because Pastor you will not sit at sleep on the other what has been equal if you don't take care of your home there are pastors children that don't want to serve their God because we do not know how to set these priorities in place and can I shock you like my husband will see don't die for the church the person that could die for the church already died for the church if you die for the church you have only died in vain and there is nobody that cannot leave your ministry don't be deceived you are not El Shaddai else you shall die [Applause] will be with you forever we are here to stay lie tomorrow they'll come and tell you they just gained admission to Australia they are living the only person that cannot leave you is your spouse even your children will live to go get married recently I was walking through the our house and I said why did we even build this big house what were we thinking about Jesus children they are gone Canada America this one where are they that's the truth and I'm going to show you an illustration very whether you're a pastor whether you are married or not I'm talking to you today please plan for the evening of your life so that you will not be lonely and as pastors we need to think because sometimes it can be a tankless job kill yourself you label you start you think it's easy to preach one for one hour did you see how many times your Geo wiped his face when he was preaching just to bless you things he already knows them if he doesn't tell us he's fine he's doing we see God in his life but just to bless us did you see the way he was sweating scientists have discovered that what he just did for one hour is like you are carrying cement and loading it in the trailer that's why it is evil for you to dishonor your pastor unkind daddy daddy where are you I'm at the hospital my daughter is dying daddy wanted to sleep with Mommy generator just packs of him he's running to go and meet you there you know what I mean by generator and yet some of you will still abuse The Mummy some of you will still abuse the Apostle some of you will still talk against their children labeling with their lives and you'll be abusing them with your fingers or with your mouth it's evil it's unfair because if he had been working for Shell or Chevron will he not have access to the things that he has access to and then you think is church money rubbish let's not even go there so please set the priorities these are the five most important things in your life number one God number two you you are not inferior to anybody God is the most important God did not create a world in which he will not be needed there is a vacuum in the heart of every human being that is God shaped only God can feel it therefore I don't want to assume if you are not yet born again give your heart to Jesus and when I'm closing I'll be privileged to lead you to Calvary today that's the most important thing that can happen to you I got born again 44 years ago the only regret I have is I wish I had been born again in my mother's womb that is when your True Life Starts God is the most important number two is you Job chapter number 12 and verse number three what you know I know I am not inferior to you Job chapter 13 and verse 2 you can't forget that job 12 3 job 13 2 what you know I know I am not inferior to you you are not inferior to anybody you are primary to you I'm taking you somewhere you are primary to you if you understand that you will not marry an unbeliever as a believer if you understand that you will not go ahead to marry someone that slapped you while you went coaching if you understand what I'm talking about you are primary to you every other relationship is secondary low self-esteem is a sickness your background does not mean your back should be on the ground it doesn't matter how you were born that's not what is important not at all as the head girl in my secondary school for two weeks I would not be able to go to school because of less than one dollar look at it today I don't even know how many children I'm sponsored in school so the point is when you meet with the Lord Jesus Christ he turns the ladder around don't sacrifice your life on the altar of marriage it is not marriage that completes anybody hear me very well and it is not heresy if you are an incomplete human being you will meet and marry an incomplete human being and you will have an incomplete marriage what is important more important in marriage is for you to be the right person water will always find its level don't let any man sleep with you before he marries you If any man tells you until I sleep with you I cannot marry you he said he said bicycle wait for your Bentley I don't care what goes on in the world when we're newly born again if the strap of your brush shows you'll be feeling bad these days you see cleavages you see skirts you see this is not how they raised us oh we need to start changing the trajectory of Christianity I like the word switch let's begin to be decent in addressing I'm not giving any excuse for rape you cannot say you raped me because you saw my cleavage that's nonsense you will end up in jail but I'm talking about integrity dignity decency nature teaches decency that's what the book of Corinthians tells us you are important it doesn't matter who has said what about you you are very important don't hand over the driver's seat of your life to anybody don't use sex as a trap thinking a man will marry you if you sleep with him there is no man there is no man that does not want to be a hunter if you give it to him on a platter of God he will abuse you men were created to hunt men want to look forward to something but you go to his house you must cook you must wash you must because you want him to marry you and you think you are 34. God comes late when he wants to come big and everything I'm standing with you are singles I will share with singles and then I will move to married and then I I take my leave is based on Genesis chapter 24 we see the Prototype of how you should select your married marriage partner so I said five things are important God is the most important you are next then your family relationship that's the center of gravity better don't worry don't marry wrongly I know what I'm talking about better live your life as a single person till the Lord Jesus comes don't miss it in marriage marriage determines a lot married data forget it there is no way your Geo will have succeeded if he has issues with his marriage is the reality that's how it runs better stay single than marry the wrong person so your family is important number four is your career your career and number five relationships each of these is a seminar topic but I'm not going into them today I'm sticking to marriage in Genesis chapter 24 we see the Prototype so number one those of you that are single and you are not yet married please hear me very well marry from your tribe when I say trap I'm not talking about Yoruba or um if you are born again second Corinthians chapter 6 verse 14 if you are born again the problem of marriage is half solved marry from your tribe Genesis 24 Abraham said to the servants go back and get a wife for my son the man said if the woman when I said then you are free but that's where go do not marry someone that has no body you can report him or her to don't marry anybody that tells you I don't fear nobody it's a danger on two legs don't think we are stupid when we honor people when I see mommy adeboye and I lay down or you see prostrating for his mentors don't think we are stupid that is your break system any car that does not have a break system is prone to accidents Luke chapter number one beginning from verse number 26 as soon as Mary understood what she was carrying she did six major things she went uphill to Judah entered zachariah's house and saluted Elizabeth if a mentor a matriarch who was equally pregnant let me just pause to say this there are three kinds of people you must run away from number one expired mentors so I wanted to kill David let's not go into that number two competitive or jealous colleagues number three parasitic proteins all they do is name dropping expired mentors they are not comfortable with your Rising you preach a message they cannot even thank God for you Mary went to Elizabeth everybody needs an Elizabeth who is an Elizabeth someone that is equally pregnant someone that understands Ministry like you know Daddy jio was talking about a few minutes ago someone that understands Ministry that understands the terrain one of the reasons we could listen to him and be blessed is because we know that he understands what he's saying we are in this so when it gives an example we know what he was talking about you need a mentor I'm not talking of somebody's picture that you will put on your screen in your house can I thank you it's my mentor that you don't even have access to locate someone that is secure that is equally pregnant that understands how it feels to have many sickness someone you can call and say my husband just committed adultery I don't know what to do and that person will cancel with you pray with you and still watch you preach without judging you I'm not talking about mentors that are tormentors I'm not talking about mentors that all they need is money from you I'm not talking about mentors that are not secure Proverbs chapter 4 and verse number 18 the message translation says the longer you live the brighter you will shine that's the word of the Lord mentors that want you to increase I don't care what anybody has done for me in life I'm grateful I'm a worshiper I'm a grateful person but there is no honor I will give to any human being on Earth including my spiritual parents if I have not given it to my husband because when I did not believe in myself he found me to feel when I didn't know that I could become anything he possibilitized my mentality I said to him even if you cough in church I will be blessed because you live What You Preach I said you are the picture of the future I want for my boys you live what you preach some of you forget the people that held your hands when nobody will have touched you with the longest of poles now you have arrived let me tell you something don't tell me you are you are humble until some things are in your life like money wealth power position and you can still kneel down to greet the people you used to kneel down to great you can see courtesy they can still call you and you will run there don't tell me you're humble I say this they say money in our church he's very humble even though he's poor what else will he be [Applause] attest when a person like DrLemon shows humility hey you know what I'm talking about when you're pressing like the Geo you know what I'm talking about don't tell me I'm a very humble person let's see first of all get to the position first I have access to power and money and wealth and let's see if we can still call you to order so please understand this Mary was the Most Blessed woman on earth in her time and even now my soul just magnified the Lord my spirit rejoices in God my savior for he has regarded the loneliness of his handmaiden for behold from henceforth all generations shall call me blessed for he that is mighty had magnified me and holy is his name his mercies on them that fear him through all generations he has short strength with his power he has captured the proud in the imagination of their hearts that was what Mary said Most Blessed but she still went she still went to look for a mentor and you know one thing about mentoring it is supposed to be mutually beneficial because Elizabeth was pregnant she was blessed but up until that time she was muted but when Mary came in the Bible said she praised the Lord with a loud voice that's what it should be your mentee should be a blessing to you you should be a blessing to you there are so many people that have blessed but muted marriage has muted some people when they were on campus they were on fire because they got married now they can't serve God again I'm sure you heard that I said I got born again 1978. and since that time I've been Sweeping in church I mean sweeping by God's grace my husband is a bishop he has funded many churches but I still go to church to sleep and I will sweep till Jesus comes because it was broom phone I was holding before Jesus gave me microphone so why will I leave broom phone why when I travel I pay someone to sleep as he sleep and say God you know I mean Canada now somebody's sweeping up I paid they lifted you a little like this you will leave the choir some of you I love what your jio said you were the one that helped God to call your husband if I you didn't call you flashed you flash God called my husband father call my husband because you want someone to carry your bag someone to carry your leg and I want to carry your boom boom and call you our mommy is come do you know there are churches that when the Jew enters I tell the ushers if I cannot be free among these people that my husband is passed on something is wrong with me because if you say this person is a high priest and they cannot be touched is a low priest thank you thank you he's a low priest leave and you have seen it you too you want a Ministry like that where your heart will be like satellite I will be just walking our mama is coming here our jail is coming even when the almighty God comes into church we don't create yeah do you know that success is more difficult to manage than failure there's some people that they have prayed about God is still thinking about lifting them because God knows that if he lifts them he will lose them because even the almighty God will be throwing around them and asking danger why did you just say oh God what did you just say People Like Us but don't guess he will not need to ask any engine because there are two kinds of people at the top he lifted the poor from the Dust and the beggar from the donkey and make them to sit how do you know which one the way they praise God the way they pray you will know which one is Prince and which one was lifted recently I looked at my mess and I couldn't find my mate among my mates if you see me roll on the floor if you see me kneel down I know what I'm doing he he removed Hocking tree from my head and made Commonwealth to give me a word and you expect me not to dance and rejoice in his presence excuse me if God does what he has done for me for you she will do now this psychedelic Christianity if you know the kind of water I have drunk in my life because of the Gospel we want to a place sometimes they go to preach during Christmas to preach on the river any of us died we didn't go there to do ceremony we want to preach so don't think look God does not throw up God lifts up and he's not a blind promoter I was in London and somebody said after I finished preaching she came I met them excuse me ma the handkerchief you used when you were preaching their sweat give me and pray for me I gave it to her and said father every trouble I have seen in my life every child say ah mommy I said to the anointing I can't one degrees it's been complete marry from your tribe don't marry just anybody what you carry is too much don't marry a fire extinguisher don't let anybody kill you because of marriage the longer you live the brighter you should shine marriage should not kill yourself for God number two don't marry a lazy person at 11AM you cannot be praying in tongues instead of being at work and tell me you're in full-time Ministry you're going to full time ministry when the ministry has become so you are so busy you cannot compare combine it with any other thing don't say God God called me to start original first career International Jesus is coming Ministries as I stand before you today my husband and I we are in full time ministry and in full-time business some of you might have known that's why we are these these days because I said I sell this I have nail salon I have here Salon unisex this for men these are women I have wrestling I sell mama I sell food as I stand before you I have small hotel I have gym swimming pool without one cover from church one couple from church if you see my husband when he's on the farm you will not believe he's a bishop harvesting pepper about tomato we were praying this money for our tomatoes Time Has Changed Hebrews chapter 1 and verse number one principles do not change bad methods change God who at sundry times used to now not marry a lazy person let me look at your life what are you doing because after nine months you cannot go to the supermarket and claim baby milk otherwise kirikiri will claim you so let me see what you're doing marry someone that is mature spiritually physically emotionally financially you may not be a millionaire a billionaire but at least basic needs must be met as a man you should be the one paint the school discoveries the house rents you don't need to know how much your wife is sending I know we're talking about common pause and joint accounts and all that it's fine your every woman was created to look up wired to look up you must not be taken away from your wife your wife can help you your wife can assist you but the financial Life as a man should not be dependent on your wife this generation they're not looking for who they will suffer with to be a man at least stand your emotional life should not be tied to the aprons of your mother if you are still collecting how strength from your parents don't go into marriage do something with your life and don't tell me that I'm looking for a job there is no country where the government can provide all the jobs create something I just told you now that we sell pepper we sell Tomatoes come and see our chicken come and see Park monster will be his place Point that's why we say darling from pork just get back to 14 now sometimes Sunday morning he will go to his farm quickly you know feed whatever and still come to church to preach this end time do something with your life did you hear what Daddy Gio said that's busy for six days no more is it this day that they are even abusing pastors on internet you don't have anything to show with all this busyness so traveling preaching I still you know that I went back to school at 60.
I'm in part two now studying law yes I sell perfume I even brought for you I said perfume I have eight Brands made in Dubai for ffe I do contribution I'm talking to you about marriage anointing without money will lead to annoyance say my wife doesn't even understand does she not know that I'm a man of God you're a man of God you are a man then of god so let's talk about the man she asked you for 200 000 for 20 000 you're scratching your head no every woman wants her needs to be met at least do something and the same thing goes for the woman too don't marry a lazy person is very important do not marry someone that disrespects you disrespect your spiritual parents someone that disrespects yours mentors or your biological parents if you're young and you brought your fears to the house he must prostrate for your father I don't care who he is his chain must touch the ground every time he visits your father he must prostrate hello Pops yellow popcorn [Applause] the person that you are married to or you want to marry must give the highest level of respect to your parents and it depends on how you have to don't enough with anybody do not elope with anybody I don't have the time and I want to say a few things to the marriage people marriage is hard work marriages may be made in heaven but they are maintained on Earth please take a good care of your marriage leave chapter number eight there are four kinds of marriages marriage by the wayside you take care of everybody Ministry job everything and you abandon your marriage just that there are four kinds of lovers and there are four kinds of parents four kinds of lovers that automatically translate and Transit into four kinds of parents number one we have absentee lovers and they are also absentee parents they are never there never to win the whole world and you lose your family that's not how to live absentee you are never there for your children you are busy in church you are busy running after Coca-Cola you are busy doing this busy doing that have the number of children you can rear not just bear because the generation of your children will either bless you or curse you and the child you nurture today will nourish you in the evening of your life First Kings chapter 1 beginning from verse number one and David was old but it was cold one of the covering cloth for cold children in the evening of your life may you not be naked may you not become an experience it's a huge prayer I just prayed for you now absentee number two we have abusive spouses therefore they are abusive parents you abuse your spouse psychologically wow what yes I'm gonna help you one lady said to me that she will sit in church with her husband and the man will be abusing her physically abuse abuse you they are even calling you mommy you too you're happy and then he will come up stage and say we're so glad to have the first lady in church today bipolar and there are people like that abusive to abuse emotionally so men are here and some women too remember what I said in my opening remark the literate of this 21st century are not the people that cannot read or write that the people that cannot unlearn and relay the fact that you never saw your mother your father kiss or hug does not mean that you should perpetuate that in your Dynasty let's learn it we also have generational blessing be intentional about it I didn't have a great childhood growing up my mother didn't treat me well but and I was making that mistake when our kids were young until I encountered God like today this is wrong it should not be perpetuated fathers remember Jairus he was the one that looked for solution for his daughter so don't let your wife do only only your wife do this qurans only your wife only your wife you two do home assignments with them who says you cannot be in the kitchen with your wife what kind of anointing you carry away say you no good job yeah because you're a man of God the children are gone your wife is labor and sweating you sit there upstairs watching Chelsea and Arsenal Arsenal are you here and master you know he's watching why she sleep on it even amazes me that there are men that will refuse food when they are hungry Uncle times have changed when you are when you are okay you gotta microwave the food where is that in the Bible you will not eat because you are angry you'll be keeping malice some will be singing against their rights any local Hey listen if man because you grew up in ibadan a young man one word answer for your wife and you will come to sing in the choir you come to church as an elder you come as a walker you'll adjust your burrito you will lift up on holy hands and God is going go home and make peace with your spouse and because they are abusive like that they can be abusive parents any little thing the cop drops from your child bam and little thing boom women we women in particular we can shout for Africa when the monster said ah the neighbors know the names of our children I need to get intercom in this house bunny I understand I had to learn too because that was how we grew up my mother will be pounding like this you'll talk before you finish the statement the Mortal is in your mouth oh you are crying at the supermarket she will just hold your hand we are finished shopping that day let's go home the way she's holding your hand you two you will know that except Jesus comes you are in trouble absentee you can serve a country like Nigeria it's okay to serve but please don't forget your home you may not be able to take your children abroad take them somewhere spend time with them that was how we raised our children even without me sometimes my husband would take these children to effect make them sit on the grass tell them his life story our last born has all our children have Masters one is already starting his PhD international law and diplomacy that's born he will encourage them this is how to beat when they were getting married they were things I was too shy to tell them as well sat them down this is how to talk to him and this is how to do this this is about sex this is about that let's not be just African parents that don't raise these children the way they should be raised biblically let's work on that and then we have permissive lovers permissive parents anything my dear shall I wear this dress anything you like that you cannot do anything like Eli don't blame someone his mentor was fantastic but he missed it in the area of raising his children don't blame David he was fantastic but he missed it he produced amnon he produced Tama he produced Absalom because what was his mentor Eli was somewhere's mental look at it be careful who lays hands on your head on your wedding day be careful what you say for better for worse in sickness if I hear no we don't say that in our church anymore remember you won't learn I stand with you today in in progress in blessings in favor just put good things and together we stand against sickness against poverty against the cause Genesis chapter 1 beginning from verse 1. God said it and God saw it and scientists are now collaborating Genesis chapter one what don't die what's Bounce Around be careful what you see and finally we have participatory parents they are involved participatory lovers as a woman your husband has a business go there once in a while carry back show your face I close on this note and then I'll show you that illustration adultery is a killer in my Village in Yoruba land they call adultery at Berry and I decided to to turn it this way [Music] collector of profits Proverbs chapter 5. Proverbs chapter 6.
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