is anyone going to explain to me why we are friends with people that make us feel drained why we are friends with people that gossip about us why are we friends with people who we are constantly giving to and we're not receiving anything back why no no tell me why because if you think that you constantly trying to uplift your friend trying to help them and they don't want they don't want to they don't want your help they constantly just come complain about their situation and you're trying to uplift them where do you think you're
going huh you're not going anywhere honey nowhere literally why do you guys choose stress in life huh like imagine coming home to your apartment and you're stressed by the other person that's living with you you are not going to stress me out in my own place honey and as a friend you are not going to stress me out whenever I want to do something fun and you're just this negative energy around me oh no guys my name is Li and welcome back to my channel okay so in this video I am going to tell you
the signs of a bad friend of a toxic person first things first listen to me bad friends are not honest with you okay I I was at a restaurant right um and I saw this girl coming in and she had makeup on but the makeup was done so badly like she was as white as me but she had had orange makeup on and you really saw that she tried to look good right this girl walks around I swear like everybody's laughing at her and I felt truly so bad for her that I wanted to go
up and say Hey listen Maybe it's like you know not your shade I don't know like I wanted to help her in some way you know so like I felt bad for her but her friend next to her I just want to say something why would you let your friend walk out like that like why I am the kind of person if I friends with someone and my friends are like that too if something is ugly about me or I don't look good or dress doesn't look good to me oh you best believe they will
tell me you know and I don't take it as harsh or anything because I know my friends want to help me and they want the best for me you know um so I think a true friend should be honest with you if if if there's something about you that doesn't look good they can say Hey listen maybe you should fix this same way if they ask about um a relationship whatever and then you see they're really struggling they they're not valuing themselves I am the kind of person you know I have this one friend she
literally calls me she's like Liz I need your honest advice this is the situation I need you to talk to me talk some sense into me I go she tells me and I tell her you are an idiot yeah an idiot and you don't see your words because you know what I get upset when people do not see their word when they get treated like [ __ ] and they still stay in that same situation and they still think that oh no maybe it's different no it's not different okay if somebody does not respect you
they don't respect it that's it and you can see through their action another thing is they always come to you for advice but when you need someone they're not there okay so uh I want you guys to write down your number down in the comments yeah because I want a free therapist honestly because that's what you are just a free therapist like what are you doing what are you doing and then you say like oh my God I feel so drained after I meet up with her yeah of course you do of course you do
baby because she basically or he basically dumps all this trauma Onto You dumps all this [ __ ] [ __ ] and then you're left there with like oh you have to pick up the pieces you have to heal them and then you're left broken it's not nice to like constantly sit and hear somebody complain about themselves but what about you huh what about you who's listening to you other thing is they don't see you as a friend they see you as competition listen I had this actually I've had this with almost all my friends
whenever they become my friends they do every single thing to try to look like me color same hair like even the eyebrows they color it darker even PL get plastic surgery to look like me this is honestly true it happens and I never see it as that but my mom always says like Liz they they're not trying to be your friend they're trying to like do whatever you're doing so they look like you you know um this is creepy you have to realize does this friend want to be my friend or do they want to
be me I had this one girl she literally completely transformed herself into me she would even go as far to like date the people that wanted me so like whenever she found out that that person was interested in me she would try to date them listen the people that want to be you yeah they will try to date your boyfriend they will try to do date your ex whatever to come as close as they can they will try to get friends with your friends just to be as close as they can to you but the
issue is they can never be you because as much as you try as much as you change honey the energy the soul is never the same you will never be that person insecure people that try to be someone else are dangerous I'm telling you these friends are dangerous another thing is they constantly spread rumors about other people listen to me how are you friends with these people like literally how are you guys friends with people that spread rumors about other people like they know it's not true they know it's going to hurt families they know
it's going to hurt the person even this these kind of things can lead to death they you you're literally murdering someone how are you guys friends with such a negative vibe and I'm telling you if you think that that person that's spreading rumors about others will not do the same to you honey you are mistaken you are mistaken and you're in for a big big right I am telling you right now if you have a person no one in my circle literally spreads rumors about anyone like do we gossip and stuff yeah of course gossip
is normal if if anyone would say I never gossip that's not true you're lying you know gossip is normal you hear things whatever okay yeah but nobody will be that like souless like heartless to create something about someone or to leak something or or to betray them in some that's disgusting disgusting and how are you guys friends with them literally and I'm telling you you engage in this tomorrow it will be you and when it's you honey it's not funny when it's other when it's other people that break break down when families are being torn
apart because of you when things are happening it's all fun in games but honey when the roles get reversed and it's you it's not funny anymore and believe me God sees everything you will get back what you give out as well these are the same people that Will Reveal Your Secrets they will spread your things around what would you do in this situation do not tell them anything about yourself personally keep it very like you know on this level do not go deep why anything you say can and will be used against you with people
like that these are snakes people like that are nobody's friend people like that they will betray their own family they are dangerous another thing is they bring your mood down imagine you're like very excited you're so happy you like and you meet up with them and they're immediately like why are you so happy like they always find something to ruin your mood and to bring your down to bring you down to their level so that's why I'm saying hang around with people that you want to be like do not hang around with low life dumb
people literally because they are going to always bring you down to their level misery loves company okay they're miserable they want you to be miserable or like is the same way like you accomplish something you're so happy you're like oh my God like I I graduated oh my God I did this oh my God I I uh started my business whatever then I okay but you're not all that humble yourself honey humble for who for you who are you who are you exactly with these people I would say keep the contact as limited as possible
like do not engage too much with them try to stay away and try in the meantime to look for friends that you actually value that you want to be like hang around people you want to be like if you hang around losers constantly you'll be a loser you know that is common that is normal thing is they don't respect your boundaries at all like literally these are the kind of people you will say like Hey listen uh I don't really like it when you do this to me or I don't really like appreciate it when
you treat me like this they'll be like you are sensitive oh my God like you're so dramatic but watch when you do the same thing to them oh no then it's not drama then it's very very sad for them and so bad what you did so that's why set boundaries with these people and be firm about them you don't like something okay when they cross that boundary you say say hey I didn't like that and I told you I didn't like that so you know what I'm not going to talk to you anymore because you
keep doing it until they change you don't give them that chance again to do it again to you you know because if they see that you're not serious about your boundaries how are they going to take it serious you don't even take yourself serious how are they going to take it serious other thing is they never suggest to pay for anything listen I am a very generous person with my female friends I always like if they want to come down here in the country where I live I will pay for the flight I will pay
for them like for everything like they're stay everything I don't mind paying for dinner I just dislike it when I am constantly the one given and it's not even suggested like hey should we split you know I had this one friend and I'm constantly like paying for every single thing every single time and I don't mind but then after like the eighth time I like okay listen am I being used here it's not normal I think especially like between females I think there should be splits and I learned that now so now with all my
friends I'm like okay let's split you know um because that's easier I for this I would suggest next time when you go somewhere tell them suggest already like hey um make sure you get your wallet with you or make sure you have money cuz we're going here you know make sure they know they will have to pay okay so if they're constantly like oh you have have a car can you drive me here can you do that uh constantly like asking favors for everything or like you have an apartment oh can I stay at yours
whatever stop doing that because people are using you you know there there there will come a point where you realize like why am I doing so much for this person and what am I getting out of it literally nothing they always come to you with like oh my God they said this about you oh my God I was here and I I heard them saying this about you whatever honey why did it say it in front of you huh why were these people so comfortable to talk in front of you about your friend tell me
tell me how that is normal I know one thing for a fact no one will ever talk to me about my friends about my family no one because I respect them and they know I respect them and it's not done like the minute they do I will literally like be like oh no no honey this is not happening cuz I will defend them and they will never even there to bring up the first letter of their name but with you oh everybody seems to be comfortable oh my God they said this about me really why
did they say that to you I'm telling you if you have a friend that constantly comes to you oh they said this about you whatever she or he is literally talking the same way about you because ain't no way that somebody will feel comfortable enough to say that to a real friend they are ashamed to be seen with you oh they're ashamed to like like terish their relationships they're ashamed to like terish their reputation they're ashamed to maybe even they don't find to attractive enough to hang out with them lots of reasons um listen if
anyone is ashamed to hang around with you well then F them literally because don't you dare to make anyone make you feel less than that you are you do not deserve that okay if they cannot see your value in you then you you should not go there and you should not talk to these people stop giving these people your energy they do not deserve you because you will start to feel like you're worthless because they these people make you feel like you're worthless okay but that's not the true reality it's all because of their feelings
and what they're projecting on to you that you start to feel like that about yourself but that's not the reality honey that is not the reality and don't you ever dare to make anyone feel ashamed to be around you it's a blessing to hang around you okay a blessing I would say to this is do not take it personal these people are dealing with their own stuff these people probably have low self-esteem low self- worth they're jealous whatever it's not about you it's more about them if they had healed themselves from the inside they would
not behave like this these are toxic people it's not about you it's about themselves okay these people are most likely very unhappy but that is none of your business your business is to make you happy and your business is not to make everyone else around you around you happy like what are you a little dumb Dum I don't think so I'm telling you hang around the people you want to be like find these people go anywhere you can meet people easily you know stop giving anyone the benefit of the doubt like oh maybe they didn't
mean it whatever listen if they disrespected you constantly they meant it okay you're just not willing to believe it so stop being delusional start really like seeing your own worth and seeing like Hey listen I deserve to be be treated better than this I am a good friend okay so I deserve a good friend I am a good lover and a good partner so I deserve a good lover and a good partner and you do so stop letting people walk all over you have some backbone anyways guys I love you so much my cheeks got
completely red because of this ring light um yeah I can't do anything about that um but I love you guys so much thank you so much for watching I hope you learned something and please do not disappoint me do not disappoint me okay love you guys
