ULTIMATE HANDBOOK ON WOMEN

we are just byproducts of a society that has catered to our desires and Pleasures so it's not the healthiest time to form a relationship unfortunately psychologist coach therapist and relationship expert s every gold digger follows the exact same script it's like they have a WhatsApp group but when they get what they need they disappear for 2 or 3 days and they don't let you touch them and they've got a headache for 6 weeks these days women cheat more than men I can't believe that people don't realize it it's effortless to cheat she jumps on a

dating app she'll have 50 matches that night men have a greater willingness but women have a better ability to cheat I'm so confused by the women that watch pornography and the feminists that watch pornography you advocate so much for women's right and you talk about patriarchy and you Define patriarchy as a pay Gap or having to do chores but you don't Define patriarchy as women selling their body online for $5.99 a month and men are consuming it and so essentially we're making women women almost replaceable because if you're just a pretty facing adding no other

value men are going to replace us with AI so as men we're creating the kind of women that we ultimately don't want exactly and then women are creating the type of men that they ultimately don't want what's happening to our men weakness they're so fearful and weak that women are no longer attracted to them because they're not getting that attraction from women they stick to pornography or escorts or using prostitution because they essentially recognize that they're not a man that women would be attracted to when you come come from a Muslim background and I was

raised in England and I was raised in London with an entirely English environment I always look at things through the lens of God forget pleasure anything can be pleasure think about the potential pain of the decisions that you're making and if the pain is not worth committed to don't do [Music] it the world is changing inspiration is everywhere it has never been so easy to connect share and bring people together we're learning from others and finding the best in [Music] ourselves challenging our beliefs sharing our vulnerability overcoming our fears transforming ourselves so we can transform

the world how far can we go this is London real I am Brian Rose my guest today [Music] is this is London real I am Brian Rose my guest today is sakan the former teacher psychologist and relationship expert you have an extensive background in education and developmental psychology specializing in helping people better understand their relationships with friends family and most importantly their Partners you've amassed a huge audience on social media with many of your videos racking up millions of views you believe that many modern relationships are fundamentally unhealthy with most people failing to recognize their

own insecurities and the impact of their childhood trauma you've said that the rise of negative Role Models online is creating narcissistic women while while pornography is making men incapable of connecting on both a physical and emotional level Sadia welcome to London real thank you so much for having me Brian this is a very big honor for me say thank you so much I'm really excited your videos have been popping up all over my social I'm so sorry about that by the way you must be so sick of me oh my gosh but you're everywhere and

I think you're everywhere for a lot of people and I think you are and we were talking beforehand you know why do people enjoy watching you and there's something very ruent about you when you speak about these things and that's always why any of my guests become super popular whether you're David Ike or you're Dorian Yates it's because people feel these people are speaking from their heart they're speaking congruently and they're speaking to add value to other people and I think you do all of that and that's why you're here and that's why people are

listening to you but also if you listen to what you say you might wonder if it's the end of the world of relationships right I know I'm very dramatic aren't I well but I mean maybe a lot of people would experience in their own lives um the challenges they have with relationships and they are challenging and digital media which we'll get into I guess makes it all even more challenging and it's given us all these new pitfalls and things that you know our grandparents didn't have to deal with and I don't know if you remember

your grandparents relationship but I do and it was at a time before the internet and a time where people usually stayed together and um there was something beautiful and comforting about that I don't know if we're ever going to see that again so what is the State of the Union right now when it comes to relationships is this the worst time ever in human history I know you coach a lot of people or is it that we notice it more so what would you say is the state of play unfortunately I would say it's one

of the worst times in human history and I would say it's because we replaced Duty with Hedonism um in previous generations getting joining together was a duty a spiritual Duty a relationship Duty through family there was an element of Duty involved in connecting with the people that we love and love was just one component but it was really like let's create a family let's make a home for the children Let's uh you know stand by god let's do all of these things there was an element of I'll put my desire second but the priority and

responsibility of this relationship First We have replaced that with a really hedonistic Society we are just byproducts of a society that has catered to our desires and pleasures and as a result when it comes to relation ation ships we are unable to delay gratification if every need and every desire and every pleasure is not immediately satisfied we look for Replacements and I'm not somebody who's immune to this I I we do it with our phones we do it with our clothes even even the Advent of cheap clothes like if you don't like something you throw

it away you get another one order one the next day if that's the society we're breeding how would that not have a trickle down effect onto relationships if we live in a world where Amazon Prime the next day throw out this cloth replace replace replace how would that not affect our emotional connections so instead of creating connections we're creating to hedonistic individuals who are completely individualistic who are void of responsibility now joining forces and creating children with that Banner so it's not the healthiest time to form a relationship unfortunately wow um so if we look

back say 100 years ago the the marriage and the family was part of a bigger group the community the city the state the the religious organization and it was all part of one and you had various responsibilities to your parents or to the church or to all these things and that no longer happens yet there was no element of Desire related to marriage it was just the next stage of life and it was just like how you go to work you don't necessarily desire every job rooll you do it because you got bills to pay

so marriage was the next stage of life and you got children to raise and you've got money to make and you've got a family to kind of create and I'm not saying that was perfect but we've now we've made desire the primary focus behind marriage and desire is a temporary emotion it it can't last forever and the more connected we get with somebody the more the desire decip itates so of course desire is going to go now we've trained people into thinking if desire has depleted you have to replace the person rather than understanding that

desire is not necessarily required in the long run and it it's not an ingredient of longevity but we've told everybody if you don't desire it don't do it and unfortunately that makes us shortterm that will make us create short-term mating strategies which are actually a precursor for narcissism and anti-personal um personality disorder if you look at most criminals they tend to have one thing in common it's lots of short-term mating strategies because it creates a mind that uses people rather than connects with people isn't that wild yeah that is wild and uh you yeah we'll

get into this but You' said that uh serial killers on death roll all had a history of pornography abuse and all these other things isn't that crazy that most serial killers in death row they had an addiction uh to pornography and why is that because pornography allows you to take all of the pleasure out getting all of your kicks out of somebody without investing anything into them without caring about them without worrying about them without even considering their well-being and getting all of your desires out of them so you can watch pornography you're not worried

about whether this person is consensual whether this person went through trauma that led to this her now becoming a sex worker or him becoming a sex worker you're not worried if they're on drugs all you worry about is are you getting pleasure from this and so that mindset going into dating is not the healthiest you've gone deep on this and said that we're the first ones to say you know no uh child uh trauma no child abuse no child trafficking and yet 10 years later those same people are performing porn that everyone just consumes avidly

and you said isn't there something isn't there something duplicitous about that isn't that strange that we can all agree child trafficking is wrong we can all agree molesting a child is wrong we can all agree that some childhood trauma is wrong but when we take that person's vulnerability and now that person has only done what they know which has gone back into sex work we for some reason celebrate that outcome and we watch it and we get aroused by it which is one of the reasons I I'm so confused by the women women that watch

pornography and the feminists that watch pornography you advocate so much for women's right and you talk about patriarchy and you Define patriarchy as a pay Gap or having to do chores but you don't Define patriarchy as um women getting raped on camera and you're watching it or women selling their body online for $5.99 a month and men are consuming it you don't consider that patriarchy but you do consider folding your husband's clothes as oppressive so I just think we've indoctrinated women into kind of labeling their oppression as Freedom telling them actually what we've made is

them Commodities to men T them that's Liberty and that's freedom and they've gone okay and that's the that's their movement now sadly well let's talk about that because you've said that that nowadays every all of the poor choices of women are celebrated right and so you're a sex worker let's celebrate it you made this bad decision let's celebrate it you sell yourself on only EV let's celebrate it you it's now all celebrated wom gasl into Behavior as this Liberation when you look at it and you're like who you kidding you're actually you're you're not taking

accountability for poor decisions and then you're reaping whatever you sow that that's the sad part and this is somebody as a woman myself I just realized if I was to make endless poor decisions for my mind body and soul there would be a positive praise outcome so we're almost modifying women's Behavior to become self-destructive if I gained a lot of weight and I totally sto taking care of my body I would be celebrated body positivity and that's not good for me you and I both know it's not good for us not to run every day

or not to it's not good for us or if I sleep around with the wrong men and I just go and get an abortion rather than being exercising more discretion with who I lay down with and actually taking responsibility and think you know what if I sleep with you and have a baby with you I don't want to have a baby with you so bye I'm not talking to you instead it's like sex sex sex sex sex an abortion if need be I'm celebrated for having that choice and if I want to then you know

sell my body my personal sexual life which is so sacred and sanct if I then make it a commodity I'm seen as a really successful entrepreneur when really what I'm doing is selling my soul I am putting a price tag on my soul and my energy and no matter how Progressive we come there is women who sell their body to some I'm not blaming them I'm sure there's lots of trauma and there's lot Financial issues or whatever it is but when we com when we make our body a commodity we essentially remove the sanctity of

sex and therefore it makes it harder to actually see how important sex is and therefore we give it frivolously and then we can't connect with people because the deepest form of connection should be sex but if I'm giving it to this Uncle that friend and that online how am I able to preserve the spirituality behind it so I'm basically selling all the parts of women that make them beautiful I'm now turning it into a product and therefore we are more oppressed than we've ever been but we've labeled it as Liberty but the feminists celebrate that

as female empowerment what is empowering about being 5.99 for a dirty man that is probably doing all sorts with your pictures I've never understood that I am now the customer to this dirty old man or This creepy young boy I'm his he's my customer so now I have to please him I I'm he he I basically work for him so I'm taking the probably the most perverse members of men in society and becoming a slave to their desires and I'm labeling that as empowering because if you take respectable men they probably wouldn't want me to

do that so I'm taking the worst cohort of men and becoming a product for their Des desires and labeling it as empowering and I'm not judging the women it's a dual issue both men and women because I'm sure there's Financial issues but it's just the glorification of it that I find insane and sad yeah what do you think about that like from a man's perspective well I just and also on that note like you take it all the way and it becomes I'm selling you know lited videos on only fans but if you take it

partway then you have women that create social media accounts that get attention based on certain types of behaviors and so there's a spectrum of what you're talking about because a lot of people might listen and say well I would never do that but now everybody's on that Spectrum to to some extent because we well let's talk about that because women get rewarded by certain behaviors online that you say promotes narcissism when sometimes they're the first one to say men are the narcissist but I want I want to dive in and see because this digital availability

of everything affects the sexist differently and forrum ofoto Instagram or I'm the only here or I'm making porn and like where where where does that Spectrum lie and what are the different behaviors and what does it promote people doing the moment you can weaponize any area of that Spectrum you fall into the more antisocial narcissistic category and what I mean by that is I might be not you know posting too much but the moment I weaponize it the moment I am annoyed with my partner and I want a new partner or the moment I want

to kind of get some uh extrinsic kind of Thrills Cheap Thrills and I then use Instagram as almost a device to fill that void or fill that empty low self-esteem then I'm starting to fall in the Spectrum it's it's not really what you post it's the intention behind it and if there's an element of I'm using this device to fill a hole or to add self-esteem I'm essentially relying on it's like eating junk food to feel for nutrients it won't do it yeah all it will do is create you a feedback loop a loop of

Desiring more likes and comments and creating more fake self-esteem when really what women used to do is have to work on their nurturing side in order to be valuable they had to work on their skills to be valuable we had grandmothers who would be able to se address for us I'm not saying I can do that I'm still very usess on that sense but you know they would be able to cookie something from scratch and they'd be able to sew something or they'd be so so useful now we're making ourselves less useful um and just

essentially just an object of desire and therefore we we have temporary value because we all know that looks fade and so essentially we're making women almost replaceable because if you're just a pretty facing adding no other value men are going to replace us with AI whereas if you add some intrinsic value you're irreplaceable as a woman my grandma my mother your mother I'm sure your grandma Irreplaceable women but unfortunately if I'm just a pretty face I'm so replaceable by robots essentially you'll be replaced by robots and at least robots actually listen and are nice to

you yeah so as a female it's become so easy to post that picture on Instagram show a little more booty get a lot more likes get some feedback whether your intentions are good b or whatever but you're going to get the attention you're going to get the DMS you're going to get a release and dop in at the same time it's men that are promoting that they're modifying the behavior right we're modifying the behavior and then when we want and then the women do that because it's a temporary fix uh when when in fact if

they had discipline and um you know what do it say delay gratification they might work on their character which is harder to do but in the long run it then makes them more valuable absolutely the flip side is men when we get frustrated with a situation then then we go to the porn and the porn is there for us it gives us I guess everything we want I guess and then we don't have to invest in our eles to become the kind of man that doesn't need porn to find the women of our desires am

I explaining this correctly yes you are like um essentially what pornography well the thing is as much as I'm talking about women they don't get here alone women in certain cultures will not post a bikini picture because the men in that culture will not reward that behavior they won't reinforce it they might reinforce the opposite where they will nowh go nowhere near you but we're living in a world now where men are reinforcing that they're reinforc the kind of only fans girls she's getting the most followers and she's getting the most likes so what's happening

is we're modifying be the women's Behavior the men are modifying it by rewarding the wrong behavior and punishing the right Behavior so the women are actually quite discrete and working on their character don't get as many brand deals and they don't get as much Accolade on social media and they don't get a platform whereas the women that are exposing themselves and selling themselves they get the most reward and praise in this day and age so it's not just the women's fault we have to think about who's rewarding them and then it's almost like a form

of conditioning a form of operant conditioning we're kind of creating the woman that they actually don't want to be with they're molding and rewarding and punishing all the traits and until they create a woman that they actually are incompatible with and then have to replace her with porn because they don't like the woman they created or the woman they selected so it's it's dark times unfortunately so as men we're creating the kind of women that we ultimately don't want exactly women are creating the type of men that they ultimately don't want yeah well they're becoming

a person they don't actually want to be and men are creating women that they don't actually want to be with they're liking and commenting and trying to be with that really sexy narcissistic kind of woman and then when they're with her they're really disappointed but there was plenty of nice kind women that you ignored to focus on those women so we're almost modifying femininity into a uh into a person we actually can't connect with now it's one thing to like someone's post on Instagram that's that type of woman but like there's that old song that

the type you don't bring home to Mama so like but you but if but still but in the real world men can recognize a woman who is grounded and has great values and is someone they want to be with long term so won't that always win out I think in the real world that applies for men of a different generation they can definitely distinguish between women that you enjoy your time with and women you invest your time with they can definitely distinguish that the younger generation cannot and the reason being is they are so over

sexualized they are so exposed to sexual women whether it's the pornography Instagram Tik Tok whatever it is so they just think this is how women are they don't know the opposite they don't know the uh more chased woman or the one that is slightly has more discretion when it comes to exposing your they only know the ones that are willing and prepared to do it so this is what they think women come as so I think the generation has changed so much that the younger generation don't have any discernment at all and so and it's

not again it's not just the women's fault the women are also being left with men who are you know almost addicted to pornography and as a result are over sexualized as well and therefore like she feels like she has to keep up with this kind of desires he's created in his head so we've got this Young Generation that are so disconnected um but they're so sexualized so it leads to short-term meeting strategies okay and now if you're a woman and you're hearing this and they're agreen what can they do to not become this woman it's

very difficult if I'm honest I don't know what I would be doing if I was 17 years old so I have to put it out there it is incredibly difficult to be a young woman in this day and age because if you try and withhold yourself there'll be a bunch of guys putting pressure on you on a daily basis saying send a picture this girl does it that girl does it and if you go on your F you page all your peers are doing that so it's incredibly difficult the only thing thing I would say

is the only thing that can separate you from this situation is having a set of intrinsic values and morals that will surpass your external exper appearance and what I mean by that is working on something that is unique to you if we work on just your looks everybody has good looks in this day and age everybody can put a bit of makeup on add a filter and look great but if you work on something that is unique to your soul doesn't mean you have to be super intelligent you could just be super gifted at something

or you could be super caring or you can be super nurturing or kind whatever it is if you work on something that is more intrinsic you're more likely to be Irreplaceable and you're also more likely to derive self-esteem from that overall character rather than just one very vacuous trait which is again very difficult to do when you're 17 16 years old right and you said that looks are the only asset we have that depreciates yeah right all right so we did a nice job beating up on the girls now let's talk about the guys um

I know you've sat down with Andrew Tate and I know you've talked to him and you've talked about men um and so let's flip the side what is going on with men what is wrong with men also I also see maybe in America cuz they're always first a way of them trying to take the masculinity out of men and for me it sometimes feels like that these women are trying to create men that they ultimately won't desire maybe the same way that like you say social media creating women that we ultimately don't desire um but

what what do you make of the Andrew tape phenomenon what do you make of Andrew and what do you make of the men that follow him and then what are some of the learnings from men these days um I think he's evolved quite a lot from when he first came out to his current state and it's not I mean I don't disagree with everything he says or anything like that I think his fundamental message is almost to kind of reclaim masculinity and I understand that message um the only thing that I disagree with is how

he packages it is through more um of kind of Cheap Thrills again like with young women and beautiful women on a yacht like if you want to be a masculine man that's what you need and if you want to be a masculine man you need a nice sports car and so that's the only thing I think his fundamental values are correct but how he advertises it to men and how he learns men into that is through those cheap values that I'm actually hoping men will diminish having a bunch of girls on a yacht won't actually

fill that void and won't create that longlasting that masculinity that you're craving investing into one woman and actually being responsible for her and responsible for her wellbeing and your children's wellbeing is more likely to create masculinity than hiring a boat with a bunch of Swedish models and so that part I disagree with and similarly um having lots of fancy cars again it's an a junk value yes it's nice but it doesn't actually bring you purpose in life and it's also something that once you achieve it it doesn't actually add anything to a man whereas problem

solving and responsibility and self-control these are traits that are continuous there's there's only certain amount of fast cars you can drive but there's endless amount of self-control responsibility and problem solving that would lead to masculinity so I think sometimes he advertises it wrong but I think his fundamental messages are ones that I agree with there's a lot about you know setting boundaries there's a lot about taking personal accountability there's a lot about spirituality that I do agree with so uh I would say I agree on 70% there's certain things I disagree with but majority on

the whole I agree what what do you think of Andrew also I've heard you quote him and say I like Andrew tape but I don't like his followers and I've heard you say that look Andrew has paid paid the cost to be the boss and so he's done the work you know physically mentally whatever he has done so he can act that way but the followers just hear what he says and they just parrot it back but they actually haven't done the work he might agree because he's always saying look you know there is no

depression get up do the work become a man take responsibility do things that are hard that's how you build your character but you see a lot of the tap fans out there and they just act as if yeah and that's I think that's the main problem with men in general the shortcuts the men in this generation the real problem is is they're looking for shortcuts um they want shortcuts to sexual gratification they used porn they want shortcuts to kind of women they'll you know they might just use a lot of money to lure them in

they want money so they might quickly invest in something or quickly and they don't want to do delay the gratification they don't want to have a career they don't want to educate they just want to go straight into making money might even turn to dealing drugs everything is shortcuts now the problem with shortcuts is it doesn't teach you problem solving now if I make money very quickly very instantly overnight through crypto or if I do it through a quick online business whatever it is fantastic great but I haven't learned problem solving I haven't learned what

could I do if everything goes wrong what is it like to lose everything and build it back what is it what tenacity do I require now in order to be a masculine man you have to be a problem solver now the problem with this generation of men they don't want to put in the work to become a problem solver and they don't want to take on responsibility but they want all of the joy of the outcomes of money and women and cars and so I think that's what they're losing is their inability to delay gratification

and learn the skills required for Success instead they just want the success and that's what I think um his followers are like like they want to say they Andrew Tate they want to say they believe in everything that he believes in but they've done none of the ground workor to that warrants that opinion in themselves I'm I'm curious what what would you think of somebody like Andrew's message so you know when Andrew came up uh maybe a year ago started seeing a lot of his stuff pop up and you know I've had a lot of

controversial guests on my show and so and a lot of male energy on my show you could argue my show is just my search for male role model you really want to analyze me which maybe you have and so I've had people like Dan P on the show which is kind of a he's a 75-year-old version of Andrew um and he comes on and he does doesn't pull any punches he's like your grandfather he just tells it like it is he tells you you're weak he tells you to step up and he tells you to

keep going and he's very controversial but when I go bump into people on the streets they all ask me about him because the men men the women deep down inside know that he's the only one that's telling them the truth yeah and the truth I believe Sadia is the rarest commodity these days because no one will tell you the truth because they all have an agenda somewhere and so they'll lie to you to get you to do whatever they want to do and so someone gives it to you straight you know it deep down inside

and so they they flock to someone like paena where on the outside anybody politically correct is um you know they're shocked by what he says but deep down he has a massive following so when I saw Andrew come up I thought he's fulfilling a need that men want and men need someone to guide them men need someone to tell them the truth and tell them to step up and there's a dir of that out there where they're trying to feminize men and the toxic mascul masculinity so for me the rise of Andrew was a sign

that this need wasn't being met and that we were creating a type of male that was really lacking this in their life you might argue that the election of trump was another signal that people were sick and tired of this narrative that was being promoted maybe by the coasts of America and that deep down inside your traditional person and you come from Traditional Values was saying no we're not having all this nonsense that we read about in The New York Times we actually value what traditionally is core value and traditional beliefs and we want that

back so I saw Andrew as that rise now look anybody who cuts through media to become the most Google man on the planet as he says which I think he's right um has to use other techniques and to use that it's the fast cars and it's the lifestyle and it's the edgy content that pushes the envelope sorry to interrupt you which from knowing Andrew I know that's not actually what he's like but it works well on so so and so I've watched a lot of content on Andrew I'm I'm a fan and he's great and

a great speaker as well yeah he's a great communicator and again i' I've had so many guests over the years I I can realize that the message isn't enough you need the messenger right and he's a great communicator communicator and it's congruent with him on many levels yes and so that's important so um but but you need the flash you need the sizzle to get the people to put the stake in and so um I agree people are like oh he's not like that but he can actually turn up the dial on he go he

can turn it up to 11 on Andrew he can become that guy really quickly and he can say well they took it out of context but like that's his alter ego he can turn it up and that gets attention and we're in an attention economy and so that is part him and that's why everybody saw him initially as you as you consume more of Andrew you start to realize that there are some really I think positive male values and important ones and important ones and one thing I have to say that what he highlighted um

is the importance of fearlessness and we we as human beings need Fearless men the reason being it's an evolved trait like like when we used to live in Hunter gather times if the if everybody was so fearful we would never go out and hunt and get food we needed Fearless men that would say I don't care that it's dark let me quickly I think I heard something let me go hunt it now women what's happening is we're creating fear for men because they're terrified to even you know approach a woman in the gym in case

she films it and puts it on Tik Tok or we're terrified to even compliment a woman in case she kind of gets you arrested so what's happening is we're creating fearful men but the reality is when a woman is with a man who's fearful of of her she feels like she has a power over him and when she feels like she has more power than him she doesn't feel safe so we actually need a Fearless man and when we say Fearless it doesn't just mean he says what he wants he has a willingness to walk

away he actually lets go of a woman if she's being um too difficult but the problem is we've created a society of men who tiptoe around women and as a result she no longer feels safe and when women don't feel safe they end up either hopping they lose their identity they don't they they're becoming masculine they're becoming feminine they don't know what they do so they get a bit lost in the process so I think what he's highlighted is that people are attracted to fearlessness and it's something that we need to bring back and it's

what's so funny is like you were saying with your guest Dan um probably what he said a 100 years ago wouldn't be seen as Fearless but now we've made what's normal and what's just an opinion we're we're terrified to say it because again the modification is if you say something that offend the softest people in society you might get cancelled and so we're catering to the weakest m of society and tiptoeing around them and as a result we're silencing everybody and and their opinions sadly which is why your platform is so fantastic because you actually

give voices to people who have that kind of La Fair attitude towards social media and towards you know what the politically correct thing to say is and people really want to hear this stuff that's the crazy thing and you must really want it because you invite those kind of yeah I also like to be challenged a little bit and I like to try to entertain ideas that I don't agree with cuz it's a try it's healthy and was there anything in Andrew that you disagreed with on the whole did you understand his message you know

look Andrew put himself out there and he wanted to I guess get a huge following worldwide and so to do that he did a lot of media and in doing so he talked about the various things that he did from a business perspective and I think over the years he probably did things that he maybe wish he hadn't now when you got to make money as a man then like I you know I respect a man's Hustle but in doing so I think he back himself into situations and made some enemies that maybe he's paying

for now now I don't I I I don't I think he's being unfairly prosecuted for those things but because I think he was so open about those things they had a lot of ammunition for him that's true um and look sometimes he just takes it up to 11 and so you could say okay some of those things are slightly offensive but to the core and you know he can be a little bit of a chameleon to like all great communicators you know Gandhi did that and Obama did that so in that sense he's great I

think he's a net net Max positive and um if you really spend time listening to the long form message there's great things there and the character is great just to see the way he handled himself when he was incarcerated and the way he hand a lot of dignity a lot of dignity and the way he's constantly you know uh praising the Romanian officials and it's nice to see someone taking the higher route there um and there's a but there's a lot of forces against him here and you know you know did he have to call

out Greta on the Twitter feed I mean that's the side of Andrew that makes him so famous yeah it's it's whether he did that tweet or not I don't know but it's where the ego just gets a little out of control and that's that's that's that's the line we all walk as human beings but if he didn't do that sometimes we wouldn't know who he is and and I think that when somebody's made a concerted effort to change something that they did many years ago that they didn't like if they're making an effort to you

know say that okay maybe I still don't agree with that kind of industry anymore and I wouldn't have done it in this day and age I don't think we should kind of punish people on their worst sins especially if they've made an effort to change it but it is a great ammunition for the people that want to hold hold it against him so unfortunately it just comes with the price when you live a very colorful life people can pick on Lots yeah and now he's got a high profile and you know we live in it

and in I I realized in 2020 with our episodes with Ike and all the censoring that we got I mean this literally is an information War we're talking about how the way that we digitally communicate with each other and the way we digitally reward men and women we'll get into men shortly but um you know it's an information War so people are like ah they can't be trying to cancel Andrew because of what he says but right now it really is about promoting an ideology and putting ideas in people's minds in any way shape or

form and that those are the front lines War doesn't happen anymore on the battlefield doesn't happen with nuclear missiles it happens right in your bedroom with your kid's iPad and so this is real and it's going to Define our future um our digital media will and so I can see why he's right at the cut of it and that's why everybody goes to visit Andrew in Romania I mean how do you get Candace Owens and Tucker Carlson and Patrick McDavid to go to Bucharest they couldn't even spell buches but they do it because they understand

that Andrew is at the front line of this war you would be a great interviewer you should definitely definitely re I'd like to sit down yeah you'd be great at that so so yeah I think it's a net positive and it's a fascinating character study for me but again it shows me for me he's a symptom of a bigger problem which is men and maybe women looking for the essence of what it is to be a man and everybody needs that and I agree with you um let's talk about what's going on with men because

maybe some of these men are following Andrew but if narcissism is the result of what we're doing to to women with our digital media and online what's happening to our men weakness weakness they are so afraid and of responsibility they are so terrified of making of self-control and they have no desire to solve problems so the and it creates a very very weak man and what I mean by this is there are men that will essentially use their 20s as an extended adolescence back in the day what men would do is use their 20s as

a training ground for their future so they would get their education all go to Wars they would create a home they would have their children and that would be their focus for the rest of their life now I have to feed my family I've created the groundwork and now I know where I'm going for the next 30 Years I'm going to make sure my kids go to school my wife is fed and this that and the other and that the 20s would be that period what we've done is taken the 20s of of men and

replace responsibility with Hedonism so men are now told that 25 is way too young to have kids and even part of me when I see a man that's 25 and married I'm like how did that like what went wrong and it's because what we've done is we've created 20s as an extended adolescence we've accepted that a 25-year old man will have no different of Lifestyle than a 19-year-old man because essentially he'll still be going out on the weekend he'll still be having short-term mating strategies with sleeping with girls without even taking them on dates or

without even considering marriage and kids and we've convinced them that marriage is terrible we've convinced men that you you know just go on a bunch of holidays just go and spend money get in debt if you have to move out from your parents as long as you've got your own place and even if you strug struggling to pay rent that's better just waste your money waste your efforts just waste waste waste nothing is about investing into their future unless it's money they don't think about how do I take care of people now men back in

the day their primary focus was how do I provide and protect the people around me particularly women around me the man the average man the young man is not even thinking about providing and protecting he's just thinking about enjoying and you know avoiding responsibility and I think the avoidance of responsibility limits a man's ability to become masculine you will never be masculine until you have to provide for people you'll never be masculine until you have to protect people and what we've done is created a man who's afraid of those things so unfortunately I think we're

the main problem with men is weakness and they allow women to walk all over them they allow that a lot more than they would previously I get that the culture is very terrified of women but they they tiptoe around it they're scared to say an OP they're they're so fearful and weak that women are no longer attracted to them and they are because they're not getting that attraction from women they stick to pornography or escorts or using prostitution because they essentially recognize that they're not a man that women would be attracted to wow all right

and the women like having that temporary power so sometimes they're just like I like this and because everybody wants more power so again short-term focused it feels good to have some power over a man but in the long term you're breeding someone that that you that is not going to protect your village is not going to protect you is not going to be the father of the children you want yeah it's it's slow different to how we all like junk food in the short term it tastes great that afterwards you feel and you know your

body will pay the price similarly when you take a weak man for the first for the first moments you feel like you're on a power trip and you feel loved actually that he caves into you and you feel as a woman that he must really love me because he just listens to everything I say and he concedes to everything so you start to have an inflated ego and you think this is great this feels like love he really loves me because he gives into everything over time you're pushing more and more because you're looking you're

looking for the boundary we all are as human beings we look for our boundaries so she ends up pushing him more and more to the point where she starts to hate him because she doesn't feel safe around him and she can't see the stop sign and we need stop signs as human beings we need it at work we need it in the law we need it in our relationships so what happens is that kind of ego boost turns into content she starts to have resentment and contempt towards this man for being unable to make her

feel safe and protected so unfortunately that weak man that initially your thinking is great because he agrees with all your ideologies is later going to be the bone of contention and you're actually going to go out and seek a man who's more toxic and more difficult and actually more pun who's punishing you because you've been craving boundaries we all crave them unfortunately it's fascinating we all search for boundaries and isn't it fascinating as a woman myself but we say and what we want are not in line unfortunately we say we want them to accept our

influence but in the long run we need to just trust their judgment so we actually just want a man who trusts his own judgment and we can let him lead us and we know that he's not going to lead us off a cliff whereas when he's too soft and too weak we don't he's like an extra child for us right and we have to raise him and we don't and the men the same way because we thought in the short term we want the super exciting you know carnal woman that's out there but in the

long run then we know that's just a nightmare and that she probably comes from something challenging and traumatizing we'll get to but we don't really want that in the long run in the short run it's great though for men they love that Vixen kind of woman that keeps him on his tones because it's a challenge and it's a way of like if I can get her to submit I've really achieved something I've conquered something and it makes it's great for the male ego compared to a woman who's naturally very easy to conqu to conquer but

in the long run it's Soul destroying because you can't actually get her to you might fall in love with that woman that you actually can't secure and it actually is very Soul destroying for their ego so we're very complex as human beings we love it's like we're masochists we love causing ourselves trauma isn't it terrible it's terrible I want to get into the relationships but let's cover porn while we're here so porn um and the accessibility of porn these days and I guess in a whole variety of that is is through the roof I mean

my boys are six and seven and I'm trying to convince myself that they're going to see this sooner than later if not already I I hope not God forbid but um tell me about how that affects that male if they're already weak or being promoted to be weak then how does this play out for men because it's different than women yeah uh the average age of porn consumption is around 10 to continue watching the rest of the episode for free visit our website londonreal.tv or click the link in the description below [Music] [Music] so Jim

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