and as much as I knew, we know that it's not a death sentence because cancer isn't today, but if you have cancer you feel the proximity of [Music] finitude I went to do breast self-knowledge, it's the famous self-examination, self-examination, I really like it I would like to emphasize that self-knowledge is different, self-examination, we, myself, like to change, we need to change this name, many women fail to do self-examinations and see nothing to say Oh, you don't need to go to the doctor, but it's not an exam, it's this self-knowledge. that we need to do our whole lives exactly So even children, I tell people, I have two daughters, I think it's very cute what they do even without having a breast, you know, no breast, they come and not only the breast has a whole body, that's a self-care for us to notice , right? What's on your body ?
the first day of a trip that I would stay, I didn't stay with my family for 10 days and it was a Friday, I touched it, I touched it, I felt it, most of the palpable nodules are benign, most of them exactly, but at that moment, maybe because I work with ISS, I said Um, I looked at my husband and said, I think I have breast cancer, Mari What do you mean, calm down, right, you had taken preventative care, everything was fine, everything was fine. He looked at him and said, wait a minute, calm down, right, Mari, I already called my gynecologist, she Said Mari, wait for these 10 days but they were 10 very tense days because our heads not only before but also during and after treatment I say that the worst the worst is a more challenging one for our heads, that's certainly what we, right, friends can being inside our thoughts exactly and what actually happened was that when I came back I was diagnosed with an incite tumor, it was a very small tumor but my world fell apart, right? I always say this analogy, it was less than 1 cm, it was, and even the doctor said Mar I don't know how you managed to detect experience, right experience and another important issue is this self-knowledge every month Uhum So I knew when I said this here is not part of my breast so this is fundamental month You already know your body exactly and We don't do that, you know, this self-knowledge to find something, there are people who say like that, oh, but you keep looking, no, it's not looking, it's really Look, if you find something, go to the doctor, that practice, right, how do we wake up, drain teeth, wash our hair?
Apply the soap exactly once a month, I need to see that everything is ok, exactly you look at yourself and it really was, I was diagnosed with cancer at the time, I didn't need it, it was 2020, I had chemotherapy and no radiotherapy, he was in question, right little one, you just had radiotherapy. I had radiotherapy or chemotherapy so it was, eh, I had several exams and the prognosis was excellent and I told our life that S is the best, the smallest, the best type possible, size, everything, right, everything, right, young, I discovered, eh, I was lucky enough to find out, right, very recently without the mammogram, right, so I had it and but it's important to say that people, when I say without the mammogram, but the most important thing is the image exams, as women under 40, we really need to be careful and I, uh, I say that I do an analogy in the J ros community and for my onc frends who I affectionately call, it's as if we entered a dark room So imagine you now, right, you are well You are healthy, right, you are feeling super well, you enter a completely intimate dark room mined and it depends a lot on where you step because each person has a journey and this dark room is desperate, I can't even explain what it is so I even comment that I feel like Mari died that day on a Thursday It was the day that the doctor coldly, which is another issue that I really like to emphasize, said very coldly that the probability of it being cancer was very high and as much as I knew, we know that it is not a death sentence because cancer Today it's not, but if you have cancer you feel the proximity of finitude, I felt it at least, it crosses your mind as a possibility very real, very real, right? I looked at myself in the mirror and said, Wow, I have cancer.
It's heavy. It's strong . And it was a Thursday in Santos.
Then I left the office. It seemed like the world continued and my life stopped. It's a feeling.
that I am no one or everyone would have to have just so we can think about having another perspective but I stopped at the beach, you know, I live close to the beach, I stayed in the car looking at that sunny day alone, I have this habit of doing everything alone, I even I prefer it, it's very good and to this day I prefer it, people talk like that, but alone you go to the oncologist, you do therapy here, my husband left me and I said, oh, go to work, leave it. It's like your quiet time for reflection, you with you, right? I learned to enjoy Solitude uhum because I didn't like it I say it's a learning experience So people say Oh I don't like it they said look after you learn Um it stays you become antisocial and then I was alone and it was a very difficult moment because the girls mine I call them dolls, they were with my parents and they went out for a walk, they knew I was going to take the exam but they never imagined it and I kept thinking how I was going to tell my parents to my daughters, I knew it was going to be, right?
Very difficult It was an extension, it's difficult but she was still small and they always listened to you, but in a different way, you know, because professionals, they didn't even know what their parents were, so I was thinking how am I going to talk, how am I going to talk, people? there is no way to prepare yourself so I arrived my mother and father arrived and I just cried Uhum So when I tell people that there is a process and there is no right and wrong because there are people who end up doing well for you but it is a process and it is painful and needs to be respected and I just cried and my mother and father just hugged me uhum and my daughters that one, right, looking at me, looking at me, what's happening and I told them, I said, girls, I said, I always speak a lot of truth in a delicate way. but they really life is not easy they have to know since they were little by their mother by their father that there is a huge challenge I told them I said look mommy has a ball mommy is scared mommy is scared I 'm going go through a process and I'm going I just said this I need you I need affection because they said what can I do oh I need affection Just affection kisses stay with mom if mom cries you Hug mom kiss her Mom, that was our deal, I called my husband and he said, Mari, I'm with you, calm down, let's go along on this journey.
So up until then, it was a very complicated process and after my surgery, I had a mastectomy on this first bilateral one, I removed everything and underwent hormone therapy. Examination of the of the of the of the I had a test that was also negative in You don't have the gene I don't know, yes because there is this issue too, right, what can I have? Exactly, yes, the probability of being unknown something is great because I don't have these environmental factors, exactly, there isn't right Have you ever stopped to think about how many times you've put yourself in the background?
I've been there too and today I want to invite you to change this story just as I changed mine for a while, for me it's my new book but it goes much further A good read, it is a guide for you to rediscover the importance of taking time just for yourself, it is now available for pre-order on Amazon, it is your opportunity to embark on a journey of self-care and self-knowledge that can transform your life life I don't want you to put yourself in the background anymore, but what can you expect from this launch?
