in this video I will share with you some psychological secrets that you have never heard of before which will not only make anyone in this world like and admire you but will also make them obsessed with you I will explain to you step by step how to become the center of attention for the people around you what I will explain to you today can be used either to make yourself the most important person in your environment whether at school or work or you can use it to manipulate people making them fulfill your needs and turning
anyone into just a toy in your hands therefore I am not responsible for how you choose to use the knowledge I provided in this video first you need to understand the difference between someone who likes you and someone who is obsessed with you if you have been following the social skills series you already know how to make anyone like you however making someone obsessed with you addicted to you and eagerly waiting for the next opportunity to talk to you requires learning a specific skill called triggering weak points every human being on this planet has four
weak points and in 99% of people at least one of these points is significantly stronger than the others all you need to do is identify that weak point and use it to your advantage the way to discover that weak point is first learning how to detect it during a conversation and second being aware of what these weak points actually are once you combine these two elements you will find yourself knowing exactly how to hit the most sensitive nerve of any person and make them obsessed with you let's start with the first step how to detect
a person's weak points while talking to them human behavior is like a straight line it sometimes Rises and sometimes Falls but every now and then something happens that we call a spike when this Spike occurs know that you have hit a sensitive nerve what do I mean when I say spike and what do I mean by this line in the first place while talking to someone you will notice that when they speak their tone of voice is normal their speech speed is normal their attention is normal and their presence is normal everything is just normal
however sometimes if you make them laugh or bring up a topic that grabs their attention you will notice a slight change in their behavior but in some cases you may see a significant increase in their emotional respon that's when you know a spike has happened or if they say something and then repeat it again meaning they say a phrase or sentence twice this repetition often happens when they don't get the reaction they were hoping for from you when a spike occurs or when you hear them repeating something twice try to observe whether these things are
directly related to them personally if these conditions are met pay close attention because you may have found a gap in their defenses an opening where you can cast your net that Gap represents an internal deficiency they are subconsciously waiting for someone to fill and now it's time to talk about the different types of weak points because once you recognize them you'll be able to pinpoint the void that a person suffers from just by listening to them talk about it almost like having a radar this will make it much easier for you to identify their weaknesses
I will explain each one of these points to you and show you how to exploit them and use them to your advantage the first weak point the first for validation Everyone likes to feel appreciated but some people develop an excessive thirst for validation identifying this trait is very easy you will notice that this person constantly tries to prove they are special and seeks admiration from those around them they might frequently talk about their achievements retell stories of moments where they acted impressively or brag about how they managed to attract a beautiful girl and keep her
interested generally this type of person likes to feel in control of their Social Circle so give them this feeling from time to time let them decide where you eat and where you drink now the bait you can use to make them attach to you is praise but the praise must be given correctly and intelligent ly in a way that affects their subconscious mind don't go directly to them and say your style is nice or you look great that's the wrong way to give praise by the way this type of direct compliment is useless if you
use it you'll just seem like you're sucking up and you should never use it with anyone so let me explain to you how praise should be given to anyone praise should always be indirect you must make the person feel praised not just hear it from you let's take an example go up to them start a conversation and ask them about something specific or seek their advice on a problem you have of course it could be a madeup problem but personally I don't recommend Faking It when they answer and give you a solution look at them
and say wow you're absolutely right I don't know how I didn't think of that before with this response they will feel intellectually Superior and at the same time they will feel like they've helped you and provided you with value in this case you didn't directly compliment them but they felt praised indirectly and unexpectedly another example let's say it's known that this person likes running one day talk to them and ask when you go for a run how many miles do you use usually run they will answer 6 miles now pay close attention I'm about to
give you a golden secret that you should remember for life in this case there are two ways to give praise the wrong way is to say wow 6 miles that's a lot how do you do it that is direct praise but it's ineffective its effect disappears immediately they might feel happy for a second but within 5 minutes they'll completely forget what you said the correct way to praise them is this when they tell you 6 miles stay silent don't say anything and don't react then most likely especially if they have a first for validation they
will ask you why do you ask you then say the other day Henry and I were talking about you and we were debating whether you could run 6 miles without stopping he told me 6 miles is a really big number at that exact moment when you say this it will hit them like lightning first they will feel validated because you acknowledge that six miles is a big number second they will feel appreciated because they heard that you and someone else were talking about them this way you have praised them indirectly and you will make them
think about this conversation all day or maybe even for days and days the last type of Praise is joking about something good in them or something they are proud of for example imagine they are very tall you can joke with them and say how's the weather up there this way you're making a joke but at the same time you're reinforcing something they take pride in which is their height or let's say you were out together and they talk to a beautiful girl and got her number instead of saying directly wow man you got a number
wait for a while then bring up the topic again and start joking about it in a fun way say something something like dude how did you even pull that off and make sure to laugh while saying it try this next time and you'll notice that they will start laughing a lot in short the first weak point people have is the first for validation the bait you can use is praise but it must be indirect praise and by the way people with this weak point are the easiest to manipulate so please don't be one of them
and now we move on to the second weak point the fear of failure if someone has a very big goal such as getting into a highly competitive University securing a difficult job or being accept into a music band meaning they have a goal that could completely change their life 180° this type of person will hear a lot of positive words and encouragement along the way however no matter how confident they are there will always be an internal voice reminding them that failure is possible this voice acts like a hammer slowly digging a hole inside them
and if you manage to fill that hole you will become like a drug they depend on imagine someone taking a web development course dreaming of becoming a developer at a big company succeeding in his field and earning a high salary rest assured that wherever he goes if he tells someone about his dream that person will always say something like wow that's great you can do it just don't give up when you talk to him and he shares this topic with you your goal is to make him Express his fears of failure in achieving his dream
and look without any effort if you are just a good listener and apply what I've taught you in the previous videos he will naturally start talking about his fear of failure and this is where your weapon comes into play most people when they hear someone talking about their problems immediately try to offer Solutions or or start giving advice but this is the wrong approach to exploit this weak point the best way to handle this situation is through emotional reassurance and lifting their Spirits so how do you do that listen to me carefully now reassurance is
the bait that hooks this weak point so how should reassurance be given first you should not give advice and you should not try to solve their problem or tell them what to do advice should only be given when asked for let me explain this part because it is extremely important before we move on to how to provide reassurance when someone talks to you about a problem there are three types of responses and each situation requires a different approach first scenario if they are seeking advice this means they are directly asking for your opinion or requesting
guidance for example they might say I'm too skinny and I want to gain weight do you know any way to do that in this case it's clear that they are asking for a solution so your response should be to help them find one second scenario if they are just venting about a past problem this happens when they tell you about a bad experience a sad story or a problem that has no real solution for example if someone tells you my boss treats me terribly at work here you should simply listen do not offer Solutions do
not act uninterested and do not try to change the subject just listen think about it does he really not know that he should quit his job or that he should confront his boss of course he knows so don't treat people like they're stupid most of the time what you would suggest is something they already know third scenario if they are talking about a problem related to their emotions for example he wants to change his job but he hasn't found an alternative yet and is feeling stressed and uncertain about the future or or any similar case
where the problem is not just logical but emotional since this video is focused on the fear of failure let's stick to that this type of problem the correct way to handle it is through reassurance how do you give proper reassurance the first step is listening let's go back to the web development example this person opens up about his fear of failure and starts telling you how worried he is at first stay silent let him talk then once he finishes you offer hope and this is the key principle of reassurance listen first then provide hope so
how do you give someone hope there are many ways but the best and most effective method is to tell them stories of people who were in the same situation or even worse and still succeeded for example you could say my cousin was in the same position as you and now he's an engineer at Microsoft he was just like you and honestly he wasn't even working as hard as you are right now he might respond but I'm exhausted and there are so many programming languages I need to learn and I just don't understand them well enough
you can then reply I get it my cousin felt the same way he also didn't understand anything at first but little by little he got the hang of it eventually it all made sense to him and real stories versus fake stories it's up to you now these stories can be real people that you actually know or they can be completely made up I don't care that's up to you and your own principles I'm not here to tell you how to use this information that's your decision the third weak point psychological trauma psychological traumas are numerous
and highly varied and I can't cover them all in a single video however I will talk about one of the most common psychological traumas among young men when a man gets rejected by a woman he should not get upset even if he is the most attractive and desirable man in the world on top of that the reasons for rejection might not even be related to the man's attractiveness in the first place the reasons might be about the woman herself but people don't seem to understand this so when a man gets rejected he keeps thinking about
it and this is the perfect opportunity for you to step in because rejection makes a man feel like he is not enough it makes him feel like there is something wrong with his appearance his personality his finan Cal status and so on when you know someone who has been rejected you need to convince him of one of two things either that the problem is with the woman or that he is far better than that woman but as I told you earlier you should not do this directly you don't just go up to him and say
you're better than her or the problem is in her not you you need to make him come to this conclusion himself so how do you do that there are two possibilities either he is single or he is already in a relationship if he is single you can say something like that girl was in a relationship for 6 years her boyfriend and promised to marry her but in the end he married someone else and now she's depressed and taking anti-depressants or you could say even Bob tried talking to her and she rejected him too and of
course Bob should be someone known for being successful with women the key here is to present facts that make it clear that the issue is with her not him now if he is in a relationship then you can say something like the girl you're with now is so much better than the one who rejected you she has a better personality she looks better and so on by doing this you will make him feel like his value is rising and he will realize that his rejection by that girl had nothing to do with him he will
understand that the psychological trauma he is feeling is completely meaningless anyway let's move on to the last weak point the first for sex this is something you cannot exploit as a man but I will explain it to you now so that you understand it and protect yourself from it a woman does not experience this first the way a man does because whenever she wants sex it is available to her whereas you as a man do not have that privilege so if you ever talk to a woman she can use this first against you and manipulate
you as a woman she holds an apple that you would die to have and she can make you chase her and do anything for her but she will never give it to you she will keep you chasing her and the moment she feels that you're about to give up she will let you have just a small taste and then she will pull it away again making you continue chasing her knowing this will protect you from being manipulated by a woman one day now let me explain something very important that you must understand if you want
to be successful in your social relationships this is connected to everything I have told you since the beginning of this video about how to make people obsessed with you when you talk to someone and hit their weak points it's like you are giving them a drug but like any drug its effect wears off their brain returns to its normal State and they start craving more of that drug and their brain Associates that drug with you so without realizing it and without being aware of it they will start wanting to talk to you again and wanting
to meet you again they become addicted to you without even understanding why this is happening and with that we have finished this video if you want me to continue this social skills series please let me know in the comments and this was the dark needle and I'll see you in the next [Music] video K dress
