for the past 15 years I've been helping clients from around the world get a second chance with their ex and there's one thing that most of my clients have in common and that is a tendency to overanalyze their ex's actions and behaviors and frankly it drives me nuts so this video is just a short warning about the dangers of overanalyzing when you're trying to get a second chance with your [Music] ex so what do I mean by overanalyzing well most people will try to you know read between the lines and find the deeper meaning behind
anything their ex has said or done if you're actively trying to win back your ex then frankly you're probably guilty of this after all you know when you're feeling desperate or hopeless and you can't think about anything other than your ex it's only natural to try to analyze every minor detail of their behavior I mean it's all you can think about right but unfortunately this type of obsessive overanalyzing is almost always a waste of your time and energy sure occasionally there there actually is a a hidden meaning to your ex's actions or words but most
of the time it's all in your head for example one of my clients recently emailed me to ask whether his ex's recent Facebook status update in which she said that she was loving being on vacation was secretly intended to make him jealous now to this particular client you know this Facebook status update that his ex posted probably was painful to read you know she was loving being on vacation without him but to those of us who are not emotionally invested in the situation it seems a bit crazy to assume that this seemingly innate status update
could possibly be intended to make her ex jealous and although I I can't say this for certain it's extremely likely that she was literally just telling the world that her vacation was going well not only is this type of overanalyzing a waste of energy it can also be downrated dangerous for example you know what if this client had reacted to his ex's you know status update by sending her an angry message you know that would just make him seem desperate and and Petty make his ex upset and generally make the situation worse so unless you're
absolutely certain that your ex's actions or words are directed at you and intended to send a message don't try to analyze things any further because you'll probably do more harm than good yes it is true sometimes s your ex's actions or words really do carry some sort of hidden message or signal that you need to decode but that's very rare most of the time your ex's Behavior carries no deeper meaning or hidden sign that you need to interpret and doing so will have zero positive impact on your attempts to win them back so instead of
worrying about what your ex is doing which at this point is almost certainly beyond your control focus on yourself and the things that you can actually control trust me in the long run ignoring your ex and focusing on yourself will actually be far more helpful and far less painful try to keep the bigger picture in mind and keep yourself from overanalyzing as much as you can in fact you know there is something that you can do that will be a far better use of your time and that is to make your ex feel the consequences
of breaking up with you I've recently made a video on this exact topic and a lot of people have found it really helpful so click the popup in the corner here and go and watch that now that's it for this one folks um thank you for watching thank you for focusing on yourself instead of overanalyzing every little thing your ex is doing or saying and see you next time [Music]
