have you ever caught yourself saying I can't or it's not possible only to see someone else has succeeded where you've hesitated that was me just over 3 years ago I spent most of my time watching other people achieve all of their dreams and goals whilst I felt like I was stuck in the same place and I convinced myself that this is just the way it is but I watched other people achieve all the things that they wanted to do fast forward to today I've quadrupled my income doing something that I love I work with three
team members who I love hanging out with and I have the freedom to work from anywhere and I hope wholeheartedly believe that all of this started with a few simple changes that I made to my Daily Language and so in this video I wanted to share with you four of the most common phrases that used to hold me back and what I say now instead the first phrase to stop saying is there's a lot of competition for a very long time I had this belief that not everyone can make it the system the society everything
is set up in a way where only a handful of people can and will succeed there's only one ESS will hire for every job post there's only a handful of promotions there are only so many potential customers and with all of these things you need to compete with someone else to be able to get it and as a result this idea of there's not enough made me play it safe for far longer than I needed to because if there isn't enough resources to go around for the things that I want which is also what most
other people want then there is no way that there is more chance of reaching my goals at the next level and there's this section in the 4-Hour Work week which explains what I'm trying to say same and he says that 99% of people in the world are convinced they are incapable of achieving great things so they aim for mediocre the level of competition is thus fiercest for realistic goals making them more time and energy consuming you realize that the goal isn't to beat the competition is to create a monopoly or a niche where competition becomes
irrelevant where you can achieve success without the constant battle for market share when I stopped thinking of the world as deficient I stopped asking myself how do I beat the competition and started asking myself how do I escape the competition that's when my goal completely shifted and I started focusing on Avenues where the landscape was less crowded which for me meant pivoting onto the online space where very few accountants or investment bankers were I've learned that whenever you are in a situation where you're thinking about someone else getting to what you want before you or
having to compete with someone else and then taking what should be yours really evaluate what race you are part of and how you can change your approach all the way you do it so that you're running your own race number two more is better there's this quote from the book The Almanac which is desire is a contract you make with yourself to be unhappy until you get what you want if you watch some of my earlier videos you will see that I struggle with this one I had this drive for more and more all the
time how did I make six figures by 25 how become a millionaire by 32 I do believe on one hand that you can't attract a lot of wealth into your life without having a clear goal or a desire to do so but equally I've come to realize that equating more with better is a flawed mindset and as long as you always feel this way you will never find the time to be fully content and for me I found that every time I reach a milestone and look back I realize that the buildup to that Milestone
was in fact the most fun and that there was no need to rush it and we all do it we focus on the next house the next car we put ourselves on this hamster whe and as soon as we get going it's then very hard to stop it's addictive and no matter how many people you pass up how much more you have you just can't win you will never arrive so something that I'm consciously doing now is putting more emphasis on the personal growth side of my goals even if it means getting to my Revenue
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or get anywhere in life would look at a new opportunity and say here are all the ways that I can make this happen whereas everyone else would say here are all the reasons why this can't happen for me as soon as you take no for an answer you take yourself out of the equation and there's this situation that I always think of before 1954 running a mile in less than 4 minutes was considered imp possible doctors scientists they speculated that the human body was simply not capable of sustaining the pace required to break that 4-minute
barrier and naturally therefore the mindset of Runners to break that 4-minute bark was I can't and then Roger banister who was a runner and also a neurologist approached the challenge with a different mindset he combined his training with scientific methods and changed his mindset from I can't to I can and crucially to I will and in 1954 he complet completed that Mile in 3 minutes and 59 seconds just a few years later after this breakthrough so many other Runners also started breaking that 4 minute Mark which just shows that this barrier was a psychological one
adding just the word yet makes you approach any opportunity with a completely different mindset it gives you the courage to go for things and rethink the limitations that you put on yourself take inventory for what is in your control because there is a lot and number four is one or the other chery sanberg wrote in her book clean in when we're stuck making decisions based on the way people have always perceived things we limit where we can go society's expectations often present us with these false binaries where told we must choose between for instance being
a good mother or pursuing a successful career or being successful and being kind it's just restricting us to believe that it's one or the other you can't have both and I always go through these is one or the other situations at different points in my life and I'm going through it again and I understood this concept of bicycle face which really helped me understand that a lot of these things are just society's ways of telling us how we should be and act not how it needs to be and what it is it's in the late
19th century there was a meth called bicycle face and this was a scare tactic to try and discourage women from cycling the myth suggested that the effort of cycling and the Independence that I gave women could harm their health and their looks in the same way Society often places these binary labels to place pressure on people to be a certain way just as bicycle face was a fear to stop women from breaking traditional Norms the idea that women can't excel in both their career and motherhood perpetuates these outdated beliefs but in reality there is nothing
that says we can't lean into the personality of having both just as women pushed back against the stigma of bicycle face to control the decisions that they're making again we can also break free from any other limiting belief that we must choose one path over the other when there is something that is holding mean back from pursuing something or making a decision I question where that belief has come from nine times out of 10 is what people perceive and in that case it reminds me that I don't need to limit what I can do just
because of what someone somewhere else thinks so these are some of the things that have really worked for me and how I'm reshaping my mindset even today to continue achieving the things I want to do going forward if you like this video and you're more into the mindset side of Finance then you'll also enjoy this video that I have right here on six habits that may me six figures by 25 and also this video on millionaire habits that changed my life see you there
