Stop Lying To Yourself

lying to yourself has a deep far-reaching impact on every aspect of your life it's not just about the little white lies you tell yourself to get through the day we're talking about a fundamental disconnect between every step towards self-honesty is a step towards a more authentic fulfilling life it's not about being perfect it's about being real have a conversation with your future self close your eyes and imagine yourself 5 10 20 years from now and what would that version of you say to the current you what advice would they give welcome to the reality Revolution

I'm your host Brian Scott and today we're going to talk about lying to yourself I just have one goal with this episode to convince you to stop lying to yourself This is an epidemic somebody will say something to me and then I will see them doing the absolute opposite picture this a man standing in front of his bathroom mirror patting his noticeably protruding belly he smiles and thinks to himself I'm in pretty good shape for my age later that day he's out of breath climbing a single flight of stairs and decides to take the elevator

instead and that night he orders takeout for the third time this week assuring himself it's just because he's been too busy to cook this man is just making excuses he's lying to himself and he is not alone we're going to explore how the lies you tell yourself shape your reality often in ways you don't even realize you see what you are and who you are is infinitely more important than what you claim to be yet all around us people are walking around like Jackal and Hyde presenting one version of themselves to the world while hiding

another this isn't just about calling out our lies it's about understanding why we do it how it impacts us and most importantly how we can break free from this self-imposed prison of deception do you remember the first time that you lied or do you remember the first time you understood what a lie was we begin to lie at a very young age and over time we are constantly battling with oursel and others in the world about the truth what is the truth to ourselves and others and if we believe in a truth it can create

universes but it has become a new custom to lie we see it all the time [Music] in politics in the mainstream media it's become a device people will lie all the time we live in a world of Lies how can we understand the truth if we are lying to ourselves lying to yourself has a deep far-reaching impact on every aspect of your life it's not just about the little white lies you tell yourself to get through the day we're talking about a fundamental disconnect between who you truly are and who you pretend to be a

disconnect that can derail our personal growth relationships and even our ability to shape our own reality now this may contradict Neville Godard or Joseph Murphy tell us to believe in a reality even though it's not true so essentially you have to sort of lie to yourself for a given period of time until it is real why is it okay for us to say we can do that and then on the other hand say it's not okay to lie if that's the case we should lie all the time but if we are telling ourselves what to

believe if we are affirming thoughts in our mind then we have to trust ourselves and if we can't trust ourselves we can't trust anyone awareness is the first step to change at its core self-deception is the act of lying to yourself believing something that isn't true despite evidence to the contrary it's a psychological defense mechanism that allows you to avoid uncomfortable truths about yourself or your situation self-deception isn't always as obvious as your friend in the mirror that we met earlier it can be subtle Insidious and often we are not even aware we're doing it

it's like wearing a pair of tinted glasses everything you see is colored by your own biases and beliefs whether they're accurate or not let's take a look at some common examples to really understand what we're talking about first we have the procrastinator's Paradox imagine this college student with a big PDW in 2 weeks she tells herself I work better under pressure and puts off starting the assignment as the deadline looms she becomes increasingly stressed but still doesn't start repeating the Mantra that she'll produce better work at the last minute in reality she's afraid of not

meeting her own high standards and uses procrastination as a built-in excuse another classic example is the relationship blindfold you meet someone who has been in a toxic relationship for years and despite their partner's constant criticism and emotional manipulation they convince themselves oh she's just high standard she cares about me they ignore the advice from friends and family believing that their love is unique and misunderstood but deep down they fear being alone and would rather live with the harmful illusion of emotional manipulation constant criticism then face the [Music] truth or consider Lisa a talented artist working

a corporate job she hates she tells herself I'm not good enough to make it as a full-time artist and a stable job is more important than pursuing my passion in reality Lisa's afraid of failure and uncertainty that comes with chasing her dreams and her self-deception keeps her in a safe but unfulfilling career path or think about Mike who's been gaining weight steadily for years he looks at old pictures and thinks I haven't changed that much and tells himself he's still as fit as he was in his 20s he ignores his doctor's warnings about his blood

pressure and cholesterol convinced that his occasional jog makes up for his otherwise sedentary lifestyle this self deception allows him to avoid confronting the need for significant Lifestyle Changes this is happening all the time on a subtle and very significant level we must understand it there's some common areas where these lies tend to crop up in your life politics is a breeding ground for self-deception so many times I see people fall into the Trap of confirmation bias seeking out information that supports your existing beliefs and dismissing anything that contradicts them for example someone might ignore credible

reports of corruption from their preferred political party convincing themselves that it's just propaganda from the opposition this self-deception allows you to maintain your worldview without the discomfort of challenging your beliefs or in a relationship we touched on earlier but it Bears repeating relationships are a major area for self-deception we might tell ourselves that a friendship is stronger than it really is ignoring signs of toxicity in families we might downplay dysfunction telling ourselves that's just how families are these self-deceptions often stem from a fear of loneliness or conflict leading us to maintain harmful relationships rather than

face difficult truths our professional lives are Rife with opportunity for self-deception we might overestimate our skills telling ourselves we're indispensable to our company when we're actually underperforming or like our earlier example we might underestimate our abilities convincing ourselves we're not qualified for that promotion or career change this self-deception often comes from a place of either inflated ego or deep-seated in you see it all the time in every area of your life from Health to finances to personal growth we want to be able to imagine Futures that may not be likely but at the same time

we need to be honest about what we have available what resources that we have so there's this seeming contradiction between lying and imagining and we have to understand and what is happening in between these parts the Common Thread is that self-deception serves a purpose at least in the short term it protects your ego it Shields you from uncomfortable truths and allows you to avoid difficult decisions or changes but the long-term costs of these deceptions far outweigh any temporary Comfort they provide the long-term cost is a loss of your power you might remember the story of

Jackal and Hyde a respectable doctor who transforms into a violent Alter Ego while our own experiences may not be so dramatic many of us are living our own version of this Tale the jecelin height syndrome in self-deception refers to the phenomenon of maintaining two versions of yourself The Jackal who you claim to be or aspire to be and the hide who you actually are in your thoughts and actions our jaal is the IDE idealized version of ourselves it's the person we present to the world the one we claim to be in our social media posts

and job interviews or even in our own minds this version might claim to be ambitious kind health conscious or any number of positive attributes our hide on the other hand is the reality of our thoughts actions and habits what we really think about ourselves this is the version that procrastinates that judges others harshly or indul and behaviors we know aren't good for us Jackal says I'm a great listener and a supportive friend the hide reality is you often zone out when friends are talking and frequently steer conversations back to your own problems Jackal says I'm

committed to personal growth and learning and the hide reality is you buy self-help books but never read past the first chapter always finding excuses not to do the work oral says I'm environmentally conscious and care about sustainability and the hide reality is you regularly choose convenience over eco-friendly options and rarely make efforts to reduce your carbon footprint the problem isn't just that these two versions exist it's that we often aren't aware of the discrepancy we generally believe we are jaal while our hide operates behind the scenes often unconsciously this internal conflict creates a state of

cognitive dissonance we are constantly trying to reconcile our idealized self-image image with our actual behaviors which leads to stress anxiety and a fragmented sense of self living with this Duality makes it incredibly difficult to grow and change how can we improve if we're not honest about where we are starting from how can we set realistic goals if we're not clear on the true capabilities and limitations The Jackal and hide syndrome is more than just hypocrisy or occasional White Lies it's a pervasive state of self-deception that affects how we see ourselves how we interact with others

and how we navigate the world breaking free from this syndrome requires radical honesty with ourselves it means being willing to look at our hide our flaws our inconsistencies our less flattering qualities without flinching away it means aligning our actions with our stated values and being willing to admit when remember the goal isn't to be perfect it's to be authentic to narrow the gap between who we claim to be and who we really are only then we can begin to create meaningful change in our lives and truly become the person we aspire to be you must

understand authenticity versus pretense you know that feeling when you're at a party laughing at jokes you don't find funny or nodding along to opinions you don't agree with that's pretense it's exhausting and that's because you're not being true to yourself by putting on a show and deep down it doesn't feel good now imagine the opposite picture yourself with people who get your quirks appreciate your honesty and love you for who you are that's authenticity it's like taking a deep breath after holding it in for a long time when you're authentic you're not wasting energy on

being someone you're not you're just you being authentic isn't always easy sometimes it means admitting things about yourself that you'd rather not face maybe you're not as kind as You' like to think or you're not as hardworking as you claim to be facing these truths can be uncomfortable but it's the only way to grow this brings us to the power of self-awareness think of self-awareness as your internal GPS without it you're just wandering around hoping to end up somewhere good but when you're self-aware you know exactly where you are where you want to go and

what's standing in your way developing self-awareness is like working out a muscle it takes practice you've got to pay attention to your thoughts your feelings your reactions why did that comment bother you so much why do you keep putting off that important task the more you ask these questions the more you understand yourself let me tell you understanding yourself is a superpower it's like having the cheat codes to your own life you start making better decisions managing your emotions more more effectively and even becoming a better leader because here's the truth you can't lead others

if you can't lead yourself think about the last time you tried to improve something about yourself maybe you wanted to get in shape or learn a new skill how did it go if you weren't honest with yourself from the starting point your motivation or the challenges you face I bet it was a struggle but when you're honest with yourself personal growth becomes much more achievable you set realistic go goals because you know your true abilities you persist through challenges because you understand your real motivations and when you fail it doesn't devastate you because you're not

attached to some idealized version of yourself and your relationships they transform when you start being honest with yourself think about it how can you truly be honest with someone else if you're not even honest with yourself when you're self- honest you build trust you're able to be vulnerable and you set healthy boundaries you become more empathetic too because you understand that everyone's dealing with their own stuff imagine a relationship where both people are totally honest with themselves and each other no games no hidden resentments just open communication and mutual understanding sounds pretty good right look

I'm not saying self-honesty is always comfortable sometimes it painful but it's always worth it it's the key to living authentically growing continuously and building relationships that truly fulfill you the other thing is who are you hanging out with who are you listening to if you're constantly listening to someone that lies all the time then you are lying to yourself and you'll find yourself to be somewhat deceitful to other people in general like attracts like so if you want honest people in your life and you want to be honest with yourself they go together you don't

choose to listen to people that you know are constantly lying you work with people that resonate with you and when they lie on a regular basis you simply choose not to be around that person they move outside of your energy field this is important when it comes to creating your reality think about it like this two people can go through the exact same event and Come Away with completely different experiences why because they're viewing it through different lenses shaped by their beliefs and past experiences let me give you an example imagine two people starting new

jobs One Believes they're capable and deserving of success the other they're constantly doubting themselves convinced they're an impostor now they might face the same challenges but their experiences will be Worlds Apart The Confident person will see obstacles as opportunities to learn and the self-doubt will see challenges as confirmation of their inadequacy this is the power of creating your own reality your beliefs and expectations act like a filter coloring everything you experience here's where it gets tricky this process happens whether you're aware of it or not you're constantly creating a reality even when you don't realize

it so if you choose to have a reality where everybody's lying to you part of that is in the choice who you choose to listen to to read to have around to support so how does self-deception mess with this process it's like trying to navigate with a faulty map when you're not honest with yourself you're operating based on false information you might think you're headed toward success but if you're lying to yourself about your abilities your motivations or the challenges you face you're setting yourself up for a roote Awakening if you're honest with yourself about

your abilities and your motivations you will make the right choices to move forward in achieving your goal self-deception is like a fog that obscures your true path it makes you miss opportunities because you're not seeing things clearly it leads you to make decisions that aren't aligned with your authentic self and worst of all it keeps you stuck in patterns that don't serve you because you're not honest about what's really going on your beliefs are like the operating system of your mind they're running in the background influencing everything you do often without you even noticing many

of these beliefs were installed when you were too young to question them they come from your parents your teachers your early experiences and unless you you've done the work and examine and update them they're still running the show these beliefs shape your reality in powerful ways if you believe the world is a hostile Place guess what you'll find evidence of that everywhere you look if you believe you're not good enough you'll consciously sabotage your own success your beliefs create a self-fulfilling prophecy shaping your actions and perceptions to confirm what you already believe to be true

but here's where it gets interesting and challenging there's often a Discord between our conscious claims and our subconscious beliefs this is where the rubber meets the road when it comes to self-deception and reality creation you might consciously claim that you want success but you have a subconscious belief that you don't deserve it guess which one wins out the subconscious belief wins out every time this Discord creates a sort of internal tug of war you're trying to move in One Direction consciously but your subconscious is pulling you in another it's exhausting and it's why so many

people feel stuck despite their best effort to change let's say you consciously claim you want a loving committed relationship but deep down you have a subconscious belief that you're unlovable what happens you might find yourself pushing away anyone who gets too close or attracting Partners who aren't emotionally available your reality aligns with your subconscious belief not your conscious desire you are lying to yourself so what can we do about this first step is awareness start paying attention to the gap between what you say you want and what you actually experience in your life where are

the inconsistencies why is it you're imagining one thing but something else is happening this gap between what is happening in your life and what you're trying to imagine tells you everything you need to know about what's going on in your subconscious what patterns keep repeating despite your best efforts to change them the next step is courage the courage to be ruthlessly honest with yourself what are the beliefs lurking beneath the surface that might be sabotaging you this isn't about beating yourself up it's about shining a light on these hidden beliefs so you can start to

change them remember your reality is a reflection of your deepest most firmly held beliefs if you want to change your reality you've got to be willing to examine and these beliefs but if all you're listening to is people that knowingly lie and if you're constantly lying to yourself you're incapable of examining and updating those beliefs so you must be ruthless I choose not to listen to a musician if they're a liar I choose not to read a writer when they're actual Liars now writing an imagined fiction is not a lie those are different things there's

not a claim that it's true so I'm constantly looking for the truth and imagining something better if you want to change your reality you've got to examine this it's not easy but when you align your conscious desires with your subconscious beliefs that's when the magic happens that's when you truly start creating the reality that you want usually the liar part of you is in your mind and it's in your ego and if you Embrace that part of you you are ignoring the more important more powerful part of you which is your heart your subconscious so

you must make it an intention an effort to stop lying to yourself because then you can believe the truth about who you truly are I want you to start questioning your reality is it serving you is it aligned with who you truly are or what you truly want and most importantly are you being completely honest with yourself about what's really going on because that's honesty it's the key to unlocking the reality you've always dreamed of what happens when we lie to ourselves the consequences go deeper than you think first let's talk about stress you know

that feeling when you you're juggling too many balls and you're terrified you're going to drop one that's what lying to yourself does to your mind it's like you're constantly on high alert trying to maintain this false image of yourself or your life it's exhausting your mind is working overtime constantly trying to reconcile the truth with the lie you're telling yourself no wonder you feel drained at the end of the day and it's not just stress anxiety becomes your constant companion when you're not honest with yourself think about it when you're living a Lie part of

you always knows the truth it's like there's a little voice in the back of your head constantly Whispering what if they find out what if it all falls apart that's anxiety and it's a direct result of the gap between your true self and the self you're pretending to be I'm trying to teach you the secret of imagining and pretending but we must come to grips with this Gap because it may be the secret to truly creating a reality you must understand cognitive dissonance it's a simple concept cognitive dissonance is that uncomfortable feeling you get when

you hold two contradictory beliefs at the same time or when your actions don't align with your beliefs it is an epidemic people are lying all the time and they're believing stuff that contradicts all the time it's never been worse than it is right now when you lie to yourself you're creating a breeding ground for cognitive dissonance you're constantly at odds with yourself and your mind doesn't like it one bit it's like trying to force two magnets together on their negative sides there's always going to be resistance this internal conflict doesn't stay in your head it

spills over into every aspect of your life you might find yourself becoming irritable having trouble sleeping or struggling to make decisions because you're at war with yourself and that battle takes a toll the scary part is over time these pychological effects can become your new normal you might not even realize how stressed anxious or conflicted you feel because you've been living with it for so long it's like the proverbial frog in the boiling water the temperature rises so gradually that you don't notice you're being cooked alive it doesn't have to be this way all of

these psychological effects the stress the anxiety the cognitive dissonance they're not punishments they're signals they're your mind's way of telling you that something's off and they not being true to yourself so the next time you feel that stress that anxiety that internal conflict don't just push it away listen to it it might be uncomfortable but also it's an opportunity it's a chance to look at yourself honestly to face the truth you've been avoiding and to start aligning your actions with your authentic self think about the last big decision that you had to make maybe it

was about your career or a relationship or a major purchase how did you approach it if you're not being honest with yourself I can almost guarantee that decision was harder than it needed to be good decision- making relies on accurate information it's like trying to put together a puzzle if you got all the right pieces you can see the big picture and figure out where everything fits and when you're lying to yourself it's like you're trying to solve that puzzle with pieces from different sets some might fit but the overall picture is going to be

a mess say you're a job you hate but you keep telling yourself it's not that bad you're lying to yourself about the level of satisfaction your skills maybe even your long-term career goals now a new opportunity comes along how can you possibly make a good decision about whether to take it when you're not being honest about your current situation you can't you're working with faulty information and that's a recipe for a bad decision it's not just big decisions this impacts your everyday choices too when you're not honest with yourself you might avoid making decisions altogether

you procrastinate you waffle you ask everyone else for their opinion because deep down you don't trust your own judgment why would you on some level you know you're not being truthful with yourself this is where self-deception really throws a wrench in the works effective problem solving requires you to accurately assess the situation identify the real issues and come up with viable Solutions but how can you do any of that if you're not not being honest about what's going on it's like having a leaky roof you can convince yourself it's not that bad that it only

leaks when it rains really hard you might even put a bucket under it and call it fixed you can imagine that it's fixed but you have not solved the problem you just found a way to live with it and guess what that roof is still going to leak until you take action and over time it's going to cause more and more damage that's what happens when you're not honest about the problems in your life you find ways to work around them to cope with them but you never actually solve them and just like that leaky

roof those unresolved problems are going to cause more damage over time to properly imagine you must properly understand what situation that you're in and this sounds like a contradiction as quo teaches us the contradiction is where we find spiritual truth there's a place where we know that we're imagining and we can feel the truth of this alternate reality we start to move into it but if we are not in an environment where we're being honest with ourselves and others we can't trust where to go and what to do when you're not honest about problems in

your life you find ways to work around them to cope with them when you're not honest with yourself you often can't even see the real problem you're so busy maintaining your self-deception that you miss the actual issue that needs addressing cuz you're so used to living this world of lies that you're not even aware that a problem is existing cuz you're not being honest with yourself then you can't properly imagine your way out of it it's like being so focused on mopping up the water from your leaky roof that you don't notice the mold growing

on your walls it starts with honesty raw uncomfortable sometimes painful honesty before you make a decision try to solve a problem take a step back ask yourself am I seeing this situation clearly am I being honest about my role in this what am I avoiding or denying it's not easy in fact it can be downright uncomfortable but let me tell you the clarity that comes from this kind of honesty it's like putting on glasses for the first time and realizing the world isn't actually blurry suddenly decisions become clearer and your ability to create your future

becomes easier problems become solvable you stop spinning your wheels and start making real progress remember the goal isn't to be perfect it's to be honest when you're honest with yourself you'll become a better decision maker and a more effective Problem Solver you become someone who can face challenges head-on make tough choices with confidence and actually solve problems instead of just coping with them think about the last time you were in a social situation where you felt like you were putting on an act maybe it was a work event or you were pretending to be more

confident than you felt or a family gathering where you were hiding your true feelings about your job or relationship it's exhausting and that's because you're not being true to yourself and every interaction becomes a performance you're constantly monitoring what you say and do making sure it aligns with the image you're trying to project it's like you're on stage but instead of enjoying the spotlight you're terrified of forgetting your lines this doesn't just exhaust you it pushes people away people can sense when you're not being genuine even if they can't their finger on why they might

not trust you or they might find you hard to connect with and can you blame them you're not showing them the real you but it goes deeper than that when you're lying to yourself you often end up attracting the wrong people into your life think about it if you're pretending to be someone you're not you'll draw in people who are attracted to that false version of you then you find yourself in relationships romantic friendly or professional that don't truly satisfy you because because they're not based on your authentic self self-deception is like a wall you

build between yourself and the people you care about you might think you're protecting yourself or them but in reality you're creating distance you're denying them the chance to know and love the real you and this includes embracing others who are constantly lying knowingly and accepting it it affects you because that is an acknowledgement and acceptance that it's okay for you to do that this is especially damaging in close relationships you're not honest with yourself about your needs your feelings or your struggles how can you communicate these to your partner your family your close friends you

end up feeling misunderstood and unsupported but the truth is you haven't given them the chance to understand and support the real you in your personal life persistent self-deception over the long term can lead to a profound sense of disconnection from yourself and from others so many people are alone in the world so many people are feeling disconnected maybe it is because of this persistent self-deception and embracing those who lie and accepting it as a lifestyle accepting that it's okay to lie when deep down in your subconscious you know it's not you might find yourself going

through motions living a life that looks good on paper but feels empty and side you might wrestle with a constant nagging feeling that you're not living up to your potential or that you're living someone else's idea of what your life should be professionally the consequences can be just as severe when you're not honest with yourself about your strengths weaknesses and true passions you might find yourself on a career path that looks successful from the outside but leaves you feeling unfulfilled you might miss out on opportunities that would truly excite you because you're convinced that you're

not qualified or truly deserving self-deception can stunt your professional growth if you're not honest about areas where you need to improve how can you ever truly Excel you might find yourself hitting a ceiling in your career watching others progress while you stay stuck all because you're not willing to look in the mirror and confront the truths about yourself that could help you to grow I've discovered this in my own life that's why I'm teaching it to you if I wasn't truly honest about what I was doing wrong what mistakes I was making the things I

was focusing on I could not move forward in my life it is never too late to change this pattern I do not care how old you are the moment you decide to be honest with yourself it is such a relief it's the moment you start to turn things around and then when you start to affirm things it's amazing because you believe it when you say large sums of money come to me easily and quickly you know it's true because you have been honest with yourself up to this point you may be aware of your current

situation but you can say large sums of money come to me easily and quickly when you don't believe yourself you will not believe that statement it is an affirmation that is given in vain with vain repetitions you might have to make some tough decisions you might have to change the way you think about issues in the world when you come to grips with whether or not you're being honest with yourself and you're embracing dishonesty and misinformation and you're saying to yourself it's okay because this misinformation somehow helps me or this lying helps me and you

Embrace this it's going to take some tough decisions to really confront this it's rarely done a good place to look at this isn't a cult of often times they find cult members that know the information that they've been given is a lie yet they continue to believe it because it is a pattern so deeply entrenched they're incapable of accepting the truth that this thing that they believe is not true and so it's not comfortable and we naturally do not seek discomfort but on the other side of that discomfort is freedom freedom to be yourself to

pursue what truly matters to you to build genuine connections and to reach your full potential every step towards self-honesty is a step towards a more authentic fulfilling life it's not about being perfect it's about being real and in a world full of filters and facades being real is your superpower as I do with many of my podcasts I recommend you Journal about this put it on paper put it in your notes on your phone it's like having a conversation with yourself but on paper and you can go back and read this and you can start

to see the pattern in your own deceptions start journaling with a question like what I'm really feeling right now is and just let it flow don't censor yourself don't worry about spelling your grammar just notice when you're being dishonest with yourself this process is a process of self-awareness another technique is the third person perspective imagine you're writing a story about yourself but you're using he or she instead of I it might sound silly but this little shift can give you a much needed distance from your own thoughts and behaviors it's like you're observing yourself from

the outside which can lead to some pretty eye-opening insights of course there's meditation it's about noticing your thoughts without getting caught up in them even 5 minutes a day where you're evaluating in your meditation honesty truth sitting quietly focusing on your breath you'll begin to see patterns in your thinking you'll notice the stories you tell yourself the excuses you make the fears that you're holding back that's the first step to change another thing you can do is have a conversation with your future self close your eyes and imagine yourself 5 10 20 years from now

and what would that version of you say to the current you what advice would they give what would they be proud of what would they wish you had done differently can you believe them if you're more of a visual person create a mind map of your life start with your name in the center and then Branch out into different areas work relationships Health Hobbies are you where you want to be if not what's holding you back this visual representation can help you see connections and patterns you might have missed before another thing is to ask

for feedback ask people who will be honest with you trusted friends mentors even colleagues ask them what they see as your strengths and weaknesses when you are choosing honesty when you talk to your friends you can believe them if you're choosing dishonesty you're choosing to lie yourself but also to support people that lie on a regular basis when you do that then you're going to meet people in your life and you're not going to trust them because gez everybody is lying all the time but you can get honest advice honest communication from people that you

trust that will tell you where you are what you can do I want you to take a moment right now take a deep breath and ask yourself where in my life have I not been completely honest with myself maybe it's about a relationship that's not working a job that's slowly crushing your soul or a dream you've been too afraid to pursue whatever it is I want you to promise yourself that you'll take one step one step towards facing that truth this week you might be thinking but what if the truth hurts what if it means

I have to make changes I'm not ready for it might hurt it might be scary let me tell you something on the other side of that fear is freedom the freedom to be who you truly are to live life on your own terms to pursue what really matters to you it's not about beating yourself up or dwelling on your mistakes it's about giving yourself the gift of authenticity it's about aligning your outer world with your inner truth when you do that that's when the magic happens happens how much energy have you spent maintaining Illusions about

yourself or your life how exhausting has it been to keep up appearances to pretend everything's fine when it's not now imagine channeling all that energy into actually living your life into pursuing your passions creating your reality building genuine relationships That's The Power of aligning with your true self when you're aligned with your true self you stop swimming against the current of your own life decisions become clear relationships become deeper success fulfilling becomes possible because you're no longer chasing someone else's definition of it and so my challenge to you is start small but start today maybe

it's having a conversation that you've been avoiding maybe it's writing that brutally honest journal entry maybe it's finally admitting to yourself what you really want out of your life whatever it is take that first step and remember this isn't a oneandone this is a practice a lifelong journey there will be setbacks there will be days when it's easier to fall back into Old patterns but each time you choose honesty each time you align with your true self you are building a stronger foundation for a more authentic and fulfilling life and that's when you can truly

imagine you've got this got everything you need with you to live a life of radical self-honesty and trust me once you start you won't want to go back because there's nothing more liberating nothing more power powerful than being unapologetically authentically you so stop lying to yourself step into your truth now is the time the choice is yours and I can't wait to see who you become when you fully embrace the real you you can find all episodes of the reality Revolution at the reality revolution.com and welcome to the reality Revolution [Music]