we all want to feel happy content and fulfilled right but for most people when they're tired and anxious and want to pick me up they think that fun and entertainment without much effort will make them feel better faster so they walk into a place that offers this like a casino where they don't have to do anything besides sit down and pull on a slot machine it promises you that every time you pull that slot you'll get happiness fun entertainment and contentment and that casino it's like your screen time it offers you a quick and easy
happy moment without having to do anything you're bored so you binge watch a show to entertain yourself you're in a bad mood so you buy something online to cheer yourself up you're anxious so you go to Tik Tok to distract yourself you tell yourself you'll just stay here for only a few minutes that first pull on the slot machine feels so good but have you ever noticed the second one doesn't give you what you think you need in fact it seems that each time you try to win the good happy emotions you get the total
opposite you get boredom anxiety and stress you wanted low effort entertainment but the results are full of negative impacts experts are always telling us things like eating healthy being creative spending time in nature and being with people you love are good for us right these are the things that will make you feel fulfilled and happy yet everyone complains they don't have enough time energy and motivation to do these things they would rather pull that slot machine they think well it makes me kind of happy and I'm tired so I'll watch my show instead of going
for a walk and it sounds I mean it sounds like a good deal right but the thing is you know that if a deal is too good to be true well it probably is because you must be paying for it in some way and it's not just with your time like most people think there's another high unseen cost the one that you'll find out about later if you look at that promise closely you'll see it is flawed you can't get here when you're in here because happiness fulfillment and contentment is all about progress movement and
action but this place their business model is based on keeping you stuck there they can't allow you to move and progress so they give you the illusion of choice and the promise of finding happiness on the next poll now maybe you're thinking it's not so bad your TV shows social media and online shopping that's your downtime your distress sessions you deserve all of that after a long day well let's just see what happens if you decide to stay here Time Slips Away globally people spend an average of 6 hours a day on their phone that
is 60 hours a week that's more time than an ENT entire work week in one year that's 3,000 hours spent staring at a screen your money vanishes too research shows that in the US customers spend around $750 per month on impulse buys influenced by social media that's $948 a year $450,000 in 50 years and worst of all your mental and physical health deteriorates studies show that watching too much TV doubles your risk for dementia stroke and Parkinson's disease and a study at John's Hopkins University found that people who watch TV for more than 3 hours
a day actually lose gray matter in their brains so you're losing brain cells going broke you're moodier and your body becomes a ticking Time Bomb for health issues not only can this place not make you happy but it's also actively harming you so why do you keep looking for those happy peaceful moments there well these people are are marketing Geniuses they know their target audience down to a te and it's your brain your brain wants to feel happy but it also wants to save energy so it will always default to the easiest quickest way to
do that scrolling on your phone binge watching TV or snacking your night away the moment in your day when you first stare at your screen or when you hear that notification sound you create a dopamine Loop dopamine is a hormone your brain release is to make you feel pleasure and motivation just like a casino technology is engineered to give you a big hit of dopamine but a sudden Spike will always come crashing down and land below where it started when it drops like that you want more so you create an endless loop they also keep
you away from doing things that release other feel-good hormones like endorphins which you get from exercise oxytocin that you get from connecting and bonding with people and serotonin which you get from good sleep sunlight and healthy foods those are the things that really make you feel good but they take more effort to get and the casino well it looks relaxing and fun and you know it won't take any effort from you sure you're paying with your time and money but you think well that's okay because you'll get what you want eventually right but no okay
you won't get what you want here because it'll only serve as an illusion of what you're looking for and the playing fee is what actually ensures that this illusion will never come true here because it is costing you your control over yourself your power to make good decisions and your ability to draw your attention away you're trying to win happiness but you're losing control that is what you're paying with your control that is why it is so hard to leave and that is why it will never bring you happiness because being happy and content means
having control over your actions feeling fulfilled comes from being surrounded by good choices you hand over control when you walk in and every time you pull that slot machine you lose even more of it that next pull will never be the winner because The House Always Wins okay it doesn't matter how much self-control you think you have when you walk into a place where all of the choices are bad you've already lost okay you're in the wrong place Place cash isn't King here control is and you have to take it back it's time to pack
it up and walk out of that casino go back to where you started to when you made that choice because now that you know how important that first decision is you will choose the right place the moment you step outside you give yourself the power to create your own menu your dopamine menu because you're back in control instead of spending it to buy happy from somewhere else you use it to create your own happiness you create a menu that supports your goals something designed for your success not for your failure you'll fill it with things
that you know will release the hormones that make you feel great you begin with your starters your favorite short low effort activities that give you a boost you fill your Mains with things that take a little bit more effort but give you a bigger reward your side dishes those are the ACT activity Duos pairing the fun things you enjoy doing with something that you might not like doing that much like pairing your favorite podcast with your least favorite Shore desserts are the sweet things like using social media but now that you're aware of their effect
on you you know you have to put on some strict time limits to this and the specials on your dopamine menu those are the really fun things that you can look forward to a trip somewhere a festival a nice Splurge write your menu and put it somewhere that you can see all the time so before you pick up your phone or switch the TV on that menu will catch your eye now your time will be filled with doing things that don't make you feel like you're always losing when you're in the right place it's easy
to make the good choices to choose to do the things that will fill your cup that's exactly why we designed the alux app our goal was to create the right place a place with a menu that serves you things that will fuel you and we did it we created a digital product where you're in control and where you have access to a menu filled with all the good things it's a paid app a premium service because creating that kind of space from scratch with lessons and collections from industry experts the ability to track your goals
and generate a report about the areas in your life that you're kicking ass at versus the ones you need to work on and a daily dose of fun interesting content and motivation well let me tell you my friend it takes a lot of time money and effort and boy did we put all three of those ingredients into this so now it's your chance to put in the time effort and commitment into yourself into your life so many of our aers have already succeeded 34% of them say that they've experienced a significant increase in their happiness
since they started using the app which is incredible that right there fills our cups now it's time to fill yours you have the knowledge and opportunity to choose the right place consistently if you're ready to walk in then we've got an offer for you since you're a subscriber to our Channel if you download the app and scan the QR code on screen right now you'll get 25% off our yearly subscription it's our way of saying thank you happiness isn't a given alexer you have to find your way there and if you're ready get yourself a
yearly subscription at alux.com slapp and let's do this okay but if you're not ready just yet that's okay no worries we've got tons of content here just for you on our YouTube channel so here's another one that we think will help you on your growth journey and when you are ready well you know where to find us we'll see you back here next time my friend until then take care [Music]
