How many of you feel that your mind's thinking speed is increasing? And we say how can we calm the mind? The mind keeps on speaking.
So calming the mind does not mean we stop thinking and nothing happens here. Calming the mind means we think right. When we think right, we will feel peace here.
But when the mind doesn't think right, it thinks too much. If you are asked to praise someone Or to say something nice about someone How many lines will you say? How many lines will it take to say something nice about someone?
Two, three, or four lines. How many more lines will you say beyond this? But if you ask someone to talk about someone else's mistakes What are the things they are not doing right?
What are their behaviours which are not right? They will not even realise that they have been talking about that person for 30 minutes. So when our thoughts are pure Positive, good and clean Then our mind's speed reduces.
And when our thoughts are like - Why did he do this? Why did he do that? Why did he do that to me?
When we think like this, our mind's speed increases. So what does it mean to have a peaceful mind? A peaceful mind means when its speed is low.
But to reduce its speed, we need to change the quality of our thoughts. If you ask the mind to reduce its thoughts, it will not happen. That is why when we sit in meditation When they sit for the first time, and are yet to learn.
Or when they try to do it at home without learning. Because today we can learn everything from Google or online. So we search as 'meditation' on the phones.
We get a picture of how to sit with eyes closed, and not to do anything. So they feel they need to close their eyes and sit like this. And not think about anything.
And they try not to think about anything. But they feel that they are creating more thoughts than before. They get scared of so many thoughts, and they get angry.
They say it is not possible for me to meditate, it is very difficult for me. Because when we sit idle and don't do anything And we just focus on our mind, then we will know how much is going on here. And our mind's speed is so fast There are so many waste thoughts from a quality perspective.
And most importantly, when we try to stop them, the thoughts in the mind don't stop. If we tell our mind not to think like this, it doesn't stop. It will stop for a second and then start speaking the same way again.
There is a saying that When you win over the mind, you win over the world. One who wins over his mind, will win over the world. When you win over the mind, you win over the world means I the soul reside in this body which is my world.
I live in this world around me. But first I need to live here in this body. I need to first win this world.
Then my family is my world. Then my workplace is my world. To win over all these To win means to create a good relationship with all these.
Who should I win first? To win means it should go according to me. If I say I need to think like this, then my mind should think like this.
If I say - Don't need to think about that, then it should not think about that. How many of your minds obey what you say? You said - Think like this.
Create only two thoughts, not more than that. Who should I think about? When should I think?
How much should I think? If I want to stop, it needs to stop right now. That is called winning over the mind.
Today we are sitting at home and thinking about work. We are going to work and we are thinking about the fight that happened at home. We are sitting here and the mind is there.
Often when we are sitting with our family children or family members say - You are not here. We get even more angry. We ask - Can't you see that I am sitting here.
They say - I can see that you are not present here. You are just sitting here, but you are not here. Doesn't it happen?
You are sitting here, but you are not here. Which means you have kept your body here. And you are telling us that you have been sitting with us for an hour.
But your mind is wandering in so many places in such a short time. We feel it is normal. That the mind will not sit at one place.
It will go here and there. We will think about this and that. It will even think about people who have nothing to do with us.
It will think about what is happening in the country. It will think about what is happening in the world. It will think about war in another country.
It will think about what is happening in our neighbour's house. This is normal. The mind will keep thinking.
This is how we thought. But sometimes we don't pay attention to the fact That each and every thought which we are thinking It doesn't just remain here. The vibration of each and every thought reaches our body.
There are so many cells in this body. Science teaches us that every thought which you are creating It goes to every cell in your body. That is why doctors say that majority of illnesses are psychosomatic.
Psychosomatic means it starts from the psyche. It starts from the mind. In the last few years There have been sudden heart attacks reported.
Sudden illnesses. Just now they are fine. Suddenly they came to know that there is cancer in their body.
They go to the doctor and say - I have never had even a fever till now. How did I get such a serious illness suddenly? The doctor says it is because of lifestyle.
For every illness, doctors say it is because of lifestyle. Because it is a lifestyle illness. But even when we know that we need to have a good lifestyle What do we do about our lifestyle?
We eat and drink well. We do yoga, pranayam, exercise, walk. We sleep well.
So we say our lifestyle is going well. Lifestyle is not just about eating, drinking, sleeping, and exercising. That is very important.
But the biggest lifestyle is What do we think? Life is here. We are 'Jeeva Atmas'.
This is the body, and this is the soul. This is life. When this life (soul) leaves, what remains is a dead body.
So life is here. So how do we think? How do we think in every situation?
And how much do we think? And for how long do we keep thinking about it? This body is getting all those thought vibrations.
And our body is getting created according to our thoughts. Has anyone experienced it? When you are worried, you can see its effect here in the body?
You cannot sleep at night when you are thinking about something. Shout loudly. And then check your heart beat.
We are scolding someone else Is the heart beat of the person who is getting scolded, fine? Who is getting affected more? The person who is getting angry or the person who is getting scolded?
Keep your hands like this. On your left hand place the person who you had last scolded. And place yourself on the right hand.
It is possible that you were scolded someone today morning or two days ago. This person is getting scolded. This person is scolding.
This scolding was for this person. It was not for this person. This person was only scolding the other person.
Who is getting affected more? The person who is getting scolded or one who is scolding? Tell me.
Because today we have a belief that when we get angry, people will listen to us. When we get angry, children will listen to us. So we keep using the weapon of anger several times a day.
So whose mind and body is getting affected first by that anger? The person who is getting angry or the person who is receiving that anger? Tell me.
Whose mind and body is getting affected first? Which hand is getting affected first? Right hand.
We all bought an oximeter during covid, isn't it? We all have it at home. Next time when someone is angry at home Connect the oximeter to the person who is getting angry.
It's a small device, isn't it? Connect the oximeter on the person's finger - of the one who is getting angry. At that moment we will know how much effect it has on the body.
Check their blood pressure and see how much effect it has. Check thier pulse rate. We say, so what?
It will be fine in 2 minutes. But if something will repeatedly have an effect on the body. If it will have an effect several times a day Will it start having an effect or not?
He was the one who was getting scolded. But who suffered the loss? He was the one who was getting scolded.
So he should be the one who suffered the loss. But who suffered the loss? The one who scolded him.
But the one who scolds says Until we don't get angry, we cannot get any work done these days. Which means he is ready to damage his body to get work done. Is it possible to get work done without anger or not?
How many of you need to take care of your heart? Today people are experiencing a lot of things. How many of you need to take care of it?
Place your hand on your heart and say To take care of you, I will speak to everyone lovingly and peacefully. Say it properly. Don't be quiet.
Say to your heart - To take care of you. Because you are taking care of me throughout the day. Because you are functioning, I am able to do everything.
The day you stop functioning, I can know longer work. To take care of you, I will keep my voice low. To take care of you, I will speak to everyone respectfully.
To take care of you, I will understand people. I will make them understand their mistakes But I will make them understand lovingly So that you remain fine. If every time something feels like a push or a punch Then maybe not today, not tomorrow, not the day after tomorrow, not 10 days later But after a few years it will start giving a response, isn't it?
Why do we get angry? Because people are not working according to me. So even after getting angry, they are not working according to me.
If they had understood when I had got angry for the first time, then they would have been fine the next time. But every time I have to use the same method. So who is ready to leave this one Sanskar today?
It will be fine today. We get angry only because of our choice. We have a very big misunderstanding that anger comes by itself.
If anger comes by itself, why don't we get angry in front of our elders? Why don't you get angry at a senior in your office? We get angry only at those people whom we know we can get angry at.
We get angry at everyone else in our mind. But at least we don't bring our anger in words. First let's stop anger from words, and then we can stop it from our mind also.
First let's stop anger in our words. Control will come in the mind later. First let's stop anger in our words.
Right now it is not in control here. And sometimes even our hands are not in control. Don't we see it on the road?
If there is a small scratch to a vehicle, they raise their hands at each other. Because first control is lost on the mind. Next, control is lost on our words.
And then control is lost on our hands. Being self sovereign. We need to rule over ourselves.
If we rule over our mind, we will rule over ourselves. We will rule over our body. So who all are ready to do it?
That I need to get everything done in peace. The sisters are raising their hands at each other, but the brothers are not. Why?
We feel it is not going to work. This is the biggest misconception. And anyway, when we get angry, it does not only harm us when we are angry.
Suppose you have to go to the office, or you have to catch a flight to another city. And the person driving your car, gets late. It happens sometimes.
You feel it is my right to scold him, because he is late. Otherwise he will not come on time next time. So we said something to him loudly in two lines.
We forgot and it got over. Even on our heart or body, 2 lines of anger does not have much effect. But we forgot.
We went to our work. We got busy with other things. But the person whom we scolded, he has not yet forgotten.
If he does not have anything else to do throughout the day He will remember you lovingly throughout the day. He will think - This is how that person is. I do so much for him.
He does not even ask him why I was late, if there was any problem at home. If someone was unwell at my home, but he did not ask. He scolded me early in the morning.
There is no value. I don't even feel like working here. If I get another job right now, I will leave him today.
I will keep his car keys on his table, and I will leave. Which means that driver will keep thinking and thinking. And who is getting all his thoughts?
Who is getting all his thought vibrations? Where are they reaching? It reaches us as we scolded him.
So early in the morning we invest in Karma. And the return of that investment keeps on coming. Right now we are not getting angry.
But the pain of the anger we created in the morning The vibration of that pain is also coming to us. It will also have an effect on our heart (body). It will have an effect on our mind.
Moreover, that driver doesn't even keep it to himself. He meets 3 or 4 people. They ask him why his face is so gloomy early in the morning.
He says early in the morning, my boss scolded me. What can I say about him? He tells two more people about us.
So those two other people also create more thoughts about us. That energy also comes to us. Why did all this happen?
Because we could not say that line in a different tone. It's not that if someone makes a mistake, we should not say anything. But the way we say it The language we speak And the volume of our voice All these are in our control.
Aren't they? So let's change a little. Who is ready to change the way we speak?
The way we speak to the people who work with us. The way we speak to the people who work for us. The way we speak to the people we live with.
A few days ago a couple came to our centre. She said about her husband Because there is a lot of traffic in Delhi. She said that whoever drives wrongly on the road Someone overtakes on the wrong side, someone honks Her husband keeps abusing all of him.
And since there is so much pollution, the car windows are anyway closed. So who can hear the abuse he is giving? She said she had to listen to him.
She had to listen to him all along the way to that venue. I asked her husband why he was doing that. He said - I don't know who gives them license.
Maybe they have given bribe to get the license. Which means he created 10 more negative thoughts there. It's just a habit.
And we don't realize that this habit is harming us. So we keep living with that habit. And the moment I told him Can you go home today without using that language for 1 hour?
He said it's not a big deal. I am doing it. I decide right now.
I will not do it from today. Change. It's not that it's difficult to change.
It's very easy to change. We just need to take a decision to change. That I don't want to get angry.
