this video is brought to you by minevalley you can change like that can you change in 21 days you can change in 21 seconds if you know how in fact you can change twice every day first in the way you think and the second in the way you act everything I talk about that the strength is in the Simplicity and the honesty there's no need to complicate stuff people want something simple but they also want it to be fast we live in such a fast world and if you can't give you a message like really
fast people just not interested and I get that my purpose I would say is to give people freedom and empowerment from their issues and their pain that that would be my purpose and that would would be what gives me meaning in life and I think you know what your purpose is because when you're doing it it feels so right when I'm on stage talking it's not scary I absolutely love it in fact it energizes me when I'm working with clients in my office I never find it draining I find it invigorating and I think that's
the thing when you do what you love and you love what you do first of all you feel like you never were but secondly it inspires you it motivates you and if I do what I don't love I feel the difference immediately and so we all have a gift and I think your challenges find out what you love to do and become brilliant at it and we've all got something unique that we can do it's very hard to know at 20 what you're meant to do so give yourself a break find out what you love
find out what makes your heart sing people who are good make it look so easy things I can do that I can do that and then because you make it look so easy you often lose credibility well you know you can just turn up on stage and and act but they don't realize all the work that goes into it and I think leaders make it look very easy but it's also because they love it I'm not enough and if you start from I'm not enough then you need more more cake more drinks more drugs more
sex more stuff more shopping more followers because we've got so into I'm not enough and I need more it's so great that we're getting small children to understand that your thoughts are yours to change your not your thoughts change them changing your thoughts is easy it's free can be instant yeah you know when I was 20 I was very clear I was going to be a school teacher my father wanted me to do that he told me it was a wonderful job he was a school teacher I was going there I was going to teach
a train in college and I was going to be a school teacher and somewhere in that teacher training College I'll let you know I don't want to be a teacher I'd actually like to be a child psychologist so I began to switch my training and then I realized again actually no I don't want to do that either because when you work with children as a therapist you always have three patients mom dad and child and so I was going there but in fact I went there and I went there I became a therapist I wrote
books I began to work on television shows and then I created my own method and so actually I became a teacher after all but it was a go over here and then go back and I think at 20 you very rarely know what you want to do and if you do that's not always a good thing because I work with many people in their 40s who say you know all my life I've been a lawyer an accountant and I've realized I didn't want to do that it doesn't make my heart sing but it's very hard
to know at 20 what you're meant to do so give yourself a break find out what you love find out what makes your heart sing in fact one of the major causes of depression is failing to follow your heart's desire and we're so into it well this is a good career and this has good benefits and the salary is good and we think but I don't I don't love it I recently trained a police officer to be a therapist who said I went into the police force to make a difference and discovered I was just
locking up alcoholics and drug addicts every night and it was very demoralizing and I'm a therapist and here I am making a difference so be open don't put any pressure on yourself just find out what you love and when you do what you love you'll feel like you never really work a day in your life I mean I work very hard but I also feel like I never really work and that's a great thing when I was training in hypnotherapy I knew immediately oh this is me and this is me for the rest of my
life I knew that that was my purpose that was my meaning that was my passion and and of course the second wonderful thing is that when you do what you love it gives you every bit as much as you give other people like I was speaking here this week and saying oh my God it's so amazing what you gave me what you gave me was also amazing because you were receptive and you liked it and so it's a great thing about giving and receiving giving energy and receiving it back and I think a lot of
conventional therapy is so busy trying to change the behavior or the actions or the feelings when the law said the law of control says it all starts with a thought and so I really like to simplify what makes humans tick because what's the point of making it complicated how does that help anyone who says well I'm messed up and so hard to change and people can't change it's like well that's not correct who taught you that you from the minute you're born you're changing oh you know it's it's long and arduous to recover no it
isn't some people recover like that some people don't but you could be one of the ones that changes your thoughts changes your feelings changes your actions after all most of us have had an experience of eating something being violent you think that oh I could never eat that again I could never look at Whiskey again there's no way I could ever eat shellfish again but it's very simple to think a different thought because we own our thoughts and we can change our thoughts and if we just learn to question why do I think that who
told me that was true question of thought upgrade your thought update your thought of women especially all these thoughts you can never find love after 50 nobody wants somebody with cellulite if you're a successful woman a man won't like you well that's not true that's not true for Michelle Obama why would that be true for you there's lots of women getting married for the first time at 50 including me your your love abilities got nothing to do with the numbers on the scales or the numbers in your clothing label or the numbers on your bus
or the number of your followers so we get very consumed by the number I need to be thinner taller smarter better grades more followers and you've got to stop all of that and just believe that you're great and you can be even greater when you stop defining Who You Are by what the numbers say most of us we make a belief without realizing that that belief turns around and makes us and then we have something called confirmation bars We Now look for proof that belief is worse I'm painfully shy and I can't speak to people
I've made a belief but that belief is making me now because I stress about speaking to people I might blush I avoid situations and now I'm looking for proof the confirmation for us look last time I spoke I went bright red I got all tongue-tied that person I could see they weren't interested I felt like an idiot so I better make sure I carry on not speaking so you have to switch it I've made a belief why don't I change that to I can talk to people other people do it I have two ears and
one mouth that means I should listen more talk less but I can engage with people if I can talk to my friends or my pets or someone I can talk to people I'm making a different belief and that different belief is making me now I'm looking for confirmation bias of how oh I spoke to a guy in the store and they were engaging I spoke to someone at a bus stop and they were engaging and if I can speak to one person I can speak to many and I can learn I can go on YouTube
and just learn what makes a great speaker and I can learn that you know I have a great brain that can learn stuff and one of the reasons I called my book tell yourself about a lie is because in my experience all of my client's greatest pain was the LIE they told themselves and the story they bought into and I say listen if you're prepared to tell yourself a lie which is if I look at cake I gain weight everything I touch falls apart no one in my family has ever done anything I've got the
depression Gene but here's how it works you've got a belief you've made it it's making you and you're looking for proofs and make a better belief when people say oh I got a memory like a sieve why not say I have an amazing memory I can't sleep at night sleep comes to me changing the first bit the thought means that you change the feeling means that you change the behavior and people say no it's amazing I just thought a different thought and everything changed on a dime people say I I don't know what I was
thinking of how did I end up in this mess well but you were thinking you were thinking I I don't I'm not going to succeed everything's not going to work out if if I start that business it will fail if I write the essay it will get a bad Mark so I'm just going to procrastinate here and do nothing and then I can't fail and when you take people back to that you know procrastination and self-sabotage is nothing more than a reaction to a thought that I'm not enough so many people are so scared of
failing that they think well I'm not gonna I've written a book but I never show it to anyone I've got an idea but what if it doesn't work and when they begin to see oh it all tracks back to a thought which I'm free to change it's very liberating it's very empowering [Music] this video is brought to you by Mine Valley a better you every day access classes live trainings and coaching for every area of your life connect with students from around the world learn from the world's greatest teachers on personal transformation sample the full
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