[Music] your excuses will destroy you and take everything that you ever wanted from you if you let them when your excuses make you feel a little bit better about the fact that you didn't execute on what you needed to execute on then they can make you feel better but they're not helping you they're not helping you at all why is why does discipline equal freedom because the more discipline you have in your life the more freedom you will end up with so if you lack the discipline to exercise and eat healthy you will end up
being a slave to disease if you lack the discipline to work hard save your money you will end up a slave to finances if you you lack the discipline to manage your time correctly you will end up with no free time if you have self-discipline if you have the discipline to save your money and work hard and invest your money properly if you have the discipline to manage your time correctly and not waste a bunch of time if you have the discipline to exercise and eat healthy you will end up with [Music] freedom if you
want freedom in your life you have to have discipline because if you're a kid right now and you're eating diritos off your belly I know they taste good and there's some immediate gratification and I get that but I'm going to tell you it starts right now throw that bag of Doritos away get rid of it go do some push-ups go spend $12 at the hardware store and hang up a pull-up bar in your room and start doing pull-ups and if you can't do one pull-up hang on that bar and you're going to start to get
a Little Bit Stronger you're going to start to get a little bit healthier you're start to get more focused you're going to start to become more resilient and you're going to start to understand the world better and you're going to start to progress in every aspect of your [Music] life and you'll see that if you have that kind of discipline right now you're going to end up with freedom because you're sad now you're going to make a bunch of bad decisions cuz you're sad no no it doesn't doesn't work like that doesn't work like that
you're sad okay you get emotional sometimes okay got it now get control of your emotions and carry on with your life and sometimes you're going to get hit with those waves and that's okay no at a certain point you say okay my emotions are now leading me down the wrong path I'm in control I'm not going to allow my emotions to make my decisions they're in the calculus I'm not saying take your emotions out of the calculus but they have to be one component of your Calculus not the whole equation you can't pull them out
of there or they'll bite you but you can't make them the overwhelming denominator of everything that you do or it's going to be problematic you have to start moving forward you have to start taking steps in order to improve your vision improve your perspective change your perspective make some kind of progress and worst case scenario you figure out that you walked the wrong direction okay now you can walk in the other direction and that's that's going to be fine but standing there lost and not doing anything is just waiting to die waiting to starve to
death don't let that happen I had to condition people to take action even in the SEAL Teams even a young seal leader who you would think would be by Nature aggressive and an action taker you put them in pressure situation where there's not a ton of information and they need to make a decision they don't want to act either so one of the things that I would teach was that their default mode was to be aggressive their default mode was to take action I would teach that same thing we just discussed I wouldn't say hey
look that means you have to take action but your default setting should be I'm going to do something cuz I'd have a young seal officer and there'd be some training Mission and there'd be a problem in a building and there'd be a bunch of paintball flying around in there and he wouldn't want to go solve that problem he back away from that problem and I would have to go like push him in the back and say you see that problem over there you got to go solve that problem it's not going to go away you
got to be aggressive that's got to be your default mode is to take action and make things happen because most human instinct is to wait most human instinct is to hesitate most human instinct is to let things go longer and stick with the status quo and that seems to be on the on the front the lowest risk in the situation is to not do anything it usually appears to be the lowest risk so to train people to oh I need to take risk some level of risk take action because in the long run I say
seven out of 10 7 out of 10 times action is better than an action if someone was on the extreme end of that disease of excuse and blame and all of those things is there anything that you could do or you would advise them to do to kind of walk back from there to get over the other side cuz I think we can all think of people in our lives and maybe even ourselves at times who have gotten into a chronic pattern of using excuses and blame as a form of self-defense well unfortunately what happens
a lot and you you may or may not have seen this but I I would assume you've seen this at some point in your life people and this is a term there's a term it's rock bottom right this is a term that we hear for someone that's addicted someone that's an alcoholic someone that's physically let themselves go someone that's put themselves into a situation with their finances or their work or whatever where they reach rock bottom but when it when it when the excuses all go away and people can actually confront the fact that this
is all because of me and this is it hurts but is also unbelievably empowering because if these problems are because of me then I'm capable of fixing these problems so even though extreme ownership hurts and is painful it's also liberating because now you have control over your fate and over your destiny and that is a glorious thing our excuse is the opposite excuses and blame is that the opposite of extreme ownership that is the opposite of extreme ownership extreme extreme ownership is this went wrong this failed didn't accomplish this and it's not the fault of
my boss it's not the fault of my girlfriend it's not the fault of my parents it's not the fault of the weather it's my fault and I'm going to take ownership of it and I'm going to fix it that's what extreme ownership is and this is a very difficult thing to do because it hurts because when you look around at your life and you look around at your job and your financial situation and your relationship and your physical health when you look at all those things and all the problems that you may have with those
things and you say the reason I have all those problems is because of me that can hurt that can sting and a lot of times our ego rejects that and makes excuses and lies and then we don't have to change anything and then nothing changes what you learn to do is okay I'm going to go forward there's no I can't get out of this I'm going to go forward I'm not going to quit so I'm going to go forward bring it on if I'm in the woods which is where you are right now you're in
the woods and you don't know where to go cuz the wife's not there anymore the job's not there anymore you don't know where to go right now so if you're in the woods and you don't know where to go start walking you what you learn to do is okay I'm going to go forward there's no I can't get out of this I'm going to go forward I'm not going to quit so I'm going to go forward bring it on and I think if there's anything that you learn it's to to keep pushing through things that
suck can you teach that that let's go let's we're going to jump back in the water let's go I think that I think that's one of the few things that you learn in basic SEAL training is to shrug your shoulders and go forward this is just something that's going to suck and you're going to have to push through it [Music] [Music] [Music]
