How to stop NEGATIVE thoughts and overthinking: Eckhart Tolle - New Earth

most people are compulsive thinkers when told that there is a voice in their head that never stops speaking they say what voice or angrily deny it which of course is The Voice the voice in the head is like a virus that has entered your brain and has taken possession of your life that voice can literally kill you if you leave it uncontrolled it has driven many people to the point of suicide depression and anxiety my goal with this video is to increase awareness so that you can shut up that voice and take back control of

your life the information you will hear in this video comes from a book titled A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle this is the type of book that I would personally force my parents and everyone I love to read I have five takeaways from the book for you so let's get started lesson number one who are you I have good news the voice in your head is not who you are who are you then the one who sees it most people are so identified with the voice with the thoughts in their head that they don't even

realize that there is something else besides the voice just stop for a second and look at your own thoughts observe your thoughts as if you are observing another person and soon you will realize that there are actually two entities the thoughts and the one who watches the thoughts the one who watches is you the other one is just a creature that pretends to be you and works very hard to convince you that it is you but it is not you lesson number two Humanity's biggest disease constant thinking I personally never realized that thinking constantly is

a huge problem until I read Eckhart Tolle's books that is why I wish his teachings were a mandatory class at schools here's why the normal State of Mind of most humans contains a major dysfunction and not knowing how to control it leads to many problems for example we learn how to use different tools and machines but never learn how to control our most powerful machine on this planet our brain and mind the more powerful a machine is the more control it requires for example you wouldn't give control of your car to a five-year-old kid but

currently Humanity has given control of the most powerful machine to a monkey thinking without being aware of the fact that you are thinking is the main problem of human existence since everybody does it we believe that it is the norm but it isn't there's a great story in the book that explains this perfectly the author says one time on the way to University a woman in her early 30s sat opposite me on the train one could not help but notice her because she appeared to be quite insane she looked extremely tense and talked to herself

constantly in a loud and angry voice she was so absorbed in her thoughts that she was totally unaware of other people or her surroundings even after she was gone I was still thinking about her when I was in the men's room prior to entering the library as I was washing my hands I thought I hope I don't end up like her the man next to me looked briefly in my direction and I suddenly was shocked when I realized that I hadn't just thought those words but mumbled them aloud oh no I'm already like her I

thought wasn't my mind as constantly active as hers there were only minor differences between us the main underlying emotion behind her thinking seems to be anger in my case it was mostly anxiety she thought out loud I thought in my head if she was mad then everyone was mad including me there were differences in degree only lesson number three the voice in the head what is it made of okay so far we learned that there's a voice in your head that never shuts up and you are not that voice but the one who watches it

now let's try to understand what this voice is actually made of and how it was created the author uses different terms to describe the voice such as false self bundle of old thoughts illusory self fictitious self and the simplest and the most used one in the book is ego in the rest of the video I will refer to the voice in the head as ego one of the most basic mind structures through which the ego comes into existence is identification identification with what identification with things when I identify with something I make it the same

the same as what the same as I for example if you pay attention to children who are just starting to talk you will see that they don't have a sense of I their ego hasn't fully developed yet that is why they refer to themselves in the third case instead of using I they say things like Johnny is hungry Johnny wants water this is Johnny's toy later on when the child develops ego also develops and Johnny's toy becomes my toy then my toy becomes my car my house my clothes Etc and so as the child grows

up the original I thought attracts other thoughts to itself the child becomes identified with gender possessions body nationality race religion and profession other things the eye identifies are roles mother father husband wife likes and dislikes look this explanation you just saw about ego probably isn't enough for you to fully understand what it really looks like and how it appears in your daily life but no worries the next lesson will make it clear lesson number four many faces of ego I will give you eight examples where you can see how ego appears in your life number

one the egos need to feel Superior you're about to tell someone the news of what happened guess what you don't know yet let me tell you if you are alert enough and present enough you may be able to detect a momentary sense of satisfaction within yourself just before telling the news even if it's bad news it's due to the fact that for a brief moment there is in the eyes of the ego an imbalance in your favor between you and the other person for that brief moment you know more than the other the satisfaction that

you feel is from the ego even if he or she is the president you feel Superior at that moment because you know more many people are addicted to gossiping partly for this reason number two ego and fame you've probably said things like this you know I have an uncle who works in a very high government organization or my father is a famous doctor or I have a friend who is a well-known businessman if you need help I can ask him this phenomenon is called name dropping the Casual mention of who you know is part of

the ego's strategy of gaining a superior identity in the eyes of others by associating itself with someone important when someone mentions your name they are not interested in you at all but only in strengthening their fictitious self their ego they believe that through you they can be more they are looking to complete themselves through you or rather through the mental image they have of you as a famous person number three role playing if you are aware enough to observe how you interact with other people you may detect subtle changes in your speech attitude and behavior

depending on the person you are interacting with the way in which you speak to the chairman of the company may be different in subtle ways from how you speak to the janitor how you speak to a child may be different from how you speak to an adult why is that you are playing roles you are not yourself neither with the chairman nor with the janitor or the child one of the most common roles is the role of a parent parents who are identified with the role cannot let go of being a parent even when the

child grows into an adult even when that adult child is 40 years old parents can't let go of the notion I know what's best for you if unconscious assumptions and motivations behind the parents desire to manipulate their children were made conscious and voiced they would probably look like this I want you to achieve what I never achieved I want you to be somebody in the eyes of the world so that I too can be somebody through you don't disappoint me I sacrificed so much for you my disapproval of you is intended to make you feel

so guilty and uncomfortable that you finally conform to my wishes I know what's best for you I love you and I will continue to love you if you do what I know is right for you when you make such unconscious motivations conscious you immediately see how absurd they are the ego that lies behind them becomes visible the author says some parents that I spoke to suddenly realized oh no is this what I've been doing if your parents are doing this to you do not tell them they are unconscious and in the grip of the ego

that will likely make them even more unconscious because the ego will take up a defensive position it is enough for you to recognize that it is the ego in them that is not who they are egoic patterns even long-standing ones sometimes dissolve almost miraculously when you don't oppose them be aware also of your own unconscious assumptions or expectations of your parents my parents should approve of what I do they should understand me and accept me for who I am really why should they the fact is they don't because they can't they are not yet able

to disidentify from their role yes but I can't feel happy and comfortable with who I am unless I have their approval and understanding really what difference does their approval or disapproval truly make to who you are all such unexamined assumptions cause a great deal of negative emotion and unnecessary happiness number four ego and competition I want to help you but if I help you I will be creating competition for myself or if I help you to enter this Market your channel will be bigger than mine or your entering this Market means I will be getting

fewer views these are the types of answers I sometimes get when I ask for cooperation from other YouTube channels as many of you know I've been translating this channel into other languages and cooperation is one of the best ways to successfully launch a new channel sometimes no matter how much I explain the benefits of the cooperation and how much I can help them in return they still hold back their help they feel like me entering the market and being successful means they will become less successful which is absolutely not the case I know this for

a fact at least on YouTube space the author says that people unknowingly sabotage their own work when they withhold help or information from others or try to undermine them so that they don't become more successful or get more credit than me cooperation is alien to the ego except when there is a secondary motive the ego doesn't know that the more you include others the more smoothly things flow and the more easily things come to you when you give little or no help to others or put obstacles in their path the universe gives little or no

help to you because you have cut yourself off from the hole the ego's unconscious core feeling is lack so it reacts to someone else's success as if that success had taken something away from me it doesn't know that your resentment of another person's success prevents your own chances of success number five ego and negativity whenever you are in a negative state pay attention and you will see that there is something in you that wants the negativity it perceives negativity as pleasurable or believes it will get you what you want otherwise who would want to hang

on to negativity make themselves and others miserable and create disease in the body so whenever there is negativity in you if you can be aware at that moment that there is something in you that takes pleasure in it or believes it has a useful purpose you are becoming aware of the ego directly if in the midst of negativity you are able to realize at this moment I am creating suffering for me it will be enough to raise you above the limitations of conditioned egoic States and reactions it will open up infinite possibilities number six ego

and scarcity they don't appreciate me enough despite all I did for them I deserve a pay raise but my manager doesn't give it to me I work more than my colleague but still earn less than him the author says that if the thought of lack whether it be money recognition or love has become part of who you are then you will always experience lack the fact is whatever you think the world is withholding from you you are withholding from the world you are withholding it because deep down you think you're small and that you have

nothing to give try this for a couple of weeks and see how it changes your reality whatever you think people are withholding from you praise appreciation assistance loving care and so on give it to them you don't have it just act as if you had it and it will come then soon after you start giving you will start receiving you cannot receive what you don't give outflow determines inflow whatever you think the world is withholding from you you already have but unless you allow it to flow out you won't even know that you have it

number seven ego and illness you know I am the sufferer of this and that illness I'm sure you've heard such sentences from people around you these people make illness part of their identity sometimes they use this identity proudly this is because egos only differ on the surface deep down they're all the same in what way are they the same they live on identification once the ego has found an identity it does not want to let it go if identity is lost the ego quickly finds a new form the fact that this new form is a

deeply unhappy one doesn't concern the ego as long as it has an identity good or bad you can easily identify with a problematic body and make the body's imperfection illness or disability into your identity number eight reactivity and complaining there are many people who are always waiting for the next thing to react against to feel annoyed or disturbed about and it never takes long before they find it this is an outrage how dare you I resent this they are addicted to upset and anger as others are to a drug by reacting against this or that

they assert and strengthen their ego when you complain by implication you are right and the person or situation you complain about or react against is wrong there is nothing that strengthens the ego more than being right the ego loves to complain and feel resentful not only about other people but also about situations the implication is always this should not be happening I don't want to be here I don't want to be doing this I'm being treated unfairly and the ego's greatest enemy of all of course the present moment which is to say life itself lesson

number five solution how to take back control of your life I have three practical tips for you number one observe your thoughts you cannot fight against the ego and win just as you cannot fight against Darkness the light of Consciousness is all that is necessary you are that light the moment you put light on the ego it dissolves so all you need to begin to separate your true self from your egoic self is to observe your thoughts the author calls this watching The Thinker the ego isn't right or wrong it's just unconscious when you observe

the ego in yourself you are beginning to go beyond it don't take the ego too seriously either when you detect egoic behavior in yourself smile at times you may even laugh above all know that the ego isn't personal it isn't Who You Are if you consider the ego to be your personal problem that's just more ego whenever you are present and notice the voice you will also realize that you are not the voice but the one who is aware of it the moment you become aware of the ego in you it is no longer the

ego but just an old conditioned mind pattern this will lead to a collapse of the ego number two be aware of your breathing the author says someone recently showed me the list of courses and seminars from a large spiritual organization when I looked through it I was impressed by the wide choice of interesting seminars and workshops it reminded me of those Scandinavian buffets where you can take your pick from a huge variety of enticing dishes the person asked me whether I could recommend one or two courses I don't know I said they all look so

interesting but I do know this I added be aware of your breathing as often as you are able whenever you remember do that for one year and it will be more powerfully transformative than attending all of these courses and it's free I personally think this is one of the easiest and yet the most effective tips especially for beginners simply be aware of your breathing notice the sensation of the breath feel the air moving in and out of your body notice how the chest and abdomen expand and contract slightly with the in and out breath one

conscious breath is enough to make some space where before there was the uninterrupted succession of one thought after another one conscious breath two or three would be even better taken many times a day is an excellent way of bringing space into your life number three feel the inner body no matter what your body's appearance is on the outer level beyond the outer form there's an intensely alive energy field if you're not familiar with inner body awareness close your eyes for a moment and find out if there is life inside your hands don't ask your mind

it will say I can't feel anything it will probably also say give me something more interesting to think about so instead of asking your mind go to the hands directly by this I mean becoming aware of the subtle feeling of aliveness inside them it's there you just have to go there with your attention to notice it you may get a slight tingling sensation at first and then a feeling of energy or aliveness if you hold your attention in your hands for a while the sense of aliveness will intensify some people won't even have to close

their eyes they will be able to feel their inner hands at the same time as they watch this then go to your feet keep your attention there for a minute or so and begin to feel your hands and feet at the same time then incorporate other parts of the body legs arms abdomen chest and so on into that feeling until you are aware of the inner body and its aliveness what the author calls the inner body isn't really the body anymore but Life Energy the bridge between form and formlessness make it a habit to feel

the inner body as often as you can after a while you won't need to close your eyes anymore to feel it body awareness not only anchors you in the present moment it's a doorway out of the prison that is created by the ego it also strengthens the immune system and the body's ability to heal itself if you think this was a useful video and more people should see it then hit that like button it doesn't cost you anything but it helps the video get recommended to others thank you very much for watching and have a

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