Louise Hay: Talk to Yourself Like This And Your Reality Will Shift (Listen Every Morning)

the past has no power over us the point of power is in this present moment and we can begin to be free right here and right now we do choose our own thoughts we may not think so but we do it seems to me that almost everyone on this planet myself included and everyone I've ever worked with is suffering from self-hatred and guilt to one degree or another the more of it we have the less our life works and the less of it we have the better our life works it's like the bottom line for

almost everyone that I know is I'm not good enough and we often add to that belief and I don't do enough and I don't deserve now if we have a very strong belief in our subconscious mind which to me is right here in the gut that I'm not good enough and I don't deserve then it's going to be extremely difficult for us to create a life that really works in all categories now you see no matter what the circumstances we are only dealing with a thought I don't believe in giving power to Outer effects we

may think that being broke is the problem I see this as the outer effect of an inner problem it's the inner thought patterns which create these effects I have discovered that patterns of resentment and criticism and fear and guilt cause more problems in our lives than anything else even on the physical level resentment that is held for a long time and literally eats it away at the body can become cancer criticism that's indulged for a long time can also lead to conditions like arthritis and if you look at arthritic hands you can almost see the

criticism in them fear can contribute to anything from baldness to poor feet and guilt always creates pain guilt seeks punishment and Punishment creates pain so if someone comes to me that is in chronic pain I know they're dealing with old guilt patterns love and joy and forgiveness are the big healers they all come from the heart the heart represents love and the blood in the body is Joy so a normal healthy heart lovingly pumps joy throughout the body nourishing all the cells and organs creating a loving joyous atmosphere for the cells to do their work

in if a heart has lost it its ability to express love and joy the Forgiveness will open the door most of our problems come from blaming others from not taking responsibility for ourselves and as I said if it is true that we are all responsible for everything in our lives then there's no one to blame not even ourselves and every outer experience is only a mirror of our inner thought patterns now this may be a new way of looking at life because most people like to think that it's all their fault it's the economy or

it's a husband or a wife or a boss or it's because we don't have money or it's whatever but really all those things out there are mirrors of what we think and believe inside for instance If Everyone is always criticizing you if you're a person that goes around saying everybody's always criticizing me then what I want you to realize is that it's your pattern to be criticized somewhere inside of you and you may not be aware of this there is a belief and it probably comes from your childhood that you deserve to be criticized and

so because of your belief and because of your pattern you pull people into your life who are critical and sometimes you can even attract people who normally are not critical but because they are with you and the vibrations that you're giving out you will pull the criticism out of them the other thing about this is if people criticize you a lot it's quite possible that you are very critical and because what we give out comes back to us then the criticism you're giving to other people or perhaps to yourself is being reflected by the people

around you so one of the first things I like to do with people when there is a problem is to have them begin to say I am willing to change the pattern in my Consciousness that is creating this condition I'm going to repeat that because it's very important when you have a problem you wish to change Begin by saying to yourself I am willing to change the pattern in my Consciousness that is created this condition this simple sentence begins to get things moving the Universal Power the universal energy the law of mind your subconscious mind

is constantly responding to every thought you think and every word you speak so the moment we make the smallest shift in Consciousness our experience begins to change it's your pattern it's my pattern we all have patterns we're working with and as I said most of the patterns we have come from the time we were 3 to 5 years old these are our beliefs about life our life scripts however we can change our attitudes towards the past and these life scripts we are never stuck you know it's really very foolish to punish ourselves in the now

because of some hurt in the past to be hurt once is one thing but then to continuously punish ourselves because of it is very sad and very unfulfilling it's important that we dissolve resentment now because it can cause so many problems in the future I've often said that to people do it before we're under the threat of the surgeon's knife you see then we have to deal with panic too it's much easier to do it now we have a choice of choosing to be a helpless victim and really believing it's all hopeless and if we

do the universe will support us in that belief and then all we do is go down the drain can you see how powerful we are our thoughts create our experiences if I want to think that I'm unlovable then I will be lonely for the rest of my life because I will prove my beliefs however if I want to change that belief into thinking that I am always surrounded by love and my life is full and Rich then that is what my life will become my life will have to become a mirror of my inner experiences

so one of the things we want to do is to begin to release the pain of the past to let it go and to be willing to forgive do you know the course in Miracle says that all illness comes from a state of non-for forgiveness and that whenever we are ill we need to look around to see who it is we need need to forgive now this does not necessarily mean condoning poor Behavior because I agree there are many people who behave poorly forgiving means to release our stuff on it and let ourselves be free

and the other person be free we understand that the people who mistreated us are also in pain that they are doing the best they can coming from the knowledge and awareness of an understanding that they have at that particular point in time and space I've learned over the years that there is only one thing to teach and that is love I teach people to love themselves in the here and now as they are self-approval and self-acceptance in the now are the keys to positive changes and this means no self-criticism in order to change our life

on the outside we must change inside at least be willing to change ourselves you don't have to know how to do this just be willing we'll work on the house remember and I'm going to say this often every thought we think and every word we speak is being responded to by the universal energy so the moment we say we're willing it's amazing how the universe begins to help us it brings us what we need you see there is a part of you that is ready to make an enormous change and this is why you have

created me in your life with the use of this tape and the ideas I'm sharing with you you have the opportunity to go over and over this tape and each time you do you're going to find a new idea to work with and each time you do you're going to look deeper into yourself and quite the contrary to what you may have believed in the past you are going to find incredibly beautiful Treasures within you first of all we need to figure out what the problem is I can oh I know you think you know

the problem you don't care for the weight of your body or you have an illness or you can't get your money act together or you're lonely or you have a relationship that's not working or you don't like your job or you want to do something very different or many things but to me these are all outer effects of an inner thought pattern that is creating them and if we spend our time just looking at the outer effects and working with those the moment we fix one will create another one because the inner belief is still

there and saying that we don't deserve on some level now it's safe to look within and let's do it together what I'd like you to do now is is to pick up your pen and paper or notebook and on the top of a page I want you to write I should and then I want you to finish that sentence in at least a half a dozen ways turn the tape off now and do that and when you finished come back and we'll continue write I should on the top of the page and then finish it

at least six or seven times all right now that you have your list made what I would like you to do is to read off each one on the list by itself saying I should and then my question to you is why this is not to make you wrong in any way but just to have you look at something in a different way so you may say I should get up early in the morning my question is why and then I want you to look inside yourself to find the answers do this with each should

on your list if you can do this exercise with a partner even better when you're finished with the list and made a note of your answers so that you remember them then come back to me and we'll go further I believe that should is one of the most awful words in the English language because every time we use the word should we are in effect saying wrong either you were wrong or you are wrong or you're going to be wrong and I don't think we need to be made wrong I think we need to be

right or at least come from a position of choice because all of life is choice and we want to be aware of that so I would like to take the word should and put it in the waste basket or throw it in the fire or in the trash or whatever you want to do remove it from your vocabulary forever and replace it with the word could because could gives us choice now it is true that sometimes it might be better for us to do something but basically we still have choice and if we don't do

it at least we're not wrong so what I want you to do now with this exercise is to reread your should list one at a time only this time I want you to say if I really wanted to I could if I really wanted to I could get up early in the morning and then my question to you is so why don't you or why haven't you and again this is not to make you wrong but to let you look at your shoulds and see how you really feel about them so again you can turn

turn the tape off for a few moments and go through this process if I really wanted to I could and so why haven't you and when you finished come back now tell me what did you learn you know most of us are so strict about our shoulds there's such rigid rules in our lives and most of them have to do with things that we either don't want to do or we don't like to do or are not us and we find often when we go over this should list that we've been angry at ourselves for

years because we don't do something that we don't want to do to begin with OR it was never our idea or it was someone else's should perhaps the reason you've not done something on your should list is because you were afraid to do so now instead of being bad we find that you are only frightened and this is a very different issue to work with see I like to take things off the should list in fact I like to remove them completely what we can do is have them be choices we could do them if

we really wanted to and if we're not doing them then we probably don't want to do them and we don't have to do them so let's not try let's not berate ourselves let's not belittle ourselves for it anymore this one one little tiny exercise can show us so much about ourselves so what can be dropped now from your should list the next thing we want to do is to see where we are on the ladder of self-love now I'm not talking about vanity and arrogance cuz that is not love that's a form of fear I

am talking about respect and acknowledgement for this beautiful being that we are what we want to look at at this point is how we do not love ourselves and we do this by scolding ourselves by criticizing ourselves by creating pain for ourselves emotional and physical we don't love ourselves by mistreating our bodies sometimes we misuse food or alcohol or drugs sometimes we don't love ourselves by believing that we are unlovable or by procrastinating or choosing people that mistreat us and sometimes we don't love ourselves by creating debt and burden and sometimes well we all have

so many ways what are your ways of not loving yourself think about that make a note of it you could again turn off the set and make a list of the ways that you do not love yourself any denial of our good is not loving ourselves and we can do that in so many different ways you know I once had a client who wore glasses and often wore contact lenses and we weren't even working to improve her vision but we were working to release some old pattern in her life that was really limiting her and

one day we had a big breakthrough and the next day when she got up and she put on her contact lenses they were bothering her so she took them out and her vision was absolutely clear she could see everything perfectly and she spent the whole day saying I don't believe it I don't believe it I don't believe it and the next day she was back to wearing her lenses you see the universe will back up whatever we say and when good comes into our life and we deny it this is an act of not loving

ourselves and we literally push it away sometimes s we have a partner who's tired or grouchy and we think that something's wrong with us or our marriage ends and we believe it's all our fault and that we're not good enough or we have one or two dates with somebody and they never call again and again we think something is wrong with us sometimes we're afraid to ask for a raise or our bodies may not match the latest fashions and we think we're not good enough or we don't make the sale or we don't get the

part and we think we're not good enough or we may have a fear of intimacy and so we wind up having no sex or anonymous sex how do you express your lack of self-esteem think about it it's not that we're wrong or bad people it's just that we're looking at what we'd like to change and we all have things about us that could be changed if we want to make our lives work better when we were little tiny babies we knew the Perfection of our being we knew how wonderful we were you look at any

tiny baby and you see how wonderful they are they're full of love and they're full of life and they ask for what they want and they express their feelings freely when a little baby is angry not only do you know it the entire neighborhood knows it and yet 2 minutes later their smile can light up a room because they express and it's over and they always live in the now and they reach out and ask for what they want they're fabulous little babies and they love their bodies from the top of their head all the

way to the tip of their toes they have no shame and no guilt and they're not into comparison and each one of us was like that then somewhere along the line we lost it we listen to other frightened or angry people and believed what they told us where did you lose your love for yourself all right what I'd like you to do now is to pick up your hand mirror and I want you to look into your own eyes and say I love and accept you exactly as you are I want you to do this

now go ahead I love and accept you exactly as you are just notice your reactions how do you react to doing this how do you feel what's coming up is it an easy exercise to do do you feel foolish does it seem hard to do does it make you feel angry what sort of reactions are you having I can remember when I used to criticize myself all the time when I looked in the mirror I remember the endless hours I used to to spend plucking my eyebrows to make myself barely acceptable and I also remember

I used to be frightened to look into my own eyes are you like that is this a difficult exercise because to me this is one of our core issues how we feel about ourselves it's not important what's happening out there it's not the size of our hips or our bank account or the fact that we have a lover or not but how we feel about ourselves loving the self to me is the most important thing we can do and this begins as I said before with no criticism do you criticize yourself oh I've heard all

the answers well of course I mean how am I going to change if I don't well if I don't do that I won't be able to motivate myself doesn't everyone or I've always criticized myself well we're not talking about everyone we're talking about you everybody has their own answers and their own reasons why do you criticize yourself what's wrong with you in fact at this point I'd like you to stop and give yourself a little time to think and make a list of all the things that you think are wrong with you and when you

finish that come back and we'll go on make a list list of all the things you think are wrong with you you will get the most out of this tape and the work we do if you allow yourself to take the time to do the exercises between the explanations now let's talk about your list think about your list is it full of Too Short Too Tall Too Young Too Old too stupid whatever it always seems to be a lot of twos and look at this list and notice does it go with your should list are

the items pretty much the same see it sounds to me like you're saying I'm not good enough and here we are again at the very bottom line not loving ourselves and this to me is the only real problem we have now the next question is where does this come from where do we get those ideas how did we go from the Perfection of a tiny baby who knew how wonderful it was to the feeling of being unlovable and unworthy and not good enough you know I like to think of us all as being like a

rose if you think of this flower this gorgeous Rose from the time it is the tiniest little bud as the petals begin to open till it becomes a full blossom till the the last Petal Falls a rose is always beautiful always perfect and Ever Changing and this is the way we are we are always perfect wherever we are in life and we want to see ourselves that way in the here and now yes of course there are things we want to change we all have things we want to alter in our lives but it doesn't

mean that we're bad people we don't have to come from a space of being wrong so in order to release ourselves from the belief we have about ourselves that are limiting we want to examine the past we want to see what these blocks are if we don't see them there's no way we can remove them so we look and we see what they are what are the beliefs what are the concepts what are the ideas that are limiting us and then we remove them to me it's rather like mental house cleaning all of us have

to clean house periodically some of us do it more often than others but there comes a time when you really must clean the house or it becomes impossible to live in and I think it's the same thing with our mental houses we need to periodically go through and do some house cleaning and toss out the old rubbish or the things that no longer suit us or no longer fit us and we want to polish up those ideas that are positive and good and that nourish us and use the them more often you know it really

can be almost as easy as scraping bits of food off a plate into the trash after a meal now you wouldn't go into yesterday's garbage to make tonight's meal but how often do we go into yesterday's mental garbage to create tomorrow's experiences the next exercise I'd like you to do is make a list of all the things your parents said were wrong with you all the negative messages you got again turn the tape off and give yourself a bit of time to really let things come up things that were said or implied about your body

things that were said about your abilities things that were said about love and money and your creative talents and things like that and of course I know that your parents also said some wonderful things to you but what we're really looking for are the negative messages that are probably still sitting in your subconscious mind at this point when I do this exercise in a workshop it's interesting how the energy of the room usually begins to go down and people start to get very depressed now you don't have to do that you can look at this

very objectively and just see what the messages are make your list of negative messages that came from your parents verbal or imp implied and do that now and then come back all right I want you to look at that list of negative messages all the things that you heard as a child because they're all sitting there in your subconscious mind unless you've done something to release them and let them go try to be objective about it and when you see something that creates a feeling within your body let yourself say oh so that's where this

belief came from and realize that you're finding a treasure because if you don't know where this came from you'd just be operating on automatic for the rest of your life and wondering why things aren't working for you or wondering why you're always having the same experience well I know why you repeat negative experiences you're creating them because of some belief in here and that belief came to you when you were very little not only from your parents but now if you'll dig a Little Deeper you'll find that it came from other sources too so again

I want you to continue this list of negative messages and look for the other negative messages you heard as a child mostly before the age of 10 things that you heard from your relatives from teachers from friends from from authority figures from the church take some time to do this and as you're doing it notice your body notice how your body is reacting and feeling make your list now of negative messages from other sources you see these messages that you have written down are the very thoughts that make you feel feel not good enough if

we had a 3-year-old child here in the middle of the room and each one of us started to yell at the child and tell it how no good it was and how stupid it was and it shouldn't do this and it should do that and how dare it make a mistake and look at the mess it made and maybe we hit that child a few times what are we going to have we're going to have a little child that cowers in the corner and behaves like a goody goodie or we're going to have a child

that tears up the room they will go one of two ways but there is no way we're ever going to know the potential of this child however if we take that same little child and we tell it how wonderful it is and how much we love it and how beautiful it is and that we just love the way it does things and we think it's so creative and that it's okay for this child to make mistakes while it learns then the potential that can come out of this child will blow your mind now each one

of us is always working with the three-year-old child within us and most of us unfortunately spend our time yelling at the child and then we wonder why our lives don't work maybe you were mistreated as a child maybe you were treated very badly and that's sad but if you're mistreating yourself in the here and now then this is sadder still still so you have quite a list of negative messages now let's look at this list does this list go with your other list of what's wrong with you and maybe even with your should list I

have a feeling it does our life scripts are based on our early messages and until we can find those messages we can't change our lives but remember all that is finished it's over it's in the past and if we just go into blame then we stay victim and that's no fun and you get to stay stuck in your problem blame keeps the problem it keeps us stuck in the problem and understanding Let's us rise above it the past cannot be changed and the future is shaped by our current thinking our freedom in the Here and

Now depends on our understanding our p parents having understanding and compassion for them instead of just blame we want to know that like us they were doing the best they could at that point in time and space with the understanding and awareness and knowledge that they had blame is not taking responsibility for ourselves and our own creative power you see they were just as frightened and scared as we are and they could only teach us what they had been taught what do you know about your parents childhood before the age of 10 think about it

for a while how much do you know and if you don't know much and your parents are still alive try to find out not in an accusing way but just ask them what was it like to be a little child what was it like when you were 5 years old and if your parents are gone and you can't find out from then then let yourself imagine what it could be like what kind of a childhood would your parents have had to have them be the sort of people they were when you were little understanding creates

compassion you see you can't Free Yourself until you free them and you can't forgive yourself until you forgive them now perhaps you you also have brothers or sisters if they are older they may have been like Gods to you and you may have taken very seriously the things that they said sometimes they may have considered you a nuisance and you got the idea you weren't good enough teachers often say things that shape Our Lives I remember when I was in the fifth grade and the teacher called me up and said what do you want to

do in life and I said oh I want to be a dancer and she said to me oh let's leave that to the shorter girls tall girls can't dance and I thought oh dear and I put away all my dancing aspirations in my pocket and literally didn't take them out till I was well over 40 school also creates so many interesting beliefs for instance if we think about tests and grades were you really aware as a child that the tests you took and the grades you were getting had nothing to do with your selfworth that

they were showing you only how much you knew about a particular subject and that's all and most of us go through life reacting to the fear that we had as children when we had to take a test we thought it had to do with whether we were good enough or not when you were a child your friends were just as mixed up as you were and had their own misinformation and may have taught you much nonsense or they may have said things that were very cruel you had neighbors what did the neighbor neighbors say what

did they think were you afraid of them were they friends then you think of the ads on TV and in the magazines how did they shape how you feel about yourself there are so many products that are sold on the basis of trying to teach you that you're not good enough or acceptable enough unless you use their product do you buy into that or do you see their game see our old messages of limitations come from many places and it always comes down to where did we get the messages that we're not good enough and

then of course the next thing is how to transcend our limitations no matter what they told us see it doesn't matter what other people say about us it's how we react to it and what we're choosing to believe about ourselves you know Gerald jampolsky has written a couple of Wonderful books in teach only love he said something I thought was brilliant he said if you want to increase your spiritual growth as quickly as possible or if you want to get out of a problem as quickly as possible choose to think only happy thoughts you see

you can only think one thing at a time you can spend your time thinking about joyous experiences you can love yourself or you can spend your time doing what I call griping and grungy thinking about the past and all the failures and all the things that went wrong and how you're not good enough and how things may go wrong in the future is a sure way to continue to have failures but that's not the way to create a wonderful life loving yourself and thinking joyful happy thoughts is the quickest route you can take so the

next question is now that we've looked at all these things now that we have this list of all the things that are wrong with us and the list of all the things our parents said were wrong with us and the neighbors and the friends and the church and the authority figures the next question is is it true look at your list what do you still believe is true for you is it really true and the answer to me is both yes and no all these negative things are true if you believe them about yourself and

they're not true if you don't believe them and you can tell what you believe just by looking at your experiences if you have a lack of finances or you really can't get your money act together then there must be a belief within you of burdens and debts if you're a lonely person then there must be a belief in there that says nobody loves me or I'm unlovable if you're ill a lot then you must have crippling thoughts of some sort you may not consciously be aware of these thoughts but if you look to your circumstances

you can begin to see what kind of thoughts you must have so think of all the things in your life that are not working because that's what we're concentrating on now this is what we want to change and ask yourself what kind of thoughts could be creating these conditions could they be some of the things on your list some of the beliefs that we have are very positive and nourishing and we want to keep those beliefs we want to use them often because they work for us and some of the things we believe are no

longer appropriate and some of the things we believe were never true they were someone else's fears all those things on your list were other people's opinions so the question you have to ask yourself is is it true and you'll get the answer by looking around you at your circumstances you see our circumstances always show us what we believe I remember once when I was a little girl in school and this memory is so vivid for me because it's so typical of my beliefs about myself at the time I remember that we had a party in

school and it was a Gala Affair and everybody brought a lot of party stuff and things like that and there was lots of cake and there was so much cake that when the teacher was cutting it several children got several pieces of cake and yet when it was my turn and I came up for a piece of cake and of course with my belief system I was last there was no cake left and all the children who had cake all the time and who believed that it was their right to have cake were having lots

of cake and I who never had cake and believed that I was not good enough and did not deserve any there wasn't one piece left for me it's a perfect example of how we create our circumstances by our beliefs you see if you grew up in a family where you were told all the time that it's all your fault then you're going to go around feeling guilty most of your life and probably saying I'm sorry all the time or you will manipulate others through guilt if you have a belief that nobody loved you then you're

either going to have no romances or you'll probably have very short romances if we go around saying well that's the way I am or that's the way life is that's expressing a belief and perhaps it came from other people's opinions it's not true for us or it is true for us depending on how we accept it stop accepting their limitations we always have another way of looking at life you know many people get up in the morning and if it's raining they look out the window and say oh what a lousy day well it isn't

a lousy day it's a wet day but if we choose to believe it's a lousy day then that's what we'll have because we will create it if we choose to believe it's a wet day then we'll put on the appropriate clothing and do what we do on rainy days there is no good or bad there is no right or wrong except that we make it so and you know every culture on this planet has different rules about those things it's what we believe that makes things right or wrong or good or bad and again it's

the old thing what we give out we get back and usually IND double we want to begin to shift our beliefs today to be willing to allow the changes to happen the point of power is always in the present moment and all these old things these lacks these limitations these beliefs can return to the nothingness from whence they came they came out of nothing and they can go back to it you are the power no person no place no thing has any power over you I can give you lots of good advice and lots of

Wonderful ful new ideas but if you choose not to accept them then you're in control for you have the power you are the only person that thinks in your mind and you create your experiences and just for this moment I want you to catch the thought you're thinking right now and ask yourself is it negative or is it positive or is it neutral do you want this thought to create your future now because we think so quickly and the thoughts just go whizzing through our minds it's not always so easy to begin changing our thoughts

you can start by editing your speech begin to listen to what you say and don't say anything that you don't want to become true for you there are literally billions of thoughts that you can think and infinite numbers of things that you can say make these be nourishing thoughts pick thoughts that create nourishing experiences for you don't waste time thinking thoughts that create problems for you and then try to fix the problem that to me is foolish and a waste of time one of my very early teachers used to say often there is not something

to do there is something to know because truly when we change our thinking we change our experience es all right so what do we do now well I think we can decide to change that to me is the most important thing now oh we can throw up our hands in horror and give up or get angry or feel that it's all helpless and hopeless but these are old and useless ways of handling things if we think oh it's hopeless so why try because at least I can handle the pain and I know what that is

well that's just getting stuck and staying in the same old place and you certainly have the choice of doing that but you don't have to and getting angry about circumstances well to me that's like sitting in a corner with a dunce hat on you know something happens and we get angry and something else happens and we get angry and we don't do anything about it do you know that people who commit suicide do so because they won't change their mind they believe that life is only one way and they don't want to look in another

way or see another Viewpoint they refuse to believe there are other possibilities and so they leave the planet instead getting angry or upset continuously because things aren't working again is sort of foolish and a wasted energy what is really better is for you to ask yourself how am I creating so many situations to be angry or upset at and then sit down and really give yourself a chance to think about that what could I be doing or believing that is creating this and again this is not to make you wrong but just to let you

look at what could be happening when we start this work I like to think of it very much like the end of a Thanksgiving dinner you know you've had all this wonderful Thanksgiving dinner and everybody's eaten much too much and then it's time to go into the kitchen and clean up the turkey pan and there it sits all crusty and burnt and it looks a mess so the first thing you do is to put in some hot water and soap and you let it soak and then after it's soaked for a while you start to

scrape it and all these bits come up and then it really looks a mess and if you didn't know better you'd think that the pan would always be disgusting however if you keep going after a little while you're going to have a nice clean turkey pan our Consciousness is very much like that when we begin to do this work we go in and we start to clean our mental turkey pan and sometimes things get worse before they get better we want to know that it's okay if that happens and to just flow with it I

think mirror work is very important and the more we can do it the more we can reflect to ourselves elves where we are and what we need to do so keep looking in the mirror and saying to yourself I am willing to change and I am willing to release the resistance I am willing to change and I am willing to release the resistance now all of us have to deal with what I call resistance to change and we all have resistance because on some level we want everything in every one out there to change but

we don't want to have to change ourselves and yet changing ourselves is the very thing we must do in order to change our lives so awareness is our next step we must become aware of what it is that we believe otherwise we don't know what to change our first reaction to a new awareness about ourselves is often resistance and that's all right because any reaction is good it means the change is already in process let yourself notice how you react so that you are aware of what's going on our lessons are not necessarily easy if

they were easy they wouldn't be lessons it takes time and effort to learn what we need to learn so don't demand instant change let yourself do it step by step it will get easier as you go along too often we get impatient and we want to do things right now impatience is only resistance to learning it means you want the goal without going through the process you know we can sit here and say I want to be in the other room and we can even demand and insist that we are in the other room right

now but we don't want to make the effort of getting up and going one step at a time in order to get to the other room and we can sit here for days and keep yelling and insisting we want to be in the next room and nothing will happen except that we get frustrated however if we make the effort and take the steps no matter how small one by one before you know it we will be there keep noticing what is going on in your body and what form your resistance may be taking it's fascinating

to watch how the mind works s and learns and the thing we resist the most is often that which we most need to learn if you keep saying I can't or I won't you're probably referring to a lesson that is important to you think for a moment what do you think you came to this planet for what is your lesson what did you come to learn and what did you come to teach I do not believe you came here to be miserable or to be unfulfilled I believe you came here to be fulfilled and to

give of yourself to others we are all teachers and students we are learning and we are teaching you could ask yourself that question before you go to sleep tonight what did I come here to learn and what did I come here to teach