How Long Does it Take An Avoidant Ex to Regret Losing You?

how long does it take an avoid an ex to regret losing you this tends to be a very common question that most people have after going through a breakup with an avoidant because they just simply do not understand or even know if this avoidant is going to ever regret losing you what I ended up doing is breaking this down in months to kind of give you a better idea as to what is going on and when this avoidant will feel that regret if they ever do in month 0 to2 this is immediately after the breakup

and this is especially we and avoidant does not feel any type of regret at all they are in fact relieved that the relationship is over and the reason why this happens is because they know that they don't have to deal with any emotional intensity or conflict whatever it is that they don't want to have to deal with they know that they are not having to now because the relationship is over so this is where you tend to see their avoidant thriving right they act as if there's nothing wrong and that they are just living their

best life which is very confusing and upsetting to you because you are having a hard time with this right even though you had to go through all of their Shenanigans as being in avoidant and everything else and you're still feeling regret or hurt or whatever it might be they're just out there frolicking having the best life and displaying as if they really just don't care this is a temporary relief for them because they know that they don't have to deal with anything at this point in time they just are essentially doing whatever they want and

they're feeding themselves all these different things to make them feel feel good about this relationship being over now in month 2 to 4 this is where they expect you to chase them and if you don't this is where confusion starts to kick in when it comes to an avoidant they really do believe that you are going to always be available in some way or some form they're expecting you to chase them in a sense here right because they've experienced that throughout the relationship when you guys were in a relationship you were always the one that

was trying to make things work right you were doing everything that you possibly can even when they were complet completely pushing you away and just not even engaging at all you were still trying to do everything that you possibly could to try to get to this person because you genuinely L them and you were just trying to make things work out so they in a sense took that and run with it and believe that this is how things are always going to be because there's a part of them that also wants to make themselves feel

super secure in the relationship in the sense that they can do whatever they want really and that you are going to always be there right they don't want to ever really face a reality that they could lose you because that would cause them to start to take things seriously in the sense that they will have to start addressing the emotions of you being gone and potentially realizing that they were the one that caused everything to not work out because of their avoiding attachment style they're always trying to perpetuate this facade that nothing will ever bother

them that they're prepared for everything and they are emotionally stable at all costs but this is not the case and this is especially exposed here when you stick to not reaching out to them or chasing them at all so they're not really fully regretting losing you but they're starting to be woken up and being confused as to things not going the way that they're expecting it to in month 4 to six this is typically where they start to see you thriving in some way or some form and this is where doubt starts to set in

this is where they can no longer start to ignore those emotions right this is starting to creep up there starting to realize the magnitude of their decisions and being in avoidant and not trying to work with you and they're realizing that you are starting to move on with your life as one naturally would in this time frame so because of this they start to get scared they really have to start to confront things and realize that they can't just run away from this anymore and you know continue these lies to make themselves feel 100% good

and secure in the way that they're being right they're actually starting to have to face the reality that you could simply move on and never turn back and that is something that starts to scare them because again they are of the impression that you are just waiting around for them to get right back into the relationship and the way things are as if nothing happened once they're ready to do so so this is where it starts to really settle in and they start to feel regret but they might not act on it still now around

month six is where their distractions wear off completely and this is where they start to really fully feel regret they are essentially no longer using any and all excuses that they've been telling themselves to make them feel good about losing you and how they're thriving and they're going to be okay and they don't have to deal with any of the emotions of just naturally breaking up with someone they are being bombarded all at once it is flooding them entirely and they are really having to sit down and realize the magnitude of losing you right they

even will go so as far as to compare different partners or maybe even different people that they were interested into to you and they really start to see the magnitude of what they've lost in you because chances are you were the best thing to happen to them right you did everything that you possibly could to meet this person where they're at and to try to accommodate for them and their attachment style and just doing above and beyond to make this whole thing work and they took it for granted this entire time they just expected that

you were going to always be this way and that you were going to put up with this attachment style and they just simply did not need to do anything to try to address this attachment style and work towards healing from this so because they've gone so long in this belief they never really contemplated a reality where you were going to completely move on and they would lose the best thing that ever happened to them you could typically see them start to panic here in the sense that they might start to reach out to you out

of nowhere and act like someone you would expect to act when they first gone through the beginning stages of the breakup right where they reaching out to you trying to do everything that they can to work things out they may express emotions if they missing you all these different things that you would expect to happen in the beginning of something like that all of a sudden are happening months even sometimes years afterwards which is so confusing to you because there's been so much time and it's just like why is all this happening now especially when

I'm for the most part moved on and have really no interest into trying to make this work again but this tends to be the delay that they experience and because they've gone so long with just pushing this aside they've never got to deal with the real emotions and reactions to losing someone like you and it hits them all at once which is going to cause any person to act irrational and to have their flight or flight react and to have this urgency to try to do something to resolve this now with all of this being

said this is typically what you could expect to see an avoidant go through as far as the timeline for when they will regret losing you but the honest and real reality that I want you to consider is that this may not ever happen right they may not go through any of this they may go through a variation of it whatever it might be you have no control over it this person is going to do what they think is best for them and depending upon how strong this avoid an attachment style it is going to drastically

change these things it might be completely different from what you're seeing here even though this is typically what you could expect and this is so important for you to understand because you may start to try to time this out and try to look at the calendar and see how long it is and you'll be disappointed if they don't do any of this and I don't want you to take this as law and to sit there and try to wait around because it's only going to make things even worse for you but what I hope that

you're kind of getting from this video is that this could take a very long time and while you are sitting around waiting for this person to try to show some interest or show some regrets so that maybe you guys can work things out they may not ever do this and even if they go through this timeline there is no guarantee that this person is going to change their ways and you won't go through this entire thing over and over again I know that there's a part of you that cares about them and you want to

see if there's a way for you guys working things out but you have to at some point in time accept things for what they are and also ask yourself is this something that you want to continue to put up with you've done everything that you possibly can there's really not much more that you can do and do you want to have to put so much time and effort and energy into a relationship where someone is not even giving an ounce of that back you deserve somebody who's going to be emotionally available for you and wants

to naturally grow with you and try to work things out when needed in order to have a healthy relationship all the things that you would expect in a healthy loving relationship this tends to not typically be what you are expecting so I think you already know what the answer hair is for you and I know it might be hard but it is so important for yourself to listen to that side of you and figure out what you need to do to heal and move on from this I hope you did enjoy today's video if you

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