how to completely destroy approach anxiety fast as in this video I'm going to start off by showing you guys why you haven't been able to accomplish this so far then we're going to be going into the mindset that you need to have to be in position for success and then towards the tail end of this video I'm going to show you guys the exact structure you need to do in the upcoming weeks to completely remove all social anxiety altogether and I'm going to be demonstrating these Concepts live yes towards the tail end of this video
there's going to be live footage of me in the field showing you the exact steps that we're going over and how to implement it properly that way you can do the exact same thing let's jump into the first part of this video which is the reasons that men fail when it comes to overcoming social anxiety or approach anxiety first of which being is that they have no structure they have no process to go about tackling this Challenge and so when you're out in your dayto day and you see a hot girl you're thinking about this
whole process of how am I going to go up and get that girl how am I going to ask her out how am I going to flirt with her what if she rejects me this big thought process with a thousand different concepts in it leads to confusion frustration it's overwhelming and there's just too much pressure for a lot of dudes and so you don't even go up and say anything to that girl because that whole process is this really overwhelming High pressured situation that you've created and it doesn't need to be that way all right
watch this till the end of the video guys I'm going to show you small easy structure for you to be going out and doing in tiny baby steps to actually get a result with this thing the next reason men fail with this is they have bad selft talk around the whole thing they go out they have a shitty night out or they don't go up and approach that girl because again it's an overwhelming process and so the negative selft talk starts to beat them down they tell themselves I suck at this I'm never going to
get good at this yeah that girl rejected me because I'm a loser or or whatever is going on in your head it makes it an unenjoyable experience you're not getting rewarded for putting in effort and every time you're going out internally you're actually beating yourself down and it's no wonder that that's going to lead to frust ation burnout confusion or just make the whole process really unenjoyable the final point of why men fail with this is they have nobody to share the experience with they're going about this process on their own they don't have anyone
to talk to there's no community in place they don't have friends that are going out and pushing them there's no inspiration there's no motivation there's no sense of competitiveness or friendly competition around the whole thing because if you were surrounded by dudes that were actually going about this thing making it fun playfully challenging you around the whole thing or maybe even encouraging you when you needed that that talk it would you would be a lot more likely to execute on this thing properly in fact most dudes who are Naturals Naturals with women or naturally socially
confident that's the reason that they're naturally socially confident they had a really good upbringing in school they had a lot of friends they were you know higher up in sports or they were just naturally physically attractive so a lot of women just gave them attention and so they grew up in environments where there was people around them pushing them or encouraging them and most motivating them or giving them the reassurance that they were that guy and that's why they're naturally you know very socially confident However unfortunately for guys like me or most likely you we
didn't have that amazing upbring maybe we had somewhat of an upbring but then there was like a downside or Co happened or relationship happened and now we're no longer that guy that's the bad part of it however the good news is we can give our brains the evidence and Surround ourselves in environments where we can become that guy and again more details on this towards the second half of the video but the very first thing you got to understand is why you're not getting good at this it's having the wrong mindset having the wrong Viewpoint
of the structure of what it takes to get good at this and being able to execute on that process consistently while making it at least somewhat of an enjoyable maybe even competitive friendly experience I was the exact same way I grew up extremely antisocial my dad passed away when I was 12 years old I pretty much closed off from the world and D really deep into weed and video games in my teenage years I was too afraid to ask a girl to go to the high school dance with me in high school so I I
never asked the girl to go to the dance I was too afraid to show up to the dance alone I spent my college Years commuting to college sitting in the back of the class and as soon as class was over I would run home I did a pizza delivery job where I was pretty much stoned off my ass while I was working and I I just never really worked on my social skills the first girl I ever got with became my girlfriend she left me after 4 and 1/2 years into the relationship for another dude
on my birthday literally on my 24th birthday so I was in my mid 20s and I had no experience no confidence pretty much starting at Ground Zero with this stuff and I had to crawl my way out of that so wherever you're at I'm telling you this to let you know there's hope okay I've made a massive transformation my coaches my team and 600 plus dudes who have gone through my program have made a massive transformation as well so there's no reason you can't do the same and as I'm saying this if this interests you
you can click the link in the description and apply for a free consultation call if you want to actually work with me to get better with this but that's really Point number one is around why dudes still around this but now let's transition into Point number two which is what your mindset actually needs to be to get really good with this stuff so I was just explaining that we don't yet have the evidence that we could be good at this our whole lives we've never gotten positive feedback or positive reference experiences showing us that we
can approach women successfully and so we don't take action on it however the way that your mindset is going to evolve and become more socially confident it's not just by watching a video all right you don't just watch a video and suddenly you're you're confident we take action on a thing in a small step and as we take that first step over and over and over again we get more comfortable and confident and only that step there's a lot of different steps when it comes to increasing your social confidence and being able to attract and
date beautiful women however that big step is too intimidating and that's why we don't go up and approach women but what I'm telling you is let's just break this down into one small step that we could actually do right now and execute on that step and once we get more confidence around that step your mindset will start to follow it and as a result we can then confidently go about taking step two and then step three and then step four and it's through that process of breaking this down into small easy executable steps that we
can actually do rewiring our brain and the selft talk that's going on as we go through each step that's how we're going to actually get results with this okay so in just a moment I'm going to show you the step-by-step structure that you need to go through regardless of what level you're at so I'll show show you that road map in just a minute and I'm going to demo each step of that live for you guys watch till the end of this video okay but before we get to that I just want to explain what
the selft talk needs to be as you're going through these steps you got to positively reinforce in your brain that you're doing the right thing you're taking the right action and you're completing the step and as a result you need to congratulate yourself problem that most men do is they go out they approach the girl they get a rejection they start telling themselves I suck at this that's going to lead to you beating yourself down and you're going to hate going about doing this and you're going have a negative outlook on the whole thing and
it's a self-fulfilling prophecy of you going down down down this I'm quitting and you never get good at it however if you look at it as Tiny Steps that we can build up to and as you're doing each step even if you got a bad reaction your mindset is still yeah I did that step yeah let's go and you keep doing that step until you're confident with it eventually you'll get to a point where you could do the next step and then the next step every step of the way it's a yeah let's go all
right that's what the mindset is that's what the selft talk is to rewire your brain to stay focused on action-based goals and build yourself up in this area of your life anything that you're confident with in your life right now whether it's guitar whether it's video games whatever the it is you're confident at something in your life right now and the reason you're confident with that thing is because you tried it and then you tried it and then you tried it again and again and again and eventually you did that first step of guitar you
learn how to play that chord you didn't play the chord right the very first time you played it but then you tried it you listened to it you tried again you listen to it you tried again and eventually you started getting really good at that step and that gave you the the confidence to play a chord progression eventually you played that chord progression enough times and you gave your brain the evidence that you could play that chord progression good enough and as a result you started to feel confident around playing guitar and eventually you told
yourself I'm actually good at guitar because I played this enough times and now I feel good at guitar I know I'm good at guitar because I've given my brain the evidence and that's a exactly what I'm showing you guys what to do in this video and so now that we understand why men fail and you understand the structure that we need to do let me show you the step-by-step process that you guys can be going out and implementing whether it's daytime or night time to actually start building up your social confidence when it comes to
approaching people and like I said earlier guys when you see a hot girl and you start thinking about is she out of my league how am I going to get that girl on a date slow the down we're not anywhere near that level yet if you're not already at a point where you can confidently talk to strangers have conversations get comfortable with teasing flirting and running and interaction then you're absolutely right that girl's out of your leag you're not in a position to go up and approach that girl and run a 10 to 20 minute
interaction and ultimately get her phone number and set up a date that doesn't mean you can't get there by all means I want you to get there I've helped a lot of people get there I'm going to show you the process to go through that but we're just not there yet so how do we start this off well when it comes to social confidence and just approaching people in general I tell guys dude before we even worry about a conversation let's just get comfortable with step one let's just get comfortable saying things to people in
passing with no expectation of even getting a response and with no expectation of even having a conversation the moment you start thinking about what am I going to say after I've opened you're thinking about step two and if you're not already comfortable with step one and you haven't been doing step one enough times yet don't worry about step two yet dude so the way that this starts is I just want you guys to be going out and saying something to people in passing your walking past them and you say something to them this could be
a greeting or this could be a compliment and you say it in passing and the moment you say the thing I don't care if they respond or not it's a yeah let's go that's already a massive step in the right direction if you're if you're not doing that already in your day today that's something you need to start doing all right if you're going out at night time you can start saying this too you can start giving compliments in passing you could ask a quick question about hey do you know where the bathroom is do
you know what time the venue closes do you know where the where the bar is do you know how to get to the the upstairs you can ask question hey what kind of drink is that hey I like blank where did you get that from you can say one line when you're out during the night time people will give you an answer and you can then eject from the conversation or if you're going about this in the daytime and ideally you do a combination of both guys but if you're going out during the daytime you
just start saying things in passing to people and a recommendation I would I would say is an easy way is to just start by saying five times per day say something to people in passing you don't need to go to the club you can go to the grocery store you can go to the gym you could go to that yoga class that dance class you could go to the the downtown area that you live in you can go to the malls you could go anywhere you want there's people in your dayto day guys I don't
care if you're working at home 12 hours a day you have 30 minutes during lunch you can go to the cafe you can go after work you can take a break you could wake up earlier you could go in the afternoon you can go after work you need to figure out how you can dedicate 15 to 30 minutes a day to get in some social interaction everybody buys groceries every most people go to the gym most people are outside of the house at some point in the day you need to figure out what's going on
in your environment so you can start working on this thing so once we're starting to get more comfortable saying things to people in passing I still want you to keep doing five of those per day and I want you to go up and give a compliment to a girl that you're attracted to you don't need to display in 10 yet but I want you to give her a compliment something like hey I really like your hat nice jacket nice shoes very cute dog by the way whatever you notice about the girl you can give her
a compliment on in passing and I want you to do this consistently until you you get comfortable doing that the first time you go out it's going to feel really weird every time you say the thing you reward yourself yeah let's go nice dude I did this yesterday I'm on day two of this it feels a little uncomfortable but I'm moving in the right direction because previously I wasn't doing anything at all so yeah let's go now to go one step further than that we're going to start doing say something to five people in passing
and then three compliments to girls and if you're walking around and you're like there's some girls here I'm not that attracted to it's okay you don't need to wait for the 10 out of 10 stunner to walk by lower your criteria right now lower your standard a little bit and it's okay to give out genuine compliments as long as the girls like at least mildly attractive because you got to start somewhere guys now you're going to consistently do that step until you're getting more comfortable with that each point in this progression no matter what it's
going to start off with you saying something to five people in passing in your day-to-day and the reason behind that is very simple you need to just start practicing being the social guy in your day-to-day guys if you're in the elevator you need to say good morning how's it going if you're walking by somebody you say hey what's up man how's it going have a good day take care if the person at the front desk is there hey what's up George what's going on man have a good day brother take care you walk into the
the cafe if there's somebody sitting down you say hey good morning you say hey Barista what's going on how's your day going no matter what step we're going into this guys the minimum is you need to say something to five people in passing every day no matter what it doesn't need to all be 10 out of 10 dimes but you need to just become that guy you need to just start practicing ING saying more things to people in passing if you can't do that there's no way in hell you're going to go up to that
10 out of 10 stunner and get her number and go on a date it just doesn't work that way you can't fight the black belt until you can consistently throw a jab in training on a daily basis that's just the way it is you can't play the guitar solo if you never pick up the guitar and just practice running through a scale every day that's just the way it is you need to become that guy and what I'm saying is not that crazy of a task I'm telling you to say something to find people in
passing every day with no expectation of even getting a response start putting good energy out into the world it's going to feel good when you say good morning and even if they don't say anything you you walk by you say yeah let's go you hype yourself up your selft talk is what gets you more in state putting out the energy into the world is what get you in state not the girl's reaction I'm not dependent on any person's reaction to make myself feel good I make myself feel good because I stack my WIS throughout the
dayto day and now I want you guys to start practicing doing three hard stops and giving a compliment and that would look something like stopping the girl completely and saying hey excuse me I actually have to get going but I just wanted to say blank compliment that's what you need to get good at doing too if you're going out doing night game most people will be stationary in which case you're going to go up to them and just say hey I actually have to get going but I just wanted to say blank compliment all right
take care from there now we're going to go one step further and when you're stopping the person and you're giving the compliment I want you to display a little bit of intent this is the breaking point point where a lot of dudes start to fall off when it comes to displaying some level intent and that's why you need to work your way up to this point it starts off by you just being able to say five things and passing then it goes from five things and passing to giving a genuine compliment then it goes from
compliments to being able to hard stop somebody they're walking by and say hey excuse me I just wanted to say really quickly blank compliment have a nice day take care now we're going into actually displaying intent hey excuse me I got to get going but I just want to say really quickly I thought you looked really cute today all right take care have a good day get comfortable doing that step guys for most men that is the biggest step and if you're ever struggling for this like let's say you go out for a day and
you try to do that and you can't complete that step dial it back one and really focus on doing the previous step and getting comfortable with that and maybe at the end of the next day's session you just tell yourself I got to say this to at least one person before I go home today and you go out you do the thing say the self talk is okay I'm just going to say this and I'm going to go home I got to do this I got to do this one thing before I go home all
right you got to do it man this is the challenge right here so you go out you say that thing you go home yeah let's go all right and I want you to consistently practice that step over and over and over again and eventually it'll get to a point where some girls will actually respond positively to you that's the reinforcement you need to show yourself I can do this man I can do this I just got to stay consistent with it you don't got to go crazy but you do this thing consistently the way that
we could build off of this is eventually you want to get to a point where you could stop the girl you could display some level of of intent and then you ask her a question after that she responds and eventually you will get to a point where you can actually extend the conversation if you go through that process over the span of weeks and really do this with some level of consistency that's how you will get to a point where you're desensitize to the idea of approaching people displaying intent and carrying a conversation obviously there's
higher levels than that for the guys that are going on dates for the guys that are going out during night time there is more in-depth conversation structure and all these different techniques you can do but don't worry man like we'll get to that stuff later on there's a lot of other content on my channel around all that stuff I just wanted to break this down because the idea of this video is approach anxiety and starting interaction so when you have the right mindset you understand the step-by-step structure that you should be building up and going
about doing this somewhat consistently along with hitting yourself with the right selft talk that rewarding selft talk after each step that's how you could really build the skill set up now the one part around this that that I already mentioned earlier on is that a lot of dudes they don't have friends in this thing they don't have anybody to talk to around this they don't have a community they don't have like-minded men with this they don't have guidance and accountability and and the structure they need for their own lives and that's okay in this video
I showed you guys like some easy structures that you can start playing around with in your own life but as I'm saying this if you want help with this if you want to actually work with me my team be in my community so we could FastTrack your results with this with online dating with night game I can help you with that man I can help you transform your social confidence and really land that abundant dating life you've always wanted click the link in the description fill out an application for an opportunity to work with me
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