"Attractive Women are Docile, Silent and Childlike": Infantilising Femininity

I interviewed somebody and he said women are children right you know what yeah women lack rationality emotional stability that men have which is a critical component to maturity I literally think that if I didn't have my dad helping me with like you know the YouTube channel I'm a woman I would just like you know flop and just like chill out so women are effectively children women stop maturing as soon as they Start to get sexual attention from men but that makes them very lazy okay and since that makes them very lazy there's no need to

do what self-develop like I don't know I I can't make that adult decision I've made an adult decision to be here this is good for me right now in this country but long term I don't know how the world Works which a lot of younger women tend to not understand this because they filter things through their emotions versus ration and logic Women have to be monitored and maintained and maintenanced effectively like a childwood when it comes to like a child yeah same exactly the same so I have to find someone who I can trust enough

to say layout we're living there I'll be like okay thank God you CH I just like I don't know this is why they say oh she's pretty but dumb I want to get your advice on me okay 42 single successful millionaire what should I be looking for In the dating scene a 22-year-old homeschooled virgin but willing to be trained yeah yeah 2 to willing to be trained that's a good start [Music] okay in recent years there has been something of a cultural swing back to making women feminine again I think this is down to several

things firstly women naturally feeling like they might have to give up aspects of their Womanhood in order to have a career or be successful And then wanting to be seen as feminine again or Embrace their femininity I think also you know the general resentment of feeling like a lot of the cultural messaging is telling us that femininity is naturally weak so I think that probably adds adds to this cultural swing back and then also from men disillusioned and unhappy with dating and relationships from them kind of looking back at the 50s and 60s with rose

tinted glasses and saying women Aren't what they used to be now to make a quick disclaimer I would say that to some extent this is a cause I agree with I think femininity is something that has never really been allowed to properly thrive in the past in my opinion it was largely oppressed or controlled and in the present it seems to be largely seen as weak or pathetic or embarrassing or useless being masculine is the only way for a woman to be strong and respected everything women do is gross and useless Uh be like a

man and then you'll be valued in society yeah I don't like that messaging either um and that's not to say that everyone is giving off that messaging but I think that's been kind of a big thing um in recent years I've been known for making videos about the strengths in femininity the value in it and that it's it's more than okay for women to be feminine and most importantly of all the femininity is not synonymous with weakness despite this Being what some voices on both sides of the political Spectrum seem to be saying having said

that some people adult people if you can believe it appear to have all the depth and understanding of a 5-year-old who's just seen Snow White for the first time when it comes to their understanding of what it means to be a woman rather than oh I don't know having the slightest bit of critical thinking or Nuance about it taking into account that there are different Feminine archetypes and different ways women Express that femininity according to temperament and personality type they have decided in their Divine wisdom that being a woman means that you have no wants

desires opinions or dreams other than those of your husband it means that you are an empty vessel malleable formable controllable deficient in personality and disabled in intellect like a cloud really and that friends is the true meaning of what it is to be a Woman to be a woman is to have no pathway forward for spiritual growth any real kind of way for self-improvement or self-actualization it means to have no responsibility accountability or autonomy to be a woman means to be an eternal child with someone else as your Lord and Master I'm not just being

hyperbolic there this is something I hear a lot of Internet idiots saying these days women are like children women are basically children fresh and fit say It Pearl constantly says it um and now some religious people are saying it I find this interesting because the mostly men plus Pearl saying this seem simultaneously to be angry resentful and disdainful of the fact that women are like children this they're angry about this they see this as a fundamental flaw and yet at the same time that's how they want women to be and they declare any action that

separates a woman from that dependent childlike status makes her Unattractive and masculine because only men are allowed their own opinions it's a little bit damned if you do damned if you don't like um if you acting as they believe women are and and being acting like a child it's oh my God you're so childish women are so like pathetic and childish you're so annoying and childish look oh emotional out of control just like a baby you're a baby you're a little baby you're so annoying how much like a child you are but if you're not

Then it's you're so masculine oh no I don't like that what do you mean you make decisions for yourself how can you ever expect to find a man when you know you don't leave room for him in your life you know you're acting you're acting too manly you're acting like the fact that you think that you think you could be just as capable as us that's like H you should be you should really be more childish that's how it feels sometimes hearing a lot of these guys uh Speak I think this really this attitude tells

us a lot about how a certain corner of the internet views femininity and how women should be for them the only form of true femininity um is girlhood or rather immature undeveloped and infantilized feminine behaviors I I can't make that adult decision this is a very small box that I believe stunts women's growth pushes them towards manipulative and babyish behaviors and actually creates in women the complete Opposite effect of what the red pill and even some Christian conservatives claim to want in a woman because not only do these men not recognize any other form of

femininity other than little girl but they also fundamentally misunderstand little girl femininity in the first place I touched on this in my last video Ariana Grande and Disney princess syndrome um a cautionary tale of immature girlhood and though you can watch this video without having seen That one um that one will be linked because it does have additional context and may widen your understanding of my point a little bit um it's not necessary though it's just you know it's it's just a more in-depth you know view into things might give you a bit more context

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everyone across the political Spectrum to show you what I mean uh let's have a look at this screenshot my friend sent me of what Twitter user be her leader thinks feminine she is and again I'm going to say I'll link my friend's blog down below because often we chat about like some of these ideas and oh the book I'm going to go and talk About in this video she actually got it for me uh cuz she loves it and yeah so it's very helpful I'll L I'll link that down below um but she sent me

she sends me sometimes funny stuff or funny like screenshots from crazy people on the internet so yeah shout out to her so we're going to have a look at this screenshot I'm going to read it because it's an idea I don't think it's hugely mainstream but it's an idea that I have heard repeated increasingly so in Certain circles of the internet ideas like this have been expressed especially on podcasts like fresh and fit or pearls podcast ideas you know Andrew Tate will say the same thing and he is massively successful and had a lot of

fans so these are not know they're not I wouldn't say hugely mainstream but a lot of these same ideas are um somewhat somewhat becoming more popular so that's kind of why it's not just I don't think this is just a representation of one Like crazy person online although it is also that yeah it's an idea I've often heard expressed in one form or another in certain red pill circles now to be fair I don't think this guy identifies as red pilled from what I understand I think he identifies as traditional conservative Catholic who wants people

to get married which is kind of a bit anti a lot of what the red pill are saying which is don't get married so I don't think he identifies as red pill But nevertheless this is from the same mindset so he tweeted top four unattractive traits in men one no determination two no Focus three no motivation four no sense of humor I don't actually necessarily disagree with any of that I don't know if I'd put it as the top four unattractive traits and have to think about it no I think I come up with others

that would be more unattractive to me but whatever I have no issue with this initially okay fine Yeah top four unattractive traits in men I don't hugely disagree I don't I don't have huge beef with this okay now let's get on to the top four unattractive traits in women one determination two Focus three motivation four thinks she's funny that was unattractive just you know to contrast with what he said about men but don't worry he's given us you thinking what what's what's what's attractive than in women don't worry goes on to Tell us top four

attractive traits in women one docility two Fidelity three submission four silence and he's add a nice little quote at the end uh silence is a woman's Glory Aristotle I mean that doesn't make it sound any less stupid putting a quote from Aristotle very intellectual docility Fidelity submission violence most attractive traits in women most unattractive traits in women determination Focus motivation think She's funny so the first thing that gets me about this apart from the obvious that being her leader isn't exactly difficult if you're leading a blowup doll which as far as I can tell is

exactly what he's asking for but apart from that the first clear problem with this tweet is this man is not just stating his preferences or what he finds attractive it is a blanket statement of what men do find attractive and don't find attractive and implied in this Tweet is also how women should be and women should behave as evidenced by the replies where amongst other things in response to Mary Harrington asking him to just be normal he said for wives being normal means being submissive that's just not true so maybe for your wife that's normal

um which is fine that's what you guys want to do but is it normal enough to be able to make a generalized statement about it I'm going to play that Jordan pet clip again um Who is an actual psychologist and despite his flaws has a deeper understanding of the complexity of women than just if she's sweet that means she's obedient so no there's no submitting plus it's impossible anyways you try to get a woman to submit like good luck it's just not possible not for very long they're slippery put a pin in this remember this

because we're going to talk later about how pushing women into submission Doesn't actually actually make them submissive it is probably just more likely to make them manipulative and hide their true aims but more on that later so in this tweet apparently docility or being docile is the number one most attractive trait in a woman docile docile meaning meaning something along the lines of a few different definitions but we'll go with some of these docile quiet and easy to influence persuade or control interesting or Another definition we could go with ready to accept control or instruction

submissive telling telling I don't know but openly admitting that easily influenced and controllable is your number one most attractive trait in a partner seems like it would reveal a lot of unsavory things about your personality and I don't want to jump to conclusions here but it also makes me think that your self-esteem confidence and belief in yourself really isn't high Is it just me genuinely this seems like a really embarrassing thing to openly admit that's your number one most attractive trait in a woman is how easily influenced and controllable she is are you kidding you

should like cry with how embarrassing that is that people know that about you sorry no judgment like what you like but also that's a bit embarrassing no offense just a little bit like really I mean come on this is the male version of Those women who say things like if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best it's my way or the highway I'm not a I just know what I want and my man he better give it to me he better treat me like a princess and never tell

me no that is how you sound same energy it's not attractive when women or men have this attitude you come across like you're someone so fragile that you couldn't handle a Disagreement and would have a tantrum like a toddler the mildest hit to their ego that's my immediate first thought when when reading something like that like you don't want a partner you want a worshipper who never expresses independence of thought like you would resent her individuality and personality because what she's just supposed to be a silent extension of you like also I don't know like

does this sound appealing like to some men it will but Again everyone's different and has different preferences but like those traits do they sound appealing to like raise to have a life partner and raise a family with and like you know take on life with someone who's unfocused unmotivated undetermined doesn't think she's funny silent submissive docile obviously Fidelity fine got no problem with that one but like it sounds like you're trying to parent with another child I think really one of the most Embar I mean the whole thing is embarrassing let's be real but one

of the most embarrassing things about this tweet I think is the you know is the think she's funny part um after saying that it's important for men to have a sense of humor I feel like like that tweet taken on its own might not sound that bad like you don't want someone who think she's funny but the fact that's meant to be run parallel to when he said that men should have a sense of humor But women think she's funny that just I don't know I feel like that's a little bit more revealing it reminds

me of that old saying that women are afraid men will kill them men are afraid that women will laugh at them that immediately what I thought of the fact that you put that as one of the top most unattractive things makes me wonder what you're so scared of being laughed at for and maybe he just means he doesn't want someone really loud and abrasive with I know Like Amy Schumer type jokes who thinks being vulgar and is the same as being funny that's possible that that's just what he meant but whether you mean to or

not this tweet is signaling that you're the type of guy who if a woman made a light-hearted joke at his expense would fly off the handle at the hit to his ego like so many alpha males spotted throwing Tantrums these days men don't have tits and look this is I mean this is one of my main points this man is Allowed to find whatever he wants attractive or unattractive kind of a cringey tweet but is allowed to find whatever he wants attractive or unattractive but he speaks as if he speaks for all men this is

a universal truth correct me if I'm wrong but I genuinely don't even think he speaks for most men just think about it for a moment seriously I I want you to really think of how a man describes a woman that he is attracted to and ask yourself If he would use any of the words on that list Fidelity maybe but even then I wouldn't say that's like an attract like an attractive trait like it's a good character character trait like a good you know promise that you make to someone like loyalty but yeah sure fine

whatever that one Fidelity maybe but like the rest I'll put it this way Henry VII didn't tear apart the church and divorce his wife because Anin was docile and Silent in fact I have literally never heard any man describe any woman he's attracted to as docile and silent words like witty exciting interesting fun and wow get used to lot more often let's stay attached to reality please maybe you'll also hear words like sweet and charming and delightful but I have never heard any man say anything even remotely similar to oh she's so easily influenced docile

like a child she'll believe anything I say zero personality just so Controllable and silent I can see I can see guys describing like maybe oh she's really sweet and she's a bit shy but like that's not there like there's always something more there to get to know like it's not like oh she's so docile I don't know it's normally like oh she's so alive she's got such a spark oh she's so different to anyone she's really Sparky and like so much living She's so different and exciting and I mean that's more what you would Hear

do do Sil and Silent don't really do and by the way he's not talking about traits good traits in a wife which honestly I would still find weird as good traits in a wife but that makes it a little bit more understandable but he's tweeting the Tweet is talking about what men find attractive Ive I genuinely I'm not being funny please but listen to me girls I genuinely think this is the worst advice ever if you want to be attractive to men I don't know maybe I'm Completely far off base there men let me know

obviously everyone's going have different taste but like seriously I in fact I would say I would say this is brilliant advice his advice is brilliant advice if you want to come across as incredibly boring and unappealing and like flat like really this is like the type advice that Pearl would give and if you're taking advice on how to attract a man from her you are truly lost it just it just amazes me how she speaks like She's the authority on what men find attractive when Don't make me say something this is not you know the

more I hear what some of these people are saying they're not talking about what makes a woman attractive they're not um they're talking about what makes a woman controllable like that's very clear in those tweets it's blatant as anything I don't even really believe that that that that guy who tweeted that I really don't Even believe that that's I think he's he's tweeted that to be inflam and also to kind of push forward his like um his point his agenda that you know women should defer to a man always and do what they're told and

do what they're told and the man's in charge all the time and um I I don't I wouldn't believe him if he were to actually say like that's what he found most attractive in his wife was like how like docile and Silent she was I I would Believe if he was like oh she's so sweet she's so sweet and kind and soft and like fine completely believe that that's not what you're saying like doile and Silent it's just and she's not she not unmotivated and unfocused and all of these weird things seriously any young women

or girls who are worrying about being unattractive because you have a personality and online rhetoric has made you think that men hate that this is not real life it is not the Real world it's not reality and also this man who I believe used to teach a eaten has also made tweets describing women as halfway between a man and a child which an interesting insight into his preferences I'm joking okay I'm joking I'm joking I mean come on what do you expect when you tweet that but I'm kidding I'm kidding but seriously this proves my

point as in women are halfway between men and children because we're like I suppose half the intellect half The logic so like emotional children which that's not even scientifically true I can't stand this thing of like that women are more irrational and illogical no just think in different ways but you know it like I said this this proves my point these men want childlike women they see us as deficient incomplete men flawed versions of men they believe the only form of femininity is immature girlhood they go and tweet about it and then they wonder why

their Movement is failing why they aren't appealing to young women why women are incentivized to react against this and why they're losing the culture war and they're not going to they're not going to win any supporters with that kind of thing it's not a very strategic move you are aiding the extreme feminism you claim to hate when you push ideas like these and tweet things out like that genuinely this tweet makes me want to dye my hair blue and live in a lesbian Commune raising cats rather than children and also speaking of being childlike I

think it's ironic that as a man you would marry a woman who is naturally docile submissive and silent and simplistically assume that's the default state of all women rather than oh I don't know your individual wife's temperament and personality which he likes and is attracted to that's fine but I've heard plenty of men say things like now that's a woman when talking About you know a determined or motivated or fiery Lady this is basic psychology we know that are variations in personality type regardless of gender and you would think an ex-teacher from Eaton would know

that and when you prescribe your relationship Dynamic to everyone like that will make everyone happy and be easy and work for every everyone it's foolish moronic childish simplistic almost dystopian the leftists are the people Who want everyone to conform and have the same opinion and fit into restrictive little boxes so are you guys when you don't give people space to breathe and suffer from a drought of imagination so extreme you can't conceive of the fact that not every woman is naturally the personality type of your wife and not every woman would be happy living her

life and not every man finds your your wife attractive beautiful as I'm certain she is but that Still stands on it's still true it's so conformist and authoritarian and creepy now before anyone comes back with you know saying men can have preferences men are allowed to want soft feminine women who aren't obnoxious to them I never said they weren't allowed that I'm not saying they have to put up with an unforgiving Harpy but there is a middle ground between that and an obedient sex doll just like for women if you don't want a domineering violent

control Trolling boyfriend that also doesn't mean the only other alternative is a pathetic wet lettuce who can't tie his own shoelaces without your permission there is a middle ground I think most people probably fall in the Middle Ground any actual traditional religious person who hasn't been lost in materialism and online brain rot however adamant on gender roles they are would still agree that motivation determination and focus are necessary And useful in being a stay-at-home mother how are you you supposed to raise kids if you're unmotivated easily give up and are unfocused how are you supposed

to be devoted to God and your family if you lack conviction and are basically an empty vessel aren't those things virtues determination motivation Focus sense of humor on those things virtues and good traits regardless of gender the answer to that of course if you're not ideologically brain rotted is Yes yes of course traditional Womanhood is not and never has been about lacking strength of character lacking your own opinions and convictions and being easily influenced and controlled that sounds like you're asking for a little girl and to be honest even little girls anyone who's raised little

girls um will know that even most little girls have strong convictions and personalities and are very clear in what they want and don't want it sounds like you're asking For a traumatized little girl if I'm being frank yes and look if if this guy had tweeted out something more similar to saying that most men don't want obnoxious abrasive and difficult women which I agree with I think most men don't want obnoxious abrasive and difficult women that's not what he tweeted is it that's not what he said I mean if that's what he was trying to

get at and say in like a really inflammatory way but then say that what he end up Saying was just so ridiculous and I but I'd agree with that yeah most men don't want that but that doesn't mean that most men do then want silent obedient dolls there are plenty of guys who admire a little personality in a partner plenty of guys who like a little push back sometimes you know who would want a woman who's supportive when necessary and challenges you when necessary because challenge is also a form of support when used correctly better

Conservative marriage advice genuinely and you know if you want a better alternative I'm actually going to give genuine better conservative marriage advice here I'm going to give you a recommendation genuine better conservative marriage advice um is there was that conversation between Jordan Peterson and Ben Shapiro and I haven't seen the whole of it I I saw a little bit of it though which I thought was actually quite profound thing they said And from what I the part I saw of it was actually quite nuanced so if you want an actual in-depth and serious biblical take

on marriage not that I'm claiming to be like I'm not I'm not I'm not a Christian but if if you want that serious and biblical take on marriage I'm genuinely going to recommend listening to them um listen to them talk about this and I know I know Ben is not Christian but you know biblical but I'm genuinely going to recommend listening To them talk about it because they they both appear to have you know despite all their flaws and you can hate them as much as you want and what they're saying but they genuinely from

as far as I can tell and everything they've said about it um seems to signal that they actually do both seem to have great healthy relationships with their wives involving mutual respect rather than this guy who as far as I can tell is cheap fast food red pill Catholicism for dummies that Eve never receives a name until after they're kicked out of the Garden of Eden she she's she's called just the woman until that point and then he names her right he he first names her and he says you she will called Isha right which

is a derivative of ish which is the same word just add a hey at the end um because that's how he sees her she's a derivative of him she's she's just an object for him to use uh and that's why she ends up talking to the snake because If you if you're seen as an object by somebody why would you want to talk with them you're not an independent human being and then she she sends they're kicked out and then he renames her Eve right Adam calls her Eve she's the mother of all the the

first is given by who Adam Adam so he he names he's naming all the animals and then it says that and that's giving them a reality a semantic reality right and then he and then God says None of these partners are And Adam can't find a partner right they're not suitable and he says so I'm going to give you a help you need a woman not a dog not a pet dog exactly he says you need a helpmate but the the phrase that's used is AER cono so it's translated helpmate what it actually means is

a Helper against you oh that's that's what it actually means in Hebrew AER cono right so there's an adversarial element in there yeah because what what what what makes better person theal Element there's this idea in neurophysiology called opponent processing it's really cool so if you want to move your hand really smoothly this way you can do it like that but it's nowhere near as smooth as if you do this you can be absolutely precise so you really tense this hand against this hand and then this one relents a little bit it's absolute precision and

so that adversarial process you imagine that women and men are slightly different Temperamentally or even quite a bit different well you're trying to hit the mark But the mark moves and so how do you hit it while you hit it with this adversarial process and you do that with kids and when you're negotiating in the house too it's like well you think and I think this and that's why when you fundamentally refuse to acknowledge the difference between the Sexes you lose the AER cono part of that you lose that that opposition that's that's necessary That's

also see my wife has a more masculine temperament than me and she's really low in politeness which is an aspect of agreeableness and it makes her quite formidable as a compat and sometimes uh in in her life she's she'll say things that are so outrageous that well it usually makes me laugh it's like in an intense fight she'll say like three of the worst insults you could possibly imagine and it'll make me laugh and it's it's hard sometimes to deal With her because of this more aggressive element but it was also something that really attracted

me towards her because she's no pushover and she's got this like she's got a kind of a knife-like sense of humor that comes out quite often and so I really like the combative element to it and that's part of what keeps a relationship dynamically alive so that's very cool so that's the first name so then so he he first calls her Isha and says CU God's going to give her As AER cono and then after the whole element with with and he okay so God says he's going to she he's going to deliver this what's

the word iser AER KGO right so it's a helpmate right but it's an adversar adversarial partner yeah the word cono literally means against him right it's going to be AER Helper against him right okay and then ad ad calls her Isa right because says she's she's Flesh of My Flesh she's bone of my bone which is how a man sees a Woman when the woman is just an object to him right because she's mine right it's my possessiveness of her that defines her as a human being right so she's going to be called woman because

I'm called man so she's you know she's a secondary der secondary derivative of me right which is a man would understand a woman is like she's like me except smaller right exactly and and then once she starts to Bear children then she's the he calls Hera right Eve the mother Which is this the same root of of Life Anda right K is this is the same roote so it's uh the he says she's the mother of all living I mean that seems a far like a far more healthy view of looking at it of a

partnership and disagreements and all that kind of thing but no no back chat no back chat or differing opinions with this guy no challenging him you better be silent silent submissive and docile or he will get very upset and no joking you can laugh At his jokes because he is funny he's funny he's got a sense of humor but don't you dare make him feel silly not even a little bit not even a little bit don't you dare and the silence part is what gets me I mean I just I don't really understand what the

if if he if he's just trying to be inflammatory and say not really loud and abrasive and obnoxious but do not want to have meaningful conversations with your partner Isn't that one of the key things of a relationship someone to discuss you know ideas and interests and life with to me it just it just reads I'm not saying this is necessarily true but it immediately just reads like he's terrified a woman is going to verbally outclass him just seems so insecure I so I know that's thrown around a lot but it really does this tweet

like why would you want to be with someone for years to life if you can't talk to each other and Some people I know some people have said that by this he means just don't be a shrieky Harpy then say that because there's a world of difference between not being a shrieking Harpy and being silent like I'm getting annoyed I'm getting quite annoyed now at people who say that feminism is a man-hating ideology and then support tweets like these imagine if I tweeted out that men should be silent just be silent men just men be

Silent and I know some women do TW tweet that and it's annoying um and this is also annoying and by the way just as a key point I think silence is valuable for men and for women I think everyone can learn wisdom from silence and listening you know you learn and observe and it's good to be quiet sometimes and interested in the other person and not take up too much of the spotlight um I say as I've literally got spotlights on me cuz I'm a YouTuber okay but that Wasn't the tone of this tweet was

it that wasn't what the tone was whether he intended it or not the tone was very much women shut up and do as you're told how he's making it sound to be in a relationship with him sounds like you'd bar be staring at him wide eyed adoringly all the time no push back or humor allowed but it sounds like he's asking for a worshipper not a partner this is a far cry from saying you find soft feminine women attractive that's Fine you know whatever that's not what he's saying silent and docile are not synonimous with

soft and feminine that's like a woman saying she's attracted to masculine men and that being equated to domineering and violent not the same so now that I've offered my opinion that this is a fundamental misunder understanding of femininity shall we get into discussing different expressions of archetypal femininity and what I think is going on Here I want to take a look at the type of woman or girl to be frank that these men are describing and I want to both talk about how she is not the archetypal one true feminine that all women should aspire

to and at the same time I I also want to defend her as one of many types of femininity explain how these men plus Pearl fundamentally misunderstand this type of woman and also go over some of her inherent strengths in what is a very classic archetype of femininity so I Believe what is being described by many of these men a malleable unsure docile shy and ready to be formed by him woman is not in fact a woman what they are describing is mental girlhood not Womanhood specifically the early stages of puberty are when many girls

feel this way when they don't really know who they are yet and there is nothing wrong with that stage any more than there is anything wrong with a young man going through a Peter Pan stage a reckless Peter Pan stage the problem is when you stay there the problem comes when men are trying to keep women emotionally and mentally immature stunting our growth from becoming self-actualized adults and then lighting us that this is what it truly means to be a woman they know they know what it truly means to be a woman apparently they've got

some deep inherent understanding what it means to be a woman yeah and they'll tell us what it is and you know it means all of those Things they said yep and they tell us that the grow growth and self-development and self- responsibility are not for us not for us the far sex when they want us to mentally stay a child forever the Eternal maiden and this brings us to the archetype of pany so I'm going to refer again to the book goddesses in Every Woman by Jee chinoa Bowden hope I'm saying that right I'm not

because I didn't check the spelling of her name Stupidly before I wrote it down there's an L in it Bowden is a psychiatrist and yian analyst who found that yungi and ideas about archetypes and human consciousness were very male centered and in many cases it was either inaccurate to women or didn't really fit us so she wrote goddesses in every woman a book about female psychology based upon her practice and experience as a psychiatrist so she split femininity or Womanhood up into seven distinct Archetypes based on seven Greek goddesses divided into three categories vulnerable virgin

and alchemical goddesses so there are three vulnerable goddess archetypes Hera deita and pepan types are highly defined by their relationships to others and suffering is a big part of their experience the three virgin goddesses artamus Athena and Hestia are psychologically virginal in that they are untouched and unchanged by others they are self-reliant Self-contained autonomous and independent it has nothing to do with physical virginity even though they were sometimes represented that way in myth um particularly emus like swearing off men and you know doing her own thing but yeah it's about psychological virginity um notably they

were never really victimized humiliated or raped by men either unlike the vulnerable goddesses and then we have the seventh Aphrodite the alchemical Goddess a transformative And creative Force so Aphrodite the alchemical Goddess is in a category all on her own the seventh archetype so virgin goddesses are so named because while they change the environment around them they themselves remain untouched and unchanged psychologically pure they are focused and not deterred from their goals by emotions men or relationships they are mostly they remain mostly unchanged by relationships and they won't be swayed from what they want what

They're going for by emotions or men or whatever the hell like I said they've got goals they know what they're doing self-reliant very self-contained so the vulnerable goddesses are the opposite and they are defined by a significant relationship and are reliant on others deita is defined by being a mother that's like her identity pany defined by being a daughter it's really her identity and Hera is defined by being a wife that's her identity So like I said their very identity depends on the relationships in their lives they are motivated by their links to others and

we go into it now may a video on each of the goddess's archetypes or something but like um yeah they're largely motivated by their by their connections to other people and emotions and they don't really have like their goal and focus outside of that so to quote from the book this is about the vulnerable goddesses of which pany was One so quote they are attuned to others and vulnerable these three goddesses were raped abducted dominated or humiliated by male Gods each suffered in her characteristic way when an attachment was broken or Dishonored and showed symptoms

that resembled psychological illness each of them also evolved and can provide women with an insight into the nature and pattern of their own reactions to loss and the potential for growth through Suffering that is inherent in each of these three goddess archetypes so yeah ATT tuned to others I think is something about their very like in connection with all relationships so unlike virgin goddesses Who Remain unchanged mostly by the relationships in their lives the vulnerable goddesses are deeply and fundamentally affected and changed by their relationships and reliant on them vulnerable goddesses are so named because

they're always mostly Changed by Others or dependent on others and Aphrodite the alchemical Goddess the lover is is both affected by and also affects people and the environment around her she is as the book says a two-way interchange okay so now don't be thrown off by dismissing the wisdom here because you're put off by the personification of goddesses in this book it's not literal and it's not claiming to be literal these seven goddesses are seven behaviors or Instincts or personalities that we see in women time and time again like again and again and again um

think of the goddesses as the purest forms of these behaviors so these seven different kind of personality archetypes distilled to their very essence the patterns in women in how women behaved or women acted came first the goddesses in Greek myth were born from our Collective observation that these patterns repeat in different women over and over and over again it's Just an easy way to understand these Concepts through personifying them through stories as the book says and as I have always believed quote myths evoke feeling and Imagination and touch on themes that are part of human

Collective inheritance the Greek myths and all the other fairy tales and myths that are still told after thousands of years remain current and personally relevant because there is a ring of Truth in them about shared Human Experience so if this Sounds like another personality type thing I suppose in a way it's not far off though honestly I found it far deeper and more useful with much more meaning it's far more nuanced too because the book is not saying that women fit cleanly into a specific archetype like I don't think you would meet a woman who

is the archetypes the point is they are that pure pattern or energy distilled into its purest form um I don't think you would find a real life Woman who was so purely clearly just one of the archetypes in that pure form yeah it's not saying that you are you're this archetype you're that basically think more that every woman is a Channel with these seven streams running through her the seven goddesses the seven streams running through her so in different women different ones will be more or less powerful but nobody is all one and everyone likely

has all of them present to some extent just as women used to be Unconscious of the powerful effects that cultural stereotypes had on them they may also be unconscious of powerful forces within them that influence what they do and how they feel these forces I am introducing in this book in the guise of Greek goddesses these powerful inner patterns or archetypes are responsible for major differences among women for example some women need monogamy marriage or children to feel fulfilled for them traditional roles are Personally meaningful such women differ markedly from another type of woman who

most values her independence as she focuses on achieving goals that are important to her or from still another type who seeks emotional in intensity and new experiences and consequently moves from one relationship or one creative effort to the next yet another type of woman seeks Solitude and finds that her spirituality means the most to her what is fulfilling to one type of Woman may be meaningless to another depending on which goddess is active moreover there are many goddesses in an individual woman the more complicated the woman the more likely that many are active within her

so the point of this is it's not really about classifying yourself you know I'm an aquarius guys it's not about that it's more about understanding your own unconscious drives and the flaws or gifts that you're more or less susceptible to and All of them all of the goddesses all of the archetypes are useful in different ways they also represent mostly different stages of life and will be more or less present in those stages so deita is the mother pany is the daughter Hera is the wife and the queen Aphrodite is the lover Artemus is the

big sister and competitor Athena is the strategist and Hestia is the halfth keeper so bear with me because this initially might sound a little bit like woo woo Spirituality but I promise you that despite some of the language even if you are a very grounded and fact-based person if you stick with me and let me explain some of these ideas I think you'll find Value in them even if you think that archetypes mythology and the Soul have no place in thinking about the human mind knowledge of the goddesses provides useful information for men too men

who want to understand women better can use goddess patterns to learn there Are different types of women and what to expect from them they also help men understand women who are complex or who appear to be contradictory so I'm actually going to Second this I'm not a man but the book did help me better understand myself or conceptualize it so as stated the archetype we will be talking about today is panie the daughter the maiden the girl she is the youngest and arguably the most vulnerable of the vulnerable goddesses This is an archetype that I

have a complicated relationship with because in the past I've been really scornful of her yet also influenced by her in equal measure so when I was reading this book and this is just my own assessment of myself the two archetypes I saw the most of myself in were pany and emus in equal measure that's not to say that they I just saw those two types in me I didn't I saw other types as well but those two were the strongest very definitely I Think um I couldn't tell you which is the most dominant in me

out of the two of them I'd say on YouTube the Persona is definitely more artmus especially if I'm being critical or or sarcastic like in some of these videos but that's just camera presentation and not fully representative of who I am so as I mentioned in my last video the pany archetype has a lot in common with Disney princess syndrome and if in my last video I sounded very judgmental and Harsh on the pany archetype and I even said that in the video that I was being very harsh and judgmental about Disney princess syndrome or

pany archetype that was mostly because I was going through the negative aspect of pany of stunted pany performative pany and her Shadow aspects of immaturity indecisiveness and unwillingness to connect with reality and also the cautionary tale of what happens if you're stuck in pany or Disney princess mentality for too long However like all of the Goddess archetypes pany archetype itself is not inherently negative it only becomes negative when applied inappropriately in its place it can be hugely positive so take heart those of you heavy in pepan archetype it's not a flaw in you it's not

a flaw it can be if left undeveloped but there is nothing wrong with the essence of it and so we're going to get we're going to get onto this because the more I read about panie the more I Realized how much of her I had in me or at least I certainly did as a child so I can't talk about this fully without getting personal about it as I think I can give some level of insight into pany from the inside so who is pany what does she represent out of all the archetypes what kind

of femininity does she represent well in Greek mythology panie began as the goddess of spring she was a young innocent and beautiful Maiden goddess Who was protected and beloved by her mother the goddess deita who deita was a fertility goddess of the Harvest and agriculture deita is basically the archetypal mother pretty much the closest that the Greek pantheon has to an earth or nature goddess pany is also known as the core which means the girl this points to her nature as a naive Maiden goddess as the myth goes one day as she was picking flowers

in a meadow with other maidens the god Hades Infatuated by her appeared from a chasm in the earth and raped and abducted panie taking her to the underworld this was allowed by Zeus to her her mother wandered the Earth looking for her daughter uh Zeus refused to do anything to help and so deita refused to allow anything on the earth to grow in her depression people starved in the Eternal winter they stopped sacrificing to the gods and finally Zeus agreed to help he got Hades To agree to let pepan go but Hades had given panie

pomegranate seeds to eat which meant that she had to return to him if you eat it's like same Fairyland rules way she's kind of like a fairy princess same rules as Fairy Land if you eat in the Underworld if you eat food in fairy land you have to stay forever but they they made a deal basically the deal was she had to spend part of the year in the Underworld with him and part of the year in the upper world with her mother As the tale goes spring and summer are the time that she spends

with her mother hence are still kind of being the goddess of spring and in Winter she's back in the Underworld as an unwilling bride once again this also adds another intriguing element to the pany archetype that we will get to later so she matured from just being the goddess of spring to also being Queen of the underworld of ghosts death and the unconscious now it's time for story story more story Time when I was younger something I would say again and again and again to the point that it really actually worried my mother was I

never want to grow up I said it all the time and I didn't just say it I remember feeling it right to my core the thought of growing up was like death inherently I knew that childhood was another world full of stories and Imagination and magic and though I didn't understand adulthood I saw that they didn't act like children They were stressed they didn't believe in magic the world looked gray to them if that was being a grown-up I didn't want it and I was very vocal about not wanting it I wanted to be a

child forever spending hours reading and daydreaming and living in fairy land my feet didn't want to touch the ground I did not want to acknowledge reality I wanted to withdraw forever into my internal world I was very happy in my internal world and could spend hours Just daydreaming and staring into space for me there was nothing exciting about adulthood it just looked like a loss I didn't want responsibilities or to be tied down to anything let me be a child in a meadow forever and ever and ever being a woman looked terrifying I didn't want

it I've spoken about this before but I hated puberty genuinely I find verging on traumatic really it was like a death to me um again as I talked about in this video it was quite literally Physically painful very painful for me and the more I think about that video that I did talking about some of those things the more I see it as me describing a pany pattern of being torn away from innocence unwillingly I hated when adult men started showing interest uh I think pretty much all young girls do it it was like being

dragged away from that childhood innocence that I had never wanted to leave I didn't want this I never asked for it Womanhood meant Suffering and I don't know where I got that unconscious belief from that Womanhood meant suffering my parents didn't teach it to me but it was still there very strongly there growing up meant becoming public property being seen or prayed on not left alone being trapped or losing Freedom it also quite literally meant blood and intense physical pain and my body not feeling like mine anymore feeling uncomfortable and disgusting in my own skin

to the Point I I wanted to claw it off and I just wanted to turn back the clock to become a child again and that is the archetypal story of pany a young girl unwillingly torn away from Joy and innocence torn away from her mother and into the bloody Land of the Dead it's the archetypal loss of innocence and simplicity and safety the child dies forever and you become someone else there can be something as I said a little traumatizing about it and that Was my inner pany pany to whom the adult world meant being

abducted to the underworld by Hades god of the Dead dragged away from that golden childhood Meadow forever and instinctively that was what being a grown-up was to me that's kind of how I saw it can verbalize that but that's what it felt like I would die I would no longer exist and some other Gala some more serious less happy less dreamy and more cynical galatea would take her Place and I would forget what it meant to be a child forget what it was to believe in magic and live in a dreamland it actually hurt a

little bit for me reading this book because I was reminded a lot of that inner pany I resonated a lot with that archetypal pattern that she was describing that the pany story and I realized that not just did I resonate with that part of the story but I've always had a lot of that archetype active within me as a child And young adult the living in a fantasy land never wanting to grow up being in a dream land floating about disconnected from reality being indecisive and seeing where the wind takes you and being victim to

the whims of the world and other people's decisions rather than being an active force in your own life all of these are elements of the pany archetype and all of these were things that I had a lot of as a child and young adult now it's not quite that simple uh I won't talk a lot about this because I'm going to do a separate video on this archetype but talking about the contrast might help conceptualize it a bit and also I don't want to give like the wrong impression of who I am and who I

was because I think I'm equally as I said before I'm equally as heavy in the artmus archetype which is fundamentally opposed to pany pany is the obedient indecisive shy daughter incapable of standing up for herself or anyone else And Artemus is the stubborn rebellious daughter who is driven to Fury by what she perceives as unfairness and has the utmost disdain for those who won't stand up for themselves and particularly others but you can see how having I suppose an equal measure of those two archetypes very strongly might create a little bit of an internal conflict

within me and I will say that reading this book did help me conceptualize these contradictions Within Myself by Seeing them as two opposing driving forces or archetypes um and like gave a name to them and help me go oh that's why I I'm so like split on some things so it really helped me to perceive it as the artmus as aspect of myself that had disdain for the pany aspect of myself and when I saw them as archetypes I immediately understood why these two sides of me were in constant struggle and I think you can

see me struggling With that contradiction a lot in this video um that same video when I talked about my issues setting boundaries as a teenage girl that's a very pany trait and as a kid um but also at the same time even though I really struggled with setting boundaries and advocating for myself at the same time how I never had a problem standing up to obvious aggression I think especially as a child I very much on the surface presented as a pany child pany archetype but anger Would trigger that artamus archetype in me big time

which would often shock people actually I had a lot of times where people would think that I was one way really quiet shy easily LED controllable influenced pushover and I would just snap and and and those a few occasions where I think people were really really actually shocked but yeah there's a bit of bit of a contradiction so Artemus is the archetypal big sister which is probably A lot why I think I relate to that why I would think that that archetype was activated in me in the first place because I I do have three

younger siblings Artemus is driven to Fury by people victimizing or harming the vulnerable particularly young girls and even in the myth we see how she swears off men she runs off into the woods um and she any you know young girls can women only can join her hunt and they run wild you know so aramus is driven to Fury by people victimizing or harming the vulnerable particularly younger girls if you've seen some of my videos on Andrew Tate or other predatory Pon scum I think you can very much see me presenting in that way that

sort of behavior and exploitation um makes me be like incandescent I was beyond angry so that was a bit of a tangent but all that to say I found it really helpful actually to read this book and put conscious understanding to Those inherent instincts of mine and then the contradictions within that um and I do I massively relate to emus I I think I over identify with the vulnerable in some ways in if and it feels like they're my little sisters that someone is targeting like it's my job to protect them um I can't understand

people who won't defend them and I feel frankly murderous that's not an understand you might think it's hyperboy I actually do feel not I'm Going to kill it but I feel murderous and just like Artemus did when she killed predatory men um or men she perceived as predatory yeah so the point being Artemus is always triggered by Fury with me and I'll do a separate video on that archetype on the different archetypes I think using different examples and talk about them in more depth I think that'll be interesting but I think arus is always triggered

by Fury with me and that often comes across on The internet um or in these types of videos even though as I've said many times my personality in real life is actually I think for the most part highly agreeable but it it's the artmus part of myself self who has contempt for passivity and self- infantilization and not standing up for something that is my annoyance at the classic Disney princess you know Disney princesses that I've spoken about in the past and then of course I was confronted with myself in Reading this book and in really

thinking about it I have to come to terms with the fact that not only do I have a big dose of artmus an archetype that I'm proud of and can respect but I have an equal amount of Princess pany tendencies an archetype that I struggled to like and struggled to respect and I think that's probably partly because I found myself hurt when in response to a threat I've acted as pany rather than emus it's ended up with me getting hurt Again as explained in this video um I won't go over it all again but the

person I was always the most angry at for that whole situation was myself for allowing myself to behave like a passive victim allowing someone else's will to dominate mine and giving in and not want toet someone and allowing that rather than speaking up for myself but unfortunately in that moment that specific moment I wasn't angry and thus I was unable to access Aramus the archetype that emus aspect as unable to access it I think that was always how it was for me as a child and as a teenager I was perfectly capable of setting boundaries

and advocating for myself and others and not allowing anyone to disrespect me but I could only do it if I was angry otherwise self- protection was totally Out Of Reach for me and my throat closed up and I couldn't say a word and I would be painfully shy Again incapable of defending myself anger was my friend as a kid um and I see I think that's the reason I I trust the emus archetype I can rely on it I can rely on her I trust her to protect myself and others my own internal big sister

emus has never let me down I don't trust pany I'm probably angry at my inner panie because she got me hurt she's helpless and pathetic and useless and Flaky and wishy-washy and passive and lets people walk all over her and Cannot be depended on so in some ways the analysis is fair and in some ways it isn't fair because pany has her strengths too and in different situations it is better for dreamy childlike and adaptable pany to take the lead and yes just to reiterate again I am talking in terms of two internal instincts or

personality types or that's kind of a bit different cuz that implies only that everyone only has one person at type it's more two internal instincts Um I'm talking in terms of that rather than not not like actual goddesses but it helps as I said to conceptualize it this way especially when you have the context of The Wider myths it's like a shorthand to understanding those internal drives it helped clear up confusion for me for why my personality seemed to have such a huge contradiction and was pulling me into two different directions as the book says

the goddesses are powerful invisible forces That shape behavi avior and influence emotions when she knows which goddesses are dominant forces within her a woman acquires self- knowledge about the strength of certain instincts about priorities and abilities about the possibilities of finding personal meaning through choices others might not encourage goddess patterns also affect relationships with men they help explain some of the difficulties and affinities certain women have with certain men Which goddess is the Unseen impetus propelling a woman towards a particular type of man she cannot resist living out a pattern determined by an underlying goddess

archetype until she is conscious that such a pattern exists and seeks to fulfill itself through her in other words until you make the unconscious conscious it will rule your life and you will call it fate there's a yion quote for you and that might actually be my favorite Union quote about how we will Always be slaves to our unconscious drives and motivations until we become aware of them and seek to understand them and why they are there so I really do recommend reading this book yourself if this video or my Ariana Grande video is interesting

for you I certainly found it personally helpful it gives a structure to your unconscious drives and for me reading the book many types of relationships and behaviors that it describes are familiar to me both Positive and negative and I see many types of women here these archetypes are inherently familiar to me and I'm sure they will be to you if you read it I've seen them all my life repeated in other women and in myself and if you read it you probably will too I think it also can help sometimes reading understanding why certain types

of women might Clash CU you see it as like this archetypal struggle going on and what different driving forces are with some of them why That you know might lead to even what me internally I suppose probably on a bigger scale emus women and pepan women might have issues with each other in some ways um if the emus woman sees pepan woman is just a bit too pathetic that's going to be something that why like plugs her in um it's so interesting so and I say if you don't like thinking in terms of archetypal relationships

um or types you can think of them as patterns instead that's basically what An archetype is it's it's just a pattern a profound pattern that we see repeated again and again so as I said I find it really helpful to think of it in terms of the archetypal pany and the archetypal Artemus wrestling for control over my actions neither one is more me than the other both are inherent both are me I suppose it's just a matter of integrating them to work in harmony rather than being at War and honestly I think naturally over the

years I've Actually I've gotten better at that anyway less of an internal battle and more a cohesive one you know driving force that knows what should step forward when but yeah but so as I've expressed I very clearly expressed it is very very easy to have disdain for pany and there are some things to be disdainful of if pany provides the structure of the personality it predisposes a woman not to act but to be acted on by others to be compliant in Action and passive in Attitude pany the maiden also allows a woman to seem

eternally youthful so I said this sounds very much like a Disney princess and also as I said this is the only manifestation of femininity that some men in the red pull space will recognize as femininity they'll say this is the only type of femininity is real and I think that would be like if women only accepted Peter Pan as and Reckless Peter Pan masculinity as the only masculinity It would be like if Justin Waller eternally a child was upheld as the one and only standard of a true man it's it's kind of laughable and this

really is the same thing so panie quote represents the young girl who does not know who she is and is as yet unaware of her desires or her strengths some women Remain the maiden for most of their lives they are uncommitted to a relationship to work to an educational goal even though they may in fact be in A relationship have a job or be in college or even graduate school whatever they are doing it doesn't seem for real their attitude is that of the Eternal adolescent indecisive about who or what they want to be when

they grow up waiting for something or someone to transform their lives I mean yeah uncommitted um indecisive waiting for someone or something to transform their lives Ian that how is that is a description of Ariana Grande's Relationship history but having said that so I just want to talk about some of the positives because I said no archetype is inherently negative when in in its place there are positives to this pany type to the m to her mindset the fact that she seems unsure of herself and unfinished that she she's unable to commit to anything or

make decisions for herself and is easily swayed on the flip side of this it also makes her highly adaptable and flexible pany as the Eternal child is pure unformed potential the fact that she lives in fantasy land means that she's brimming with eternal possibilities and Imagination and the whole world is open to her being detached from reality can give her an unrestricted way of thinking yes she can still be in a childlike state of taking direction from a parental figure whether that parental figure is a real parent a boss or even a partner but this

also makes her open-minded learning new Information easily absorbing new things again like a child interestingly I think describing a pany woman as docile is not inaccurate as long as you're talking about the original meaning of the word and not what it's come to mean now so it doal kind of used to mean something like open to teaching or readily absorbing something taught and this receptivity is a huge part part of the pany archetype she's really receptive which is also seen as a really inherent part of Femininity and I think it is in a lot of

ways being receptive um it can just manifest in different ways and being just receptive is not good yeah the the receptivity is a huge part of the pany archetype and in its proper place shouldn't be demonized or seen as something that makes her embarrassing or weak or useless the receptivity of the pany archetype is the quality many women need to cultivate this is especially so of focused a Ena or Artemis women who Are in the habit of knowing what they want and acting decisively they do not do well when they encounter a lack of clarity

for this they need to cultivate Pan's ability to wait for the situation to change or for their feelings to become clear the ability to be open and flexible or malleable the typifies pany at times to a fault are attributes that demita and Herer women often need to develop if they are locked into their expectations Hera or their conviction That they know best deita so yes pany is malleable but that's because she has the most roots for growth she is the pure potential of a child Springtime butterflies bur you know again she's growing into something she's

flexible adaptable and this can also hinder her as she she can shape shifts into what most pleases the people around her which can be bad but this quality in and of itself isn't a bad thing it just needs to be grounded along with the strong Sense of who she is so she doesn't lose herself or get dominated by stronger or more sure people around her she's indecisive which can be a bad thing but it also means that she's open-minded and creative and that she's okay with spontaneity and not having a clear path forward she's not

the sturdy tree that has already grown and cannot be changed she's the flexible chute that could go anywh having pany as a been able to tap into pany as an archetype you know as a Response to things is a gift it's important not to think of the archetypes as as I said it's important not to think of them as Hardline and specific personality types rather it's better to think of them as being useful in certain circumstances as in don't over identify with one to the detriment of the others because every goddess is useful in her

place demita energy should be active when mothering or nurturing someone or something but it might not be useful in The bedroom whereas passionate Aphrodite energy is too unstable for mothering so every woman no matter how old she is or how different in personality type from the innocent girlish pany should learn to lean into pany when appropriate if intuition and going with the flow and being okay with not controlling something or knowing the answer sometimes might be the best course of action then intuitive flexible adaptable pany she's useful that's a useful Archetype to go with like

all the archetypes she has her benefits but not if you live there not if she's the only archetype you can use to express yourself you know in the same way that protective big sister Artemus is brilliant as an advocate or protector of yourself or the vulnerable she is not so good in situations where you're seeking resolution and Harmony the huntress or Warrior of the goddesses her Focus unwavering determination and unforgiving Vengeful nature and unwillingness to let something go is not the best when understanding forgiveness and mercy are required but for situations where you shouldn't back

down she's brilliant each in their place the pany woman has a youthful quality she may actually look younger than her age or may have something girlish in her personality a take care of little me element that may endure through middle age and Beyond I think of the pany woman as having Something willowy about her that bends to conform with circumstances or with stronger personalities going first in One Direction and then another depending on how the wind blows she Springs back when the force lets up remaining unaffected in some significant Way by experience unless she makes

a commitment that will change her so this is interesting and I want to get to this later this is why it's better to think about pany as a Will Willow or something that will spring back up again um if initially she can seem malleable and controllable because very easily she'll Bend one way if her force is applied take the foot she'll go back it's it's she's she's very I guess she resilient in that way um if she decides if no no back again um it's not quite as simple as yeah but we'll get we're going

to get to that later but as I was saying so she's got she got a really youthful Quality kind of a girlishness even even when she's older and even in middle age she can still seem like adorably girlish so that that is a big part of panie though it can be performative like I like with Arana Grande and I talked about in that video and other sex kittens kind of Performing pany um that archetype it can also be quite natural and lovely it's the quality in some women that makes them seem eternally girlish and childlike

but as I said not In a performative playing up to it way with a fake baby voice and sucking on Lollipops like someone I can mention but in an effortless natural eternally optimistic and positive way someone who still sees the awe and Beauty in life gives off the lovely like childlike Vibes but not in a creepy way so I'd say women two women with this quality that immediately spring to mind for me are Audrey heurn and Felicity Kendall so even as older women they both had this Lovely girlish charm to them that makes them so

easy to adore they have they have like a real pixieish impish delightful quality this just like Ariana Grande provokes protectiveness and adoration in people because you know they're just so delightful and sweet and joyful to be around so that I would say is healthy pany energy in an older woman or even a young woman who is no longer a little girl a childlike optimism Joy delight and Mischief for the world They're they're very easy to adore often trusting and wanting to believe the best in people they make you feel young and free so that's the

element of the Maiden The Eternal child and there's nothing wrong with carrying a childlike joy and grace with you as you get older so long as you're maturing alongside that and not staying stunted and immature and I don't think anyone would disagree that women like Audrey heurn or Felicity Kendall um are feminine but they're not The only way to be feminine I'm sure you can think of other very feminine women who are totally different to hurns or um fisty Kendall's delightful girlish femininity and really if you've seen I mean I'm talking about fisty kendle but

this is I did a video on The Good Life a while ago but her character Barbara in the good life is just if you if if you've seen it it's kind of a it's from British TV show from the' 70s it's absolutely fantastic her character Barbara ficity Kendall's character Barbara really like embodies positive pany traits like when it's healthy and has matured like her character is just adorable delightful impish cheeky but like still sensible and just optimistic delightful very adaptable very just flexible can go move with things sweet like all of these things there just

like that healthy type I'm talking about so Disney Princesses mostly only celebrate this archetype of femininity the pfan Archetype of femininity so this makes sense as it is for young girls who will highly connect with and resonate the with the pany type of feminity they'll probably resonate with that the most for a lot of them because they're in that stage and you know a really good example Rapunzel from Disney's Tangled is a really good representation of a young pany archetype still in a stage of growth she's swe neet open receptive trusting goes with the flow

spends her Time in a Dreamland is very childlike so that's kind of happy pany in the meadow even how she looks is very spring goddess and also I want to get onto that because there's so much to talk about when you get into like these topics and this book is brilliant but there's so many interesting things even just within the pan archetype to talk about what's really interesting is sometimes this this pany girls can have top can not always but can have well they can have Have strong relationships with their mothers that can be really

positive they're often really close to their mothers like the demit pany dynamic but it can be toxic that's often like a stage stage mother controlling to controlling of her panie daughter cuz pany daughters can be quite easy to like keep under your thumb sometimes they can be very too close to their mothers and interestingly and I want to do another video on this but the the in Disney's Film Tangled with Rapunzel and the evil witch who she thinks is her mother who is not her mother but they Dynamic is so much a toxic demita and

pany dynamic like a toxic controlling mother daughter Dynamic it's the toxic stage mother really toxic or to toxic M hous by proxy and that is sometimes a that can come up a lot in like deita pany mother daughter relationships and that's something interesting to get into but that that Disney movie Tangled really like is Really good at showing um that specific archetypal toxic relationship even to the point with it has to like a man coming or bursting in to have to take her away from the mother daughter relationship the Hades element which is Flyn Ryder

in that it's really I wanted to have a video on that because it's really very good at showing that but yeah she's Rapunzel from Tangled she she is pany in the meadow happy pany in the meadow and I also think partly that's Why I think I resonated a lot with POC hontas who's always my favorite Disney princess because I think PO contas is quite rare in the Disney princesses in that I think she embodies the Artemus archetype more um which is still very feminine talked about pokon in the past think she's still very feminine character

but in just in a different way cuz she's got a lot of Artemus energy yeah and then yeah it's interesting maybe I should do that and think about The Disney Princesses and what they fit into they'll mostly be panie but there'll be a few who aren't what's Mulan I need think I need to think about this more but anyway anyway but yeah I think most women will likely have a period of identifying heavily with pany likely is a teenage girl as well panie the core or nameless Maiden is familiar to many a woman at the

stage of life when she was young uncertain and full of possibilities it was the time when she Wanted someone or something to come along to shape her life before another any other archetype became activated and ushered in a different phase so as I said think Disney princess dreaming and waiting of a savior to come along and whisk her [Music] away stuck in circumstances that she has no will to change herself in the seasons of a woman's life possess definely represents spring just as spring Cyclically follows the fallow period after harvest and the barren months of

winter bringing warmth more light and new green growth so can pany become reactivated in women after times of loss and depression each time pany resurfaces in a woman's psyche it is once again possible for her to be receptive to new influences and change pany is youthfulness vitality and the potential for New Growth women who have pany as part of them may stay receptive to Change and young in spirit all their lives so this makes it very clear it's very clearly said there is nothing wrong with pany as an archetype there is nothing wrong when women

tap into pepan archetype in a healthy way the problem comes when women are encouraged to stay in this archetype forever and are not allowed to grow I think that's what the problem is because the whole point of pany is growth receptivity and change so what happens when pany is denied her Inherent nature and not allowed to grow what is she Twisted into to what happens when a woman is unable to take responsibility or accountability for herself well into adulthood when she's encouraged to stay passive and unformed forever when the only thing she's allowed to be

receptive to is what her husband tells her in my opinion nothing good they'll never experience the full array of femininity and Womanhood if they are never allowed to mature past Being a girl so here's the thing men like this are not wrong when they describe pany traits and say that this is what femininity is pany is very feminine very classically feminine they're only wrong when they describe pany traits and say that that is all femininity is that's when they misunderstand that pany is just a stage in a woman's life meant to be grown out of

or at least integrated into her maturity when they reject all other Feminine archetypes that is when they stunt women's growth and deny them the full range of who they are because in Pan's story she does not stay a child forever she matures and grows into the queen of the underworld because much as little me would hate to hear it no one can stay young forever and all children must one day grow [Music] up I grew up here we are pany post eating the pomegranate uh of which I'm Now surrounded in the wedding dress of course

bride to the god of the dead here in the Underworld where we are I am filming on location because I'm dedicated to my craft matching matching jewelry with Asus we match mature pany no longer the maiden but Queen of the underworld let's see where's this going to go we're going to get there we're going to get there in a second talk about Queen of the underworld stuff so shall we move on to talking about the Red pill and pany the red pill pany illusion how they encourage some aspects not all not everyone I know but

a lot of the mainstream fast food version dumb down rhetoric is encouraging I believe manipulative and dependent behaviors in women Shady scummy shall we call it sleazy let's call it that okay want to make the distinction so we say the sleazy manosphere a lot of the rhetoric in the sleazy manosphere is that you need to pick a young preferably freshly 18 which always disturbs me because you know that if they could go younger they would a young malleable docile obedient quiet naive young girl who you can teach about the world what should I be looking

for in the dating scene a 22-year-old homeschooled virgin well willing to be trained yeah yeah 22 willing to be trained that's a good start okay that's what Andrew Tate says uh but he's not picking girlfriends he's picking women that he can bully into sex work so that Should tell you something basically their ideal woman of the sleep in the sley manosphere is a pany archetype woman but not one who has grown into herself and integr those girlish parts of her personality into something more mature they're talking about unsure of herself malleable naive trusting still believes

in magical Prince Charming childlike pany who often is quite literally young teenager or not far past it what they don't realize is that in Large part you could argue she's an illusion the pany archetype woman a temporary illusion unlike Hera and deita who represent strong instincts that often must be resisted in order for a woman to grow pany influences a woman to be passive and compliant thus she is easily dominated by others the most formless and indistinct of the seven goddesses she is characterized by a lack of Direction and lack of Drive of the M

however she also has the most possible Roots for growth and what happens if that sweet naive malleable easily dominated 18-year-old girl you married does one day grow up which is likely just because you married a teenager doesn't doesn't mean you can force her to stay that way forever uh I know men like Tate say you can get them young and train them into the woman you want her to be that might work depending on how susceptible she is but I imagine it's a little like trying to hold the ocean at Bay it's not hard to

Dazzle a young girl with Promises of love and a perfect life when her head is swimming with Disney Princess films she might well see you as her savior but you can't live up to the Disney Princess fantasy we've been over this in the Grande video you may end up disappointed until she's off to the next fantasy or she might just outgrow you if you marry someone immature you can't be shocked if they're unable to make adult commitments and act immaturely be Careful what you wish for do you know how many stories there are of women

who married or got into relationships with much older men who then grow up and leave and look back on the whole experience with a faintly queasy sense that they were taken advantage of depending on how young they were who realized just how young and naive they were and when they gained some experience and wisdom and a stronger sense of who they are they leave because She's not an empty vessel anymore and thus no longer compatible with a man who wants someone docile who doesn't know herself marrying a pepan woman if her malleability is what you

want her for is rarely sustainable she's an illusion she's supposed to grow up and change and she probably will also the women most likely to be attracted to older men are probably the ones who don't have great relationships with their fathers because if you do have a strong relationship With your father you're likely to see older men as being like your dad um which is disgusting to you as opposed to girls who aren't that close to their fathers who might be seeking that fatherly bond in a relationship with an older man and then when she

realizes you failed her like her father did she'll probably leave you that's not a blanket rule by any means I'm not saying people can't get into ageg Gap relationships and they be healthy I'm not saying that Someone younger can't find someone older attractive um and it you know be an issue but I'd say probably most likely that's going to be how it is and certainly at least from my experience and everyone I know I'm thinking of like all the young women I know who have a strong Father Figure and healthy relationship with their fathers they

are very rarely chasing much older men it always makes me laugh when red pillars say that young girls find older men Attractive and just like that's just a blanket rule yeah if you're Leonardo Dicaprio and she's after your money and status but do you know how I used to react when I was 18 and anyone over the age of 29 hit on me ooh that's gross what's wrong wrong with him why is he interested in me he's the same age as my dad what a creep he probably has serious issues to go after a young

girl also he's old to make a commitment a pany woman must wrestle with the core in her She must decide to marry and say yes without mentally Crossing her fingers if she does marriage May gradually transform her from an eternal girl into a mature woman if she embarks on a career she also needs to make a commitment and stay with it both for her personal growth and in order to succeed a pany woman May grow Beyond pan the core if she must face life on her own and take care of herself for many privileged daughters

the first time such Independence is possible is after they become divorced until then they have done exactly what was expected of them they were protected daughters who married suitable young men they divorce in part because they view marriage as captivity they were not transformed by marriage instead they now find that divorce becomes their right of passage only when they lack someone to do things for them or someone to blame can some pepan women grow necessity becomes the Teacher when they have to cope with leaky forets Bank balances and the need to work for a lot

of women they might say that marriage or motherhood was is the right of passage where they have to grow up where they really feel like a grownup and feel grown up and for pany women it can be but if she's still babied well into marriage she still won't have to grow up and also I'm not saying that marriage is the only right of passage through which women grow up Okay please don't misunderstand me but if if she is baby well into marriage anyway then she still won't need to grow up or become independent like like

I said in my last video like Ariana Grande who didn't seem to change much after her marriage um if she wasn't a superstar maybe divorce could help her grow but unfortunately the super famous and super wealthy are insulated from a lot of those things for a pepan woman getting divorced and having to stand on her own Two feet for the first time may be when she has to start taking accountability for herself and her actions and learn not to be passive and blame or rely on everyone but herself it may well be the first time

time that she can take ownership of her life feel able to step out of the pressure of her parents or husband or what is expected of her or doing what she's told and for the first time she might become a self-aware mature responsible person some women Especially if they felt like it was a marriage they were pressured into or chose too young may feel a new sense of Liberation and Direction by choosing the course of their own life for the first time and you know this is probably I'd say best case scenario for her personal

development is if she does decide to finally kind of grow up um but this is kind of the the the dangers or pitfalls of encouraging women to stay in a little girl mentality and why it's likely to Lead to a lot of these outcomes that a lot of men in the manosphere say like huge problems and they don't want is for women to be uncommitted or leave or all these various things if if you're encouraging infantilization in women and guess what children are uncommitted and don't know what they want and they drift around and think

this is fun no this is fun because they're not mature but if she never does grow up okay so you're thinking when she never will grow up That's best case scenario if she never does grow up and become a real person and move away from you and not need to depend on you anymore in that case what's the reality of being married to a woman stuck in infantilized femininity and she does stay and you know doesn't mature past you what's the reality of that um what's the result of encouraging women to stay in that head

space to live as the core means being the Eternal girl who doesn't commit herself to anything Or anyone because making a definite Choice eliminates other possibilities besides such a woman feels as if she had all the time in the world to make up her mind and thus can wait until something moves her she lives in a Never Never Land like Wendy with Peter Pan and the Lost Boys drifting and playing at life to grow a pepan woman must learn to both make commitments and live up to them she has difficulty saying yes and following through

with whatever she has agreed to Do meeting deadlines finishing school entering marriage raising a child or staying with a job are hard tasks for someone who wants to play at life growth requires that she struggle against indecisiveness passivity and inertia she must make up her mind and stay committed when the choice stops being fun as long as a woman's attitudes are those of pany the core she will either never marry or she will go through the motions but not make the commitment for real she will Resist marriage because she sees it from the archetypal perspective

of the maiden For Whom the model of marriage is death from the standpoint of pany marriage was an abduction by Hades the deathbringer the pany woman must resist an unsubstantiated assumption that marriage is always an abduction or death to be fought or resented again in terms of going through the motions of marriage but not making the commitment for real does that sound anything like Ariana Grande's relationship history that we covered in the last video um flitting around but you see why I bring this up all of these Pony qualities because they seem to be what

that tweet was um upholding and glorifying in women is apparently motivation dedication or determination Focus very unattractive in a woman pepan is one of the Alternatives being in that kind of stuck in that kind of energy and in terms of work as well I mean it's not good great for life for Marriage but in terms of being stuck in that mentality for work which I guess isn't a problem for them because they don't want um the women to work yeah that's the end of the sentence but look skills that you have whether you whether you

think women should stay at home and be traditional or not the skills that you would need for work are the skills that you would need in raising a family or taking care of a household Or you know like it's it's it's you know it's useful or doing other things or working in the community or if you're really religious woman's going to stay at home and okay working doing Church community based things having some level of commitment to things is is useful um but in terms of work pany women they tend to have a series of

jobs or get fired for not meeting deadlines or taking too much time off they do best at jobs that don't Require initiative persistence or supervisory skills panie procrastinates she quote acts as if she had expected to be rescued from the task or as if she had all the time in the world she's ill prepared how's that for unmotivated unfocused and undetermined the ideal woman right does that really do it for you guys does that is that ah look how poorly I completed the task are you turned on yet I could do things badly I could

do It badly really slowly really I could procrastinate forever well that just drive you mental I can't focus for more than 5 minutes and have no motivation to do anything are you sexually attracted to me now at best she manages to get the work done in a last minute stay up all night effort okay now that I do relate to I do I do tend to stay up all night sometimes to get work done I don't think I'm like necessarily unmotivated Unfocused and maybe more as a teenager but I think I'm all right now but

yeah listen look panie just sort of floats about in a lovely Dreamland like thinking about endless possibilities and not making commitments to any because then these possibilities will be gone and she's the Eternal Maiden so jumping back to that lack of commitment that is a huge part of the kind of pany mentality I want to talk about loyalty it's something a lot of the manosphere Guys talk about is loyalty they want loyalty in a woman while also wanting and this is some not all this Ley man is feere probably but they want loyalty in a

woman while also wanting a woman who is weak of Will and they can easily dominate I here's your problem I don't think you can have both I don't think that's just my that's just my opinion if you want my opinion on it I don't think you can have a loyal woman who is also weak of Will And easily dominated I think you have to pick you have to choose I'll tell you why I think that so here's your problem managing to dominate a woman Andrew Tate style control her through fear like fresh and fit preach

or indoctrinate her through finding her young the sleazy manosphere conflates these these things for True loyalty loyalty however requires commitment which requires growing up which requires strength of character to Hear Andrew Tate talk to keep a woman's attention you've always got to be giving her an emotional roller coaster swinging from good to bad uh which is just describing the cycle of abuse and why people stay in it uh but beyond that he's also describing how to keep her in a pany state of always being excited and having fun and having to avoid settling down having

to provide constant emotional stimulation in the form of affection switching suddenly to Intentional arguments or she gets bored and disobedient that's not loyalty chaps and again like I've said I've said this for like I think like months at this point years at this point Andrew T's advice is useful for how to temporarily control susceptible girls not how to deal with women to be honest also I think this whole thing about loyalty because I've heard like people like myON from fresh and fit talk about these ideas but I've Heard like the kind of general idea that

that men are like loyal that men can be loyal and that women are faithless women don't have any loyalty women have no yeah because the kind of women you're dealing with or the behaviors that you are encouraging in women and the kind of women you're attracting are not grown-ups so they don't commit they don't make commitments to things they aren't loyal and if they're weak of Will and easily Dominated which is the kind of women you're attracting because what women like self-respecting woman is going to be want to be involved with any of those men

let's be real here yeah that they're probably the ones who are also going to have the ability to be very loyal and stable and they're not the ones yeah cuz I just think I think you require some strength of character or strength of will loyalty otherwise it's just it's not Loyalty it's just been easily dominated by this strong force that comes in and then another strong force comes into you it looks like it for a while but if someone else comes along who's a bit stronger or more great than you it's him which is the

idea that I've heard that men and the man is feel like throw around that's how women are no it's not it's how children are um and you're encouraging these kinds of behaviors as well in what you want in women you're Like encouraging I'll get yeah encouraging it but also like resenting it at the same time a pany woman's innate receptivity makes her very malleable if significant people project an image or expectation onto her she initially does not resist it is her pattern to be chameleon like to try on whatever others expect of her it is

this quality that predisposes her to be an animal woman she unconsciously conforms to what a man wants her to be with one Man she's a tennis buff who fits into the country club set in the next relationship she's on the back of his motorcycle as they Roar down the highway she's a model for the third who paints her as an innocent anjenu which she is to him see having an adaptable character so she can appear to be what you want her to be is not the same as actually being what you want her to be

you you want an easily influenced woman that's fine that's your right but as I said I I Just don't don't expect her to also be loyal expect that if another Force comes along more powerful or influential than you she will adapt to that and be gone as quickly as Ariana grand left her husband M eser Harding a distinguished yungan analyst began her book The Way of all women by describing the type of woman who is all things to all men this type is the animal woman who adapts to his wishes makes herself beautiful in his

eyes charms him pleases him so yeah This is also like a red pill wet dream of I think how they want women to be how they say women should be an ideal woman a good woman should be and there's nothing wrong with to a certain extent adapting to the needs or wants of your partner there's nothing wrong with that to a certain extent but overly doing that becoming completely someone you yeah I think it there's there's a falseness to it isn't there it's not real that's what I mean thean it's an Illusion um she's not

real she's she's she's it's a glamour it's a spell you know it's a glamour that she's you know performance she's putting on um she's a reflection of what you want to see so here's my thing I think that they're not really controllable pany women I don't think they really are uh they can seem it I think men think they are and again to some degrees everyone people men and women are controllable in different ways certain people certain personal types Blah blah okay but I think pan archetype is not inherently necessarily controllable I don't think pany

women are inherently necessarily controllable I think men think that they are they can appear that way some of them can be but it's a bit of a Fool's game fickle and changeable they'll go where the wind blows which may seem agreeable initially like they may seem like so easy and go along whatever you want initially but they'll fly away often if something Stronger or more intriguing comes along these really are the women who will leave you for a more interesting guy they're more in love with the idea of being in love like as I said

before my last video that's why the videos work quite well as companions to each other my last video on ar Ariana Grande look at her dating history I think there's something of the butterfly about pepan women they're butterflies think of them as butterflies Flip Flip Flitter away interesting interesting interesting oh floating around no commitment no so I will butterflies my hair for the last section when I was young iment pany this is something I've said so many times but it still continues to amaze me how the same men who will bang on forever about how

different men and women are cannot join the dots or see that women therefore utilize power in a different way than men do I think for the most Part so the way you might expect a man to express his power or like State his authority might well be very different to in general I'm speaking generalized terms here but might well be different to the way that a woman would do that and just because she's not doing it in the way you'd expect a man to do it does not mean that she is not powerful or is

not does not have some Authority that's the point there here's something anybody who Spent 5 minutes as a teenage girl will know women and girls communicate via subtext and subtlety as in what you see is not always what you get as in just because she appears agreeable and obedient does not mean that she is not playing you like a fiddle to get what she wants I have been begging men on the internet for so long now uh not to take women being subtle about things as a sign that women just want to do what they're

told tell me you don't Understand women without telling me you don't understand women even adaptable agreeable formable pany women are not necessarily obedient another Shadow side to a pany woman and we talked about this in my Ariana Grande video is because they struggle with being assertive and outwardly setting boundaries and because they've been conditioned and rewarded for being sweet and doing what they're told many paaon women have learned to weaponize victimhood and manipulate People's emotions in order to get what they want an example of a woman who might be stuck in infantilized toxic pany mentality

might be a middle-aged woman who always runs crying to her husband playing the victim like she's a little girl even if she's in the wrong to try to get him to fix all her problems for her because she gives the impression that she's helpless and innocent now she's not actually innocent or helpless she's perfectly capable but Because she's been in analized by everyone around her for so long even she believes that she's helpless and so that's how she's learned to solve her problems and that is just one example of how infantilizing women like so many

of these men do will only teach them to be manipulative rather than direct to get what they want and of course that's not to say look that's not to I don't want to demonize it's very important I want to make this disclaimer in this video Because I'm talking about manipulation and uh pany archetype and how one of the only ways that pany exercises her power is through vulnerability is through her weakness like she appears weak but that's also how she her power comes from that having said that I'm not trying to demonize emotional women or

sensitive women or women who cry a lot cuz I know that there's potential here for this to go the other way and men to be like yeah see women cry they're always doing that To like manipulate me and to some women sometimes um I think for the most part no I think okay and B brand I'm also I'm quite an emotional person I'm quite an emotional woman I like I'm quite sensitive to things if I'm happy I'll cry if I'm emotional I'll cry you know if I'm moved I'll cry there's nothing wrong with it inherently

there's not and I think crying can be healthy I'm not trying to demonize that it's healthy to express your emotions I'm not trying to Have a go at more soft emotional women and be like you're the devil look at you crying for attention and that's not the point here there's a distinction between you know crying of course can often be genuine it's all nuanced and context based but just want to make that clear um okay before we continue because I'm talking a lot about about those kinds of toxic behaviors so having said all that I

know that some of you probably most of you at some point in your life will have Experienced that kind of manipulation from women who weaponize victimhood and seem so fragile and unable to cope and then kind of use that as a manipulation thing that's toxic immature pany who has overstate her welcome far into adulthood often this manipulation isn't necessarily conscious depending on the person but it's a manipulation nonetheless so I think young girls are can be especially prone to this because they're very in pany energy um that's Why girl bullying can be so Insidious a

group of girls might victimize or leave out another girl but then cry and act like they're the ones being victimized to an authority figure and it's really underhand and difficult to deal with or point to anything concrete that they've done I've experienced that and it's really it's really difficult it's really difficult and then you know yeah it it can be it can it can get it can get vious and it can get because it's very It then becomes very difficult to untangle or for any like when your kids any teacher to come in and kind

of act fairly because they can be quite good at turning it around and been like we're we're the victims in this situ and then it's like yeah the good at good at um can be good at demonizing someone else so as I said in my last video pany kind of women who have a lot of pany energy or mentality or kind of embody that a Lot are often treated as fragile and precious and they can quote take such treatment for granted the panie evok maternal responses in peers and older women who do favors for her

and look out for her now can you see how that might be leave the door open potentially to um being maybe manipulative or utilizing power that is a form of power in addition to family Dynamics the culture we live in also conditions girls to equate femininity with passive dependent Behavior they are encouraged to act like Cinderella waiting for a prince to come Sleeping Beauties waiting to be awakened paity and dependency are the core problems for many women because the environment reinforces the archetype and thus other aspects of the personality do not develop so one of

the obvious things here is this kind of attitude causes problems with setting boundaries or wanting to please I spoken about my own struggled with that in the past um the Ability to set boundaries so I think one way that might be useful for women trying to untangle this and reclaim their autonomy um or ability to set clear boundaries so to speak or take responsibility is to recognize that just like the nice guy being malleable or innocent is not the same as being morally good I think that's and I spoke about that again in my last

video but I think the problem comes with also conflating like a lack Of boundaries I think that's really highlighted for a lot of young girls and young women is making is equating a lack of B setting boundaries with being morally good it's not the same thing but I think that might be one of the problems it's difficult to break out of because like I've got to be good I've got to be well behaved I've got to be a good girl I've got to be nice people got and that can sometimes be I think the issue

there but yeah I think a lot of Girls are conditioned to think to think that it is um and my thing that I said and I said this made distinction before with niess versus kindness being outwardly sweet is not the same as being kind I think I made this point in my last video I don't know her personally maybe she's amazing personally but from how her past behavior and everything I covered in that video Ariana Grande appears very outwardly sweet and if we compare that with how Allegedly it appears she treats people in her personal

life not great but outwardly sweet so must mean she's lovely right big example of this someone I did a video on a while ago um this video about Leia the Leia I'm best friends with Andrew accused of trafficking and exploiting barely legal girls Tate and he didn't do nothing wrong and I know that because he bought me a pizza um oooo do you like me yet am I sweet yet aren't I so good and Understanding and compliant I can't make that adult decision I've made an adult decision to be here this is good for me

right now in this country but long time I don't know can I just say I'm sorry I have to add this in this is just the right-wing version of virtue signaling this is exactly the same when some like extreme leftist gets on a podcast and like and talks about like oh yeah I'm racist because we're all racist and I'm deeply racist and like like like as a Virtuous thing and like self flatulates how rubbish and demonic a person they are for their existence or like yeah I'm a man and I I'm like terrible because I'm

a man but I'm like self-aware about it she's doing exactly the same thing for right- wiers exactly the same going on a podcast and being like yeah I'm a woman and we're really dumb and stupid are you going to give me standing evasion yet for like recognizing my own inherent like um sins You know it's exactly the same this is right-wing virtue signaling and it's so annoying so if it wasn't aware in that video I was really mad in that particular video that I did but the that attitude and I've made this point as well

about nice guys and I'll go over that in my next video but the attitude is actually very self-serving and self-obsessed and has nothing to do with actually being good it's appearing good or appearing sweet or not wanting to Rock the boat but I think recognizing that might help in letting go of the need to not enforce your boundaries because you don't want to be mean would setting boundaries be mean if you were doing it to protect a younger girl or anyone a younger boy you know a child no it would be good so you know

you deserve to do that for yourself be your own big sister you don't have to be horrible about it but you do have a right to your own autonomy and the pany archetype I Think has a hard time accepting that and a hard time being seen as anything other than really sweet but that being obviously sweet does not equate to morally good and it never has and I think I think that's difficult because I think that's a really strong cultural messaging as well as well and can I just say I don't know if I'm going

too far here or if this is me being harsh but again but you know she I mean she covered for an abusive piece of for Her own gain so I'll be harsh I guess in my opinion Leia so the girl I did the video on in my opinion from what I've seen and from what I talked about in that video um is a very good example of toxic pany in how she's good at weaponizing innocence and helplessness to be able to do pretty shitty things let's be real and still appear sweet um and make a

career off men who are suckers for a face and agreeable nature she tells you what you want to hear now That's a defining trait of toxic pany she tells you what you want to hear even if she's actually doing the opposite I just want some men on the internet really to finally understand that agreeable does not equal obedient and that actually appearing appearing agreeable can be a highly effective way of getting what you want and just because you're with an agreeable or sweet woman that does not necessarily make you the one in charge I bet

any Money Leia cries to get her own way okay we can move on now from from that it's interesting to see that because it's very like I've I made that comment about Ariana Grande in my last video these people can it be very hard to criticize even if they've done like objectively bad things people like they're so sweet they're so gentle and fragile leave them alone you're being so mean you can get that reaction a lot for criticizing vulnerable appearing women Um now that's an aspect of female privilege genuinely there's yeah get but that's I

think that's genuinely um something not all women but something that some women do have and make use of but you know what I would hear to speak about the this agreeable not necessarily meaning obedient thing and not necessarily meaning that he's the one in charge you know what I would hear older women say in contrast to with what this man tweeted here back to this tweet like Let me know if you've ever heard an older woman say something along these lines uh and Men you probably won't have heard this maybe you have I don't know

but I'm guessing girls would have some point heard an all the woman at some point say this even if it was when you were very young and it something like let him think he's in charge let him think he's in charge let him think it was his idea a soft touch is best don't go at him head on ease him into it that That let him think it was his idea I've I've I've heard that not not like all the time but not infrequently either um at certain points in my life from older women I

don't know maybe I'm wrong on that but if any other if any other girls or women have heard have heard that let him think it was his idea yeah let me know um and for the record I'm not saying I'm not like condoning that I'm not saying that I think that's the best way to go about Things but what I am saying well also you know sometimes you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar as well it's just that old idea I guess so in some ways it can be nothing wrong with it but

like for the record I'm not necessarily saying that I think that's the best way to go about things but what I am saying is that women pushed into being docile and submissive are for the most part more complicated on the inside and will just fall back on other ways to Achieve their aims again I keep keep saying this and I find it amazing loads of men don't grasp this if you so strongly believe that women are naturally submissive and easily LED I believe that you are easy pickings for having your strings pulled it is not

hard to tell a man what he wants to believe or appear to be as helpless as he would like you to be and leverage that to get him to act in a way that you would like consciously or Unconsciously but I kind of believe that's the natural outcome into forcing women into silence docility and submission women will just become more and more indirect and underhand to achieve their aims because much as some of you would not like to believe it women are human beings with oh no their own motivations motivations that's a bad word for

women focuses and things they are determined to get oh my God the three deadly sins for women and if they Aren't allowed to show it they'll have to manipulate you into doing it for them women have to pretend to be weak and fragile so that men can feel Superior that's insane if women don't learn to stand up for themselves men will always control the world oh honey men don't control the world again I've said it I just keep saying I just find it highly ironic that the men shouting the loudest about how they won't put

up with manipulation from Females and how women should stop being manipulative are also the ones wanting to create an environment where women being manipulative is the most likely outcome women are people and people have their own wants desires and needs and if some people feel like they aren't allowed to get those wants desires and needs by being upfront having their opinions respected and feeling like they have a say in the course of their own destiny those desires will not magically Go away and inevitably those people will learn that manipulating others might be the only or

most effective way to get what they want like I just women are not naturally obedient no matter how much of a dominating Alpha Tyrant you think you are to clarify I think some people are inherently obedient I think you can meet obedient people and I've met men like that as many as I have met women like that I think you can get some people who are inherently obedient and what my Point is when I say that is that women as a general like it's not inherent in the female psyche to be naturally OB that's what

I mean I'm not saying it's inherent in the male psyche either but I'm saying that is not something that that's the argument they're making is it's inherent in women to be I I so don't think that's true I I think women are not naturally obedient no matter how much of a dominating Alpha Tyrant you think you are firstly most women won't Put up with that and secondly the women who will put up with it I still don't believe are actually obedient necessarily I think their motivations will just go underground and become unseen consciously or not

I I just I think that's probably likely to be true I think I know just a lot of different types of women and know how they think and operate or have seen them artfully artfully um manag to somehow magically End up with things their way even though they're so but they're so they're so agreeable and they're so like how would they do that when they're so obedient and they have no motivation or Focus or determination and they're so sweet and just like yeah yeah I saw what she did and okay going back to this tweet

again as a general rule I'm say as a general rule don't take advice from Men on how to be a woman now that's not to say that none of them have anything useful to say Some of them do and certainly they'll have an insight into what makes a woman attractive if they're not ideologically brain rotted that is however it will always be an Outsiders view looking in they cannot explain how to be a woman they don't know what it's like to exist in our skin they cannot teach a woman to be a woman and they

certainly seem to display an astonishing lack of understanding of our internal processes or at least this one does as evidence to Me by this tweet I find the lack of understanding of femininity quite astonishing especially for a married man to say This Man simply does not know what it is to be a woman who knows maybe they that is what his wife is like on the inside but women are varied people and what is inherent for one is not inherent for another I think this guy just sees women as far simpler than we really are

just because woman appears quiet and agreeable on the outside does Not necessarily translate to willingly obedient on the inside in fact I'd say so very very rarely does it mean that I really think so much of this rhetoric from the manosphere has just come from a fundamental misunderstanding of how women operate it's come from looking at women through a masculine lens like oh she seems so soft and sweet and she cries at sad movies guess she must be weak and easily LED like a child nothing more to see here I've cracked the code Boys finally

I know how they work and you can't do that if you actually want to understand women I feel like sometimes the Tates and myons of the world do want to be able to figure us out like they would a machine and make us seem that simple press this button this happens this this happens um we're not your favorite fir truck toy sorry doesn't work work like that I think they want women to be I think that's really what it is I think maybe is it that what You reckon is it slight intimidation from like not

understanding women um and then because of that they don't like that they don't understand women and so they're like no I'm going to ignore I'm going to pretend that I this is it it's simple I've got it I just think okay okay I mean simplify if you want but has ever a wise man said that women are simple easy to understand I don't know I feel like I feel like that's not the general consensus but correct me if I'm Wrong but shall I contrast what this book said about the type of men the pany woman

attracts and see how it lines up with his tweet so first for this is just a section of it there's three types of men that she said is likely to be attracted to a pepan woman this is the third type I think it was three it was either two or three this man is supposed to be older more experienced taller stronger and smarter than his spouse the woman is supposed to be younger less Experienced smaller weaker less educated and less intelligent the type who most closely fits this ideal is a young pany moreover pany is

quite unlike the image many men have of mother as a powerful or difficult to please woman with a pany a man feels he can be perceived as a powerful dominant man and not have his authority or ideas challenged he also feels that he can be innocent inexperienced or incompetent and not be criticized insecurity Insecurity I'm afraid my wife will laugh at me insecurity if you listen to certain people in the manosphere talk about this ideal male female dynamic they are talking about this pany Dynamic he's got to feel Superior to her and she has to

see him as Superior or else their marriage will fall apart that's it Doom and Gloom to everyone who dares deviate from this this is the only marriage that will work this it the only the only the Only way [Music] I think now it's time to talk about the Hades element to Pan's archetypal story and what that represents the Hades and pany dynamic is one that runs very very deep in our culture and Collective Consciousness I think also in recent years it's had a Revival I've seen lots of panie Hades stories recently most of them bad

trashy romances I put that in quotes because a lot of them just seem To be poorly written literary porn but still there's been La Olympus the very popular web tune that I haven't read and have no opinion on um again centering the love story of Hades and pany I say love story because that's how most of them were written even if the mythical Origins are questionable so even less obvious Hades and pany retellings still have the bare bones of the story there take Twilight a young virginal pure Maiden whisked Away by a rich god of

the Dead or vampire in this case 50 Shades of Gray is the same innocent young woman taken into a dark underworld by its highly Disturbed ruler even Dracula lord of the Dead corrupts maidens of spring clari and Jay even God from immortal instruments Beauty and the Beast young girl kidnapped by monster and in that case is even the parallel with her father taking a rose um from the garden and that means he's got to give up his daughter and panie eating taking Pomegranate from the underworld and has to stay 365 days again literal kidnapping it's

the classic good girl bad boy Trope uh that's highly popular in a lot of women's fiction so in this video I talked a lot about why I think that appeals to many women from I suppose more a sexual point of view and it's more complicated than you think and then that people immediately assumed but now I want to talk about what this type of story might mean in a broader sense Why has the archetypal Hades and pany story in Jord and what might it represent and why are we seeing a Resurgence of it now so

I think this Hades and pany dynamic should be looked at less as an archetypal romance that appears to women though there is an element of that um and more as an archetypal Coming of Age story that appeals to young girls so I did cover an element of that um in that video again most of the stories like this are Consumed by and marketed to teenagers or young women and yes 50 Shades of great is more adult but it was based on Twilight a novel for teenagers uh something I find weird that a middle-aged woman wrote

sexual fanfiction about but moving on so why suddenly in recent years have these stories exploded in popularity is it maybe that more women there are just more women stuck in a pepan archetype and as as well parallel to that also More young men stuck in a Peter Pan archetype um because no one's growing up anymore really everyone is everyone kind of staying in a bit of a childlike stunted growth mentality maybe is that why pepan so popular had a Resurgence is resonating with so many people maybe to the coming of age thing though what this

might mean see a trait in many pepan women is being very close to their mother so this is by no means exclusive to pany women um but because of the Attachment to childlike behaviors and dependence that pany have has in pany women it can have a specific mother daughter Dynamic mirroring deita and pany that Dynamic so a pany girl's need to please and outward compliance combined with her fragility and vulnerability can lead to her mother being overprotective and controlling and pany being over sheltered too obedient too dependent on her parents and still mommy's good girl

well into adulthood if It leans too far in this direction the relationship could be codependent and toxic it can be a healthy and close relationship where the mother just deeply loves and is connected to her daughter but if she's too involved in her daughter's personal life tries too much to protect her or guide her decisions um whether it comes from a good place or not because she still sees her as a helpless child this probably will keep Pany immature and stunted think again Ariana Grande growing up in the spotlight with everyone else to make decisions

for her a description of a toxic Dema pany Dynamic is described thus although the mother appears to be strong and independent this appearance is often deceptive she may Foster her daughter's dependence in order to keep her close or she may need her daughter to be an extension of herself through whom she can live vicariously a classic Example of this relationship is the stage manager mother and actress daughter a lot of modern versions of the myth show deita Pan's adoring mother as the True Villain of the story as a controlling obsessive overbearing parent trying to keep

her a dependent child forever and they show Hades as the force that liberates her from this control and helps her Embrace her autonomy and sexuality so this is interesting because this can be what Hades represents pany Is often too protected and sheltered and controlled whether by a mother or someone else um and Hades breaking through the Earth to traumatically whisk her away could be representative of a force that breaks through this control turns her world upside down throws her out of her safe shelter But ultimately leads to her Freedom autonomy and maturity this event could

be devastating or it could be the making of her the story of her being stolen by Hades and Becoming a mature Queen of the underworld rather than a childlike goddess of spring if we were to go all Jordan peton on it and overanalyze the hell out of it um it could be a metaphor for her integrating and Awakening her inner masculine to become more rounded person and an active focused force in her own life or it could also be a story of this type of woman actually going out and dating a forceful type of man

the thing is as I've said panie probably Does want to break out of passivity and being too sheltered whether consciously or unconsciously but the problem is that she doesn't even know where to start it is not inherent to panie to outwardly and obvious rebel against Authority and she may not even realize that's what she's seeking when she picks the type of man who can Rebel for her she's rebelling by proxy because she wants to break free but doesn't yet have the will to Rebel herself a relationship with a Man can be the means through which

a pany woman separates from a dominating mother she then goes through a stage of being panie the porn in which she is the object to be possessed in a power struggle between a man and her mother she falls in love with a man her mother doesn't like someone different from the nice young man her mother had in mind confident that she can influence her usually compliant daughter the mother attacks her choice she deplores the Man's personality character or background often the mother recognizes that he is a potential adversary in fact this ability to resist her

mother was one reason why the pany daughter was attracted to him after a certain amount of this struggle the man usually demands that she confront her mother or else give up trying to get her mother's approval if she literally or figuratively does move away from her mother she may have begun her journey Toward towards becoming a separate self self-determining human being she does so at the risk of trading a dominating mother for a dominating man but usually having defied her mother she she has changed and is no longer the compliant person she once was so

as I think I already said earlier in this video a fantastic example of this Dynamic is Tangled um the Disney film The overbearing demita pany relationship Dynamic if it had any motto that motto Would probably be mother knows best Mother Knows Best and entangled that is an entire that's a title of an entire song in this movie and it perfectly encapsulates and describes the dynamic the toxic demita pany Dynamic and the relationship between Rapunzel and her mother in the film so the reason for the song if anyone's seen the film I it's a good film

should watch it but like so good at showing this dynamic as well the reason her mother sings this song Mother Knows Best if anyone seen it will know is to keep Rapunzel dependent on her sheltered in the tower and afraid of the outside world the whole song is about the outside world is scary mother knows best stay here safe with with Mother stay here safe with me I only I have your best interest at heart only only I really know you it's very that Flynn Ryder represents the rebellious opposite of innocent Hades to break her

free and that's why the witch hates him so much And he does help free her not just from the tower but from her I must be a good daughter mindset which is the more powerful control that her mother has over her the way he kind of enters her life bursting through into the Silence of her tower out of nowhere suddenly this very reminiscent of Hades bursting through the Earth in lovely quiet peaceful Meadow to like whisker away that very sudden disruption of the childhood world this outside force like Break Free come on now and as

I've also said Rapunzel is a very like classic archetype of that pany the young naive pany but we also see this in Twilight Edward becomes the vehicle through which Bella Rebels and breaks free from her parents to become indep dependent like as in through this relationship they realize their own inner power and autonomy I'm not saying those stories are good or well written but that's some of the meaning supposed to be in them Nonetheless so a pany woman picking a man like that is a symbol of her subversive hidden Rebellion she doesn't know herself well

enough to be able to Rebel outright doesn't have enough conviction to stand on her own but subconsciously she seeks a man she knows is strong enough to break free panie often goes for a forceful man like this because that's the aspect of herself she's lacking in there's a school of thought that says whoever we choose to Be in a relationship with might be because subconsciously they have something we don't that might be why someone really really lovely might end up dating an absolute nightmare of a partner I'm sure we've all known that friend male or

female it happens to both genders um the people pleasing friend with this selfish as hell boyfriend or girlfriend who is domineering controlling throws fits to get their own way all the time and is taking advantage Of like their nice nature and the people in friend gives into them time and time and time again now that's not their fault and they don't deserve it I'm not saying that but there is the argument that the reason they were attracted to them in the first place could be because subconsciously they admire and are attracted to the fact that

they are not afraid to State their needs like really not afraid um and set down boundaries and be a bit selfish um you know maybe On the other hand the selfish Maniac is drawn to someone sweet who is constantly sacrificing their own needs because that's something they need to learn or maybe they just want to take advantage of someone's kindness but you know I think that maybe there's something in that idea um of of what people are attracted to um potentially I think this difficulty asserting your own boundaries and being able to I think that's

something a lot not all but a lot of Young girls especially at certain age can relate to maybe it's changed since since since I was a teenager but from I'm like sit in a classroom of teenagers from what I remember at the time and watch the differences in most of the girls versus most of the boys not everyone there's going to be exceptions obviously but most of the girls versus most of the boys there's just a difference in how they behave the boys often the teenage boys often overly Pushy like to an like an extreme

that most men aren't and the teenage girls often overly unwilling to like set boundaries in a way that most women aren't it's almost like it's like an extreme almost I think a lot of teenage girls or young girls find like they find it hard to say airm no like any excuse other than just no I'm just no um whereas I think for boys of the same age they find it a lot easier to just you know no and I don't care if Your feelings but I relate to that I relate to that being an agent

it was very hard to say um and so you know the pany archetype can go for a man like Hades or a dangerous man on a motorbike or an older man more worldly someone in whom she admires the independence assertiveness or control over his own life that maybe she admires and kind of wants in some way doesn't quite know how to get and could be a reason for the attraction to but as mentioned Pan's Biggest struggle is passivity and waiting to be rescued which is often why to get her kickstarted she needs an outside Catalyst

or she might end up picking a man to do the rescuing instead of doing herself until she manages to break free in some way she might feel trapped a captive to her own inner world just like panie was a captive rather than actively trying to change her circumstances or save herself she might withdraw into escapism and fantasy lands Within herself a little girl living in fairy land now I know I was certainly prone to this as a child detaching dreaming rather than like trying to Fig trying to solve it like how Rapunzel dreamed in her

Tower rather than trying to escape also the underworld is often always symbolic for the unconscious for falling into madness dreaminess despair depression or fantasy land during part of her myth as captive in the Underworld panie was a sad Maiden who did not eat And did not smile this phase is analgous to a period of psychological illness through which some pany women may go a pepan woman is susceptible to depression when she is dominated and limited by people who keep her bound to them an unassertive person she bottles up her anger or differences rather than Express

them or actively change the situation feelings of isolation inadequacy and self-criticism further contributes to her depression when a pany woman becomes Depressed it's an undramatic Fade Into the woodwork depression she seems wispy and insubstantial watching a depressed pany is like watching a flower fade a depressed deita is an enormous presence in the center of the household while a depressed panie seems to disappear into the back rooms some panies withdraw into a shadowy world of inner images musings and imagined life a world to which only they have access one of my pepan Patients said I had

my special places behind the big brown chair in the corner of the living room under my tree where the branches touched the ground and hid me from view where I'd go hide I spent hours there as a kid mostly daydreaming pretending I was anywhere else but in that house with those people some sometimes her preoccupation with her inner World cuts her off from people and she Retreats there whenever the real world seems too difficult or demanding So I know that that's a criticism that some people close to me have had in the past that I

can withdraw and cut off from people sometimes if I'm overwhelmed like you're not there is something a family member has said to me in the past so I do resonate in part with that description maybe not to the extreme but I understand that as a coping strategy and as a kid if I if I was upset I just read books going Daydream I go sit in the garden and just Daydream for hours Or read books and just pretend that I was in a book instead so as I mentioned before the thing about the underworld in

fairy tales and myths or whatever is that is often symbolic of the unconscious so you could also take Hades coming to abduct pania way as the story of a psychological Journey an unaware naive passive and immature girl is plunged into facing her inner World her flaws and her fears everything in her unconscious that is keeping her trapped And passive she must grapple with it and when she returns to the surface she has returned different mature and aware not the naive goddess of spring but the queen of the underworld meaning Master over her own mind and

autonomous at last Pan's inclination towards daydreaming and passivity once matured can end up being her greatest strength that's what I want to be clear on I don't want to demonize pany archetype pany woman or feel Something wrong with you there's not about growing up but but it's not inherently bad it's not inherently wrong to have these traits What use appropriately so her recep ity which can lead to her being malleable too malleable can also be her greatest strength because receptivity is essential for creativity you have to be open to new ideas and flexible and happy

to go with the flow to start any project you have to be receptive to change and a New beginning also in terms of this being like a psychological metaphor you could take that as a psychological story you could read a laun to that of her being the young girl innocent young girl in the meadow of childhood and then Hades bursting through the Earth Bur through so her comfortable happy mind her comt everything's lovely and all these things in the unconscious that she's not dealt with or not looked at or is ignoring and pretending everything's Fine

no everything's happy and lovely finally they can't be ignore and they burst up from the unconscious through into ruining her equilibrium her you know her the stability of Life the loveliness and the illusion of happy wonderful lovely Golden Child is broken it's like okay you're going to be a grownup now and all these things rise up the monster is its ugly head could could take a l that in terms of their receptivity and creativity and being Open to receptive to change in A New Beginning um so I know we spoke before about pany not being

good generally with making work commitments or caring that much about anything serious Beyond just having fun or enjoying herself and it has the book's got a passage about this saying that though work is never important to the immature pany so to the maiden if she matures into the queen of the underworld then it's different quote then she is likely to enter a creative Psychological or spiritual field for example working as an artist poet therapist or psychic whatever she does is usually deeply personal and often unorthodox she often Works in a highly individual way commonly without

the proper academic degrees so I think this actually does in some ways relate to Ariana Grande though I gave her a hard time for being immature panie in my last video like I said I think her latest album is fake self-reflective it Pretends to be self-reflective it's not really it's fake self-reflective but it does give an impression and it has a touch of this deeply personal reflective like inner pany journey and I think she has the ability to become that kind of artist if she were to actually be self-reflective rather than pretend to be self-reflective

self-reflective on podcasts to excuse her actions but you know but I think being in touch with the underworld or your unconscious which is What it is can lead to Unique creativity so I'm thinking of a really wonderful friend of mine who was so much in her in like pany energy as a teenager a lot more than I was and I was I could be in that quite a lot sometimes but she's very much like that she was so sweet and genuinely sweet not fake sweet um but she could also be malleable and not likely to

stand up for herself but she also had she had a real talent for poetry and music that was so pure and Unique and dreamy it came from a really like dreamlike place because she was so creative and receptive um and that was a real like aspect to her lovely like aspect was she was really had really like she was just so sweet and lovely and very very very talented in a lot of like creative ways in a lot in a lot of De a deeper way than perhaps a lot of people would look at things

but it very personal and unique like the kind of poetry and music that she that she did So when panie stops being controlled by others and becomes Master over herself understanding herself then she becomes Queen of the underworld we even have this archetypal pattern in Twilight I don't think intentionally but archetypes are archetypes for a reason and they have a habit of repeating themselves so previously weak human dependent Bella goes through hell is ripped apart and is reborn as a vampire a queen of the Underworld the fact that child birth is The right of passage

mayor uses to do this makes me think even more that it's an archetypal coming of age from girl to woman it's kind of metaphor for that so pany being ripped from innocent childhood that we talked about um in Bella's case literally and in a very bloody disturbing fashion panie was never supposed to stay the meek girl forever because that would mean she stays a child forever in Twilight she's reborn stronger than Edward and all the Other vampires with immensely unique mental Powers through her relationship with the archetypal Hades she has self-actualized and become sovereign over

herself to the point pretty much everyone listens to her the bad boy taught her how to assert her boundaries even against him and overcome her inherent passivity it's the lesson to be overcome not the standard to be maintained that the passivity I think isn't that also how 50 Shades of Gray Turns out to some extent learning how to stand up herself even against him and like is isn't that kind of Point like listen Twilight is still bad but people who say it's a female fantasy of being submissive to a superior man forget how the story

ends so you can take the bad boy to be a literal man um or as I said if you want to go old Jordan Peterson it could represent a dormant aspect of her own psyche Awakening and making her a more rounded Mature person so I think it's both could be both one could lead to the other so those who might suggest that a feminine archetypal Coming of Age story needing to have a man as the Catalyst makes women inferior and dependent um same for men most male Coming of Age stories have a woman as the

Catalyst that finally prompts him to become a man often he's going to rescue a princess and that's what makes him grow up becoming a guide to the underworld once a pany woman Descends into her own depths explores the Deep Realm of the archetypal world and does not fear returning to reexamine the experience she can mediate between ordinary and non-ordinary reality she has had awesome or terrible irrational experiences Visions or hallucinations or a numinous spiritual encounter if she can transmit what she has thus learned she can become a guide for others for example when I was

a psychiatric resident a book written by Renee Autobiography of a schizophrenic girl gave me Vivid insights into the subjective experience of being psychotic and a pany woman who has been to the underworld and back can also be a therapist guide who can connect others with their own depths guiding them to find symbolic meaning and understanding of what they find there the point being this open-mindedness and receptivity if properly used and matured can lead to a non-judgmental curious imaginative mind Open to many ideas and possibilities a deep personal understanding of herself and perhaps of others and

insights that might have been Out Of Reach if she had been less receptive and not had the childlike openness she's known for Luna love good I think is a great example of that aspect of dreamy pany she's got quite a lot of that I think yeah that's the conclusion of the video the point I really wanted to get across like every single archetype pany is not to be Sneered at and she has her strengths too just when they're matured balanced with other archetypes and utilized appropriately and not in the shadow side panie once she's also

sure of who she is and not at the whims of stronger forces pushing and pulling her into what they want her to be and that is healthy pany eternally young in spirit and eternally learning so there's nothing wrong with elements of that um all in their place but what I will say is I still don't Think it's important for women to have grit to not be weak worlded and by the way I'm not say I don't think women are weak worlded at all and to not listen to people trying to encourage and or tell women

femininity is infantile CU that's really the key message of a lot of it femininity is infantile I just don't like this constant message that your only two options are masculinity or being babied so as a woman if you want to be not seen as a Baby and taken seriously you can't be feminine cuz feminine is gross gross and babyish and it's pathetic and it's easily dominated and it's all of these things um and so if you want to be taken seriously you got to be masculine but don't be masculine that's gross e who do you

think you are disgusting you got to be a baby you got to be little little baby infant who has no motivation Focus determination or sense of humor apparently and Silent Doile submissive if you want to be feminine that's what I don't like the message of cuz I think there is truth in that a lot of women now do want to embrace their femininity and what I don't like is women who are like I don't like that I felt like I've been pushed into feeling like I have to be masculine okay I want to embrace my

femininity and then you're hearing messages from this you go I want to embrace my femininity and then the Messages from that side are okay that means you have to be docile and silent and weak of Will and um submissive I I think it's terrible I think that is a terrible message and also it's not going to work as well so I I think it's really unhealthy for all the reasons I think it is but also even like if you want to achieve like whatever is you want to achieve the people promoting the ideology it's not

going to work you're not going to win anyone over with that You're going to push people away like I said it makes me want to run as far in the opposite direction but if if if all I had as an understanding of feminity if the only thing I had to kind of conceptualize that was what this man has said about femininity I would run as far as I could in the opposite direction and be like Oh okay that's what I I don't want that then and it it would push me off in the other direction

as I think it will and does lots of women no one wants To be looked down on and that's what the definitely this tweet is doing you can tell me otherwise he's very much looking down on women no one wants to be looked down on people do not want to be looked down on men or women people want to be respected men and women want to be respected and reading that tweet women think oh my God so if I'm like this I will not be respected I have no dignity no respect this man does not

respect the ID concept of Womanhood or women okay if I want to be respected I've got to go completely in the other direction then a lot of people will do that yeah don't allow brain rot idiotic ideologues online to Gaslight you into believing that you're a child or that you should be childish and behave like a child and stay a child and be act like a little girl forever no that's not the only form of femininity and there's also nothing wrong with inherently having something Girlish about your personality there's nothing wrong with that um it's

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