he said his voice tripping with irony since I'm getting remarried you'll need to move out the $55,000 loan will be covered by my new partner I was astounded by his audacity in Shifting the burden onto his new wife so I suppose the $5,000 monthly payments will now be your responsibility Meg Smith a 41-year-old housewife with a part-time job responded by outlining the actual amount I had been bearing all along and displaying the divorce papers without hesitation I proceeded did and just left whatever came next even if it didn't matter to me anymore Mike my spouse
is 3 years my senior and we have been wed for we had been working at the same company for 10 years when we first met at the time I was very focused on my career and had little interest in marriage or romance however when I turned 30 a cooworker who was considering going independent convinced me to change jobs just as I was beginning to get used to my new position Mike a senior cooworker from my previous my relationship with Mike who was in his mid-30s was initially seen through the prism of marriage but two years
later we were married primarily as a result of pressure from those around us my family was very supportive treating me like their own daughter which allowed me to continue working WorryFree for a year after getting married we constructed a home that embodied our goals and aspirations despite the substantial Financial outlay we were able to obtain a loan with a manageable payback schedule this significant purchase cemented our result resolved to support one another for the first two years of our marriage we lived as a normal working couple but in the third year as we started thinking
about having children although the future of his Venture was questionable Mike's conviction remained unshakable by the time he broke the news that he wanted to quit his job and establish his own business he had always dreamed of starting his business before reaching 40 and had been secretly growing his Network and saving money learned about his schemes he had already quit his work and I was discouraged by our lack of contact particularly because he seemed to believe that my salary would be sufficient to meet our expenses my father-in-law grew ill and was admitted to the hospital
soon after Mike started his firm it was discovered that although my in-laws insisted they could manage on their own Mike decided that our family would cover all the expenses I wanted to support my in-laws as much as possible so I agreed to help but pay for everything was an alternative tale our household expenses increased leaving me perplexed that our income was insufficient to cover such a significant financial burden due to frequent contract cancellations and a lack of fresh prospects Mike's firm was floundering his income had almost completely dried up leaving me to pay for all
living expenses and loan payments with my pay credit card bills started to Skyrocket as Mike regularly went out drinking claiming it was for client relations despite the fact that we were almost unemployed he dismissed my worries and treated the situation as though it were someone else's a problem leaving us with the prospect of living our entire lives just debber payment Mike rejected my suggestions saying that we weren't on the verge of collapse and that this was a time to persevere he claimed that the only reason we were able to manage everything was because of my
salary and that I was the one who was most affected financially Mike was unable to accept this fact as the situation progressed our daily conversations dwindled and I eventually felt that there was no point in talking to him about anything as long as payments were made on time I knew that Mike was having Affairs while posing as a worker but I had grown numb to him one day after I got home from work Mike finally spoke he waved a piece of paper in front of me and said I've decided to divorce you please sign here
after a long period of Silence I took a deep breath and calmly accepted both his words and the divorce papers this was probably because I had been thinking about proposing a divorce myself if he hadn't taken action first could we wait a moment I just I suggested that we talk about this in the living room when I got home since I thought you wanted to but you're hurrying me now his tone was annoyed saying I don't need any unnecessary conversation just get it over with he snapped back so I took my time and moov to
the living room after noticing Mike's increasing impatience in spite of the fact that the decision to divorce had been made and the days we had spent together in the home we had built with so much care were coming to an end I wanted to enjoy these last moments at my my own pace so I sat on the sofa and said hell picking up the once more the divorce papers appear fragile in comparison to the marriage registration we signed 10 years ago which may be a reflection of how I'm feeling right now how long will you
just look at them with annoyance Mike said I have a question what are your plans after the divorce what are you saying and what will I do claiming that you're reconsidering the divorce I'm proceeding with the divorce but before it's completed might we at least have a little talk I'm planning to Remar after all remarrying him so there's someone else she must be young attractive and financially well off unlike me an old lady who didn't even have children with you so you're intending to take advantage of her next take advantage of her what do you
think of me I've always taken care of the money so you never had to worry about payments but you act like this so Superior that I can live a better life without you the divorce is actually a benefit for me so I'll probably brush it off perhaps I should have spoken more and continued talking but your sour comments seem like the digressions of someone who has lost I can't stand hearing your voice any longer because the divorce is official and I won't be seeing your face for a while so please move out by the end
of the week by the way is your new girlfriend aware of the Lanser carrying of course she does she has agreed to pay $500 a month to live here so it's not a big deal to her she won't have to worry about loan payments like you did I decided to leave with my belongings already packed after signing the divorce papers and I'll leave the remaining Furniture behind so the Asset Division can dispose of it if you you don't need it so go ahead and wish your new girlfriend well I've left a letter with all the
Lum details for her and I'm smiling managing a $5,000 monthly loan payment will be difficult after giving Mike the note I got into my car and left my old house going directly to City Hall to turn in the divorce paperwork thought I should have divorced sooner so I wouldn't have to worry about him hand Ling the loan payments but I hadn't felt this relaxed in a long time my ex-husband Mike called me several times one morning a week after the divorce although I had expected this it was still very annoying so I chose to answer
one of his calls yes what would you like if it weren't necessary I wouldn't be calling that's really impolite but is the $55,000 accurate you expect me to pay off your debt and I have no reason to lie I let out a heavy sigh at what he said perhaps despite the difficulty I should have clarified everything rather than depending solely on the note that message lays out specifics I'm con because even after reading it I still don't get it I'll explain it to you in addition to the mortgage there are the costs of renovating your
parents house for which you choose a personal loan to cover your father's medical bills the loan for your business if there had only been a mortgage I could have handled it but there is a lot more if you have any questions you can check it I helped because I was your wife but but now that we are not together it is none of my business I informed you when I left that there is a monthly payment of 5,000 this must seem like a joke to you you spent money as if it were nothing and you
never thought about these payments you'll have to handle them with your new girlfriend which is why you divorced me in fact she ended our relationship when she remarked that $5,000 a month was excessive and I assumed that even someone with a high level of income could comprehend that no one wants to pay 10 times the value of a house over many years so income would hardly ever agree to take on a $5,000 monthly payment for debts they didn't incur did you really earn that much after changing jobs yes my salary increased fivefold after changing jobs
but all of that money went directly toward repayments which I was unaware of you made so much money that I wouldn't have proposed divorce if I had told you it's not that you didn't know you simply weren't interested after I changed jobs you should have brought up my work and salary yourself but you never did even when we worked together you hardly spoke after you left independent and with little income you kept spending carelessly so I thought it would be useless to bring it up let's start aesh and I decline I finally attained my freedom
but what about the payments $5,000 a month is too much to handle you might be able to manage it if you sell your house and utilize the proceeds to settle the outstanding debt the payback schedule why not make the payments now I no longer interact with you and and I have no interest in a stranger's debt I may come across as cold but I've been making large payments for more than 6 years in part because I felt compelled to you and in part because I love you you're really cold don't you have any empathy to
your parents things might have been different if you had wanted to return but you made the decision to get a divorce on your own in theory I could sell a house divide the assets and even sue alaman for adultery but I wanted to talk to you first I'm done with someone who uses their own money to pretend to be wealthy and wastes everything I'm tired of paying your careless debts my life is mine don't involve me in it anymore I ended the call with Mike because he was interfering in my life I was so relieved
when everything was finally resolved later I found out that Mike had to give up his job and the house in order to create a new repayment plan for the loans returning to his prior employment under the Gaze of others must have been uncomfortable despite this he would continue to be burdened by loan payments I additionally heard that his parents opted to sell their property and relocate to a retirement home it grieved me to think they wouldn't have faced such a choice if we hadn't divorced so I helped them move and paid for their admission as
a token of appreciation for their generosity I hope they may now live a quiet life free from the burden of $5,000 a month being naturally Frugal allows me to live comfortably and my sigings have been growing over time I'm also researching putting money into Investments to protect my financial future I'm currently moving on with a new partner I met following my divorce and I'm having Happy Days on both a personal and professional level
