in today's video we are going to cover the topic of birthdays during a breakup it can be extremely challenging time because you don't know if you should text your ex on their birthday you don't know what to expect should they text you on your birthday you're eager you're waiting and if they do you don't really know what to do in today's video I'm going to cover both scenarios if it's your birthday and if it's their birthday what you need to do the reason that I was inspired to make this video for you guys is because
yesterday I celebrated my 38th birthday and one of my exes sent me a text message it was a long time ago she me and her broke up very long time ago but she still sent me a happy birthday which was nice it's not the case of let's get back together for me it's it's completely different I mean in another relationship so it's not this is not the case but when you're going through no contact or when it's very fresh this is where it holds more weight and we're going to cover this today I'm Coach P
Goldman your relationship and breakup coach and like I said what do you do when your ex having a birthday let's cover this first and then we're going to go if it's your birthday so if it's their birthday you probably wondering do they expect you to send them a message the answer to this is yes they expect you to send them a message everybody on their birthday think about their loved ones think about people they care about and if you broke up not too long ago which this is my assumption this is why you're watching this
video yes they are expecting you to send them a message and if you're in no contact and they broke up with you what you should do is don't text them you don't I know it can be very hard and you say to yourself if I don't text them happy birthday they will think I forgot about them they will think I don't longer want them and you catastrophizing in your mind about what it means and how they will just forget about you after this because you really up when you didn't text them happy birthday but you
got to remember they broke up with you for a reason they needed a space and actually if they they're having a birthday that can be a great leverage for you to not send them and then they they will think oh my God they don't send me a message why what's wrong what's happened did they forget about me they will not think they forgot about you they will wonder if you forgot about them of course you don't of course you don't we don't forget people we loved we don't we never do think about all of the
relationships and the people you had an emotional connection with you don't forget about them that's that's just 100% % you never forget about them so when your ex will start wondering if you forgot about them this is where it picks their curiosity and it raises their level of anxiety and anxiety the root of Desire is anxiety and it's and it's a good thing for you it's a good thing because now they will start wondering about you this is what you want them this is what you want to happen again if this is if your intentions
to re is to Recon so if it's their birthday you don't text them you make them wonder you just make them wonder and yes they will will expect they will expect now let's talk about if it's your birthday if it's your birthday you expect them as well you just really you want to see you want them to show you some kind of affection you want show want them to show you a sign that they are that you're still on their mind and and this will be the best opportunity for them to step up that will
be the best opportunity for them to apply the indirect direct approach like we talked about in many of my videos and if you haven't watched them go ahead and watch them the indirect direct approach I had I made an entire video about that and what it means your ex once they broke up with you they will want to come back at some point they will probably revisit the idea of coming back no not all EX do but most of them do when you apply the no contact rule correctly or when you go radio silence and
when you do this correctly when you give them a clean breakup that's the most I would say 90% plus do revisit the idea of coming back together so they will try to send you a a a quick little tiny message just to dip their feet into the pool before they dive in so they go they will text you about your dog or something that will seem like very insignificant then you need to reply I know that there are many coaches out there that talk about if your ex text you just ignore them it's during no
contact for 21 days don't reply this is f far for the truth if your intention is to reconcile and your ex reaches out you reply you answer why wouldn't you and don't play dumb games don't be like that this is is this is not a mature behavior and I want you to respect your ex just like you want them to respect you and respect yourself if somebody reaches out to you with with Heart full of remorse or just wanting to talk to you give them the opportunity of course it really depends on what happened in
your relationship but if you're watching this video you're probably have a soft spot in your heart for your ex and you're willing to reconcile so please just reply to them don't play it hard to get it it will backfire 99% of the of the cases when people play hard to get it backfires because when your ex reaches out and they see that you're cold it means that you didn't get over your emotions probably you have an anxious attachment Style and what happens is they see that you didn't really change you didn't really forgave them or
you're still really hurt and then they said you know what let's just forget about it and you lost your chance so if they text you on your birthday reply if they don't get the message get the hint I know it's probably the last thing you want to hear me say but if they don't text you on your birthday that's a that's a strong message that's a strong message it's a tough pill to swallow I understand it's not easy it's not fun but they forgot your birth birthday I don't know if they really forgot maybe they
just didn't want to give you false hope so yeah if they didn't text you on your birthday it's probably a sign that it's not a good sign I wouldn't say it's doomed but I would say it's not a good sign um yeah sorry I'm sorry to say that but this is just how it is and you know that I'm here to tell you the truth I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear I'm going to tell you what you need to hear cuz I don't I'm not here for your views and your
likes and your comments and and glory and fame I'm here to help you heal correctly because I know what you're going through and I know that if I will tell you oh don't worry or this or that if they don't text you on your birthday yes worry worry worry move on it when some when when you have you know what let's just let's just reverse it just for you to understand the how crucial it is and how important it is that if they don't text you on your birthday it means that they they they pull
back a lot they pull back a lot and they send a an an invisible message I call it the invisible message where they just want you to understand something you will not forget about their birthday I assume I'm making an educated assumption you will not so if they will they will or if they or if they already forgot about it just understand that it's not it's just not a good sign and people don't forget things that are important for them times dates places all kind of stuff we don't forget about them and if you're consciously
choosing not to engage in certain thing or not to congratulate someone or acknowledge someone's existence of this planet such as a birth date that this is a good time to say hey thank you for being alive I appreciate your presence they don't do it just understand what it means with that said you guys if you have any questions in regards of anything that I covered here or any other topics please feel free to drop a comment below if you need my direct help also the link in the description below you can book a one-on-one call
with me where we can disect your specific situation to see what happened what you need to do and yeah I got you sending you love and happy birthday for me I'll see you again in the next video I hope this video was helpful for you ciao
