Your "Specific Person" is not what you think...

you may see people ask about what is called the S the specific person on YouTube videos I get Instagram comments about it people asking me how do I get my SP back how do I detach and let go but at the same time get them to come back to me what about this little SP and in this video I want to show you exactly what to do with the SP that is going to be completely different than what you would probably expect me to say but it will free you from the grasp and the attachment

that you have towards that specific person and realizing that what it really is is a specific pattern it is a pattern that feels familiar to Childhood it is a pattern and a person that allows you to feel similar familiarized emotions from the past so if you find yourself in a relationship or dynamic with an emotionally unavailable person maybe it is a specific pattern that allows you to feel the same shame guilt fear or anger that was felt in childhood and in this video I want to show you a four three or four step process that

will completely transform your life and allow you to never ask the question about the SP again because you feel so confident so free and so in your own frame that you no longer have to ask yourself that question again so I'm going to share with you step by step what to do step by step what to realize and I really believe that in six months from now you'll notice your your whole entire life has changed as a result of watching this video how do you want the SP back but also detach and let go at

the same time please okay I want to be nice about this I'll be I'm going to be real althetic at the same time okay so SP stands for in the spiritual law of attraction Community uh specific person am I right you guys correct me if I'm wrong specific person so you want the specific person back but you also detach and like at the same time now the thing I'd question you to look at is what are the beliefs you have about around this specific person and why do you want them back you going to tell

yourself a story the story is going to be that this person is either that ather half to your soul you're never going to feel something as deep with someone else ever again there may be a lesson or an opportunity for you to hear to realize that this specific person is connected to a specific pattern think about that it's a specific pattern that you're attached to so anytime somebody now says on my YouTube channel or on Instagram they say eron how do I how do I attract my specific person my SP I want to attract them

back realize you're talking about the specific pattern it's not a person it's a pattern and you're fighting for a pattern that no longer serves you you're fighting for a pattern that is keeping you stuck in childhood energy it may be the pattern of somebody that's not emotionally available it may be the pattern that someone that's not very present it may be the pattern that someone's controlling or manipulative and you might be subconsciously fighting for that pattern because it feels like the person is meant to be but understand you may be addicted to The Familiar subconsciously

and normally the the way that people ask I'm not trying to talk down to you know whoever the question I'm just saying that it's important to become aware that what you're really fighting for is an old outdated pattern one day you'll look back and you'll realize I can't believe I was fighting for the SP I was fighting for this specific pattern over and over again think about that because that's anytime somebody says to me SP on Instagram or YouTube I'm going to think about it like specific pattern I normally don't answer those questions I'm answering

it now because that's the perspective I have you're fighting for the specific person because it's it's a specific pattern that feels familiar once you realize that it kind of depersonalizes a little bit doesn't it make it a little bit easier to start to let go once you realize that the thing you're probably fighting for is something that's either somebody that's either emotionally unavailable or it's not just maybe not interested in you in the way that you wish they were so you're fighting for Mom or Dad's approval my fighting for their approval interesting right so I

could say okay you're going to detach and let go at the same time um I just recommend you just you recognize it as a pattern and realize that pattern once again we're talking about this Alfred Alfred adarian psychology or the Joes fenza stuff right I'll kind of the idea is that that SP is in your life because they are helping you to feel familiar Ariz emotion from your past there's a subconscious goal that Alfred Adler would talk about in adarian Psychology there's a goal that you might have that's like relationships are scary so what I'm

going to do is I'm going to choose someone that doesn't choose me because if I choose someone that doesn't choose me I get to stay in the familiarized emotion from my childhood where it feels actually kind of like I don't have to really get intimate I don't really have to brush against it it's kind of like this person's like there but not there at the same time so it feels familiar it feels normal it's serving a purpose and then what happens is that person starts doing whatever and you're like how do I get the SP

back how do I get the SP back realize SP is not best uh what do you call it what do people say is sp specialized person or no specific person it's not a specific person is a specific pattern and what you're really attached to is a pattern because the pattern allows you to feel the the familiarized emotions of the past now the thing is is it's going to feel like unknown energy to let that go what you're afraid of doing is letting go of the pattern because when you let go of the pattern and you

realize that maybe it's not what you want to experience anymore there's going to be a little bit of uh emptiness there's not going to be so much dopamine there and you're going to say well what do I do like I want to create more dopamine I want to create this fighter flight response so who do I who do I find next that's emotionally unavailable so that they can replay this energy with me interesting right so the thing you want to focus on when it comes to having a specific person that you're trying to make it

work with is that you're fighting for a specific pattern that feels familiar to your childhood and now how do you let go of that specific pattern how do you let go of that specific person well you realize first off they're serving a purpose you first off there's like a three-step process that you can look at here let's look at three simple steps that you can use they use these three St these same three steps in AA kind of I'd say they're like phases I don't I've never been to AA but the thing when you're asking

that question is there's some form of energetic addiction there now what's the first step in AA the first step is to admit to admit and to be aware of the thing to be able to not me deny right so the first thing is to admit that there's a pattern pattern here yes there's a pattern here it's not just the person and the story that you color this SP specific person with it's a specific pattern okay you have to take responsibility for the pattern I picked up this pattern maybe it was something that happened and it

was familiar in childhood but I picked it up and now I'm projecting it onto the external reality and and I'm finding people and synchronicities and things that allow me to feel that emotion take responsibility for it and your responsibility is your ability to respond to choose a new meaning which also gives you the ability to let it go now the other thing you can do and the third step that I recommend is connecting to the Divine connecting to something greater than yourself giving it up to God giving it up to the universe whatever name you

want to give it this is also the power of hoono Hoon I'm sorry please forgive me thank you I love you you clean it out of your energy field but really what I'd also recommend you do is you get to the core of the inner child part of you that's wondering where the hell is mom or dad why are they not present in here why are my needs not being met there's an inner child part of you that probably feels that way and fighting for the S the specific person aka the specific pattern is helping

you to feel balloons it's helping you to feel that emotion so one thing you want to do is give it up to the Divine become aware of your your role in it but in in be present with that inner child part of you I've had very powerful experiences with myself where I did something called family consolation I've talked about this before family consolation is a specific German process of healing where what happens is the idea is within your energetic field is the energy pattern of your family lineage of the stuff that happened in childhood that

maybe even happened in your parents childhood that was passed down to the generations waiting for you to feel it to heal it and let it go out of your energy fuel well I was in Sedona and I have a friend of mine that was telling me family consolation therapy completely changed your life so I decided to do it I actually flew to Sedona and this is like at the beginning of the year and what I did is I went and it's it's an actual where there's people there and there were five people there and there

was the practitioner and five people that were basically volunteers to play out different energy patterns in my family without them knowing anything about my family they basically like get into a a state like a channeled State and just like whatever comes to them they start playing out these different patterns so what I did is I I had to pick who plays my mom who plays my mom's dad who plays my mom's mom who plays me like was all of this thing and that I'm watching these these people not know anything about my family history by

the way start to play out different energy patterns and it was mindblowing how accurate some of these things were how accurate without saying anything they were like this person was EMB body my mom's energy this person is body my mom's dad's eny who I didn't really even know but I what what I did know on my father seems kind of accurate same with my mom and I could then see that similar patterns I noticed were also similar patterns I experienced in my own childhood even when my mom wasn't around from when I was 7 to

17 because I had a different dynamic in my life where I wasn't really allowed to see my mom but it's like wow that's like the same energy pattern but at the end of this family constellation therapy exercise thing I'm actually laying in the arms of this lady that's playing my mom and there's this it was kind of weird at first because it's this random person but like they're playing the energy of my mom it was very interesting um but I'm like laying in the there was this nurturing that she was doing by like almost like

treating me as if I was a baby it was kind of I had to like sink into the experience and kind of be open to it but what happened was interesting on one hand there was this big heart opening that happened and that heart opening actually feeled like a sharp pain as I'm laying on this like I'm laying my my head is on the lap of this lady that kind of looks like my mom but is playing the energy of my mom and the idea was that when I was a kid there was this um

we were able to kind of close the loop from Child childhood so as she's doing that I feel this sharp pain in my heart and my body started to kind of like shake a little bit and there was like this crying that that wanted to happen and it was like this this energy but then what happened is after the sharp pain and I just be present with it there was this huge expansion of Love Of My Heart opening of feeling like there was this closure this almost like this completed energy and this new nervous system

Attunement to more open feeling of love and I recognized that that sharp pain that I was feeling before was a safety mechanism that was allowing me not to feel the scary unknown of the expans of love so what I'm saying is when you're looking for the SP the specific person which is a specific pattern maybe that specific person that specific pattern is shielding you from feeling the UN is shielding you from feeling the expansive energy of unconditional love in your heart and what ends up happening is you end up as a result attracting people that

are either emotionally unavailable or people that uh reflect back that old energy Dynamic but the thing to realize is that there's a part of you that likes the familiar that believes in the familiar so your breakthrough is around not choosing that SP that specific person it's around choosing a specific pattern that is more expansive than the old specific pattern so if you want to be free and you want to let go of the old familiarized energy it does take courage it does take feeling it does take opening up your heart does that make sense so

I'm glad that for once and for all I was able to kind of Express the whole SP thing that came through in the Moment by the way I I never even thought of the whole specific pattern thing but it really is it's a specific pattern that's why I like going live stuff just kind of comes through and by the way if you guys I haven't even mentioned it yet right yesterday the magnetic abundance challenge opened for enrollment there's early bird um ticket right now which means you get life access lifetime access to videos it's 21

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you get the cheapest price and you get it uh what else all the bonuses everything that 50,000 people go through past 21- day challenges before it's the first one I'm doing second one of the year I did one in January but I normally do three or four a year so they take out a life of their own nice some of you are already in it that's cool so yeah Mac if you're interested okay let's see how do you repel energy vampires so we were talking about this a little bit earlier energy vampires are people that

are gaining energy from you know that the the story there that the thing that you want to become aware of is are you projecting onto them and giving away your energy and then saying that they're taking their your energy from you like you have an oper you have an option to not give away your energy that is an option but a lot of times when people say energy vampires are taking energy from me there's a belief and a story there that you have to give up your energy and understand there's a payoff to you giving

away your energy what is the payoff to giv away your energy maybe it feels familiar to Childhood maybe giving away your energy allows you to have not so much energy so you don't have to take action or step into the unknown maybe allows certain blame energy to stay active inside of your field now one of the the best ways to repel an energy vampire is to set a boundary to not talk to someone somebody that's maybe draining your energy it's simple but you say oh it's hard for me to set boundaries well do you feel

responsible for other people's tension do you feel like you are meant to be at the disposal of your energy to make other people deal a certain way you see the difference there so you're not responsible you just it's it doesn't to repel energy vampires be the most authentic version of you and don't feel like you have to give away your energy what is the exchange there if you give away your energy what is the exchange maybe you feel like a good person maybe you feel like you're fixing a lot of times empaths might attract narcissist

and it's like well I can fix this person and I see the best in this person and if I can fix them then what you get a payoff from that even if they're toxic and it drains your energy there's like oh I feel I feel of use I feel like I'm fixing mom or dad by fixing mom or dad you I didn't could get them to love me this is the deeper Shadow stuff to look at so to repel them simply set boundaries be in your own frame um Express the real you tension is not

bad what happens if an energy vampire goes up to somebody that like doesn't engage with them at all it's one one of the best ways too is to completely disengage your energy sometimes when certain people when you're arguing with them it feeds their frame and it gives them something to something like clench on to but if you don't you just put your energy somewhere else and you get out of the story of this person's taking my energy or this is happening you end up even more free let's see what time is it 10 o'cl getting

kind of hungry man I'm still at Austin time because I've been in Austin for like 3 years so since coming to California it's like so it's like 12:30 for me right now but it's 10:30 and then I'm debating today's late day at the gym but also I want to surf but to do both it is kind of like a lot of energy so it's like then I have to wait to Surf tomorrow and I it's been two or three days since I've surfed so I really want to go surf but I also want to do

I want to have a good leg day so I could go to do leg day now and then I can go surf later but then it's also going to be hard to Surf after leg day what shall I do surfing's kind of Addicting you like a good way I learned how to turn the other day so basically I've had probably 10 sessions or more like learn 10 sessions of someone teaching me and I I'm I can get up on the board pretty consistently I can ride W I can ride waves inconsistently but what I learned

last time was you start riding waving and then you turn left or right and it was super busy on the beach so it was kind of like I had to like I kind of had to do that just so I didn't run into like random kids and people that are just like in that area in the Impact Zone um but anyways it's like the coolest feeling ever to be serving and then to turn and I want to do it and I'm like I want to go but I have Lake day today at the gym L

day for me is I I want to reime I want to program my mind to enjoy leg day but it hasn't happened yet I always feel amazing after L day but it's just it so taxing to the if you're if you're really going to failure or you're going really hard it's just it is taxing it's just mentally make your nervous system yeah but you see sometimes leaning in detention is the good thing some like some just go serve maybe that's the Breakthrough I'm not going to Skip Leg Day that's not good advice surfing is like

day maybe I wish um anyways thank you for hting me everyone holding space for that um how to get out of a bond with an emotionally unavailable person he told me I start to break differences and he is scared I'm on a real coas I don't want it to be I I want to be stable at safety so one thing to realize about that is a lot of times when people attract emotionally unavailable people they've normalized and let it be okay to be with someone that is emotionally unavailable also normally there is some form of

emotional unavailability that feels safe so normally there's active emotional unavailability within the person that attracts emotionally unavailable people which is also hard to look at because it's like well no I just love people so much what are you talking about Aaron but some of that emotional unavailability may be of there's an avoidance of feeling and going going through the intimate expansion or the intimate uh breakthroughs that you could be having if you actually choose someone that was emotionally available so like I said earlier if you I'm going to put this replay up of this live

I talked about there's four different steps becoming aware of the pattern taking responsibility for the pattern allowing the Divine to come through to help you let it go to forgive and to have the courage to step into a new version of you a new pattern But realize the pattern was serving a purpose so when you address that deeper Purpose By healing that inner child that's where a lot of the healing can happen so anyways I'm getting hungry so anyways um the magnetic abundance challenge starts on September 25th now is the early bird enrollment it's going

to end on Monday the early bird enrollment um Mac you're going to spot at Mac if you're interested in that I than that this is fun it took a while to get in the flow they always do sometimes sometimes I get the flow right away sometimes it takes a while the SP question really got me in the flow that was fun other than that hope all of you have an incredible and amazing day and I'm going to eat probably do late day and then maybe go surf so other than that hope you all have a

great day and as always peace love and namaste