we've all had those moments where we wish we could think of something funny to say but our mind goes blank it can be frustrating especially when you're talking to someone you really want to like you so in this video we'll go through four easy ways you can make people laugh and love being around you we'll do this by breaking down some clips from the king of sarcasm Ryan Reynolds some people mistakenly think this type of sarcastic humor makes you an but when done properly it can instantly make people like you more let's start with the
simplest habit you can steal from Ryan exaggerate so much it's impossible to take you seriously watch this quick example after Graham Norton asks if Ryan was good with girls growing up no no no not at all I was I don't believe it no no no I really I went through puberty at like 27 there's two situations where this type of joke is most useful the first is when answering potentially boring questions during Small Talk how old are your girls now I have no idea yeah I've been around if you can transform someone's boring small talk
into a funny playful conversation they will love you for it that said a common mistake with sarcasm is to say something potentially believable this can leave people confused or even upset with you by contrast watch how obviously untrue Ryan's answer is in this wired interview with Jake Gyllenhaal you can tell Jake loves it does Gyllenhaal what does he eat well funny you should ask baby pandas now you know the joke is coming which blunts some of its effect but in your own life most people asking boring Small Talk questions won't be expecting you to give
a funny response and when you do you separate yourself as more fun than 95% of people who give a boring answer in addition to answering questions you can also use these over-the-top exaggerations to make people laugh during your stories for example listen to Ryan discuss working with a child actor for the first time um you know I was nervous I mean you know when you're working with a child actor you you first thing you think is I want to take my life with fire right uh but uh um you know there's that there's that famous
saying this is especially powerful if you're being negative in general no one likes to listen to someone complain by exaggerating how much he was dreading it Ryan makes complaining fun to listen to here's another example from the same interview where Ryan talks about how the studio tried to get him and his 10-year-old co-star to bond so they set up this day we went out to the Museum of Natural History she wanted to see the turtles and she drags me across the the Park Central Park all the way into Foo Schwarz I'm in there I'm I'm
just longing for death uh and uh and now even if it's funny if negative sarcasm is your go-to style of humor some people may fatigue from your negativity you can avoid this by ultimately ending your stories on a positive note watch how Ryan wraps up that particular story and her mom walks up and she says Ryan um bought me a a a stuffed toy it cost $300 what an idiot and I was like at that moment I fell hopelessly in love with this little girl I just smart kid I'm kidnapping you and keeping you for
the rest of my life yeah she one thing you saw throughout that story that will help you make any joke funnier is specif specificity for example compare this next clip to if Ryan had just said his kids leave him feeling tired it's always a challenge to kids it's like you know I think of like blinking now is like tiny little breaks all day um but you know if you're not good at this an easy way to practice it is with the Mind's Eye method basically when you want to make someone laugh try to conjure up
an absurd image in the person's mind for example Ryan was in a movie with Denzel Washington at one point who Ryan really admires instead of just saying he admires him listen to how Ryan paints a fake funny image you can picture in your mind but he knocks on my trailer on my my dressing room door and he says uh he says you kind of run the scene with you real quick and I I'm like what I ripping my Denzel Washington poster down and like know yes come on in you know f um and here's a
few more quick examples notice how he gets a laugh every time he replaces a generic statement like they don't pay well with an absurd visual image you care after you make so much money do you even care if it flops or not how do you know I work for for 20th Century Fox what do you think I'm paid in spit and insults no this like this is an American made gin it's an American gin a little smoother than our its British counterparts a little more drinkable uh wow I sound like a pro yeah you're actually
good I really know nothing about JY if I ran the company for real it would be on fire um I used to say her I would take a bullet for you I would I would I could never love anything as much as I love you I would say that to my wife and then a second I looked in that baby's eyes I knew in that exact moment moment that if we were ever under attack I would use my wife as a human shield to protect that baby this type of witty humor may seem daunting at
first because you have to be able to think quickly on the spot but like any other skill it gets much easier with a little practice you can do that formally with improv classes like Ryan did or you can do it informally simply by making it a priority next time you're somewhere social if you're going to do the ladder you can set yourself up for success using priming simply put if you know you're heading into a situation where you want to be witty take just 5 minutes beforehand and watch someone like Ryan Reynolds Chris Pratt or
whoever has the sense of humor you admire this will help Prime you to think like they do before you head out the next technique you can steal from Ryan is the fake out method this is something you can do anytime you're telling a story but it's especially easy if you're saying something that people expect will be sentimental watch this quick example of Ryan talking about how he became an investor in aviation gin 11 years ago I remember reading a Deadpool comic and feeling like this is a once in A- lifetime connection and then a few
years later I met my wife and I was like oh I guess a once in a lifetime connection can happen twice and then uh and then we had our children and that's when I realized that I love Jin it was I took the passion a nice trick if you want to ensure you get a laugh is to slow down or give a slight pause before the punchline this lets to whoever is listening to you start to fill in the blank incorrectly in their mind so they can be surprised by your unexpected twist here's another example
this time Ryan is talking about how he gave Denzel Washington a black eye while filming safe house I banged his face very very hard with my head which uh which uh uh for a young actor that doesn't feel good um I didn't I I didn't know what to do in the moment you know I didn't know if I should call for help um not for for him for me uh I now one common mistake people make when they're learning to be more charismatic is to put a lot of pressure on themselves to perform for other
people ironically the best thing you can do is to take the techniques from this video that you find funny and put those into practice Ryan isn't just funny because of the words he says he's funny because of his tone his energy and his body language but rather than try to mimic all of that consciously it's far easier for you if you just focus on self- amusement and having a good time if you do that those subconscious signals will naturally improve for example listen to Ryan talk about how he got good enough at voiceovers to do
the movie trailer for Deadpool like so you didn't just work on the the things you did the voiceovers for some of the trailers you did the did voice yeah yeah exactly yeah I love that stuff I do it at home all the time my wife nuts it's you know it's that voice it's the inner World divided by fear depending on where you're starting from being playful at all might feel like a stretch so you'll have to start by going slightly outside your comfort zone But ultimately what you're aiming for is to find the style of
joke that naturally makes you smile and laugh as you do it this will make you have more fun in conversation and make people want to be around you more the one piece of nuance to that is if you want people to like being around you you're probably better off building the habit of being positive with your humor for example compare how Ryan and Jake react when this woman makes a joke that's just okay operation Jakey Jake and ryy oh somebody's been reading my diary and does does my body language say anything about the line of
questioning that Mak sounds like you're OCC you lost him but you have me he's hydrating and ready to go you see him I'm just like as you just saw both positive and negative humor can make people laugh but when you cultivate a positive supportive sense of humor it invites the other person to be more playful and continue to have fun in conversation make a habit of that and you'll become the person everyone looks forward to talking to now making people laugh is obviously just one part of conversation whether you're looking for a new Mentor more
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