I Followed My Wife To Catch Her Affair On Video, But Was Shocked By What I Found When I Snuck In.

I followed my wife to catch her affair on video but was shocked by what I found when I snuck in my name is Jonathan and I've never experienced such intense anger in my life the kind of anger I'm feeling is something no one should ever have to endure I found myself wanting to confront two people at that very moment so why am I so Furious I'll explain it all it began about 5 weeks ago when my wife started undergoing a noticeable transformation like a chameleon right before my eyes she started rejecting intimacy including the physical

aspect of a husband and wife's relationship this immediately raised suspicions for me as I once had a girlfriend who cheated on me and that experience taught me some painful lessons I never brought up my past experience with the first woman in my life to the now second woman I doubt it would have made a difference anyway during the second week of her transformation I decided to dig deeper I'm not the kind of guy who seeks help from a private investigator or someone else to solve my problems no I'm a Hands-On guy who prefers to handle

my own issues thank you very much I followed her during her lunch break from work when she parked at that motel and walked briskly to room 104 I knew she was cheating on me her job didn't require her to deal with customers outside of the workplace at all in fact she had no customer interaction because she worked in the recordkeeping department discovering her infidelity was painful but not nearly as painful as the taunts insults and slights she had already subjected me to the man she was meeting was a coworker of sorts who worked in a

different department I had heard that he was quickly advancing in his career and climbing the corporate ladder rapidly after observing them meeting three times in 2 weeks I decided on my approach to this issue I would confront it headon I'm too Frugal to spend my hard-earned money on confirming what I already knew so I waited now knowing that just behind this door my wife was in the arms of another man it was going to be a close call I had to confront them gather evidence and in my current emotional state I could still pursue a

legal claim for alienation of affection her employer would also face severe consequences for allowing this to happen my guess was that Mr on the way up was soon to become Mr on the way out I needed photographic evidence and then I needed to serve my soon Tobe ex-wife with divorce papers the locks on our house were being changed as I stood there having paid the locksmith just before leaving home I had reorganized all of our shared finances and divided them equally I had also canceled all our credit cards over the past 2 weeks I had

taken various steps and now the final upheaval was about to unfold I can't say for sure how Simone will react I believe she might feel relieved rather than upset although guilt could weigh on her shortly my attorney who has extensive experience with divorces assured me that the guilt would fade as soon as she hired her own lawyer do I love her you may Wonder well right now I utterly and openly despise her yet deep inside I'm engaged in a profound inner struggle grappling with the idea that she truly loves me and this is just a

terrible mistake on her part a lapse in judgment that we might be able to mend however I know logically that it won't happen I cannot accept a wife who would betray my trust there is not a shred of trust left in me for her the love I still feel for her is the part that hasn't had time to come to terms with this sudden and complete transformation that has occurred so swiftly update the motel manager handed me the room key a $100 bill and a promise not to damage the place served as the price for

obtaining the key he's a decent guy and I'm sure it's not his fault that my wife and her lover chose this location for their secret meetings He also mentioned something about his ex-wife and how there were some similarities between us inserting the key I quietly opened the door and stepped into the room leaving it slightly ajar I aimed the camera and entered the room completely I love this digital camera I thought to myself I'm so grateful she gave it to me for my birthday 3 months ago she was shouting at the guy to get off

her and he was Furious trying to get up I took several more pictures capturing her in a compromising position Simone was crying attempting to cover up while he persisted in his foolish actions I secretly hoped he would make that choice which made my next move feel quite natural who are you get the heck out of here before I kick your behind I declared I am her soon to be ex-husband whose behind is getting kicked is Up For Debate I don't think you're going to kick mine I moved to one side as he approached setting the

camera down and turning slightly to the right I allowed him to come up on my left releasing the camera I began to turn rapidly and in doing so I swung SW my arm forcefully my fist connected with his face his feet lifted off the floor from the force of my anger pain and just a hint of fear I was afraid I would lose control and hurt him and he simply wasn't worth it I must have been angrier than I realized I bent over and checked for his pulse there was a pulse so I eased up

I heard Simone going on and on about something and then I turned to face her she suddenly fell silent fear choking her voice I could tell she had never seen me like this before and I must have appeared significantly from the man she had breakfast with this morning well enjoy this situation he's all yours now I want nothing to do with your cheating ways anymore she sat there tears streaming down her face trembling and hugging herself she couldn't meet my gaze something I had noticed happening more frequently lately but now she knew that I knew

the game was over she glanced at me standing over her lover and I saw her shudder however her eyes didn't Linger on me for long here are the standard divorce papers I'm filing for divorce the locks on the house have been changed I've set up a bank account with your share of everything you've been served and we're done thanks I Turned and Left hearing her plead with me as I walked out the door wait let me explain please Jonathan please I kept moving I couldn't let her see my eyes at that moment they were filled

with tears and I knew that if I turned back I might weaken and deviate from my plan too much at happened and I had too many issues to reconsider what once was is no more when I got home I found the locksmith patiently waiting he had changed all three entry locks and the garage door opener had been reprogrammed I thanked him for the quick job and gave him a $20 tip sitting inside the house that used to be our home I sat at the kitchen table reflecting on the years we spent together I couldn't fathom

why Simone had changed or why she suddenly saw me as less than what she once did I couldn't find a single reason for her actions what I did know was that our relationship had come to an end in the span of 5 weeks the pain and words had transformed me into a different person unfortunately Simone seemed to have missed this change as it occurred just as I had overlooked the changes in her the phone rang and I checked the caller ID to see that it was Simone's mom I answered and she inquired John what's going

on Simone came over here in tears saying that she's ruined your marriage what's happened I replied well Doris it's like this Simone will need to tell you the details but in summary I found her at a motel today and served her with divorce papers Doris sounded perplexed why John I don't understand this at all I explained look I'm really sorry Doris you know how much I love you and Sam and this whole situation is tough on all of us but it has to be this way tears streamed down my cheeks now I genuinely cared for

Simone's parents they had been incredibly kind to me throughout the years we were together hearing the pain and confusion in Doris's voice deeply affected me and I was grateful that this conversation was happening over the phone I didn't want them to witness my emotional state Doris persisted Ed John can't you two work it out somehow I replied somberly I don't think so Doris this is a significant issue one of those life altering events that shatters everything a solemn silence followed on the other end of the line as Doris tried to come to terms with this

sudden and distressing news I sympathized with her especially since we had just had dinner with Doris and Sam the previous night and Simone had acted affectionate in front of her parents it had been surprising to me we had argued on the way to their house and naturally I received the cold shoulder on the way back however while at Doris and Sam's we had portrayed the perfect couple I didn't want our fight to be visible as I wanted to Shield Sam from The Hurt caused by his daughter's actions now it seemed I should have somehow forwarned

them before taking the steps I had just taken Sam's Health wasn't in great shape given the years of demanding jobs and his history of smoking which had taken a toll on his well-being although Doris was in good health she was always concerned about Sam I felt regretful for not having given them some form of heads up regarding this chaotic situation update a few days later my phone rang once more glancing at the caller ID I saw that it was Simone's father I answered the call and he began John I need to discuss something concerning my

daughter's unfortunate relationship Simone revealed everything to her mother last night and I was present too can we meet I want to share with you the exact details of what happened to her I had a genuine affection for Simone's parents so I agreed to meet Simone's father then recounted Simone's coners Sation with her mother when they spoke about me and my decision to serve her with divorce papers Simone's mother had asked well Simone I'm your mother and John is like a son to me I'm sorry to hear that Jon served you with divorce papers however you

have to tell me what happened it's not enough to mention that Jon found you in a motel room I want to know all the details why were you in the motel and who were you with Simone explained mom Jonathan and I weren't getting along as well as we did when we first got married he had been swamped with work juggling several projects and it was taking a toll on our personal life we had discussed it since it was significantly affecting our relationship I knew that in a few months all his hard work would likely result

in a promising promotion meanwhile at my job Greg discovered an error I had made with some employee records it wasn't a major mistake but it was a serious oversight on my part that could have jeopardized my upcoming promotion raise and career progress Greg being the kind of man he is used this information and essentially blackmailed me into meeting him for lunch one day this eventually led to closeness as a one-time arrangement to prevent the consequences of my mistake while I wasn't thrilled about the situation one thing that made me agree was the fact that Jonathan

and I hadn't been getting along well and our intimacy had dwindled over the last 6 months it wasn't until that first meeting with Greg that I realized I had also been feeling like I was missing out on some life experiences that others had had Jonathan had been my only partner and I had never been with any other man our first encounter with Greg took place in his office during lunch everyone had left as usual and I stayed behind Greg had been waiting for me and had even brought a small bottle of my favorite wine along

with some cheese and crackers typically our lunch breaks lasted an hour and colleagues would go to local restaurants or Street vendors to eat I usually grabbed something quick from a street vendor's cart and then found Solitude at the park that first day nobody seemed to notice our absence Greg turned out to be much Kinder than the initial impression I had of him as a mean blackmailer that first encounter was a sort of Liberation for me after that day I found myself Desiring it more despite knowing it was wrong even though I still loved my husband

Jonathan Greg treated me differently like his possession or something with him I could let go and be a completely different person by the end of that lunch I had engaged in activities with Greg that I had never done with my husband we had just managed to straighten things out before our colleagues returned and I left his office feeling less angry toward him than when it all be began later that day as I tasted his presence on my lips I couldn't help but think about the next time it was an unexpected thought that revealed my desire

for Greg once more Greg also wanted more than just one encounter the next day he approached me about it and we once again engaged in an office affair during those encounters he began making negative comments about Jonathan over the next two weeks a pattern emerged while we were intimate Greg would say hurtful things about Jonathan he even suggested that Jonathan might be cheating on me given the state of our relationship at home I gradually adopted Greg's perspective over time I started belittling and criticizing Jonathan to everyone except you and Dad I was afraid that you

and Dad would see right through me so I pretended to be a loving wife when you and Dad were around just before the motel rendevu Jonathan and I were distant and Greg and I had transitioned from an affair to a full-blown relationship Greg suggested that using a motel would be a safer way for us to meet until we could figure out a better plan his wife was becoming suspicious and he believed someone at work might have noticed how often we were together given that we worked in different departments we never discussed leaving our spouses it

never crossed our minds we were simply meeting for physical satisfaction I failed to recognize that with Jonathan there was love respect and understanding I abandoned those qualities for physical gratification lust and the way Greg dominated me Jonathan respected me and would never take anything without my full consent Greg on the other hand took whatever he wanted and ordered me around devoid of any genuine love his wife provided the emotional support he needed meanwhile I let my emotional connection with Jonathan Wither in favor of the excitement I experienced with Greg looking back I now realize I

made the biggest mistake of my life 10 weeks ago and there's no way to go back and fix it when Jonathan entered the room that day it took me by surprise I panicked attempting to conceal myself and push Greg Away by the time Greg got up I looked at Jon's face and saw a complete stranger there was a look in his eyes that I had never witnessed before Jonathan began taking pictures of us while Greg stepped off the bed muttering something that I couldn't catch Jonathan calmly placed the digital camera on the nearby table where

he stood what happened next left me stunned Greg began advancing toward Jonathan making threats the next thing I witnessed was Greg soaring about 2 feet into the air before landing on his back Jonathan's gaze met mine and I couldn't bear to look at him any longer I attempted to cover myself with the sheet feeling frightened embarrassed and most of all deeply ashamed Jonathan called me a derogatory term and tossed some folded papers onto the bed I overheard something about papers and divorce being served I stared at the bed sheets unsure if my husband was going

to harm me too I was scared embarrassed and overwhelmed by shame suddenly Jonathan turned and started walking out taking the camera from the table I cried out to him though I can't recall what I said I just remember feeling that whatever I uttered must have sounded Hollow later I took a long shower with without checking on Greg I no longer cared whether he was alive or not the motel manager came to check on the room that's when I learned that Jonathan had purchased a key from him the manager regarded me with disdain he shared that

he had caught his wife with another man in a room similar to the one Jonathan had rented which was the real reason he had given Jonathan the key he informed me that I had really messed up he didn't need to tell me I already knew I just thrown away the best thing I ever had in my life all because I got entangled in my Affair and foolishly believed I had something special the following day she arrived at work and three men were waiting in my office the company president the human resources manager and a man

whom I assumed was the company lawyer they inquired about how Greg and I had become involved and I explained everything holding nothing back I could see the Expressions on my colleagues faces as they passed by the office the same looks I had seen when I arrived that morning and I knew I would be terminated by the end of the day however I was mistaken first the R representative ensured that the initial encounter with Greg had been a form of blackmail then they made me sign some documents about Greg and me I was out of the

office and on the street before lunch the company couldn't retain me but due to Greg's initial blackmail they had to provide me with severance pay apart from that I was let go Greg was escorted out of the building by security and handed over to the police it turned out he had been involved in other illegal activities which emerged during questioning Greg was in serious legal trouble later I discovered that Greg had been embezzling from the company in various small ways such as manipulating receipts from business trips in total it amounted to enough to charge him

with grand Larsen Greg's wife left him taking their three children and returning to her parents home in the East Greg was in jail awaiting trial initially I was asked to testify but when I spoke with the district attorney she realized that my testimony would likely do more harm than good consequently they decided not to use me as a witness Greg's lawyer inquired if I would testify in Greg's defense once I explained that I would testify about how Greg had initially coerced me into closeness and subsequently drove a wedge between my husband and me even he

concluded that I wouldn't be a valuable witness mom I honestly don't know how I managed to make such terrible decisions her mother replied Simone you've committed one of the gravest mistakes possible you've not only disappointed your parents and yourself but you've also betrayed your husband you young lady have completely ruined two marriages and shattered your husband's love your actions have sunk to the lowest of lows I still love you because you're my daughter but I've lost all respect for you Sam informed me that Doris and he allowed Simone to move in with them he sounded

distraught which brought tears to my eyes as well they were good people and I felt sorry that they had been dragged into this mess update I understood that if I had warned her parents Simone might have received a heads up and I wouldn't have obtained the necessary pictures well I didn't really need them for the court unless her lawyer became confrontational in case of any confrontations the pictures would be presented along with sworn testimony from six different individuals regarding their involvement I hesitated to call it an affair I'm uncertain if Simone was genuinely in love

with this man or if she initially participated willingly her father's statement suggested that Greg might have had some leverage over Simone at the beginning my lawyer was making the most of the case against Simone's employer which had already been filed while I Was preparing to visit the motel room he filed the case in court and then within 20 minutes was on the phone with the company comp's lawyers who were quite agitated naturally they were also in denial but my lawyer mentioned the sworn statements and suddenly The company took a different stance based on what my

lawyer told me I knew that Simone her lover and possibly others involved were likely to be terminated from their jobs the next day unless they could provide a reasonable excuse for their behavior as for me I knew that the case for alienation of affection against Greg was strong given his employer actions we had sworn statements from three of his co-workers and one of hers about their clandestine activities at work some supervisors at the company had also speculated about them but no one had confronted them or informed me we had affidavits from the motel owner and

a cleaning lady as well making it a total of six Witnesses of sorts along with my pictures as concrete proof of the affair occurring during Company hours their use of the motel had been an attempt to avoid the prying eyes of Kio workers as Greg had realized they were becoming too conspicuous he was also aware of the 's policies regarding workplace relationships and ethics and my lawyer had gathered plenty of information on that front I learned that Simone and the other man had been together for a little over 5 weeks by the time I sensed

that something was a miss so Simone had been involved in this affair for just over 10 weeks in total when I confronted them at the motel the moment I found out about it 5 weeks earlier had been one of the most challenging times in my life I'd experienced three of those moments so far and by now I hoped I'd never have to go through another as long as I lived leaving the motel room that day left me feeling more numb than ever Simone was still on the bed crying and Greg was still unconscious the motel

manager met me in the hallway and I handed him the key he offered some kind words of comfort placing his hand on my shoulder it's tough right now but it will get better move on find yourself and then find someone else you'll be okay he said I knew it was going to be painful for a while depending on how much I had loved her and cared for her thanks I had already figured that out update Simone didn't put up any fight during the divorce proceedings it all went incredibly smoothly my lawyer and hers I believe

were surprised she seemed completely resigned and although I could see she was suffering at least she didn't attempt to justify her actions once the divorce was finalized the case against her former employer was wrapped up as well they just wanted me to disappear and they were willing to cover my lawyer fees court costs and offer a substantial sum to ensure that since then Simone has been facing difficulty she's alone jobless and living with parents who have been profoundly affected by her actions adding to her stress the stigma of being an impostor lingers over her and

it will take a long time to Shake it Off nonetheless she has the chance to start a new I hope that eventually she can move forward and not carry this pain with her every hour perhaps she's learned a painful lesson and Only Time Will Reveal Greg ended up in jail and I relished that moment now he'd experience a different kind of intimacy hopefully from the receiving end this time I have no sympathy for him to me he's not a man he's nothing he had a wife and three kids I met her once during the chaos

of the divorce and she was an attractive woman what a foolish decision Greg made he had everything and threw it all away in pursuit of some thrill he must have believed he couldn't get from her I resigned from my job which left my Employers in shock they made every effort to convince me to stay but my personal issues were too overwhelming to continue working effectively after doing what they could they offered me a well-crafted letter of recommendation which I accepted I have since found a new job on the west coast and I relocated about a

year ago I met a wonderful young woman who's a real keeper I still struggle with trust issues but she has an ex-husband who cheated on her so we share a common understanding story two I a 33-year-old female met my husband a 36-year-old male on a dating site not expecting much due to my previous experiences on the platform which had all been disappointing most of my encounters on the site had led to Casual relationships purely based on physical attraction however when I met my husband things were different because he had long-term plans and goals as we

talked more I discovered that we had common goals such as coming from small families him having one brother and me being an only child this similarity made us desire a large family to provide multiple sources of support for our children we went on numerous dates and our conversations were constant I felt heard safe and genuinely happy when I was with him at this point I had already stopped using the dating site and cut ties with the people I had been talking to I was content and felt like a better version of myself when I was

with him he always encouraged me to improve I was thrilled when he proposed but as the wedding day approached I began to feel increasingly nervous and had doubts about whether marriage was the right decision at this time even close friends told me I was too young to get married and that I might be wasting my youth on one person on the other hand my mother assured me that feeling nervous was normal and that my husband was a good person who would take care of me in all aspects of life this confusion and pressure led me

to reconnect with a person from the dating site whom I had previously engaged in a casual relationship we met up and one thing led to another reigniting our passionate connection I never discussed my wedding Jitters with my husband instead I continued my secret relationship with a guy from the dating site even on the day of our wedding a few months after our honeymoon I discovered I was pregnant with our first child who is now 10 years old and we were thrilled my husband was consistently involved in every aspect of our son's life to the point

where I sometimes felt left out I assumed it might be postpartum symptoms but instead of seeking professional help or discussing it with my husband I turned to the person from the dating site for comfort and our Affair resumed over the next few years we welcomed two more Sons currently 6 and 3 years old our family was a source of great happiness and we were on track to achieve our dream of having a large family the only thing misses was a baby girl there were no girls in my husband's family and I had no sisters so

having a daughter or two would feel like the final piece of the puzzle my husband was particularly eager for a daughter but I wasn't getting pregnant as time went on things became frustrating and intimacy started to feel like an obligation rather than something enjoyable it became stressful and I had no one to confide in after my Affair partner had to move to another state due to a job promotion after attempting to conceive for almost a year without success we decided to seek help from a specialist following a series of tests the doctors confirmed that I

was healthy and fertile but they suggested testing my husband to our surprise it turned out that my husband was infertile unable to father children this Revelation raised a concern I had never considered before the possibility that our kids might not be biologically his my husband remained silent for a while clearly processing the implications of what I had just mentioned the car ride back home was filled with silence and I was too apprehensive to speak when we arrived home he still hadn't addressed the issue with me instead he called my mom and asked her to come

pick up the kids once they were gone he confronted me about the identity of their biological father I attempted to reassure him that they were his children since he had raised them and I had no knowledge that they were not biologically his I made it clear that I would never force him to raise kids who weren't his own as this was news to me as well however he erupted in anger and we began arguing he accused me of betraying his trust and jeopardizing his health implying that I had been been unfaithful in my anger I

admitted to the affair explaining that it was a way for me to cope with feeling trapped and stifled in our relationship providing me with a sense of Vitality and control I know I'm not the only woman who has experienced these feelings before clearly my husband wants a divorce and intends to pursue paternity tests but I don't want to break up our happy family I never would have continued the affair if I had known my husband was infertile and that our children could never be his I feel like I've completely messed up my life and my

children's lives by attempting to have another child I understand that I've acted terribly but my children are innocent in all of this and they deserve a family they deserve a father edit I married my husband because I genuinely loved him not solely for the security he provided the other man was the only other person I was involved with as I believed having multiple partners would be messy I didn't love him the way I loved my husband I was simply attracted to him and our relationship was purely physical he was aware that I had a husband

and we had C boundaries we didn't want anything more from each other I never considered that my children could belong to anyone other than my husband as we almost always used protection and I couldn't imagine anyone else being the father of my kids aside from my husband my husband is proceeding with the divorce process and we're already in the midst of it unfortunately he doesn't want to listen to my please when I brought up the children and how this would affect them he insisted on having custody as well he mentioned that he had financially supported

three children who aren't biologically his and he'll like likely be ordered to pay child support so he intends to ensure he gets his money's worth and sees them as his retirement plan this deeply upset me and I cried but he didn't show any sympathy my friends tell me that these are the consequences of not listening to their advice and wasting my youth on one man I acknowledge that I betrayed him and admit my wrongdoing but his attempt to take the kids is where I draw the line I still love him and his desire to take

my kids away is far worse than what I did things have escalated rapidly and it seems like we've reached a point of no return initially we plan to settle our divorce out of court but he refuses to provide alimony and constantly belittles me whenever we're together he claims he won't pay alimony emphasizing that I was the one who betrayed our marriage and he believes that our sons shouldn't be raised in an environment with someone he considers promiscuous his sons no they are my sons he wants to take my children away from me and he has

even managed to turn our oldest son against me now my eldest son gives me an attitude that I've never seen before while we never had the closest relationship he always recognized me as his mother he insisted on living with his father and when the judge granted me full custody considering I'm their biological mother and they have no biological connection to their dad he started throwing Tantrums I suspect my ex-husband has influenced him against me my life is currently spiraling downward and I am constantly stressed and frustrated this subreddit is the only place where I feel

treated like a human being I haven't received the first alimony payment yet and my son continues to throw Tantrums demanding to be with his dad I'm at my wits end I managed to keep the house for the sake of the kids but it's becoming increasingly challenging to cover all the expenses since I don't have the income of a two- earner household I filed for child support since he is the one who raised them and the only father they've known initially he didn't object and agree to it but now he's going back to court for custody

however I've insisted that I don't have the financial means for another legal battle I can't help but feel like a failure having to depend on him again and at the same time I miss what we once had