Shyness, insecurity, fear of speaking in public. . .
have you ever suffered from any of these situations? These are afflictions that affect a large part of our society and prevent many people from growing up and enjoying life. A lot of this comes with the fear of what people will think of us or what we think might happen.
. . it's that excess of the future, you know?
But after all, how can we lose shyness and overcome our fears? Shyness in itself is not a big problem, as we have all felt that shame or insecurity at some point in our lives. However, when these feelings dominate us, causing suffering and limitations, we need to raise a warning signal and understand how we can change so that our life is not harmed, neither personally, socially nor professionally.
According to psychology, an individual who has difficulty communicating in practically all areas of social life is called chronically shy. And there are several symptoms of this excessive shyness that we can notice. The person has difficulty talking to strangers and making friends, feels unable to overcome obstacles or go through new situations, is afraid of negative evaluation, is insecure and worries too much about the opinions and judgments of others.
Furthermore, it is often overcome by feelings of shame, loneliness and sadness. And it is exactly these anxieties that we can work on and, thus, improve that extreme shyness. Therefore, in this video I will present twelve tips that will help you overcome shyness and become the leader of your life!
So, come with me! One of the main ways to stop being shy is to DEVELOP SELF-AWARENESS. We have already talked about self-knowledge here on the channel and it is the basis of everything in our lives.
It is important to be aware and understand which triggers trigger our shyness. Make a list of the situations in which you recognize that your shyness arises, so that they become clear in your mind. For example: “I’m afraid to speak in front of my coworkers.
” The more specific you are, the easier it will be to identify the situation that paralyzes you and work on it. This way, you mentally train yourself to change your behavior, and when the situation occurs, your brain will be used to it, and will know how to deal better. Breathing and meditation techniques can help a lot.
And now that you have your list of triggers, another point that helps a lot to overcome shyness is to make your list of successes, of each situation that you were stuck in before, and that you have now managed to take a step further. Even if it was a small improvement and there is still something to improve, write it down. This makes you feel like you are capable and gives you even more motivation to continue.
Along with this, you can also make a list of your qualities, to always remember that yes, you have many positive points and can contribute to the lives of many people. Remember, we all know something that others don't, and we also have a lot to learn out there. So you certainly have a lot to contribute.
Don't keep these qualities, sow good things wherever you go. Another cool tip is to ask for information on the street. It may seem silly, but it helps a lot to stop being shy, as it puts you in contact with people you've never met.
Even if you don't really need the information, force yourself to stop and ask something. It could be about an address or even the time, for example. Little by little, this attitude will help you to be less afraid of communicating with other people.
Being curious is a quality that contributes greatly to eliminating shyness and you must develop it. Try to take the focus off yourself, focus on being curious about others. Discover what your interests and hobbies are, your life stories, your fears and joys, and so on.
And the best way to find out these things is to ask, instead of imagining or waiting for the other person to speak spontaneously. This will give you something different to focus on and helps generate deeper conversations. But remember, it's important to be prepared to listen carefully, and also to accept questions.
Another very simple point, but one that helps a lot to lose shyness, is to maintain eye contact in your conversations. Looking down shows insecurity, while looking to the side gives the impression that we are not interested in the subject. So, try to look them in the eyes.
But, of course, it doesn't have to be that fixed look that creates discomfort in the other person. Do something more natural, but always show with your eyes that you are present and interested. Talking to the mirror also helps us stop being shy.
And for those who are afraid of speaking in public, it can be a really cool technique. You can talk without fear. Just stop in front of the mirror and say thoughts that occur to you, without it needing to be a specific subject.
Along with this, you can imagine yourself in a situation where you would like to loosen up more. Reading aloud is another technique that helps with excessive shyness. Choose a text of your choice and read it.
Get into the habit of listening to your own voice. After all, it is one of the most powerful tools you have for communicating. Listening to yourself will help you break down this communication barrier.
Another great way to lose shyness is to do new things, outside of your comfort zone. There are many options out there. Taking a theater course, learning to play a musical instrument, starting a sporting activity and traveling alone are some very interesting examples.
But there are many others. These alternatives will allow you to meet new people and exercise your social skills. So, find something that challenges you and try it!
Paying attention to your body language is also very important to overcome shyness. You may have heard the expression that “the body speaks”, right? And that really is true.
Body postures can make us more confident or withdrawn, as our body sends signals to the brain all the time. A leader's body posture trains your brain to think like one. Try to keep your chin slightly raised, shoulders aligned and chest out a little.
Controlling your imagination is also essential. Shy people tend to imagine the worst-case scenario in each situation. Soon you will think that they are judging you in a bad way.
But most of the time, we get these assumptions wrong. So, try to stop these thoughts as soon as they arise, and replace them with more positive ones. Meditation helps a lot with this, which is why it is a great exercise for losing shyness.
And another cool technique for dealing with shyness is to smile. A smile opens doors, and is a great way to recognize another person and start a conversation. Giving a friendly smile to a stranger and having it returned can make both of your days better.
Try it! Whatever your current difficulty, I believe these tips will help you a lot to lose your shyness. But if, even after practicing them for a while, you feel that you still have chronic shyness that paralyzes you, it's worth seeking help from a professional.
There are several interesting therapies out there, and traditional psychotherapy is one of them. And you, do you suffer a lot from shyness? In what situations have you felt that your shyness held you back?
And what techniques have you used to improve? Share with us, so others can benefit too. And remember to see the additional content below in the video description.
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A beautiful day to you and see you in the next video!
