and a lot of these things are out on the open they seem really nitpicky it's like what he lost her because he leaned in right now it's possible that it's not like 100 percent of the time if you lean in you're gonna lose her like there are certain girls that will still respond and still be polite and stuff like that but you have to understand she has a like a sample of your personality that's a fraction of a second and she has 100 percent of that sample being socially uncalibrated or invasive or not not you're
not really creepy what she might perceive it as creepy that make sense so she has a tiny sample in her personality and a hundred percent of that sample is negative that's just how it goes you know it's it's unfair that it matters so much and it really doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things if she were to engage with you and talk to you five minutes later and be forgotten it wouldn't matter but at that moment it's the entirety of her impression of you and it's negative I'll floss time constraint if necessary but I
don't like automatically doing cuz you can only repeat it so many times but also instead of like before you go two seconds which is not bad I mean at least it is a time constraint what not I still like excuse me I have to go in a couple I have to go soon or I can't stay long time constraining yourself instead time constraining her is a much better way to go alright because saying two seconds is still saying can I have two seconds of your time again you can get away with it for sure it's
not bad opener and it does have a lot of good elements to it but I would say even better is if you're like hey I got to go into not even two seconds I got to go soon or I can't stay long as opposed to two seconds I know like the - first of all this is just an interesting study and like mimetics but why is it everybody says two seconds why isn't it one second or three seconds because someone random person once upon a time started teaching two seconds two seconds and everybody just repeated
two seconds and now everybody like they always say - like if you if you were a girl if you want to know a pickup artist so the guy that says two seconds basically huh yeah just like a second yeah it's just like a second yeah instead of just two seconds right it's not even a big deal it doesn't really matter but the point I'm saying is that a lot of these things that like you guys are taking as like gospel and advice and whatnot they're not even like original from that source right you're just taking
it as gospel without like necessarily thinking it through and not necessarily thinking like is there a better way is there an alternative that kind of stuff right yeah yeah yeah it's fine it's it's not bad it has a lot of good elements I'm telling you how to make it even better right so so if you're tell me the exact thing again hey before you go two seconds yeah with good delivery yeah so what he's doing is he's being polite and he's not asking for much time but then he's being very alpha behind it which can
definitely work right huh yeah and it's indicating it's not a big deal right and then what he's saying basically the the gambit he's playing which is a decent one for him especially cuz he's he's very good at these things is he saying like yes maybe I've given away like a fraction of value there but I've been polite and I bought myself a window and then whatever value I may have lost I'm gonna make it up immediately by being really cool and it's point there's that so that's a decent opener it's absolutely a decent opener and
if it's working for you keep doing it what I would say two things to make it even higher percentage is to not make it automatic so instead of like hey before you go two seconds all right what I do is I do hey excuse me is mine which is also has its own excuse me is not perfect either right um but hey excuse me and then if she turns and is happy don't do the before you go two seconds drop that but say before you go two seconds if she seems like she's in a hurry
right or even better yet next level up is hey excuse me and then if she seems positive don't go do it the next part if she seems like she's in a hurry instead of like hey before you go two seconds be like hey I gotta go in in a second but that's a slightly better one right so it's it's iterations so hey two seconds before you go is pretty good hey hey excuse me and then two seconds before you go if necessary is even better with the pause and then even one step better as hey
excuse me and then hey I gotta go in a minute instead of before you go so it's iterations its levels of good better best so it's a good opener but there's two ways to improve it lost time sir as soon as you get that moment of hesitation before she gives the objection all right once she's given the objection your false cam time constraint looks reactive when she's like she's hesitant and you say it before it looks like it's proactive like it's a legitimate thing you're actually leaving and it's not gonna be a very invasive okay
so that first moment of hesitation that uh false time constraint where she does like little step over like she's gonna leave false time constraint not once she started walking not when she says I have a boyfriend not when she says I'm in a hurry but before [Music]
