on this channel we've talked a lot about the subtle signs that can help us tell if someone likes us or is romantically interested in us but what about the opposite have you ever met someone who acted polite with you but you just couldn't shake the feeling that they were only pretending or thought you were friends with someone or only to find out that your feelings were entirely one-sided if you answered yes to either then you've probably wondered what are some ways we can tell if someone dislikes us even if we don't think so or even
if they tell us they don't well lucky for us psychology is here to help and over the past few years there's been plenty of studies on the subtle signs that someone secretly dislikes us that can help us better navigate our friendships and social lives so without further Ado here are seven psychology backed signs to keep an eye out for if you're trying to figure out whether or not someone secretly dislikes you number one make you wonder intuitively if you're starting to get the feeling that someone doesn't like you even if on the surface it seems
like they do it might be worth looking into because those feelings don't just come from out of nowhere in their study understanding the experience of pure rejection researchers sandram and zisy noted that even when the rejection was never outrightly stated or expressed participants could still feel it in their gut somehow that the other person didn't like them number two non-verbal language you know when someone is attracted or interested in you you can tell by their non-verbal cues and Body Language right well we can do the same to pick up on their secret dislike of us
according to Jo Naro former FBI agent body language expert and author of the dictionary of body language closed off body language like crossed arms crossed legs distance and shifting eye contact can all indicate a lack of respect and attention more subtle signs also include pointing their feet or facing away from you when talking to you discreetly taking the time repeatedly looking over your shoulder and a distinct lack of physical contact number three act differently another Telltale sign that someone doesn't like you is if they act differently around you than they do with other people so
take notice of how they interact with you compared to how they are with their close friends are they more polite more guarded or more CT with you do they not laugh as much or crack as many jokes do they seem to be walking on eggshells around you well it's true that it's quite typical for us to act this way around people were not close to or don't know very well researchers lansu cesen and Bowski have also found that these are all signs of something they call implicit peer evaluation which means they act differently around you
because they're still assessing whether or not they can trust you or want to be friends with you and if they've been acting this way for a long while now then it's probably because there are certain things about you they dislike number four backhanded compliments does your so-called friend often give you snid remarks and backhanded compliments or saying you make signals with their passive aggressiveness only to insist that nothing is wrong behaviors like this indicate that there might be some lingering resentment between you and your friend and we all know that nothing ruins a friendship faster
than holding on to past grudges and refusing to ever talk about it according to a study by Dey white and vanum they might also be more irritable around you and want to spend less time with you for this very reason number five self-absorbed conversations if there's some someone in particular you want to know secretly dislikes you think back to your last few conversations with them what do you usually talk about if the answer is usually them and what's going on in their lives then it's probably safe to assume that this person dislikes you why well
according to communication expert am maravian who published a study in 2017 titled communication without words one-sided and self-absorbed conversations signal that this person doesn't actually like you as a person but rather the attention you pay to them number six social exclusion have you ever found out that your friends got together and went somewhere without you or that they threw a party and forgot to invite you no matter how good their excuses might seem if it keeps happening again and again then it's intentional social exclusion and according to a study by Kellen Rutland and J Paul
when someone socially excludes you it means that they either dislike you don't really consider you a friend or are friends with someone who dislikes you number seven M calls or left on red last but certainly not the least if you want to know how someone really feels about you check your phone history with them how many M calls did they never return how many times did they leave you unre or delivered according to researchers Yap Francisco and gopz who published a study in 2021 titled from best friends to silent ends exploring the concepts of ghosting
and non-romantic relationships in this day an age of constant connectivity there's really no excusing this kind of behavior anymore sure they might just just need their space or might be feeling socially drained at times but when it's just you that they seem to ghost then it means they've either already lost interest or never had it in the first place so do you relate to any of the things we've mentioned here did going through these signs bring to mind anyone in particular they say that ignorance is bliss and it might feel that way if having your
eyes open to these signs hurt you but trust us it's always better to know who your true friends really are and if there's someone in your life right now that secretly dislikes is only pretending to be your friend or harboring ill feelings towards you then you're better off distancing yourself from these people and not forcing them to like you know your own worth nurture the positive relationships in your life and let go of the things you can't control like how someone feels about you if you think there are some signs we missed let us know
in the comments below what do you think is the best way to tell if someone dislikes us
