[Music] what's up guys we're back for asktotv but we have a special guest we have james all the way over from europe where he does a lot of coaching for me he also coaches online through calls and coaches on the mentorship program as well so i thought today instead of ask todd we're going to do a little ask james got some questions from instagram by the way submit your questions to us youtube instagram email get the questions if you want them answered and you might see your question on here next he hasn't heard these questions
before this is completely rotten so let's see what we got let's do it first question for you um how to go out solo in the day game in the daytime tips i think scheduling the time is very very good way to go about it another thing that i would definitely suggest is try to have an idea of what you're trying to achieve when you go out each session especially if you're somebody who's more of a beginner so if you know that you struggle with approach anxiety then for example having like some approach anxiety levels that
you're trying to aim towards each time you go out i think that's definitely going to be helpful for you and yeah besides that before and after just be aware of what you want to work on and be aware of what your sticking points are and focus on that so what about like mentalities attitudes keeping in a good frame of mind as as the session progresses because we talked about preparing the session which i think is very important but what about during the session yeah so during the session i don't suggest that you try to get
too analytical in your head with like exactly what's going on and what you did well and what you did wrong uh the best time to do that is after the session um when you're out don't expect that everything has to be perfect don't put too much pressure on yourself just literally focus on taking action be like my goal was to come out and do this i'm gonna do it the best i can if it's not amazing that's completely fine um if it happens that you go really well and maybe you're maybe you're planning to just
do like beginner approaches and just ask you know quick questions or give a quick compliment but you end up getting into like a long interaction and get the girl's phone number that's amazing i wouldn't suggest trying to leave an interaction like that just because you're specifically working on like the beginner basics but um but yeah when you're out just focus on taking the action focus on whatever it is that you plan to do focus on doing that and try not to get too analytical while you're out where do you suggest going for day game solo
there's a few things with this uh it's very common that people will just go to like the city center or kind of like look for the most busiest area something that's very important to be aware of is that the city center or the busiest part of your city it's not always going to have the most attractive girls so something that i like to be very aware of is where are the areas in the city that are more like exclusive or a little bit more high-end or a little bit more like expensive maybe for example if
you're going to a shopping mall there's generally multiple different shopping malls in each city and it really depends on like what brands are at each specific shopping mall or like you know what part of the city it's in a lot of that will determine the quality of girls or generally at these areas so you don't particularly always just want to go to the most busiest place but sometimes going to the place that's got like the most attractive girls would be a lot better cool and then what about the types of venues like do you like
malls or parks or streets or what are your preferences um my personal preference is i like all them i don't have a problem with all them good answer i like parks parks are really good because a lot of the time girls don't really have to do anything in particular so they're kind of just chilling and it's very easy to get into long interactions i like shopping malls because it just so happens that there's generally a lot of attractive girls at shopping malls um also just like busy streets like shopping streets and stuff like that i
like those a lot as well um yeah basically anywhere where there's attractive girls what you should definitely think though about your venues is what do you find to be the least intimidating or what do you find to be something that's going to help you achieve whatever your goal is as opposed to hurt you so if you want to have like longer interactions and you're trying to get into like instant dates and pools and stuff like that well maybe you should think about going to parks and places like that where girls are more likely to be
chilling um if you want to practice like girls who are walking and groups and stuff like that well then it's more likely that you're going to find that sort of stuff at like shopping malls or like busy parts of the city and stuff like that so in terms of what you should do in terms of how to pick you should definitely be aware of what you're trying to achieve what your goal is and what your preference is for when it comes to doing day game and meeting girls and and try to focus on that as
well what about girls by themselves girls in groups if you're gaming alone do you do do you do both you do all of them do you tend to try and pro focus or prioritize one yeah so in terms of my personal strategy my personal strategy is go out and when there's a girl that i'm specifically attracted to i talk to her regardless of whether it's a group or it's a girl alone or whether she's sitting or standing or at the mall or the park or the beach or whatever it's it's my my personal preference is
i go out i like that girl i'm going to talk to her and then after doing this for long enough you kind of figure out the best way to go about each situation and so i can generally do it well enough for somebody who's not me and maybe more of a beginner or in an intermediate realm or something like that there's two different things you can do the first is basically what i do just go out look for the girls you like and talk to them the second is you can think about what you need
to improve or what you're trying to work on and try to try to push yourself to do a little bit of that that's going to help you as well um the third out of the two things you can do is um you can also play to your strengths you can definitely play to your strings so if you like girls who are like walking along on their own very slowly that are going to be easy to approach then go for that it really depends are you trying to push yourself and trying to grow or are you
gaming for results or are you just gaming for the girls that you like gotcha gotcha and wish you recommend do you recommend gaming for results gaming to improve a little mix of both yeah i recommend mixing both i definitely recommend a mix of both so i mean uh what happens very commonly is that guys the first kind of method that they learn that's the most easiest for them is approaching girls on their own um problem with that is if you really want to start like upping the quality of girls that you're meeting and dating it's
less likely that the girls that are very attractive are going to be on their own so there is definitely some degree of like value in learning how to approach groups learning how to approach like you know the mixed interactions and stuff like that so if you just went out and only spoke to girls on their own well then you know you're not really going to get much better with that and it might be difficult to get more attractive girls down the line so i suggest doing a bit of both doing what you like doing what
you can do well but every now and then definitely push yourself and try to grow as well what do you think is a good opener for beginners and maybe is it the same for advanced guys or should it change at an advanced level how should you start the conversation yeah so for somebody who's beginner what i personally suggest is what i call soft direct and what that means is you're generally going like some sort of complimentary opener some sort of direct opener but it's definitely not this whole like hey i just saw you and i
thought you were absolutely adorable so i had to come over here and talk to you otherwise i'll be completely upset with myself i definitely don't recommend that um something along the lines of like hey i like your style hey i thought you've got a really cute look i wanted to come say hi quickly hey i think you've got a really badass look about you so i was kind of curious um those sorts of opens where you are establishing that the reason that you're there is because the girl caught your attention and you want to talk
to her um but you're not completely just like giving all of your power away straight from the open um that's what i really suggest like kind of beginners and guys who are just kind of getting over approach anxiety still and you can have like a couple of these canned openers just in your back pocket ready to use for any situation and i definitely recommend that uh for guys who are a little bit more advanced uh i recommend trying to be a little bit more like indirect a little bit more kind of like situational observational um
making a comment about the girl's style or making a comment about like just a facial expression or the way that she's walking along the way that she's carrying herself something that's not overtly saying hey i like you hey i'm interested but it's still going to be enough for you to convey your personality and get into the conversation gotcha gotcha um that's good um any final tips you'd give what about anything like how to dress um how to get yourself hyped up before a session um how long a session should go on any just little tips
little tricks that you employ for sure um many many many uh yeah so in terms of how long a session should be uh i don't recommend going for too long if it's so i suggest trying to have more of a goal of number of approaches that you're trying to do as opposed to a specific period of time um i'm definitely a fan of trying to go out between like three to four times per week aiming for around five-ish approaches per session i think that's a very sustainable way to go about like incorporating this into your
life um i think if you're going out every single day it can actually you know put a bit of pressure on other parts of your life and so as fun as it can be um but you know unfortunately we have other things we have to do but yeah so i think going out a couple times per week and just planning how many approaches that you want to do and and trying to push yourself to stick to that as much as possible is generally a lot more beneficial than being like i'm going to go out for
two hours you know um so i think that's very helpful uh in terms of just the overall process and the overall strategy of going out the more you can enjoy it the the easier it's going to be overall so you might not feel like going out when it comes to like the time that you want to go out and do day game there there might be times where you don't particularly feel like going out and being social or pushing yourself past like your level of whatever social anxiety or whatever like that but try to find
the positives in it and try to find the fun in it as well especially when you have a really good interaction celebrate your wins um and you know if anything kind of funny happens try to like find the humorous side and try and laugh about a little bit and yeah exactly exactly try not to take it too seriously just enjoy the process all right thanks james i appreciate it really really good answers and i can vouch this is a guy who does day game a lot and does it very very well so you want to
really listen up to what he says so thank you again and i will see you guys on the next video thanks guys see you later
