now I know there are a whole lot of y'all who are watching who have big plans for your lifestyle and big plans for the business that you started and big plans for your relationship you have big plans for everything but what have you done to actually contribute to executing those plans my life started improving when I became a [Music] doer hey girl welcome or welcome back to my channel my name is Trinity if you're new here today I'm going to be sharing with you 10 simple things that you can do to level up in life
if you're not new here then you know that I love to give practical and simple tips for every topic because I'm a firm believer in the fact that all you have to do is make small little tweaks to your life in different areas in order to really become who you want to be or to have the life that you want to have you'd be surprised how much can change in your life just by you changing your mindset when it comes to certain things or changing your perception tweaking certain character flaws that you might have a
lot of people have these Grand ideas for how they want their lives to look and who they want to be and many of them are focused on just going from A to Z but you should really focus on going from A to B and B to C and C to D and so on and so forth because there are so many little things along the way that matter and make such a big difference when it comes to trying to accomplish your goals and not only do I like to give you simple and practical tips but
I like to tell you things that I have personally done myself things that have worked for me so all 10 of these tips that I'm going to share with you in this video are things that I have personally done or am still doing to become the best version of myself and to live the life that I want to live no I'm not 100% at my destination yet because honestly the destination is always fleeting but I have made a significant amount of progress mentally emotionally physically spiritually so I believe that these tips will definitely help you
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number one is to surround yourself with people who you can learn from you should not be the smartest most successful person you know I'm not going to lie for a long time in my life I was that person for a lot of people I stood out a lot in the friend groups I had because I've always been an entrepreneur I've always been a very creative person I did a lot of like unconventional things so I just thought I was super super special because a lot of my friends you know they worked 9 to FES even
if they were doing good for themselves it was always like but wow you're an entrepreneur you kind of make the same amount of money I make or more and you work for yourself so I always felt like I was doing so much until I found myself surrounded by people who were doing more than me then I started feeling like dang I don't even think I'm doing enough the first person who made me feel this way was this hair stylist I was working for when I was in college her name is Shota shout out to shot
Elise but I started working for her in like my sophomore year College I believe and she was getting to it okay at that time of course I wasn't doing lashes and makeup full time I was just kind of doing it as a sideo while I was in college but I followed her on Instagram and I saw how hard she went as a hair stylist she was like one of the most well-known natural hair stylist in Baltimore and she was looking for an assistant so I applied and although I was working for her she was really
invested in pushing me to do what I wanted to do and she was the first person who really made me feel like I could actually make a living off of the thing that I was doing she taught me so much about like drive and work ethic cuz I thought my work ethic was good but clearly it wasn't that good she taught me a lot about finances too I will never forget when we were in New York we were on our way to the set and she was telling me about the saving plan that she had
started it was a 50302 savings plan where you basically would put 50% of your income towards your bills 30% would just go to whatever you wanted to do for fun whether it was getting your hair done getting your nails done going out to eat buying yourself a bag or whatever and 20% went to save I still use that to this day she also opened my mind a lot when it came to travel I didn't really travel much as a kid growing up we went to like Myrtle Beach Ocean City like places like that I don't
even think I got on a plane until I was like 22 which is a lot of people's experience but my mind didn't really go there and growing up my dad he went to Cancun every year matter of fact he still does I think he's been to Cancun like more than 15 times and he never goes anywhere else so I never thought about traveling to all these different different places that she was going to so sometimes all you really need is someone to broaden your horizons and open your mind to things you didn't even really know
existed like I said I was working for sha between the ages of like 18 and 21 on and off and then maybe like a year or two after that I met my friends who I have now like my closest friend group I met them through working actually they started off as my clients and then we just built a relationship and became really good friends I'm surrounded by women now who are doing just as much as me or more and there's nothing wrong with having friends who may not be doing the same exact things as you
or may not be making as much money as you or just doing as much as you period there's nothing wrong with that at all but you have to also have people who you can learn from because you need people to pour into you too and not only do you really need people who you can learn from as far as like business opportunities and finances and travel and stuff like that but you need people who will tell you that what you're doing is dumb you need people who will tell you that you're being a clown you
need people who will hold you accountable that's what I love about my friends that I have now they have stopped me from a whole lot of clown behavior that I was partaking in for a really long time you need friends who are not going to keep condoning you going back to the same guy over and over again knowing that he is ruining your life you need friends who are going to say well why don't we like her again when you say you don't like somebody or when you say you're beefing with somebody you need friends
who are not just going to ride for you just because you're their friend but they're going to tell you that you tripping sometimes the other day my boyfriend said to me I love your friend group he was like I feel like they hold you accountable and I feel like y'all fit each other very well like we all kind of have different things going on but when it comes to mindset we're all on the same page and when somebody gets off the page we bring them back in real quick they don't just go along with everything
I say they challenged me like really challenged me in so many different ways and that has stretched me so much I think one of the best things I could have ever done was allow myself to get close to people who I honestly would have never thought I could possibly be friends with cuz I'm not going to lie I used to be intimidated by people who seem to have a little bit more than me or maybe do a little bit more than me or know a little bit more than me because I was so used to
being that person for everyone else I was so used to being the one who everyone could come to for advice about a whole bunch of things I was so used to being the one who everyone kind of looked up to and I didn't realize how much I needed that in my life now the last thing I want to add to this first tip though don't use people like don't just try to start attaching yourself to people just because of what they have and what they can teach you what you can learn from them don't do
that because people can tell when they're being used my friend group that I have now we became friends organically like I said they started off as my client well Sydney started off as my hair stylist but she was actually all of our hair stylist when they would coming for their appointments we would talk we would have good conversation we would laugh and then we just started hanging out little by little and then eventually we all got really close that was organic so don't be so caught up on what you can get out of a friendship
with someone that's why a lot of friendships fail because a lot of the time they're one-sided there's usually one person who does a lot of taking in the friendship and they don't really have anything to offer so moving on to number two always be a student of life and always be willing to change and grow that's kind of two things but they go hand in hand now when I say always be a student of life I mean understand the fact that almost every moment is a teachable moment there's always something to learn from whatever you're
experiencing in life one of my favorite things about myself is the fact that I analyze everything and I always ask myself what can I learn from this what is this supposed to teach me how can I grow from this what do I need to change in this moment in order to get better what can I do to change I'm not always waiting for somebody else to do something to make my situation better I'm not always waiting for an apology not always waiting for a sympathy no I'm focused on what I can do to make any
situation better because at the end of the day the only person you can control is you there's always something for for you to do there's always something about you that can be fixed that can be changed there's always room for you to grow you are not perfect I don't care how much money you have I don't care how great of a career you have I don't care how great of a man you have I don't care about none of that there's always room for improvement and as long as you hold on to that you will
always progress in life I think about a lot of things that I feel like a lot of people don't think about and this is how I knew that this was my purpose and I have noticed over the years how much that has actually made me improve like everything starts in your mind the idea of the life you want to have the idea of the person you want to be that all starts in your mind like you don't need a whole bunch of money to be that person you don't need a whole bunch of money to
have that life well maybe you do but it starts with you changing who you are like there are so many things about yourself that you need to change in order to be that person there are so many things about yourself that you need to change in order to be able to live that life that you want to live because like I said in the beginning it's not about going from A to Z it's about learning as much as you can at every step from A to Z so right now my boyfriend is reading the book
Atomic habits and when he's done I'm actually going to read it to but he was telling me about the book the other day and he was talking about how a lot of people have this idea of the lifestyle they want to have or all these things they want to have and they don't even realize that in order to have that there are a bunch of micro habits that you need to form along the way or habits that you need to break you cannot change your whole entire lifestyle in a day you probably can't change it
in a week honestly because there are so many things that tie into a lifestyle that you cannot change in a day you cannot change your whole entire mindset in a day you cannot change your whole personality in a day you're going to fail so you need to figure out what small changes you need to make and focus on one thing at a time it doesn't even have to be one thing at a time it could be two things at a time because like I said there are so many things that go into it so yeah
I say all that to say that life is always trying to teach you something and you have to be willing to learn because if you don't learn the lessons you will not progress you'll keep recycling the same experiences over and over again and you'll feel like you're just not getting anywhere my next tip is to figure out what you want out of life be very clear and be very detailed this is something that has really changed my life I used to be the type of person who was really just coasting through life the old me
would not even be able to believe that I'm saying this right now cuz I used to think I had it all together I used to think I knew exactly what I wanted I thought I knew what I wanted out of a career I thought I knew how much money I wanted to make I thought I knew what I want it when it came to relationships but I really didn't know like I had a little bit of an idea but I wasn't very clear on it and I wasn't detailed about the type of life I wanted
to live and the type of person I wanted to be I wasn't detailed about the type of man I wanted to be with I was kind of just coasting and I think a lot of people can relate to that but it's important for you to change that before anything else so that you know what steps you need to take in order to get to what you actually want like first off don't underestimate the power of a vision board I used to think vision boards were just like blah like it's just a piece of paper with
a bunch of pictures on it I didn't really take vision board seriously like whenever people would have vision board parties I would just cut pictures out of magazines pictures that just looked nice but was I really clear on whether or not I wanted those things no it was just what look nice in the moment I never really sat down and really thought about what I wanted out of life but once I started doing that once I took out a pen and a piece of paper and really wrote down everything I really really wanted like without
limitation my life started to change like crazy because then I was able to be intentional about everything I did you can't be intentional if you're not aiming at anything in particular and that's why I say when you don't have a vision for your relationship when you don't have a vision for your career when you don't have a vision for your finances when you don't have a vision for your life in general or who you want to be you'll go through life aimlessly just praying that something sticks that's not going to get you anywhere cuz you're
not able to be intentional like that when you really decide what you want out of life and how each thing looks for you in your mind you can start moving towards those things I've been a l tech for what 7 years now full- time I think six or seven years full time and up until I had my son I was not thinking about what I was going to do after I was done with doing lashes because I never thought I was going to be done with lashes like I just never thought about a time where
I wouldn't be doing lashes I was fine with how much money I was making and although was a good amount of money I was thinking small now that I think about it that should have never been my end all be all I used to kind of just Coast in my relationships too I didn't know exactly what I wanted out of a man and out of a relationship so I could never really require much out of anyone cuz I didn't know exactly what I wanted so I went through this single period where I decided to become
really clear on my standards and my preferences and we're going to skip to the next one because that's actually another one of my points my next tip is to get your standards and your preferences in check now I decided to throw went in there because who you date and who you end up in relationships with will impact your life in more ways than you think dating the wrong person can set you back so many years when I started dating better my life improved because your dating life will spill over into everything else in your life
although I thought I had a bunch of Standards I didn't have no standards I mean I had a few I had a whole bunch of preferences that I thought were standards but they were not standards cuz I was not standing on them I wasn't really holding them as a requirements when I was dating like I would say oh I don't like smokers but if I met a guy who I really liked who smoked weed I was going along with it wasn't a deal breaker no more so like I said one day I sat down and
I wrote out everything I want in a partner everything I need in a partner the standards are the things that you need the things that you are not wavering on and the preferences are the things you would like to have but you don't necessarily need them like you can prefer to date someone who's 6 feet but you don't need to date somebody who's 6 feet you can prefer to date a light-skinned man but you don't need him to be light-skinned when you get clear on your standards and your preferences you won't be tripping over men
who don't even really make a difference you won't be investing time in men who you shouldn't even be going anywhere with it'll save you a whole lot of time it'll save you a whole lot of emotional trauma trust me I know so many women who started out up here and eventually ended up down here just because of the guys they chose to date you got to stand on what you say stop letting people slip through the Craigs if they're not it then they not it you want what you want for a reason you require what
you require for a reason there's a reason why certain traits are important to you I think the problem is a lot of y'all be getting real invested in the beginning when you barely even know this person why you letting somebody slide who you don't even know number five stop worrying so much about everyone else some of y'all can't move or progress in life because you're so worried about what everyone else is doing and there are two sides to this you may be the type of person who is so worried about other people so you're just
watching what everyone else is doing and you're more of a watcher than a doer like you sit and scroll on social media all day long and just watch everyone else live their lives but you refuse to do anything in your own stop spending so much time scrolling and start doing you see everybody traveling go travel you see everybody starting businesses start a business if you want to I'm not telling you to do it if that's not in your plans but don't be a people Watcher someone who has more interest in the lives of other people
than their own life so you may be that person or you may be the person who's so worried about everyone else in the sense of comparison you're constantly comparing yourself to everyone you see this is an old saying but it's true comparison is a thief of joy as long as you are comparing yourself to someone else you will never be happy you will never have peace you will never have joy and you will never progress in life life is not a competition and that is the main thing you need to remember when you're trying to
stop comparing yourself to everyone else there's comparison there's competition and you should not be in competition with anyone but your old self because being the best at anything is subjective so you might as well just worry about yourself and stop putting yourself up against everyone else like learn how to have tunnel vision you should not see what anyone else is doing you should not see any other lane but your own and I know this is so hard like it's easier said than done especially now that we have social media and we're literally seeing highlight re
of everyone's lives but you have to learn to trust the timing of your own life things happen for you when they're supposed to now you can't just sit around and wait for stuff to happen no you got to do a little bit of work or a lot of work so that you can actually be moving along in life cuz life does not just happen you got to make it happen but you have to trust that as long as you're planting seeds every day as long as you're laying the foundation every day building Brick by Brick
you will eventually get to where you want to be I was talking to my boyfriend the other day and I was telling him that I noticed that I'm not one of those people who dwells on like oh I said I would be here by this point and I'm not there yet like I know there are a lot of women who feel like they have to be married by a certain age and have kids by a certain age now the kids thing I understand but like the marriage thing or just having your life completely together I
don't really fall victim to that and I think that's because I've always known what my purpose was and I've pretty much just been going through a bunch of different Avenues to fulfill that purpose and over the last maybe 2 years I've become really clear on what I want my life to look like at some point and ever since I became clear on that I've been being very intentional with everything I do in life so that I can eventually get there so I feel like as long as I'm on the path to get there that's all
that matters I don't have any goals that I'm not currently working toward in some way so I don't dwell on the fact that I'm not there because I know I'm on my way and I also know that I'm putting my best foot forward 90% of the time to make sure I get to that point I think people get upset and discouraged and just depressed about not being where they want to be when they're not really doing anything to get there like you might think you're doing something but you might not be doing what you need
to do to get to that point like there are a lot of women who want to be married real bad but should you really be marrying that person you're with right now are there things in that relationship that you know you don't want in a marriage and you don't see those things changing anytime soon are you dealing with someone you really don't even like are y'all in a space right now where he should really be getting on one knee and proposing to you he might be saving you from a lifetime of misery some of y'all
complain about the fact that your business isn't where you want it to be but honestly are you really putting in the amount of work you need to be putting in in order for your business to be there and if you are you're probably not tripping by the fact that you're not there yet cuz you know oh any day now this is going to happen like when you're on the path that's how you think and that's literally how I think every day any day now what I want to happen is going to happen because I'm setting
myself up for it literally like it has no other choice but to happen I've seen people younger than me buy houses on Instagram and it doesn't make me feel any type of way it doesn't make me feel like a failure because I'm still sitting here in an apartment and probably won't buy a house for the next 2 years at least no I'm happy for those people and it motivates me it makes me say wow I know that if it happened for them it can happen for me so I know eventually it's going to happen stop
worrying so much about what everyone else is doing and figure out what you got to do to get to where you want to be my next tip is to start executing a lot of people have plans so plans is not the issue a lot of people have bright ideas anybody can come up with a bright idea but it takes a lot to actually execute and bring those ideas to life now I know there are a whole lot of y'all who are watching who have big plans for your lifestyle and big plans for the business that
you started and big plans for your relationship and your marriage the family that you want you have big plans for everything but what have you done to actually contribute to executing those plans my life started improving when I became a doer when I became clear on what I wanted out of life and I started intentionally doing things to make sure I got there my life started improving there's no way you're going to get the life you want by sitting still doing nothing and just having a whole bunch of plans a dream is nothing goals and
dreams are nothing without execution they're literally just thoughts like I said anyone can have a dream anyone can have a goal but you have to actually be a doer you're stuck because your ideas are stuck in your head you're stuck because all those trips and travel plans you have are stuck in your group chat you're stuck because your goals never make it off of your vision board I know so many of y'all probably have made vision boards over and over and over again and got to December 31st of that year and said what the heck
did I do cuz nothing on this vision board got done and that's because you had these bright ideas but you never actually created a plan and stuck to that plan to make sure those things actually came into fruition I told y'all I used to feel like vision boards were just like a thing like it was just a board with pictures on it and it is if that's all you make it to be if you don't do anything after you make that vision board yes it's just a piece of paper with pictures but nobody ever really
talks about what needs to happen after you make the vision board after you become clear on what you want first of all be clear on what you want before you make the vision board that's number one because a lot of us be sitting down just cutting pictures out the magazines just cuz they look nice like I said and we were never really clear on whether we really wanted that or not or why we wanted those things to begin with which is probably why you never take the steps once the vision board is done to actually
make those things happen instead of looking through a magazine and saying hm oh yeah I want this or looking through Pinterest and saying hm oh yeah that looks nice I want this you have to become clear on what you want first look for those pictures put them on the vision board and then you look at that and say okay what steps do I need to take this year to make sure these things happen and if I don't get to these particular destinations how can I put myself on the path to get there there are some
things in my vision board for this year that were on there last year but I was working on these things last year it's just that I wasn't done by December 31st I wasn't done and that's fine as long as you stay on the path that's all that matters my next tip is to go to therapy oh my gosh I was in therapy for like 3 years straight I started therapy during the pandemic so it was like 2020 and I did it consistently for I believe 3 years cuz I stopped last year now the frequency of
my sessions changed at first I was doing every other week and then at one point I was doing every 3 weeks and then there was one point where I was doing every single week and then there was another point where I did once a month so whatever works for you just do something go to therapy even if you feel like nothing is wrong with you still go it's something that I feel like everyone can benefit from no matter where you are in life and like I said you may feel like there's nothing wrong with you
and there may not be anything wrong with you per se but therapy will stretch you and help you to grow in ways that you can't even imagine because there are a lot of things that you're probably not even thinking about that you probably should be thinking about your therapist will notice patterns in you that you probably would have never noticed in yourself and the thing I love about therapy is my therapist never really told me what to do but she let me make my own decisions while also making me think about why why I was
making that decision and as a result of that I started making better decisions because I knew what was driving me to do all the things that I was doing I Ed so many relationships while I was in therapy I learned how to set boundaries I learned how to stop being a people pleaser I learned how to really advocate for myself and stand up for myself I learned how to stop taking things so personal cuz that was a big problem I always had and I'm not going to lie I feel so much lighter now and one
reason why I'm not currently ly in therapy is I feel like she taught me how to handle situations without her I got to a point where I felt like I had to learn how to trust myself that's actually something that I wrote down in my goals I feel like it was last year at one point when I was in therapy whenever a problem would arise I would call my therapist and be like I need an appointment like tomorrow because I felt like I had to talk to her in order to handle situations the right way
and then I got to a point where I was like you know what you got to be able to take the things that you have learned in these three 3 years and trust that you know how to make decisions trust that you know how to handle situations so it definitely helped me to grow in that aspect but I say all this to say that therapy is definitely something that I encourage everyone to do at some point a lot of y'all DM me on Instagram and ask like oh how can I get you to be my
mentor um how can I have sessions with you where we talk oneon-one and honestly based on a lot of the scenarios y have sent me a lot of y'all need therapists and I'm not a therapist there may be a few of y'all who feel like you don't need therapy because you can talk to your home girls about your problems or you can talk to your mom or your dad or your sisters brothers whoever but I'm telling you now there's nothing like a licensed professional my next tip is to invest in experiences I spoke briefly about
how the hairstylist I was working for really introduced me to a new world when it came to travel she was a person who introduced me to fine dining because growing up a nice restaurant to me was like Cheesecake Factory until one day she took me out for my birthday and we went to this restaurant called Claudius in DC and I was looking at the prices on the menu like girl who's paying for this now don't get me wrong cheesec skap Factory is nice but that's not really fine dining to me anymore and it wasn't that
my parents didn't have money I just think my parents weren't really thinking about experiences cuz like I said my dad has gone to Cancun like 15 times and I don't think he's ever been anywhere else I don't think he really thinks too hard about experiences and being being able to experience a lot of different things in life so she introduced me to that she took me to that nice restaurant and then I started going to nice restaurants whenever I had the money to do it and you don't have to do it all the time but
you definitely should experience it when you can there's more to life than Cheesecake Factory I'm looking for a new place to get massages but for the longest time whenever I wanted a massage I would treat myself to a massage at the Four Seasons the massages be like $250 but to me it's worth it because of the experience that comes with you're not just paying $250 for a massage you're paying for all the amenities in the hotel you're paying for the customer service and I like doing stuff like that although I don't do it that often
I like doing stuff like that because it puts me in a place where I feel like I'm being the person I want to be the person I want to be does stuff like that all the time the person I want to be D at fancy restaurants she stays in nice hotels when she travels I love luxury experiences but you have to pay for luxury experiences and that's the part A lot of people don't like so that's why I say invest in experiences if you want to level up in life you'd be surprised how much it's
out there like I go to these hotels and the feeling you get from experiencing these things is just unmatched so definitely don't underestimate the power of experiences and how they can make you feel and how they will put you in the mindset of that person you want to be it'll give you that feeling of where you eventually want to be in life number nine is to follow people who inspire you recently I went through my following list on Instagram and I unfollowed a bunch of people and I felt really bad about it in the moment
because a lot of them were people I met in like elementary school middle school high school college so I just felt like oh my gosh they going to think it's beef when they notice that I unfollow them but honestly it's not personal I was following a whole lot of people whose lives I had no interest in like I probably just followed them back just because they follow me now I'm not the type of person who takes a personal when someone unfollows me because if you unfollow me you're actually doing me a favor having a whole
bunch of people follow me who are not engaging with my content does nothing but hurt me in the long run because I look at my social media platforms like I'm doing this for business so if you unfollow me then you just weren't a part of my target audience and that's fine not everyone understands that though like a lot of people will get offended when you unfollow them because they'll feel like oh who does she think she is unfollowing me cuz she want to be a little influencer but honestly it's not about that I just get
tired of seeing a bunch of stuff on my timeline that I care nothing about I don't want to be scrolling seeing you it's twerking all the time I just don't not going to lie I don't care to follow nobody who's just posting their kids all day long I don't follow your kids I follow you and like I said it's nothing personal it's just preference like these are things that I just prefer to not see when I'm scrolling I like to have a very curated timeline I want to be liking stuff as I'm scrolling if I'm
not liking your stuff you shouldn't even want me following you to begin with don't worry about hurting people people's feelings now if it's someone you're close to then okay but a lot of these people I was unfollowing I don't even really know in real life like we probably met and passing or they might be Associates people who I'm definitely not close to so I honestly just shouldn't care follow people who you can learn something from follow people who inspire you follow people who motivate you because at the end of the day if you spend a
lot of time on Instagram you're feeding your mind with everything that you see I know a lot of y'all probably scroll for hours so if going to scroll at least be scrolling looking at things that are benefiting you and lastly number 10 work on your confidence how you feel about yourself and how much you love yourself influences everything you do in life if you have low confidence and low self-esteem you will be dating the wrong guys you'll be in relationships you have no business being in you won't feel worthy of anything good you'll self- sabotage
because you don't feel worthy of anything that's good you won't take risks you won't take chances you'll surround yourself with people who are no good for you and you'll ultimately think really small when it comes to deciding what you want for your life a few years ago I made the conscious effort to really work on my confidence and become a more confident person and my life improved so much because I started believing that I could have more I started believing that I deserved more that I was worth more I felt like any man I dated
would pick me because I didn't need that much because I already had my own I didn't realize that I could have my own and still require certain things out of men because I honestly didn't see my worth outside of my work ethic and I didn't think I was pretty because I was comparing myself to everyone around me I was comparing myself to people who looked nothing like me I didn't have my own beauty standards I didn't have my own idea of what beauty was and I also just was not accepting of the fact that everyone
is beautiful in their own way and no two people are exactly alike even identical twins have differences you will never be exactly like someone else no no matter how hard you try no matter how much you try to shrink yourself no matter how small you try to make yourself seem no matter how much you dumb yourself down you're still you and you're not going anywhere you hiding and walking around with bad posture and looking down at the floor when you walk into rooms does not hide you people can still see you girl you're not invisible
and I had to learn that so I learned to live with who I was and I learned to love myself but I also learned to change the things that I didn't like the things that I could actually control control cuz I think a lot of the time we sit and we dwell on things that we cannot control or things that we don't have the money to fix at the time like if you don't like your nose and you eventually want a nose job you probably can't afford that right now girl so what you going to
do walk around with your hands like this over your nose no you not having the biggest butt is not the end of the world you not having the biggest boobs is not the end of the world you not having the best skin is not the end of the world like girl stop taking yourself so seriously you have to learn to love you before anyone else can learn to love you and I promise you once you learn to love yourself or who you are everything else will fall in line I do have a whole video on
confidence I actually have two videos there's a part one and a part two I'll link those down below so if you're struggling with confidence definitely watch those that does bring us to the end of this video I hope y'all enjoyed all 10 tips if any of these resonated with you feel free to let me know Down Below in the comments make sure y'all like comment and subscribe and I will see youall in the next video bye I'm just hoping don't we beat history
