a lot of people criticize me because in my videos i always tell you you know never date this or never date that never date a single mother never a day-day uh damaged girl you know never [ __ ] crazy [ __ ] like that i always tell you you know whom not to date now why is that well because in life it's very hard to know what you want it's exceptionally hard and i'm not talking about just women okay i'm talking about like everything okay it's hard to know what you want because there are so
many options and you who are lucky enough to be in the western democracies even though we're going off a cliff and you know where i mean things are going really shitty in our society you still have so many opportunities and what happens is of course is that when you have so many opportunities you don't know what to focus on too many choices makes it impossible to decide i mean you've gone to a supermarket right you want to be buy i don't know [ __ ] dog food or or a slice of cheese or something and
there's so much variety then you're like what the [ __ ] do i buy right same [ __ ] thing with life so it's very important that you figure out what you should not go for or go after or want or desire so that you can figure out what you should want should go after should desire yeah the negative choice and take this woman issue right if you know that there are different subcategories of women that you should not go after that are just not good for you right well you're going to discard those women
and whittle down the pool of available women or more correctly the appropriate women for you see and you'll figure out that oh it's a woman who doesn't have all of these qualities that isn't a single mother that isn't crazy that isn't this that the other right that way of whittling down your options you'll find as you get older is the best way to figure out what you want because all of life is just a series of choices all of life is just deciding what you want in so far as the different things the different aspects
of your life and many times you will find that because of too many choices you wind up being paralyzed and not deciding and not deciding is actually the worst choice not making up your mind you've seen a lot of men probably who are in like their 30s maybe even their 40s and they're like you know grasshopping around from option to option they try this for a little while and they try that for a little while but they never focus and they sort of like wander through life like a jellyfish with no direction just carried along
by the waves you've seen such men right and they're kind of pathetic and maybe you're that kind of a guy you're the kind of guy who just sort of like goes with the flow but really it's just you're just passive and your your life your years the years of your life are just passing you by and you've got nothing to show for it right well see that's a disaster of not figuring out what you want and it's so important to figure out what you want as early as possible because what happens is see when you
are young you have more energy you have more drive and so you're going to be able to achieve things but the older you get inevitably the less strong you become it's an inevitability and so the more you postpone deciding what you want the worse it's going to be the harder it will be to achieve it look figuring out what you want out of life is hard nobody's saying otherwise a lot of very smart men you know basically fritter away all their talent because they can't figure out what they want i mean it's a tragedy it's
a real [ __ ] tragedy and you know and i've been guilty of it a time or two in my own life yeah where i sort of like drifted i remember especially right after high school i drifted for a number of years yeah i was basically an english teacher and not doing a hell of a lot just drifting through life and the period that i was in university you know i i can say that while i accomplished something i got a [ __ ] degree but really was another piece of wasted [ __ ] time
when i was just [ __ ] drifting you know i mean for all intents and purposes between the ages of 17 and 27 i've got nothing to show for it now i drifted for a few years teaching english traveling around and seeing a little bit but not really coming to any conclusion or really deriving any kind of benefit from it and then i did four years at dartmouth an ivy league school i graduated with [ __ ] honors from that [ __ ] place it was a waste of [ __ ] time i didn't get
anything out of it and that's an example of just drifting of just going along going with the flow of not deciding consciously what i wanted don't make that mistake don't make that mistake that i made huh be smart and figure out as early as possible what you want and like i said it's hard it's very [ __ ] hard but the way to do it is to discard that which you definitely don't want just like with women you discard categories that you know you're not going to want to be with and you discard this category
in that category and you just whittle it down and soon enough you'll find out what it is that you want and here's the weird thing see as you start whittling down your options as they start to narrow because you're consciously eliminating options options that you know are unsuited for you and you start whittling it down to just a few options all of a sudden what you want will become crystal clear trust me on this it's the weirdest [ __ ] thing it's sort of like as you start narrowing your options all of a sudden the
thing that you really want starts to glow yeah i know it sounds stupid and weird but it's true it starts to glow it starts to shine it starts to shine in your eye and that's the point and that's what you want to be doing you want to be focusing in on that thing that you really want and once you come close to it it'll start to glow and you'll know it and and it won't be an issue of like should i do this or should i do that maybe yes maybe there'll be a certainty which
is what you want there'll be a certainty and you'll focus in on it zero in on it i mean you'll be like a like a dog chasing a bone yeah you'll know okay and that's what you want i hope you enjoyed this video and if you did please subscribe to my patreon channel link is in the description below i put out an extra video every wednesday a video you'll find nowhere else i also do a sunday call-in show called the weekly webinar where i take comments and questions and shoot the [ __ ] for two
to three hours about a lot of interesting topics and it's a hell of a lot of fun so please check it out thanks so much and i will catch you next time [Music] you
