so by now I have no doubt that many of you have caught wind of the drama that has emerged in light of a particular YouTuber by the name of Shuan head who made a video talking about the epidemic of male loneliness now normally I'm not interested in drama in fact I'm almost never interested in drama but that's not really what I want to focus in this video it's a worth while topic because of her reaction video more than anything else as well as the general reactions to it but for the record for those who don't
know I don't know terribly much about Shuan head she is a female YouTuber she's been around for a long time so she combines two attributes she combines the first mover effect which is very powerful on YouTube meaning if you started really early let's say you had a movie review Channel and you started 2013 and you just kept on going even if you're Channel wasn't good you probably would still be around and be doing pretty well so she had that first mover effect and she's a woman she used to have some diance with some guy called
armored skeptic I think he divorced her although I don't know all the details about that but that's neither here nor there so basically you have an okayl looking woman who's been posting on YouTube for a long time hence why she's so big blah blah blah nothing to be seen there not very remarkable but there's been a lot of reaction to it and it goes to show a number of things things there are two key issues that I want to focus on this video as to why many people specifically men can't really regard someone such as
shoe on head as being legitimate authentic and sincere at the end of the day we have no idea I'm not a mind reader you're not a minder we don't really know if she's being sincere who knows but there are a couple of factors here the two of them be the most important number one obviously many people have been talking about this for a long time I would include myself here if you're here you probably know I've been around for a very long time on YouTube but other people have as well obviously but that in itself
was kind of unremarkable what really has happened and why typically when women make videos of this sort in today's day and age meaning in late 2023 why it upsets a lot of men specifically is because of the barrier to entry or the lack thereof you see what we can observe here is somewhat analogous to the overin window you know that barrier in politics you're not supposed to say certain things and sometimes it gets shifted and then you can women vet every situation in their lives on average obviously most women vet different situations vet the relationships
they pursue with people they vet the situations they enter in because women are always concerned about safety social vetting and safety vetting are one of their number number one concerns they don't like taking risks now in 2023 it just isn't very risky to make a video saying that men are lonely or there's a male epidemic of loneliness or their issues affecting men many people are talking about this it sort of shifted over into the realm of acceptability not too long ago maybe about two years ago three tops but these days you can talk about it's
not a big deal to talk about male loneliness and in fact in many ways it's a hot button topic but women always need to vet everything and so then you ask the question where were the women 10 11 12 years ago well there were a few Karen stra AKA girl writes what the honey badgers they were talking about that stuff way back when when it wasn't popular but that's just a tiny tiny tiny fraction of women the vast majority of women weren't even aware of this because and this will be my second point that I'll
talk about more extensively in a bit they couldn't relate to it they have no idea they weren't paying attention whatever so it took a long time for this version of the Overton window to shift for women to feel comfortable and safe enough because now it's a socially vetted topic you can talk about it still not a super super conventional topic but it's safe to talk about it if you have enough presence and as a woman that you're willing to talk about it and so Sho on head isn't the only one there are a bunch of
women who are willing to talk about it now because it's relatively easy to talk about you'll get a lot of reactions many of them negative but you're not really going to suffer much for talking about this and we see this with everything across the board every area of life whether it's entertainment gaming political topics you name it women will wait for something to become socially acceptable I.E within the overden window safe and and then they will enter it talked a lot about this on this channel with gaming gaming used to be geeky nerdy not cool
stay away oh now it's okay income the women going to the gym used to be H weird muscle bound blah blah blah now it's cool okay now we have not just unisex gyms but all women gyms that exclude men there essentially no male spaces left because every area of life for the most part has been vetted for social acceptance and safety and now women feel quote unquote empowered enough to enter into those areas because there are no barriers anymore at least in their own minds never mind what's happened to men so part of this just
comes down to this whole social vetting process a lot of these negative reactions stem from the fact that look you were not in the trenches you're riding on the coattails of other people's willingness to take risks and take chances in a political cultural atmosphere where it was very very much frowned upon to say the least if not outright Bound in certain circles and you're just making a video getting millions of views and you know good for you but you didn't pay your dues and this is the unfortunate reality we inhabit gentlemen men always trailblaze some
topic some area sometimes physically their explorers think LS and Clark and then once it's okay once it's safe in come the women now talking about male loneliness is acceptable okay so women can talk about it and Shu and head can talk about it and she's surprised about the reactions well she just hasn't thought this through she wasn't doing the work 12 years ago and she wasn't terribly interested in the topic presumably 12 years ago so it's a bit suspicious the second important element here is the element of relatability which does tie into the first to
some degree relatability is King it really is it's what makes or breaks many human relationships you might have things in common I've talked about this before maybe you share certain types of sport sport that you enjoy or certain types of video games or activities or films but that doesn't mean that there's going to be a relatability in terms of your reception of those things or even overlapping your personality and most importantly your experience with these things no matter how much time and energy you invest in something to understand it understanding is not the same thing
as experiencing and being able to relate to it I remember years ago when I was in my mids talked about this guy before there's this Frenchman J the guy was something like 6' one 2 very attractive 8 plus easily in the look scale and needless to say he was faning off the women with a stick and you took average guys like myself or another guy used to know and he might listen to us and he kind of understood but he always had that weird glaze in his eyes as if he really didn't have a clue
of what you're talking about so maybe he understood intellectually just like I could intellectually understand the life of a Chad or even more visceral experience this like very few people who don't have chronic insomnia can understand my situation so the problem fundamentally with a popular decently attractive woman on YouTube is she might talk about it for all we know she might even be sincere in her thoughts who knows but there's no way she can actually relate to that degree of loneliness because although it's not uniquely the province of men it is almost uniquely the province
of M the vast majority of people who suffer from social isolation lack of friendships lack of human connection are men and when you have that equation and you have a woman coming over saying oh this is really bad a lot of men will react positively thinking oh my God she gets it she gets it of course she doesn't get it and who knows if she's actually sincere and another group of men will just say oh she's just exploiting this situation blah blah blah we don't really know at the end of the day but one thing
we do know is that this situation that she's describing for all these men that is not not really relatable to her and that is the point of Disconnect so you end up with a situation where either in the best case scenario it's some kind of sincere sympathy emerging from the intellectual capacity to understand something potentially but it stays at the level of the intellect or it's just pure BS who knows we don't know this isn't just a male female thing when you really can't relate to somebody there is a huge huge bear to entry in
terms of getting along with the person being able to understand their situation it's just very very important and let's be honest it seems very unlikely that somebody like Sho on head meets those criteria I really really doubt she knows what it's like to be a sub5 guy with no friends a dysfunctional family and no prospects for the future basically a life of predictable and utter misery and even some men can't relate to that depending on where they are on the scale The Closer You Are are to that the more it's going to be relatable to
you but if you're like zuu the Chad french guy used to know or anyone who's decently attractive and doing okay then the sub five socially isolated dysfunctional family situation is going to be alien to those people too even though they are men so this matter of relatability is arguably the most important one and sorry whether Shu on head is sincere or not it is almost a certainty that the situations that she's describing for men are largely if not wholly unrelatable to her at the end of the day social vetting aside and yes that was a
huge Factor that's the reason that women like Shuan head are even willing to make videos of this sort and relatability or lack thereof aside as well this situation isn't going to change we need to face the music more and more men are going to get lonier and lonlier the situation almost certainly at least in the west is going to get worse there's no question about that and talking about it unfortunately as we all know doesn't do a whole lot right and so it's kind of like adding a bit of salt to the wound when you
have somebody who can't relate at all talk about these things yes for some men it kind of feels good oh wow a woman's talking about it she gets it no she doesn't she doesn't really get it whatever her ultimate motives are somebody like shuen head just doesn't get it which is fine she's a completely different person has different attributes I've dealt with tons of people over the decades who don't know what it's like to not be able to get a good night's sleep and it's annoying but it is what it is the only real question
and I think it's already answered more or less is what happens when the mass of men get so lonely so dysfunctional so out to lunch so out there that it's impossible not to notice and we can actually see as it were the underg gings of society itself buckle and fall apart it could get there eventually I'm I'm not sure would something change then I don't really know remember I've talked about this in the past women have gotten a helping hand in basically everything they've done men especially these days almost never would you then have some
kind of intervention that would at least attempt to help men out of their situations probably not we're just too divided a society too disconnected from each other there's no cohesion we don't know each other anymore we can't relate to each other everything's just too fractured so yes it will all get worse and yes there's probably very little that can be done about it at least at the end of the day some men might be able to relate to your situation and it doesn't change it it doesn't help it that much but it makes it a
little easier to get through the day and that can make a hell of a difference sometimes that relatability and in some cases it is a matter of life or death whether somebody gets you in your situation or not and I'll leave it at that anyway as always thank you for tuning in many special thanks to my patrons you guys are the best and many special thanks to my donors on PayPal you guys are equally the best and if you engage in the usual YouTube jazz of liking the video sharing the video leaving a comment subbing
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