you need to be more feminine if you want him to love you tell me ladies how many times have you heard someone say that to you or you just have to step into your feminine energy and everything is going to work out it sounds simple enough but let's be honest what does that even mean I you supposed to wear colorful dresses or speak softly all the time the short answer is no because the truth is that being feminine is not about following a checklist okay it's not about being this or that it's a spectrum a
fluid expression of who you are some women Express high levels of femininity in their energy demeanor and presence While others embody a balance between feminine and masculine traits because at the end of the day I can tell you that the right man wants you to focus on being in touch with your feminine side in a way that feels authentic to you if you're new to the channel my name is Ismael Gomez and today I want to help you embrace your femininity in a way that feels natural to you not just to capture a man's heart
so also you can feel like the best version of yourself okay so let's begin number one finding the right balance if there's something I can tell you is that femininity is not about extremes okay you don't have to exclusively live in dresses wear pink all the time or suppress your professional Ambitions to be seen as feminine most of these are stereotypes of femininity and they shouldn't influence the way that you tap into that side of yourself I mean the key is always to finding a balance that works for you I want you to imagine femininity
and masculinity like a scale some days you might naturally lean more into your feminine side embracing softness intuition and warmth other days you might shift towards your masculine energy focusing on ambition logic or assertiveness again it's not about being one or the other it's about finding the right balance for you and this also applies to men right like take me for example when I'm coaching do you think I use the same energy when I'm talking to a woman as I do with a man I don't right like sometimes my tone needs to be more direct
and assertive with men because that's how we process and respond to challenges but with you ladies I like to use a different process I like to be more nuanced and encouraging because that's what resonates with most of you and that's what creates real transformation you know I always say that when I speak to men I speak to them like a father would but when I speak to women I take the approach of an older brother you know someone who's here to guide them protect them and make sure that you don't settle for less than you
deserve so that being said I want you to reflect on this explore what level of femininity feels authentic to you you can always experiment with different aspects of it whether it's through your style your communication or even your daily rituals and see what resonates because who knows you might end up learning something new about yourself number two who are you attracted to all right so now let's talk about the kind of men that you're attracted to because that plays a huge role in how you express your femininity whether you realize it or not so what
you're going to find is that some men are captivated by women who embody a high level of traditional femininity you know those who are soft spoken spoken deeply nurturing and exude a gentle graceful presence however other guys are going to be drawn to a more balanced energy you know someone who is warm yet assertive playful but also grounded and now comes the issue that I noticed in a lot of women and that is that if you're naturally a strong ambitious person who enjoys taking the lead in certain areas of your life but you're attracted to
men who prefer highly feminine traditional women you're going to find yourself constantly questioning if you're too much or you're not soft enough and that can be exhausting and this is what happens okay what if you're naturally a quiet introverted woman okay who enjoys deep conversations and peaceful moments but then you're drawn to Men Who preferred loud extroverted women okay no matter how much you try to be more talkative more expressive or the center of attention you're always going to feel like you're wearing a mask now that being said understand that if you want to get
one of those guys you may have to embrace some of the behaviors that they're attracted to and this does not mean that you're going to change the essence of who you are but this means that you're going to have to embrace more your feminine side because that's what they want okay but if you don't want to mold yourself to fit into what you think a man wants then focus on attracting someone who values the energy that you already naturally bring to the table if you're playful and bold let that shine if you're calm and nurturing
lean into it again all of this is up to you if you want to embrace more femininity then try it and see what it does to you if you want to stay as you are then do that and try to attract somebody who's attracted to you and I'll give you an example from my own life okay I grew up around highly feminine traditional women so it's not surprised that I'm naturally attracted to those kind of women so as I got older I naturally embraced the role of a leader and provider in relationships because I recognized
that the women I was attracted to valued and responded to that Dynamic the key is always self-awareness so pay attention to what kind of partner are you naturally attracting to and what kind of energy is that person drawn to in return if you want a certain type of relationship ask yourself am I showing up in a way that naturally fits with that dynamic because when you understand this relationships start to feel a lot easier all right ladies quick announcement that if you enjoy my content and want me to personally coach you on attracting authentic love
with a man this year okay I've created a new program called male commitments decoded if you're tired of trying to figure out dating and relationships on your own come join us I'm going to leave the link in the top comments so you can check it out and now let's go back to the video and final number three the system wants you confused have you ladies noticed how every day you're flooded with messages telling you that you're not feminine enough you're not pretty enough you're not soft enough why because when you feel like you're lacking something
you start searching for ways to fix it and that makes you the perfect customer I mean just think about the beauty industry and so many other ones that thrive in your insecurity you know you got Botox you got skin care you know clothes surgery everything is marketed to convince you that you need more to be feminine more to be attractive more to be desired and these messages are everywhere right on your phone Billboards magazines slowly chipping away at your selfworth and I know that most of you ladies know this but the truth is that you
spend so much energy and money every month pursuing these things and I know because I have three sisters and I see it every day okay and the truth is that femininity is not something that you can buy it's not in a new lipstick the perfect dress or trending aesthetic it comes from how you feel about yourself the system is going to keep you running in circles chasing an ideal that is constantly shifting one moment femininity means being soft delicate and traditional and the next one is all about being bold outspoken and independent I mean how
are you supposed to keep up true femininity comes from within it's about feeling comfortable in your own skin embracing your strengths and owning your unique energy when you stop looking for outside validation and you start listening to yourself you'll discover a femininity that no marketing campaign can sell you so next time that you feel pressured to fit society's version of femininity pause and ask yourself am I doing this for me or because I feel like I have to all right ladies so at the end of the day expressing your femininity shouldn't feel like an act
okay it should feel natural it's not about forcing yourself into a mold or checking off a list of traits true femininity flows effortlessly when you Embrace who you are fully unapologetically and authentically and here's the final secret when you're in touch with your authentic feminine energy the right man will take notice not because you're trying to impress him but because confidence in who you are is magnetic when you embody your truth you naturally attract a man who values and desires you exactly for that and for today's comment we have shewolf461cw6 wrote the one and only
time that a man told me he needed space I told him to go camping the end that was pretty good anyways thank you for subscribing to my channel I'm glad that you chosen me to learn about selflove dating and relationship Dynamics because like I always say for your relationships to change you need to change okay have a beautiful day