my dinner still isn't ready if you're not going to take care of the housework or getting a divorce I wonder who he thinks makes it possible for him to have meals fine if that's how you feel maybe we should get a divorce what I had enough of this marriage and want to leave this house can you help me why should I we're no longer connected right I'm Karen a 34-year-old office worker it's been a year since I married Shane while many enjoy the Bliss of newly wood life my experience has been far from that honestly our relationship has been strained the root of the issue lies in his behavior I overlooked it before marriage but now I see that he's a classic domineering husband overly controlling Hey where's the food when will it be ready I just got home if you came home earlier you could have made something yourself what are you talking about don't you see I've been working hard and just got home I was at work too your job can't be that important I probably make more than you do but bragging about your earnings you're really narrow-minded I hold a significant position at my company I'll be earning more than you soon enough well I hope that's true are you dubbing me how dare you question me like that my husband reacts defensively to every word I say trying to exert control I'm going to set a curfew for you a curfew I was taken aback by a sudden declaration we're not children I'm serious be home by 7:00 p. m. don't say such ridiculous things I might be working late because of overtime no matter how much I protested my husband remained unyielding be quiet I'm serious you need to follow this rule a promise should be made with mutual agreement what my husband was imposing was nothing but coercion a bladed threat a few days later after coming home past 8:00 p.
m. due to work I was met with an unbelievable situation what what you mean as I tried to unlock the front door I real realized the chain was on panicking I pressed the intercom yes I heard my husband's Voice through the intercom what's going on here what do you mean we agreed on a curfew of 7:00 p. m.
didn't we huh you were serious about that of course I was serious I told him that while he speaks with such confidence his behavior is just childish I really want him to stop stopped the nonsense and just opened the door no way you always get so full of yourself full of myself what are you talking about I'm saying you act so arrogant when you think you have the upper hand in the end my husband really refused to let me into the house I was deeply unsettled by his drastic change wondering how he could have become so different from the man I once knew we had first met at a social mixer at that time he was a successful businessman working for a top company and he was very intent on winning me over with his career and finances stable I was drawn to his advances he was always polite and respectful and that did a change when we started dating I believe he was a kind and wonderful man and I was truly happy when he proposed Karen I vow to make you happy with these hands of mine trust me and let's build the future together yes thank you I look forward to supporting each other I had believed that marrying him would surely lead to happiness but once we were married it was far from what I had imagined my husband turned out to be selfish arrogant and prone to of verbal abuse to make matters worse about 6 months after our marriage he abruptly quit his job you quit your job why that company wasn't worth it they didn't appreciate my talents why should a junior be promoted over me it's absurd he left his job on a whim frustrated by his lack of promotion it was a shocking turn of events I had respected him as a confident professional working in a prestigious company and I had tolerated his verbal abuse as a result but now my want Elite husband was suddenly unemployed he went to numerous job interviews afterward but none resulted in an offer damn it why is this happening to me I come from a top company even though I'm lowering Myself by applying here why can't I get the job maybe it's your attitude that's coming through in the interviews hauh don't act like you know anything your workplace is a lower ranking company anyway that's harsh so you think so I'm just speaking the truth my husband took out his frustration on me he had always been controlling at home but his verbal abuse escalated significantly eventually unable to find a new job he settled for a part-time position working only 3 days a week claiming it was due to job hunting his income dropped to around $700 a month yet he continued to act arrogantly toward me my view of him deteriorated daily and I regretted marrying him more and more I found myself constantly overwhelmed with household chores and meal preparations while enduring his endless complaints it felt like dealing with a team majer and I was left physically and emotionally drained despite everything I couldn't bring myself to consider divorce even though we had been married for less than a year during this time my husband grew increasingly bold eventually setting a curfew for me and locking me out of the house I wondered why I had to endure such treatment after coming home exhausted from work and even doing the grocery shopping he locked me out for missing the curfew I was completely bewildered normally I would consider returning to my parents home but since they had passed away I didn't know where to turn desperate for help I decided to call my best friend M hello M can I come over now what's going on did something happen my husband won't let me into the house what why not okay come over right away thank you so much with that I hurried to M's place sorry for the sudden visit don't worry about it what happened I explained how my husband had locked me out of the house because I missed the curfew he had set he actually did that yes I can't believe it it feels like he's being really abusive maybe his pride from working at a big Corporation is making him look down on you oh and I also mentioned my husband's sudden resignation what a part-time job that's unbelievable how can he act like this when you're the one supporting us yes I'm thinking it might be best to leave him sooner rather than later but we've only been married for less than a year it doesn't feel right to just get divorced so easily Karen are you truly happy no my best friend looked concerned pondering for a moment before offering a suggestion I'm not sure if your marriage can be salvaged but maybe you should start documenting his abusive Behavior you could keep a record or even make recordings really I believe you should divorce him as soon as possible and if you do decide to go through with it I hope you can ensure he faces serious consequences yeah you might be right exactly it's important to document everything and I'm here to support you through this if you need a safe place you can always come here thank you Ma my best friend was a tremendous source of comfort and support and I was truly grateful having her as an alley gave me the courage I needed to show my appreciation I use the ingredients I had bought from the supermarket to prepare a homemade meal for her this is delicious Karen you're really skilled at cooking really it's been a while since someone prayed my cooking so I'm thrilled to hear that reuniting with my best friend after such a long time lifted my spirits after leaving mk's house I sent an apology to my husband once he forgave me I returned home have you really thought about what he did wrong yes I realize I was wrong I'm sorry as I apologized with my head bowed my husband's expression softed with satisfaction as long as you understand that's fine just be more careful next time from then on I did my best to meet my husband's demands despite my efforts he often resorted to insults when he was in a bad mood his words were belittling and dismissive and each time they cut deep I began recording these incidents Gathering evidence for when I reached my Breaking Point my husband remained unemployed only working part-time it seemed he wasn't even trying to find a new job as if he had given up I was managing to support both of us with my income and handled all the household chores he continued to complain and act badly towards me trying to assert control he seemed content with the situation dependent on my salary yet treating me with emotional abuse I confided in my best friend that I didn't want a divorce but my patience was wearing thin with his increasingly unacceptable Behavior I felt like I was at the end of my rope how could he be so insensitive how does he view me why did he even marry me these questions played My Mind One day after being forced to stay late at work I arrived home past 7:00 p. m.
