in this video we're talking all things confidence having a magnetic Aura and being your most attractive self stay till the end if you want to learn how to shine when you walk into a room thank you to Lulu's for sponsoring today's video the reason why I wanted to make a video on confidence is because it is one of my most requested topics to talk about if you listen to my podcast Channel a better you you may or may not have known or have listened to the episode on becoming more like social and that video got
almost half a million views and in that video I say that this is a topic that I feel like I'm really good at because in my job that is like being an influencer being content creator I go to a lot of events that involve you socializing and just having your social battery turned on being a confident person with that comes a lot of self-assurance because you need to bet on yourself you need to feel like you are your number one fan otherwise you can be knocked out of your shoes literally from the slightest mean comment
from the slightest dirty look like you cannot have that in these types of events so having that said I feel like going to these events I've just learned a lot of the tricks on how I can feel my most attractive and how I can be an attractive person with good energy and now when I say attractive I'm saying that being attractive is an energy and it's an energy that you can control if you know that you can control your energy and you like your energy you like your aura you like your Vibe then nothing can
knock you down and that is why I think that this topic is so important and needs to be talked about more I'm going to use the makeup by Mario soft sculpt transforming skin enhancer on my cheeks and my forehead if you watch my podcast or whatever I hope that nothing I say in this video becomes redundant but I haven't done a confidence type of video on my main YouTube channel which is this one since literally January it's September so I feel like if you only watch my main Channel then nothing should be repeating itself because
like you haven't even watched a video on this topic in so long but if you watch my podcast you might have heard me say this but anyways we're gonna go over a bunch of different aspects and I'm gonna go over the physical appearance the maintenance of your health and your body and all those things that raise your vibrations naturally let me tell you guys tonight I'm actually going to the club it's not really a club it's like a bar but this is one of those scenarios where you may want to look nice you may want
to be confident and feel good about yourself and for that reason that is why I'm getting ready and I'm putting in effort to my appearance because I know that if I do all the things that I like to do to feel my best I will go into those environments and feel like I'm just ready to socialize like nothing is holding me back I'm gonna use the rare Beauty blush I think this is the shade happy on my cheeks I may not have put too much on so how can you be the most attractive person in
the room first of all we're talking about the way you look obviously obviously obviously the way you look is a big indicator of how much you take care of yourself and how much you care about the event you're going to I mean if you go to like a very fancy event and you put no effort into your appearance it's very evident that you don't really care to be there and you don't really care to show up and show out for those events that aren't that important like going to the bar you may think what is
the point in putting in so much effort do I need to put this much over is it embarrassing to put this much effort but no it's not if you feel good nobody is going to be like that girl's doing too much and you know what they actually might say that they might say that girl is doing too much but that's coming from a place of projecting their own insecurities and thinking damn I did not do enough that girl is out doing me not because you look bad so if that ever occurs just know that it's
not because you are doing too much it's because that person would be insecure that they didn't do enough I think there is nothing wrong with putting an effort into your appearance even if you're going to the local bar in your town it feels good to dress up and in my case I can oh my God there's so many blush on my face we're gonna forget about that but in my case whenever I look my best I just I feel Unstoppable and also I love getting photos so I will be taking photos I'll just be prancing
around I never want to end the night in fact I want to keep going and going and maybe that's actually a curse because I'd be coming home at like 5 a.m it's not my fault okay concealer is on it looks so light I'm honestly using like five different shades so I'm just praying for the best here okay so speaking about the way you look we're talking about physical appearance we're talking about your grooming and your fashion sense for me in terms of like grooming some of my non-negotiables are obviously showering shaving doing my skincare routine
I feel like once you have a skincare routine really locked down that's the best thing that you can do for yourself you feel healthy you look good makeup applies on way easier if you have really bad acne definitely go to like a dermatologist and like get that you know kind of figured out I know this is easier said than done and I obviously have clear skin so if you are struggling with skin don't feel like I'm being insensitive I just mean like try to take action in what you can with your skin and figuring out
what products would work for you and also you know just eating healthy and drinking a lot of water because that regardless will just make your skin glow I did a little guasha routine before I started doing my makeup and that's something that I have noticed really makes a difference and makes me feel good when I go out in terms of makeup I would say to really figure out what look works best on you because not all makeup looks are a one size fits-all and I've definitely noticed that there are makeup techniques that are really popular
online but they just don't suit my face now for clothing obviously pick pieces that are actually flattering for your body because again there are some pieces that are super trendy but they don't actually like flatter my body and a flattering piece will always outdo a trending piece that doesn't suit you okay I'm gonna apply some powder I'm mixing the Laura Mercier and the say beauty powder wearing certain pieces that you also absolutely love will automatically make you more attractive because you're going to feel good in your skin and if it's a color that actually like
complements your skin then that's even better for me I feel like when I wear anything blue it automatically makes my eyes pop which makes me feel more confident and probably makes me actually look more attractive and the last one is if we're talking about being attractive and being magnetic is that having a signature scent on you I talk about this all the time on my podcast but having a signature scent can be so attractive and automatically I mean if you're hugging people they're gonna be like what smells so good so if it's you that's the
biggest Flex of all time and also Loki I feel like this never happens to me so I need to figure out what hairline it is but whenever I like walk past people and their hair smells good attractive points automatically are going through the roof also I feel like putting lotion on your body and using like Body Oil just makes you glitter and glow and just like shine so again attractive points going up I'm gonna use this Charlotte Tilbury powder bronzer last thing I want to say which kind of goes with the whole thing that I
just said but like doing face masks and just taking care of your well-being eating healthy working out all of that obviously boosts your attractiveness on the outside therefore makes you feel better on the inside so it all works together now one thing I want to say for feeling confident and feeling good whenever you're going out is if you get something new done to yourself or revamp your look you're gonna feel a thousand times hotter I definitely felt like I was just bored of my look a few months ago and I chopped my hair off to
like right here it was definitely different it wasn't necessarily my favorite look on me like I love the long haired look but it did make me feel really like okay I'm gonna go I want to step out like I want to take care of my hair now and it automatically made me feel so much better and kind of made me stand out like obviously you can keep your same look over and over again but like doing something different and changing it up makes everyone around you'll be like wait a second like they'll notice you and
be like what did she do differently also if you let yourself be in the hands of professionals I mean don't tell me they wouldn't come out with something great like if you went to get a professional haircut or you even went to get your lashes done or your eyebrows or you got a new shape like just revamping your look is gonna make you feel 10 out of 10. you can even go to like a Sephora or some sort of department store and ask them to do a little like mini rebound for you I bet you
you can get a free mini makeover and maybe they might try out a look on you that you've never tried on yourself before which is automatically going to make you feel good I don't know about you guys but I have definitely gotten my makeup done by someone else and I'm always shocked because the way they do your makeup is the way they see you so sometimes you're used to doing your eyebrows a certain way and you feel like that's the base line like there's no changing it that's just how it's done but then you go
and get it done and they do them completely differently because they just see your face differently I got my makeup professionally done and they over lined my lips okay or it wasn't even over lined they just went a little bit over my top and I was shocked I looked in the mirror and I was like who is that but I was like I kind of like it so that's one of those things where like I wouldn't have noticed that on myself but a fresh pair of eyes and a professional hand definitely did it and did
it well I'm gonna be using some of this extra hold Tresemme and gelling my eyebrows back and then using the Anastasia Brow pen in soft Brown another way to do your makeup oh another way to do your makeup that I think can really help boost your self-esteem is of course accentuating your best features if you don't know what your best feature is think about the compliment that you received most often like if someone always tells you you have beautiful eyes and that's it or maybe they'll say you have a great smile or maybe they say
you have beautiful hair just pick one that you think is the best and if you don't know maybe ask a friend or a family member or like someone just be like what's your favorite feature about me like it may sound kind of weird but just be like Oh I'm trying to figure out like what my best feature to accentuate is and I'm sure it can give you a bigger idea and then for example if they say like you have great lips you can try out like a new lipstick maybe a bold red color or if
they say your eyes are the best you can find like an eyeshadow color that matches the color of your eye the best and the same goes for your body shape and body type I mean if you have a curvy figure show it off if you have long legs show them off you will look more attractive accentuating your best feature rather than trying to mold yourself into maybe your ideal version this has happened to me before and like I see an influencer I'm like oh my God I wish I looked like them but it's like me
trying to look like them looks worse than if I was just myself and accentuated my best features I'm popping in this video right now because we have a word from our sponsor which is Lulu's as you know we are talking about confidence and about how what you wear can really affect the way that you feel the way that you shine the way that you come up to events the way that people perceive you and I'm going to tell you guys about some of my favorite picks from Lulu's which is an affordable luxury clothing website Lulu's
has a ton of must-have tops dresses and accessories and they're your One-Stop shop for it all I'm actually wearing Lulu's right now and I'm so excited to show you everything that I got because I will 100 be bringing these dresses to New York Fashion Week with me because there's such high quality and for affordable prices if you want to know more about Lulu's check out the description and I'll have all the links to all these items down there so the first thing that we've got is this cutie set this is actually a two-piece set and
I'm actually obsessed with this I already know that this would make me feel confident no matter where I go because it's highlighting the shoulders the collarbone the back since we're already on black I'm gonna go on to one of my favorite black dresses that I got now this is not your typical little black dress it is a halter dress the slit in the leg and it's got a low back which is absolutely beautiful I feel like it's so sexy and looks just expensive since it is black the outside is like a chiffon material and I
love that in the slit It's actually silk which I feel like adds a little touch of luxury to it the next dress might be my second favorite of them all and it is this super fun gold and frilly dress this is perfect for your homecoming for your grad events or for any little party you have I feel like this for an after party at near and fashion week would be so fun I'm obsessed with the material the sparkle I even feel like this is a flapper girl costume like I want to wear it for that
the next mini dress we've got is this white one and it doesn't have sparkles hanging off it but it does have these little frilly details which I think is so cute this is also another dress that is perfect for homecoming and I just think it's super cute no matter what event you have or if you're celebrating a birthday moving on we have one dress that I got in two different colors because I loved it so much if I had a wedding to go to this is the dress that I would be wearing the first shade
I got it in is this beautiful forest green I look like a little Christmas tree and I love every single bit about it it is like a chiffon material and also I got a small in everything even the Ruchi in the middle really cinches in your waist very nice and gives you a little hourglass figure I also got it in this navy blue color since I could not decide which color I would like more I just think it's so cute this is perfect for a wedding now I just need someone to invite me to a
wedding this next dress I also want to bring to Fashion Week it is giving Barbie core which is a huge Trend this summer this dress is so unique I love the cut of it it crosses around my neck and it's kind of got an open back feel it's giving red carpet so I'm obsessed with the color of this dress I feel like it's super flattering on anyone that has brown hair so yeah I love this okay the next dress is giving engagement party it looks like this it's got little flowers on it and this is
also super flattering and it's like a little high low it's got like little suede on the flowers which I absolutely love we have one more very fancy dress here this is a silk material and honestly this one isn't the most flattering on my body shape but I just know that this would flatter someone so well because it's so gorgeous I'm obsessed with the bag I think it's really unique and it's got a little draping detail which I love and a little string connecting from the top it's like a midi length which I think is super
popular right now and then the last dress that I want to show you guys is one that is I feel like very own brand for me I've worn a lot of dresses like this before with the puffy sleeves but I think this is perfect for brunch for going on a stroll in the park for a romantic size in your life and reading at a coffee shop I love that it's got a bow detailing in the back and I think it's just super girly and feminine which is right up my alley those are all the dresses
that I picked out at Lulu's these are all dresses that would make me feel so comfortable and confident if I wore out I honestly really really really recommend Lulu's again thank you lulus for sponsoring this video I will have all the links to all these in the description box below use code Fernanda 20 for 20 off first purchase for us customers see site for full terms and make sure to shop them well thanks for the good stuff let's talk about our self-awareness and our energy because that's really my favorite topic so the biggest thing with
being attractive honestly I feel like don't think I'm sounding like annoying and conceited because that's that's the goal okay it's a good flashy word it comes down to how you carry yourself okay there could be two gorgeous ladies beside each other there could be a supermodel beside you but if she got a sank face on and by that I mean like she's like like she's internally being like I hate everyone here I'm too good for this I hate this place this is boring she looks not approachable she doesn't look better than the girl that looks
happy to be there is dancing is smiling has a sparkle in her eye and I can tell you firsthand I've been around models many times and you can tell when someone's energy is inviting there's been girls and I'm like I don't even know them and I want to be their friend that's when you know someone has good energy and I've been around other girls that are drop dead gorgeous yet they look like they want to punch a wall and right away I'm like God I want to stay away from them so that's when you know
that energy and the way you carry yourself truly does matter now when I say the way you carry yourself there's so many things that go into this starting off with your posture do not be slouching off in the corner do not be holding your head down okay because even if you don't mean to it's getting closed off so focus on having open body language focus on looking up having your chin Health High feeling like you're hurt you know feeling confident and feeling like you deserve to be wherever you are make sure you are looking at
people in the eyes when they talk it makes them feel seen it makes them feel heard it makes them feel like you're engaged in conversation and you actually care you know shoulders back maybe you're sitting down at a table and you just have good posture I mean you may forget and start slouching but like slap from the side it's just not that cute your demeanor really makes all the difference also I feel like a lot of these things like confidence energy or demeanor your body language your body posture it's all about being self-aware and that's
the next thing that I'm going to talk about but being self-aware is just knowing on what's happening with yourself obviously at all times so it's what you say in your head that really matters and what is going to paint the picture for how you perceive the situation around you or how you feel like you should act if you're telling yourself I hate this I'm being awkward I'm doing this like it's just gonna come out wrong but if in your head you're telling yourself I'm confident I look beautiful I love my outfit I love the way
I look I'm looking at people in the eyes my shoulders are held back it's gonna really help you and I hope that that doesn't make you like anxious and then you're overthinking because overthinking isn't the goal but being self-aware and having positive thoughts into your head is going to really help you and it's gonna take some getting used to you may test it out and then you're gonna be like oh my God this is so like what's the word second nature First Nation like it just doesn't feel like it's coming natural to you but the
more that you do it it's gonna be second nature you're gonna do it without thinking and I feel like that's what I do now at first I was so self-aware about what my body was doing what my face was doing if I was looking at people if I was talking and now I don't even think about it it just happens naturally so truly having confidence in yourself and being socially confident is a skill you got to work on self-awareness is described as understanding your strengths your weakness and your values it is embracing your uniqueness and
letting your true self Shine the other thing I want to say about the way that you carry yourself is to smile I know I just briefly mentioned that right now but a genuine smile is honestly so attractive and it radiates positivity and approachability which obviously sometimes I know there's this whole thing about the fan fake Talent being unapproachable but like realistically being approachable doesn't mean that you're easily accessible if that makes sense like I think being approachable is the goal that's how you make friends it's how you meet people but that doesn't mean that you're
gonna let everyone into your circle and they need to know everything about you and you're just like giving yourself up and you don't have standards like maybe that's common sense but it's not the same thing it's just it's not giving resting face again if you have positive energy and a positive mentality you will automatically exude positive energy which is like an aura around you that people can feel positivity is honestly she's infectious so do not underestimate it it also makes the people around you feel good and if you want to have a lot of friends
or be social or just be a person that people want to be around you might as well be positive and keep that happy open minded energy and thought patterns because I personally don't like being around people that complain the whole time and I'm sure nobody else does either so prevent that for yourself and lastly authenticity just be yourself and saying your unique words your unique sentences or your unique thoughts is honestly just attractive and fun to be around I honestly think that I've had situations where I've been around people that I don't really know or
people that I've been like trying to impress or like I'm just kind of nervous for and I'm like you know I forgot to just be yourself if they like it like if they don't they don't and a lot of the times those people end up sticking around you because they realize you're not like the rest you are not like the pack and if you're a beautiful person outside and then they come and see you on the inside they're gonna be astonished by you because not everybody is like that and you're gonna shine brighter and you're
gonna attract the right people that's all I have to say about that I'm gonna use a Dior quad eyeshadow I don't know I can go in like 50 minutes do you think that would work okay cute I'm gonna do my mascara I'm gonna be using the telescopic mascara by L'Oreal okay the next thing I want to talk about in terms of being confident attractive being your most vibrant self is to stop doubting yourself and to stop over analyzing and stop picking yourself apart there's been times where I have not liked something about myself and I'll
ask my friends and I'm like hey does it look bad on me like do I look bad is something wrong with my makeup does my shirt fit awkward and they're like Fernanda you look fine and the whole time I can't even relax because I'm stressing out about the way that I love the way that I feel like I'm being perceived and it's like girl you already left the house just be confident in the way that you look and what you're wearing one more thing I want to say in there don't bring up things that you're
insecure about or that you don't like because other people are going to notice it and then it's like okay now there's two people noticing when you could have just had like an internal thought and just like swallowed it just not have said anything and nobody else would notice honestly it is so true when they say that everybody is their own worst critic and also everybody is paying the most attention to themselves so don't bring unnecessary attention to the things that you're insecure about or if you think something looks off about you and just embrace the
way that you left and trust that people are not looking at the little details about you they're looking at the big picture and again that is why having good energy is so important because the way that you look is the least interesting thing about yourself like literally at the times where I feel insecure about the way that I look I feel like I don't look good enough I'm like this is embarrassing is something wrong I'll be like Fernanda your energy and your personality is carrying you right now don't let external things bother you because there's
so much more than what meets the eye and again people can feel your energy so the way that you look or if you feel like there's something off about you it truly won't make a big difference and it won't stand out to people as much as you think it will I'm like low-key in a rush to get ready that was like a brown lip liner and I honestly hate wearing lip liner should we do black eyeliner I might just line my waterline right now I'm going to manifest I'm gonna get in I'm gonna get in
I'm gonna get in because I swear to God if I don't I will be so mad at myself I'm gonna do a little bit of a black eyeliner cute I'm gonna use this say beauty this is in the shade spicy it's actually like a blush thing but I'm gonna use it on my lips low-key might be a little dark but I'm gonna use a little Dior on top of it and then use up that same Dior eyeshadow it's like a little sparkly one this one right here I'm gonna use it as highlights another reminder that
I want to say that I think is so important to remember when you're out is to not let anybody else's light dim your own everybody is beautiful in their own way there's space for everybody wherever you are and there's no need to have other people bring your confidence down truly everyone is so unique and different and it's like comparing apples and oranges together like you just can't compare yourself to somebody else that looks nothing like you the more you can embrace your own self and not feel like you need to look like someone else act
like someone else the more that you can shine and the more that the right people will stick to you and also I think this is a basic basic basic tip for anybody that's like trying to be more confident but fake it till you make it nobody's gonna know what you're thinking and again if you have to tell yourself in your head I'm confident I'm great I'm this I'm that so be it if it makes you feel better and it makes you feel confident say it to yourself say it in French say it in Spanish just
say it because it really does make I want to read you something that I found online that I thought would be helpful to bring up it says to feel like the hottest girl in the room you need to give the impression that that's what you are and that all comes down to projecting confidence sex appeal is 50 what you've got and 50 what people think you've got okay I thought we're trying to go for sex available but like just attractiveness Aura Vibes confidence that's what I'm trying to go for chat with new people and give
impression of generally being at ease with yourself and you will instantly increase your attractiveness I like that point about being at ease with yourself because that's true honestly the most confident people are the ones that just feel okay being themselves they feel proud of who they are they don't need to put on a show and they just feel calm you don't even have to be like an extroverted like crazy talking fast talking to the speed of light like you just have to be okay with being you and if that means you're a little quieter you're
a little Shyer that's fine I am dressed I'm ready to go I'm wearing a little brown top I need to leave so I think we're done our little confidence talk but if I can give you some last few pointers that I've written down on my notes here it is to work on your charisma look at people and express yourself with opinions and show interest like you're actually there to listen and have a conversation honestly giving responses that sometimes the other person doesn't expect is fun you get to play with the interaction they may not expect
it you may have banter with someone don't be afraid of it and don't feel like you are an awkward person honestly if you think you're shy or you think you're awkward a lot of the times it's your brain convincing you that you are that and not that you actually are that be kind be empathetic honestly kindness being genuine being authentic is going to take you the furthest and just embrace your individuality because there's only one of you so be proud to be you have fun being you have fun being alive use humor when you're talking
to others that's what's really going to get them hooked and want to keep talking to you and remember to be a fun person I think the best compliment that you can receive is like imagine you're going out and like a whole other conversation is happening and someone's like oh so-and-so is going out and they're like oh my God it's gonna be a good night because that person's coming that is like potentially the best compliment I think I would ever receive so just be a fun person to be around be fun be nice don't let other
people take that away from you and truly just realize that anyone can be attractive it is an energy your level of attractiveness truly depends on the level of acceptance you have for yourself and the confidence that you exude [Music]
