how to be magnetic - make people obsessed with THEMSELVES

instead of attacking yourself and blaming an immutable factor which is your inherent self-worth why don't you look at your marketing and positioning hey bestie let's talk about how to be magnetic I want to add a disclaimer that after watching this there is no going back after you watch this you need to be careful of where you place yourself because once you start being magnetic Once you turn that on you cannot afford to be attracting anyone and everyone as much as we want to be magnetic we also need to be repelling the people who don't have

good intentions for us with that being said let's get into it but first what is being magnetic being magnetic is attracting the people things and opportunities that you want in life it's being so in tune with whatever you want in life that whatever you want is inevitable one of the biggest misconceptions about being magnetic is that it's about you it's not about you it's about getting what you want but it's not about you our initial perception about it is that we need to make people obsessed with us but the reality is that we need to

make people obsessed with themselves make them obsessed with how you make them feel here's the thing people are driven by self-interest it's the basis of our survival and us sharing interests with each other is what forms communities cities and Nations this is why we have such a Negative physical reaction to people who think differently from us it's because they don't share our interests and them not sharing our interests can be physically and psychologically threatening to us but what you need to take away from this is that people are driven by self-interests so how do you

use that knowledge to benefit yourself if you want to be magnetic to get what you want in life you first need to know exactly what it is that you want out of life being magnetic is a double-edged sword if you're not careful you will attract everyone and not everyone has good intentions for you not everyone can reciprocate the value that you bring into their lives so being such a magnetic person can be dangerous the key is to be magnetic towards the people who will bring good into your life and repel the people who don't have

good intentions for you so you need to know know what you want in life the people who will help you get there create an avatar for those people tailor your marketing to communicate your shared values and interests with these people and position yourself where these people are marketing and positioning your marketing towards your people need to be steadfast it should be clear that you do not align with these irrelevant people when people perceive that you don't share their values and their interests they literally get threatened by it and they will not want to be around

you and that's what we call optimizing your Social Circles on the topic of being magnetic by making people obsessed with themselves this concept may be familiar to you if you have read how to make friends and influence people I love that book and I think everyone should read it but there's this thing that happens when you first meet people who have read that book you know what happens whenever I meet new people I can a hundred percent on the money tell if they have read the book conversations with them just end up being this game

of who is a better listener versus what it really is about conversations with people are entertainment and this brings me to one of the best ways that you can be magnetic is to entertain people every social interaction is an opportunity to entertain when you look at social interactions from this lens of entertainment how you make friends connections how you network will be very different in a world where a lot of people want to escape the doldrums of Life a lot of people's lives are boring you can provide that escape people don't want to talk about

work they don't want to talk about the mundane they talk to strangers to feel like a new person and you can be that mirror to the person that they think themselves to be you can be the mirror to the person they want to be so if you offer that escape they will want more of you they will chase the way you made them feel and that's how you populate your dream life you entertain people with a reflection of their dream self and how do you do that first you need to become your own dream self

I'm talking emotionally regulated you're happy with your appearance you are settled with yourself you have done the homework of figuring out what you want in life and the type of people that you want to surround yourself with in that life you optimize your marketing and positioning like you are so ready to make moves when you get to this point in your character development the way you present yourself will feel natural to the people in your dream life the people in your dream life will not be threatened by your presence because you align with how they

perceive their dream lives to be when you share the same version of dream lives with people you end up populating each other's dream life like we said in the past class click here we talked about how your dream life is brought about by people and by attracting these people that's how you bring about your dream life watch that video so when you present yourself as your dream life as is right now the people in your dream life they're not threatened by your presence because the vibe is you are already one of them the vibe is

you already fit their dream life play into people's fantasies and it is so much easier to do that when you share the exact same fantasies because you're a self-efficient girly you are so delulu that you make your fantasies come true you make them a reality and by doing so playing into people's fantasies is that difficult because it is your fantasy too and the fantasy is reality the point of being magnetic the point of doing anything is to get what you want in life because we live in a social world where people bring about our dream

lives we first need to take into account what they want in life a lot of the time the people that you want to attract their vision for what they want in life is very similar if not the exact same as your vision for your life anyway play into people's fantasies give the people what they want be Paris Hilton okay that's such a weird segue but it'll make sense okay Paris Hilton came out with this Revelation that she was acting as Y2K Paris she was just playing Into The Stereotype of being a rich Daddy's girl a

dumb blonde because that's how people perceived her that's what they wanted from her that was their fantasy she even spoke in a higher pitched tone as Y2K Paris Hilton when in reality her voice is much deeper like she was really all in Breaking stereotypes in traditional media and even social media to be honest is seen as threatening by the audience so to be iconic she played the part as evidenced by her Fame it worked it's the ultimate social experiment about how you can be magnetic by playing into people's fantasies of you people don't like to

be proven wrong people don't like to have their perception of the world threatened by something that doesn't agree with their perception of the world it helps to play into their fantasies so that they don't feel threatened and they are much more willing to give you what you want in life Paris could have been frustrated with people calling her a dumb blonde she could have defended herself proven everybody wrong but you know what she did she got paid instead of getting mad she got her bag I mean she already got her bag via Daddy but she

got her bag even more there's a lesson in there somewhere don't get mad get paid and here's the thing not only were we drawn to the entertainment aspect of why 2K Paris Hilton she was also very confident and self-assured how she presented herself is natural to her and that brings us to the next way that you can be magnetic have unshakably high self-worth the only people who were drawn to people with low self-worth are people who will take advantage of you for having low self-worth yes you will still attract people but they will not be

the type of people that you want to attract these people who want to take advantage of you they're highly repelled by people who have high self-worth as someone who has main character energy I mean can you tell that main character energy a lot of people get ruffled by my presence like I will walk into a room I've never met these people in my life I wouldn't even say anything I will literally just walk in walk my walk and smile at people and just really have that presence a lot of people who have low self-esteem they

get ruffled by that they are not into it and okay am I a hater for saying that they have low self-esteem but like if someone having confidence is turning you off you have problems and these people they have their micro Expressions they get a little ruffled I don't know why it's a talent that I have I can clock micro expressions like I'm very in tune with how people Express themselves so I just know to avoid those people and there are a lot of people who are my people like they have the same positive energy the

same main character energy and We Vibe obviously but there are a lot of people who are just ruffled by people with high self-worth high self-esteem high confidence and those are the people you need to stay away from those are the people you need to repel and the thing is your high self-worth is already enough repellent for these people for the longest time I kept myself in spaces where a lot of people did not love my presence and I took that as a sign that my presence was not lovable when this whole time I was just

surrounding myself with the wrong people what do I always tell you you have so much inherent value and worth and I need you to see that nothing you do nothing you present like will change your inherent value and worth let me tell you a story about the Stanley Cup the it girl of Cups right now and before the no no one's Nellis come in here and cry about objectification how else are we going to draw metaphors okay how else stop sit in front of the class because the no-nuance nonsense it stops here okay the Stanley

Cup it was not always the best selling cup that it is now now but you know what happened they didn't do a redesign they didn't do anything except they changed the marketing they changed the people who they were marketing the cup to so before they marketed it to women they were marketing it to men and women but more like outdoorsy people it wasn't like the it girl but the moment they started marketing to women it blew up okay so you could be the Stanley Cup if you are not celebrated right now if you don't feel

like you're magnetic right now you may be in the wrong place nothing changed with the Stanley Cup obviously they have cuter colors now she's flourishing she's thriving but before that before they marketed to the right people she was just a regular regular cup in the outdoor section nothing changed with her what does this have to do with your self-worth there are so many factors that go into your outcome and instead of attacking yourself and blaming an immutable factor which is your inherent self-worth why don't you look at your marketing and positioning because you could be

a Stanley Cup you could be the it girl but you are not in a place built for you to thrive you could be the it girl underappreciated by the wrong Market but a fan favorite in the right Market everything is a market go where you thrive go where you are cherished go where you are the it girl very few of us can transcend this feeling of being detached from how other people perceive us and that's why I need you to move if you are in a place where you are not cherished where you are not

thriving where people are putting you down instead of lifting you up take yourself out of those situations that make you feel worthless and watch how you perceive yourself worth Skyrocket instead of focusing on things that you can never ever change your worth as a human being as a woman will never ever change and it is very high your worth as a human being as a woman is static immutable permanent you can change who perceives your worth and how they perceive your worth but your worth in itself will never ever change and it is very high

okay there's a lid for every pot and you need to find the lid for your cast iron ceramic coated cream like or say pot that goes for every relationship that you want to achieve in your life friendships business context romantic relationships all of that you need to find the lid for your pot in summary when you have high self-worth not only will you repel the people who seek to take advantage of you for having low self-worth you also become so magnetic to the right people who will bring joy and goodness to your life that's all

I have for you today I just wanted to let you know that you have so much inherent worth and value in a world that is hell-bent on devaluing you now get that bag bestie foreign [Music]