if you know about Liz's upbringing you know that she grew up as a people pleaser she had a rough childhood and grew up in a toxic households with a father that was abusive and it wasn't until she decided to become selfish selfish with her time and her energy that she completely changed her life she mentioned being selfish with her space when she moved out so that her abusive father was no longer in the picture she is also very selective on who she chooses to surround herself with meaning whether it be her partner or even the
type of friends that she chooses to hang out with she is selfish with her energy as she pours into herself to heal from the past and to move on and she reads and learns and does self-care and pushes her own boundaries like jumping off of a plane when she is afraid of heights and he pushes you on two because people grab one [Music] three and you fall out of the airplane and in one second you realize that it's the most Blissful experience of your life to level up her mindset and her life and so instead
of spending time wondering why she had to grow up like that she spent her time being more productive in bettering herself instead and now that she is as successful as she is living a happy life looking the way that she wants making making the money and living the lifestyle that she wants she is able to not only take care of herself but she is also able to help take care of her mom and explore different Ventures like starting a podcast with her sister and help her become successful as well because Liz was so selfish it
saved not only her life but it also influenced the people around her as well it's a little ironic that some of the most selfish people are also some of the most selfless because Liz poured into her own cup she now has so much overflowing that she is able to pour into the cups of the people around her that she cares about many people have a negative perspective about being selfish they see it as disregarding others and maybe even stepping on other people in their needs in order to get what you want however being selfish it
simply means that you are prioritizing your own needs and this could simply mean that if someone comes to you and asks you for help you don't IM immediately drop what you're doing to go and help them you can say hey I'm happy to help but after I finish what I'm doing first because here's the thing if you're always out there prioritizing others who's going to prioritize you everyone grew up in different environments influenced by different cultures they were taught different values but the one thing that we all have in common is that everyone gets the
same 24 hours you will not have the time to level up your life if you're spending all of your time helping everyone else level up their lives unlike money where you can always earn back the money that you spend you cannot get back the time that you already spent too many of us waste our time on people in situations that don't serve us like we have all the time in the world when that's not the case be selfish with your time because it is precious and make sure to use it in ways that benefit you
instead of wasting it on others use it to level up your own life instead of crying over a guy that didn't text you back take yourself on a date and treat yourself make yourself happy instead of getting upset over a job that you didn't get that couldn't see your value look for another or start your own business instead of playing victim take responsibility and start becoming the hero of your own story you're the one that ultimately influences your life the most nobody is coming to save you no one is obligated to save you especially if
you don't help yourself first like Liz you may not have had the best start in life and you may not have have been dealt the best hand in life but the thing is your trauma is not your fault your pain and your hurt is not your fault because we have no control over the environment that we are born in but you're healing and living a life that you find fulfilling and happy is your responsibility yes people may call you selfish but those who try to make you feel bad for prioritizing your own knees and trying
to make you out as this villain are also the same ones counting on your emotional guilt to to benefit from you so don't let them have it be selfish enough to want to change your life and then be selfish enough to go and make that happen for yourself thank you so so much for tuning into today's lesson and I hope to see you in the next one in the meantime learn to be a little more selfish and stay hot bye
