what if I told you that you may be the reason why certain blessings have not come your way what if I told you that you can delay some of God's blessings in your life because of this one thing you've been doing when God's about to bless you with anything including a good relationship he's not asking you to announce it to everyone you must be quiet and let God bring his promise to pass in your life you may think it's good to talk about what's going to happen in your life but unless you're surrounded with people who mean you well you may be setting yourself up for opposition in unfavorable conditions in a moment I'll show you a few reasons why you should be quiet about very important blessings coming your way like a new relationship but first listen to this you are very important to God he wants what's best for you and in all our videos I try to make that clear you'll also notice that in some of our past videos I'm showing you some signs that God's about to bless you with a new relationship the purpose of teaching you this is to help you prepare yourself for what's coming so that you don't miss the opportunity to be with the person God wants you to be with the Bible tells us that With God all things are possible it doesn't matter how rough your relationship history has been it doesn't matter how complicated your life history has been if God is with you you can still get it right because if you submit to him he will guide you to the right relationship where you'll feel relief and fulfillment in life now if you've sensed in your spirit that God's about to bless you with a new relationship then there's still one more thing you need to do you need to not talk about it and wait for God to announce his Blessing himself I know that in the present day many pregnant women do things like gender reveal parties however a pregnant woman does not go around telling everyone she's pregnant she doesn't walk down the street and greet people with do you know I'm pregnant do you know that I and my husband have been trying to have a baby now instead she discovers she's pregnant she tells her husband and she begins to follow all the measures that pregnant women are supposed to take while they're pregnant she begins to perform certain exercises and follows certain diets as the baby in her womb develops soon it becomes obvious even to those she didn't tell this is how the blessings of God work you don't make them work you don't force them to work you follow God Faithfully until he performs what he said he told the Prophet Jeremiah that he's always watching to perform his word Jeremiah 1 12. the Lord said to me you have seen correctly for I am watching to see that my word is fulfilled in other words he's saying that he doesn't have a problem doing what he says this confirms what he also says in Isaiah 55 10-11 as the rain and the snow come down from heaven and do not return to it without watering the Earth and making it bud and flourish so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater so is my word that goes out from my mouth it will not return to me empty but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it yet have you noticed that sometimes God speaks about what he wants to do in your life either through a prophetic word you received a personal encounter with God or just a spiritual understanding of the Season through some signs God's giving you and it doesn't happen or happens later than expected what happened there may be other factors but one of the most common is that you announced something that was meant just for you too early there are things God wants you proclaiming and there are things he wants you to keep private until they manifest for example when Jesus transfigured on the mountain before his three closest disciples he told them not to announce it until after his resurrection when the father of John the Baptist Zechariah had an encounter with the angel Gabriel about the miraculous birth of his son at his old age the angel had to make him mute until after the birth of John when the miracle had come to pass when he named the child as the angel instructed his mouth was open [Music] once upon a time a woman told Elijah about her problem with financial crises and debts that her husband had left behind for her and her children she told him that all she had was a jar of oil and the prophet then told her to get as many jars as possible from her neighbors he told her that after she collected the jars she should shut the door and start pouring oil into the empty jars from that single jar she had the miracle being promised was that as long as there was an empty jar to fill the oil would never run dry when she'd finished filling all of them she should sell the oil gather the money to clear her debts and then use the rest to take care of herself and her kids she did as instructed and the rest is history these are just some of the instances where God instructed people to keep the expected Miracle or blessing to themselves until it matured I have heard of people going ahead of someone to take their place in an office or new relationship they'd told them about you may think that everyone around you means well but the sad truth is that not everyone does hence this is why you must keep quiet regarding what God said he was about to do in your life why is it important for you to keep quiet when God wants to bless you with a new relationship one you build your faith through patience faith is not Hasting us faith and patience work together the Bible tells us to follow in the steps of those who inherited God's promise through faith and patience when you sense that God's about to bless you with a new relationship your silence shouldn't be because you have doubts about it but rather because you're building your faith in anticipation during your waiting period you meditate on what God's about to do and you prepare yourself you pray more you learn to develop yourself into the kind of person your partner would enjoy being with two you keep quiet to protect yourself and your relationship I said this earlier not everyone around you means well this doesn't mean that you should live suspecting everyone instead you should do what the Bible says be bold as a lion and as gentle as a dove but as wise as a serpent I once came across a piece of information about how a lady's friend went behind her back to meet someone God was bringing into her life this friend told this man terrible things about this young lady the man began to avoid her because he believed what her best friend had told him and he eventually ended the relationship this may not always be the case with everyone some people may discourage you or make you feel you aren't ready for a relationship when you tell them God's about to bless you sometimes your words may produce negative effects on you your future in that relationship or the person coming into your life I also heard of a lady who had prayed for a partner and when God was going to bless her with a wonderful person she began to say if God gave her someone less than a particular social status she'd never accept him the person God was bringing was right there in front of her without her knowledge and that was how he walked away and they missed that relationship so in keeping quiet you're protecting yourself and your relationship from attack or other adversity lastly you keep quiet to let God confirm His blessings when they manifest themselves just like I mentioned earlier faith is not hasty Isaiah 28 16. therefore thus says the Lord God behold I lay in Zion a stone for a foundation a tribe Stone a precious Cornerstone a sure Foundation whoever believes will not act hastily just like with a pregnancy allow God's blessing to manifest when the right person comes your life itself will show that you found someone you will never be the same again you don't announce this kind of thing it'll announce itself give God a chance to be God watch the things you say where you say them how you say them and those you share them with make sure that you are more focused on personal development such as dealing with selfishness and pride learning to humble yourself and loving other people Beyond yourself if you commit to these things you position yourself for an amazing reception of the great miracle God has for you I pray that these words have taught you something important today and will guide you to take the right steps for the better in Jesus name amen [Music] it is very important for you to learn the signs God will use to identify your person and connect you with them your person is that individual God has set aside to connect with you in a special way this will lead to your journey together as husband and wife serving his purpose here on Earth this same person can come from anywhere and through any situation God considers best sometimes the conditions surrounding your connection would not be as exciting or colorful as you imagined they would be however through a mature spirit and understanding of God's guidance you will know that God is using these things to reveal that this is your person one of the uncomfortable things God will use to reveal your person to you is that regardless of your feelings toward this person your connection with them will enjoy God's blessings more than any other possible partner you may meet what do I mean honestly I have learned that sometimes God will not use emotional attraction as the Bedrock for confirming a relationship he is bringing into your life you may not really be attracted at first sight to the person God wants you to be with yet they are the right person for you the one you may feel attraction towards may be the one you can't seem to find any peace with hence you need to be led by God rather than by your feelings remember the Bible says in first Samuel 16 6-7 when they arrived Samuel saw eliab and thought surely the Lord's anointed stands here before the Lord but the Lord said to Samuel do not consider his appearance or his height for I have rejected him the Lord does not look at the things people look at people look at the outward appearance but the Lord looks at the heart you may notice that other relationships and attractions are not making any Headway and are lacking God's blessings then you meet the person God wants you to be with this is a sign God is using to reveal that this is the person for you you do not have to conclude that you have not been called to marriage or you are never going to meet the person for you because past efforts to connect with others did not have God's blessing have been following the past videos here you might have heard us explain that if God puts a contentment in your heart to be with someone then you are not called to a life of singleness you should not let past disappointments tell you what God is not saying if you are called to a life of singleness but you will find your complete satisfaction in God alone you will be quite uncomfortable to venture into a relationship after relationship without finding peace or God's blessing however these may just be a sign that God is reserving you for the right person he is prepared for you once you meet the right one you will see God's hand of blessing on the relationship another uncomfortable thing that God will use to reveal your person to you is that he will use both your flaws to shatter your immature expectations of true love in a marital relationship usually we all grow up with the perception of what true love is that makes us feel excited about finding and experiencing it with someone someday the truth is that as you make progress with God he will use the reality of your own imperfections and the imperfections of the right person to shatter those fantasies you see expectations especially unrealistic ones are the mother of disappointment you are bound to go from unhappiness to unhappiness and heartbreak to heartbreak as long as you hold on to immature and unrealistic expectations of love the Bible shows us the character of true love in First Corinthians 13 4-7 love is patient love is kind it does not envy it does not boast it is not proud it does not dishonor others it is not self-seeking it is not easily angered it keeps no record of wrongs it does not Delight in evil but rejoices with the truth it always protects always trusts always hopes always perseveres it may be uncomfortable having to break free from those immature expectations of love and to deal with the reality of your differences and personalities and individual imperfections in the relationship however this will help you to become more mature open to God's peace and embrace his will a more committed relationship is produced when even after seeing your ugly Parts this person still chooses to be with you a relationship will not have the foundation to last if you have to hide your flaws in the fear that they will no longer love you if they find out God will reveal your ugly parts to this person and use their commitment in spite of those flaws to shatter your expectations true love and god-ordained marriages are not built on emotions or trending stories you may find on social media you may not have butterflies in your stomach or sleepless nights thinking about this person you may not experience glowing skin however you will find the peace that comes with the unity of your desires with God's desire when God is connecting you with your person it will calm the turmoil in your soul that you would experience with someone else this is easier said than done but it will beat your imagination in a positive way because the love produced will be genuine and everlasting finally an uncomfortable thing God will use to reveal your person to you is that he will use the really hard things in your life to bring you two closer together usually conflicts and hardship break people apart however when this is the person for you God will cause both your insecurities and the hard things you go through to establish your connection now of course this does not always happen but if God is involved in bringing someone into your life the things meant to keep you apart will actually strengthen your bonds together furthermore in complementing each other he will always give you someone whose life and insecurities challenge yours in such a way that it leads both of you to a common ground in God thus sanctifying your relationship more and more and building it upon the foundation of divinity why does God do all this he does this to give you conditions where your eyes can always turn to him and where your faith can grow whatever does not challenge you will not mature you hence he will give you a relationship where you will grow to find your complete Security in God first and foremost rather than in the person he is giving you God allows imperfect conditions to help us grow in faith similarly he will give you an imperfect person to help you grow in your dependence on him he will use them to teach you to learn Divine love and seek to walk in Grace as you see your partner's imperfections and yours conflicting and herein lies our hope if it is ordained by God and involves Divine organization it will thrive Psalm 133 1-3 tells us about the blessing that will rest on us when there is Harmony in our relationship with each other how good and pleasant it is when God's people live together in unity it is like Precious oil poured on the head running down on the beard running down on Aaron's beard down on the collar of his robe it is as if the Dew of Mount Hermon were falling on Mount Zion for there the Lord bestows his Blessing even life forevermore for example if you have experienced certain hardships in life God will give you someone who will challenge you to stop nursing your wounds and embrace God's healing this will be quite uncomfortable because we like people who tell us it's okay to nurse our wounds but the truth is that you will not be better with such people thus God gives you someone whose own hardships have helped them grow so that they will challenge you to be better you will both have an understanding and love for each other as you grow through these conflicts it's a bumpy road but it is a path to peace satisfaction and fulfillment blessed by God in marriage you know that feeling when you finally find that special someone you've been praying for it's like a euphoric high that makes you want to shout it from the rooftops but hold on a minute brothers and sisters before you go telling everyone and their Grandma about your new relationship you need to keep your mouth shut let me break it down for you the Bible talks about enemies evil hearts and they're not just the same abstract concept no they're real and they're lurking all around us you may think that everyone around you is on your side but the truth is not everyone is happy for your blessings some people will smile to your face while secretly wishing for your downfall and the last thing you want is for your good news to get back to those who want to see you fail don't be naive my friends don't think that just because someone calls themselves your friend means they have your best interests at heart keep your circle tight and only share your blessings with those who have proven themselves to be trustworthy and let me tell you when you're living your best life in your cup runneth over your enemies will be watching they'll be waiting for you to slip up waiting for a chance to tear you down but you know what the Bible tells us to love our enemies bless those who curse us and pray for those who spitefully use us it's not easy but it is necessary so when God blesses you with a new relationship keep your mouth shut guard your blessings like precious jewels and only share them with those who deserve to know remember we live in a world of evil eyes and jealousy but with God on your side you can overcome anything stay strong stay faithful and keep your mouth shut we live in a world full of enemies enemies who are not always obvious enemies who pretend to like us but secretly hate us Jesus himself had enemies and he was perfect so what makes us think we won't have any now I know some of you are probably thinking I don't have any enemies well my friend wake up and smell the coffee because you do they might not be obvious and you might not even know who they are yet but they exist this world is full of jealousy envy and misunderstandings and unfortunately humans are complicated creatures you can't just look at someone and know whether they like you or not like dogs dogs will either like you or not no in-betweens but humans they smile to your face and stab you in the back as soon as you turn around so why am I telling you all of this because your relationship might be an encouragement for some but for others it's a reason to hate you Yes you heard me right your new relationship could be the thing that someone out there despises you for they'll pretend to be happy for you but deep down their anger will fester in their heart It's a cruel reality but it's the truth so what can you do about it well for starters keep your mouth shut don't go around flaunting your new relationship to everyone who will listen keep it to yourself and only share the news with those who genuinely care about you don't post every little detail on social media either because you'd never know who's watching and waiting for an opportunity to bring you down be careful who you share your relationship with not everyone has your best interest at heart and some people are just waiting for the chance to see you fall so enjoy your new relationship but keep it low-key trust me it's for your own good so you've just entered a new relationship and you're over the moon about it you can't wait to tell everyone about how blessed you are and have found your soulmate but before you go running your mouth about the ins and outs of your new boo let's pump the brakes for a second and use some wisdom you don't want to put yourself in a position where You're vulnerable to the evil lurking in the world trust me the world we live in is no joke there are people out there who will smile in your face and stab you in the back the second they get the chance you might not even realize it until it's too late take Joseph from the Bible for example this dude had a dream that his brothers would bow down to him one day and you know what they did they threw him in a well and sold him into slavery but as we know God has a way of turning even the worst situations around for our good Joseph went from slave to leader and it was all because he kept his mouth shut about his dreams the same goes for you and your new relationship who are you telling about your blessings do these people really have your best interests at heart or are they secretly praying for your downfall when you get into an argument with your partner it might be tempting to vent to your friends or family but be careful who you share with sometimes the people we think are on our side are really just waiting for us to slip up so they can say I told you so let's be real when we're angry we tend to talk even more we have all these emotions and we just need someone to listen but here's the thing sometimes it's better to just be quiet take a step back breathe and think about what you want to say before you say it and if you really need to vent talk to God about it he's always listening and he won't judge you or use your words against you later so the next time you're tempted to spill all the tea about your new relationship remember Joseph and use some wisdom testify about what God has done for you but don't give away all the juicy details keep some things between you and your partner and trust that God will continue to bless your relationship in his perfect timing now I know it's tempting to share your newfound Joy with your friends and family but trust me it's not always the wisest choice speaking when you're angry opens the door to sin causes strife and turns you into a fool Proverbs 29 verse 11.
but speaking when you're excited can be just as dangerous you might be wondering but why can't I share my happiness with my friends don't they deserve to know well the truth is not everyone will be happy for you people who are driven by the flesh are often envious full of jealousy bitterness and hatred and the last thing you want is to have someone Reign on your parade or even worse playing evil against you when you least expect it so before you start telling your friends about your relationship observe them closely are they truly happy for you do they Revere God and celebrate His blessings or are they just pretending to be your friend sometimes it's better to keep things to yourself and protect your relationship from negative influences remember much talk leads to sin be sensible and keep your mouth shut it might take every fruit of this Spirit to make it happen but when you control your tongue you'll come out on top every time plus you'll save yourself from the pain of words that can't be taken back no matter how much you regret them and don't let the devil push you off the line of Walking In Love he's always trying to get you out of alignment so he can steal your blessings from you instead hold your tongue and listen to the Holy Spirit be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to get angry James 1 verse 19. so whether it's a Proverbs 26 4 moment or at Proverbs 26 5 moment let the holy spirit guide you and give you the words to speak when you do you'll never let anger or excitement lead you into sin again in conclusion remember that not everyone deserves to know about your new relationship keep your mouth shut and protect your blessings and always listen to the holy spirit before you speak the holy spirit is pleased when we pray and seek Him to guide us in the issues of life one big disadvantage you can give yourself is to shut him out of the important things The crucial details of your life the Bible says in Romans 8 14 that for those who are led by the spirit of God are the children of God you will avoid many pitfalls if you learn to trust the holy spirit to guide you especially in matters as important as marriage in romantic relationships [Music] who is the Holy Spirit in simple terms the holy spirit is God living in US God exists and reveals himself in three distinct forms yet he's the same one God he's father son and spirit if you read the first book of the Bible Genesis you'll see that from the beginning the holy spirit is mentioned Genesis 1 1-2 in the beginning God created the heavens and the earth now the Earth was formless and empty Darkness was over the surface of the deep and the spirit of God was hovering over the waters thus the Holy Spirit was with the father God at creation as the second of the godhead in the same place we also see the sun present the Bible tells us that Jesus is the word of God personified and in the beginning that word was present with God as John tells us when God said let there be light he was sending the word the Holy Spirit activated the word of God and that resulted in the creation of everything thus the Bible talking about Jesus in John 1 2-3 says he was with God in the beginning through him all things were made without him nothing was made that has been made you see that the spirit of God is not a pushover he's God living inside everyone who's put their faith in and received Jesus as Lord in their lives one of the works of the holy spirit is to guide you into all truth this means that if you're not walking in the fullness of God's perfect will for your life you either do not have the holy spirit to guide you or are not letting him guide you if you're born again you have the Holy Spirit living inside you Jesus said to be born again means to be born of the spirit a person born again doesn't live by their own mental prowess but by the supernatural guidance and empowerment of the spirit of God John 3 5-8 Jesus answered very truly I tell you no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water in the spirit flesh gives birth to flesh but the spirit gives birth to Spirit you should not be surprised at my saying You must be born again the wind blows wherever it pleases you hear it sound but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it's going so it is with everyone born of the spirit obeying the instructions of the Holy Spirit brings in beautiful results and life's decisions and the word of God is full of testimonies that prove this therefore when it comes to choosing your partner for a romantic or marital relationship you the child of God need to let the holy spirit guide you to find the right person the Bible tells us he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord if the word find is used then it must be the result of looking for something you can't say you found something if you weren't looking for it in the first place this is the state of each person whom God has called to be with someone in a marital relationship he puts a longing in your heart for a special person with whom he wants you to continue your life Journey then you begin to search for relationships and interactions until you find them however the way he wants you to find them is not only by following your human intuitions but by depending on him if you call the person God gives you in a relationship a gift then you must believe that they have to come from God this doesn't mean that they'll literally fall down from heaven it doesn't mean that they'll just appear out of nowhere it simply means that you both will be brought together through God's guidance the Bible tells us that the steps of the righteous are ordered by the Lord when you follow God's instructions by listening to the Holy Spirit and obeying him God will show you who's right for you and tell you how to go about developing a relationship [Music] one of the biggest mistakes single Christians make is that we're very quick to run after someone because of how they look on the outside how they treat us what they have and who they are socially if you follow our videos you'll notice that we share some of the signs for recognizing if someone is God's will for you or not we also teach you how you can use events around you to confirm God's approval in your relationships however the greatest Advantage you have in all of these things is the Holy Spirit I've had the opportunity to Mentor many young people and from time to time I get to speak with them about some of these things on one of these occasions as I was speaking with this young lady she told me that she easily settles anywhere she feels love and affection if someone's kind and accommodating she doesn't like to stay away from such a person and soon she might become too fond of them and I told her that in itself that's not a bad thing but because not everyone who treats you kindly truly has good intentions for you it's important to be led by the spirit of God in relationships remember the Bible says that we only look at the outward appearances but God looks at and knows the intentions and thoughts of the heart therefore who would you rather trust to know the right person to have a romantic relationship with it would have to be the one who knows them better than you do many young ladies became single mothers because they felt safe with a young man who brought gifts and spoke kind words to them the gifts kept them from taking the time to check if this person's motives were Pure or selfish and before they realized it they'd been taken advantage of child of God your heavenly father does not want you to finally get it right by trial and error you do not have to make mistakes upon mistakes in order to get it right this is why he gave you the holy spirit in the first place by the Holy Spirit you will not only receive the strength to seek God's face in prayer you will also receive the ability to understand when he answers you as well as the strength to act on what God says you should do Philippians 2 13.
