Hello everyone! How are you all doing? Naturally you have some people around you who are negative and complains a lot, and now that you're learning a new attitude towards life and want to leave this lifestyle behind, you may be getting distant from them or pushing them away.
You may wonder "No I want fresh air. I'm fed up with this negativity. I want to become more balanced" You're thinking wrong!
Regardless of the change of egregores, you need to stop being passive and impressionable. Let's talk about it! It's all about understanding the message of prosperity.
The prosperity I constantly teach here, on the Radio or at the Entrevidas Centre. It´s perfectly alright to choose other groups or friends. You don't have to cope with negative, destructive or envy people.
We naturally will encounter these kind of people along our lives because we live in a world full of diversity. What matters here is the way you intake these encounters. Don't let these encounters impress you.
You usually get impressed by others behaviour. It's vicious cycle that most people have learnt from their parenting. We're taught to to perceive that outer world and shape ourselves into the outer mould.
For example, when you perceive someone is dangerous, you behave defensively; or this person is nice and honest, so you can open up yourself safely to them; or this one is a poor thing, an underdog, so you have to be ready to help, to be kind . Most people are used to look at the outer reality and react instead of act, behave accordingly to your own principles and concepts. You're not used to behave in alignment with your own emotions.
Autonomy and prosperity have as underlying principle you behaving in alignment with your emotions, not reacting to whatever happens to you from other people or situations. Stop this reactive mindset. Stop being impressionable, shakeable or offendable.
These are all passive and receptive attitudes. So, you keep searching the positive traits from others and trying to protect yourself from the negative traits, right? Most people get lost within themselves.
Do you know what's missing? Individuality! You need to stop being captivated by others' emotional state.
You normally do it in an automatic and vicious way that you don't even notice it. Another example, when you encounter a situation where there are aggressive people, you either get fearful or angry. So, you're a victim and are manipulated by the outer reality.
Some people feel what others say is a secondhand embarrassment. Why, for the sake of your sanity, would you feel embarrassed for others' mistake? !
What is secondhand embarrassment like? We have either the negative counterpart like feeling fear or embarrassment and the positive one like you're feeling happy or successful for the other. This is a human mechanism, as we project ourselves onto others all the time.
Its an inevitable mechanism. We've done that since we were born in order to learn through the vicarious experience how to behave, how to manifest our emotions. We have initially our parents to project and perceive ourselves related to gender and sexuality, for example.
So, we imitate them for building our personality. The big issue here is that were not taught to perceive and value the aspects of our essence while we were raising our self-awareness from being a toddler to being a child or teenager. Most of us keep looking for meaning on the external world.
Notice that everything we do is based on the personality projection mechanism. For example, when you watch a film, a play or a musical at the theatre, you identify yourself or not, you mirror yourself or not. You can sympathise or antipathise based on the values and emotions that are within you.
What's important for your prosperity is that you make yourself as an individual and stop being passive. Or stop being open only for the stimulus you judge is good for you. In other words, stop feeling shaken up or upset with negative, envious, and destructive people who approach you.
Stop blaming the world. Stop behaving only as a reflection of the external. You're not a reflection.
You have your own light. Stop this mindset that says you only have to reflect others light. And becoming a person emotionally independent, you'll develop your own light, showing your charisma and your way of thinking and feeling.
Doing so, you'll have the discernment to perceive a negative situation and realise what's yours, then you don't have to feel what they are feeling. You won't feel other's fear, shame or embarrassment. You don't have to allow yourself to be infected by these unhealthy emotions.
Sure, you can open up yourself for the positive and vibrant energy from friends or for a victory of a beloved one, but be sure that even in the positive situations you don't own others' emotions. Don't live for making others' victory and success yours. This situation takes place mostly with many parents, who say that they feel fulfilled with the fulfilment of their children.
It's wrong! Fulfil yourself through your own life experiences. And about your children, sure you can be happy, congratulate them and celebrate with them.
But every and each of us have our own path, our own karma and destiny to live. Fulfil your mission, be happy and contribute to the world where you live in. So, stop either suffering for other's or fulfilling yourself through them while your own life is stuck.
Do you realise that allowing yourself be influenced by others means you live by the external world? You'er not living by your heart, by your soul! In other words, be brave to live what you feel is true for you within your essence, without comparing, measuring up or pleasing whoever.
Make yourself happy! Look for good models! Of course we can use the personality projection mechanism in order to have a model, an example while at the same time keeping in mind that you're an individual and you need to have your own content, based on your essence for the models you look for.
Get out of the weak and susceptible position of the others' emotional state. I think this a precious tip for the ones who want to prosper and overcome this emotional instability. If you've enjoyed this video, please rate it down there.
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