freedom is your ability to be disliked we think we want to be liked by everybody and we then are who do I have to be to be liked about you know from everybody and then we'll change our frame of reality to make everybody else happy but what if that's the wrong question to ask what if you didn't weren't attached to being liked at all and then you could just be yourself and the irony is that when you're just being yourself and you're not attached to whether people like you or not what is your energy like
magnetic a attractive you're not attached to what other people think you're not trying to get something from them if you can accept that you're not going to be everyone's cup of tea or you're not going to be everyone's flavor that's okay we don't have to take on the burden of trying to convert people over to understanding us converting people over to seeing the value and the worth there's a lot of power that comes when you realize and you just accept that you're not going to be liked by everybody the more that the longer that I've
been on YouTube the more I realized that on one hand the longer I'm on YouTube the more people I reach there are more people that really love what I do and there are also people that hate what I do that don't like what I do or that have their own perspective and it's it's totally it's like it's a part of the game but can you see how I would block myself if I was not willing to accept this over here I'd be constantly tuning to a different frame or playing a different playing to a different
beat in order to get something that I don't even want anyways and that's a big that's a big part of Freedom when you realize that it's not something you need it's not something you want you just accept it it's like there's a new level of Freedom that opens up yes hi and this is something I'm really grappling with in my relationships um being truly myself and yeah you know the courage to be disliked for personally my spirituality um and but then where does compromise come in because then I have a lot of people telling me
like in in relationships you have to compromise what do you feel like you need to compromise like what is what is the reflection for you like can you give it a specific example so I'm dealing with a situation with someone I just ended a relationship with um basically my spirituality is very important to me yep and my um ex partner wants traditional religion and doesn't want anything outside of those lines and so he doesn't want to Mar is your spirituality important to you it's me it's me yeah right yeah is it important to you to
have in a partner someone that ALS values something similar to you whether they completely understand it or whether they're open to it or like what is the what is the that Clarity for you there I want spiritual freedom to explore what I want to explore I don't need my partner to believe what I believe right yeah so in that relationship did you feel like you could explore that or did you feel like you were being judged or was there being judged because if anything I look at spirituality is universal I'm not very much in the
template of like religion I everything is universal and so for me I want that freedom right to be able to do that yeah yeah so but then people are like well if he's important to you then you need to compromise right so that well I guess it's getting clear with what what dating does for us is it helps us become aware of where our Edge is and what is important and what we value so through the contrast of this relationship you may have become aware how important your spiritual practice is to you and you want
somebody maybe that accepts the spiritual practice that you are into and if it feels like you're not being accepted for that or that's something that they're because compromise Works two ways right but I I I'm letting him do his thing I know yeah but that's what I'm saying is if that that it sounds like it's also the compromise isn't coming the other direction right so in a sense it's like so what you're supposed to compromise yourself at the level of of like like what is expected of you to compromise like how much more can you
compromise yourself well he he basically said you know he he would like it if I kind of keep it to myself and don't if we had kids together he doesn't want that in his in his orbit basically and how do you feel about that uh I don't feel good about it that's why we're not together right now yeah but I have my friends coming in saying like find a middle ground find a middle way compromise yeah yeah so they they're just that all of that is just external stuff they're trying to like yeah it's it's
all external don't do it don't do it okay it's all okay all right come on everyone get classes get a little loud the the the clarity that you have within yourself I think is very clear it's very clear yeah it's just it is completely related to the frame technique as well because it's almost like we start to starting to doubt yourself like oh I need to be compromis I want to show him the light but that's my control issue that's my is exactly and then friends this is a thing that happen a lot in relational
Dynamics even with friends is your friends many times will want you to be the version of you that you've always been around them right so once you start to evolve to a new level this doesn't have to be some spiritual hierarchy where it's like you know but in general when you start to become more aware of certain patterns the version of you that you used to be may not be the version that they're comfortable with so what happens is now that you are seeing that pattern and breaking out of that pattern could be that you
break out of that pattern and now they maybe had more access to you maybe more control of you maybe you were a certain way that con that confirmed their reality more and maybe you also stayed in a limiting pattern that they could empathize with you on right like a lot of time I mean sometimes it can be friends that maybe aren't in happy relationships that are giving you all this advice right A lot of times that's what it is um but if someone's asking you to compromise yourself in that way you want to look out
what the sources and you want to kind of in the beginning earlier when we were talking about when someone was talking about the therapist saying something um and what my gut was telling me like that whole thing it's like being able to tune to yourself to say what do I feel about this what is important to me because ultimately that's a pretty deep thing when it comes to dating someone else is what are your values around religion around spirituality around kids around raising kids it's pretty deep it's not like it's com like what what compromise
I mean there could be versions of compromise I guess but you seem very clear with what you want let's go right over here we have a gentleman with his hand up um could you go into the difference between controlling and manifesting yeah so just the general difference between controlling and manifesting yeah so sometimes it feels like manifesting requires a lot of control yeah which kind of defeats it energetically yeah it's kind of a paradox isn't it so on one hand we have so I guess the definition of control like what what do you what would
you say how would you describe control yeah I would say for uh forcing something um sometimes obsessing yeah over it as well right about what you the outcome you want to and what the energy of want or the energy of obsessing over something that kind of energy it's almost like the belief is that if I if I obsess about something and I think about something and I want something then I'm going to get this thing yeah so isn't it funny that sometimes I think desire is something we use because there's almost a subconscious belief that
if I want I'm going to receive yeah but is it true that if you want something you are then going to it then adds to the energy of you getting it no yeah very often not it doesn't feel like that because the more you want the more you vibrationally lack it's a different energy so the the transformation that I found around manifestation in general and this balance of control is Shifting more into a level of Divine Alignment you focus on what is the energy you want to feel you can focus on visualizing what you quote
unquote want but it's more of an identity level manifestation where you're putting the awareness inside of your body and you're feeling it as if it's here now not because when this thing gets here then my reality is shift and then I can shift how I feel but it literally feels good to visualize so the way that I view manifestation is more along the lines of visualizing what you quote unquote want using the imagination we'll talk about like Alp the brain waves and all of that as well but using your Consciousness to feel it as if
it's already here now and what happens is when you feel as if it's already here now you're more likely to pick up on energy inside of your field that is an equal to the energy you're admitting so what a lot of people do though is they're waiting for the external to shift to feel happy they're waiting for the external to shift and that's where the control happens the belief is if I control then the external will shift then I can feel happy but in fact when you go about it a different way where you focus
on priming inside of your Consciousness the love the joy the peace whatever it is that you're trying to bring into your life and you feel it as if it's already here now you are now priming yourself to pick up on new synchronicities new opportunities that are in alignment with that does that make sense so it's a belief it's it's it's in the understanding that the attachment to the outcome is not what's going to bring you happiness that's an interesting thing about synchronicity is is it is it the Divine angel number that is giving you the
you know that's giving you a sign that you're on the right track or is it is it your own belief in the angel number that's putting you on the right track because ultimately everything is being reflected back to you yeah right but sometimes I think in the spiritual Community there's this connection to these start these you know the the the numbers the angel numbers all of these things and I think that a lot of times similar that we're looking for some form of understanding reality or some form of control so it's still rooted back in
control because you feel more in control if you see a 11-11 and you're like oh everything's okay I was having a bad day and it said 11-11 on the microwave even though you don't use the microwave right that's true so you just put 11-11 on the microwave so that it's constantly 11-11 right like how deep are you going to take like that's the funny thing about manifestation also in general is that a lot of people that have been through trauma in the past maybe into spirituality and also uh because that pressure created like that pressure
from back in childhood created that desire to like learn more but also it created a certain desire to want to and manifestation to think I can visualize what I want and then I'm going to visualize it and then I'm going to experience what I want think about that level of control it's a very sexy idea isn't it it's a very sexy idea that I can visualize what I want and then I can feel it as if it's already happening and then I can experience what I want so and I really I really wanted to match
what I visualized to actually happen over here because then I feel like I'm in control of reality and if I'm not in control of reality what could happen there could be something unknown that happens but what's interesting is what you end up blocking out is you end up blocking out all the magic there could be way more magical things that come into your life if you weren't so adamant on visualizing to need to experience exactly what you're visualizing it's because we think we know we think we know what we're wanting to create and then because
of that we we insist on it and then we block out remember if there's 11 to 15 million bits of information around us and we can only perceive of about 100 bits per second we're excluding 99.99% of everything around us at the the expense of what we're choosing to see what we want to see and then every time we see 1111 or some Divine angel number I can feel different now I'm on the right track and we can use that tool I'm making fun of it kind of but it's like you can you whatever tool
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