So, as we have said, family constellation arises from many other therapies unified by Bert Hellinger. And it works with unconscious aspects or even conscious aspects that govern family dynamics. You can notice how many things you carry that are similar to those who came before you.
For example, your physiognomy, from whom you inherited each part of your body. Often, we can identify those who came before. And in the same way, behaviors.
For example, you sit the same way as your great-grandfather, or you have the same behavioral pattern in a certain situation, or you fear the same things, or you have the same dreams. And we are going to do a small exercise now to invite you to look at these family patterns at first, and if possible, just for us to see how it feels, without any kind of judgment. Smoke is coming here, smudging me and saying that I should close my eyes to lead this with you.
So, at first, you can grab a paper and a pen. And preferably handwritten, because we are able to concentrate better and also retain the information more. Furthermore, your handwriting is your own record, it is like a DNA.
Only you write in your own way. So, with this paper and pen in hand, you will freely, without any conditioning, write down physical and behavioral aspects. You will describe the physical and behavioral aspects that you feel you inherited from a specific ancestor.
It can also be from a family line. For example, I carry the nose from my father's side of the family, right? Or you can point out someone, I bring, I don't know, a way of talking very similar to my uncle or very similar to my grandfather, anyway, behavioral and physical aspects.
And you will allow yourself for the first time to write down everything you feel you inherited from your own ancestors, from those who came before. And at first, you will do this by letting go of judging what helps you, what hinders you, what strengthens you, what weakens you, what you consider good and what you consider bad. In this first moment, I will invite you just to write as much as you can, stripped of judgments.
Then you will take this sheet and you will contemplate each of the things you wrote. Put on music that you like, put on a piano sound, put on something that leads you to open this field of emotions. And at the end of this moment of contemplation, which can take 2, 3, 5 minutes, you will write—first say it to yourself and then write it down — "My family, I belong to you.
" Do not go to the next lesson without first doing this first exercise. It is a way for us to start opening this horizon of practical systemic learning about who we are, where we come from, where we are going, and what we are capable of doing. So do not go to the next lesson without first doing this activity.
