How to Get the Hottest Girls

here is the secret to attracting the most beautiful women so the biggest thing is very very beautiful women are getting unlimited amounts of attention they're getting blown up nonstop their DMS are full they have 10 guys trying to message them and so the way you actually stand out is not by chasing it's not by like going for it really fast what you actually want to do is you want to be a bit more of a chase you want to retract you want to make your attention a bit more valuable and let her actually be like

all these guys are coming at me but [ __ ] Stefan what's up with him he doesn't want me and that makes them want you more a lot of people will get give you this advice but nobody tells you how to actually do it everybody knows you should be hard to get everybody knows you should be a challenge everybody knows you should put value on your attention and your time but in practice how do you do it nobody teaches you that part beyond that this is only half of the problem with getting hotter girls there's

actually one huge fundamental problem that guys need to solve before they're even ready for this advice so that's what I'm going to go and in this video number one this is great advice but how do you actually apply it and what is the even bigger advice you need to know first really hot girls are getting a lot of attention and because of that they're very accustomed to it even more so than the volume of attention they're getting a certain type of attention over and over and over again which is they're getting guys putting them on

a pedestal kissing their asses telling them how beautiful they are Etc so if you do that exact same thing every other other gu is doing it's very true you are not going to stand out and it's very true you're not going to have more value than any other guys that are doing that type of thing it's also very true that hot girl or cute girl or whatever putting girls on pedestals simply is not a useful tactic it's not like this tactic works really well with cute girls the fact of the matter is a lot of

times guys get the cute girls because they're not putting them on a pedestal so much so this is good advice as far as it goes but how do you actually apply it I can tell you all day long put value on your attention that sounds great and it is true but how the do you do it how do you make the girl value your attention and that's the piece everybody misses that's what I'm going to get into right now what specifically can you do to make her want your attention more so let's start out by

considering two different situations situation one you're in a Social Circle with the girl you either have friends in common you go to school together you do an activity together so you're in a situation where you're going to see this girl over and over again Situation Number Two two you've never met this girl and you're walking up to her cold in the Social Circle situation the advice given in the video is actually somewhat applicable because you are going to have some accidental normal interactions with a girl if you are treating her differently than other girls and

you are having a pattern of behavior slowly over time that's in your favor it will be noticeable and so simply being a little less available or being a little more dismissive or throwing in an occasional tease here and there would be enough to start the process potentially of setting yourself apart and you would have potentially weeks or months for the girl's impression of you to form and so having vague general advice in that context kind of could work so in that specific environment the vague general advice of be a little more aloof be a little

less available give her a little more of a hard time occasionally value your time do something else instead of paying all your attention to her that may be enough to start to make some kind of difference because you have many many many reps of it and you have a long time for it to work but when you're talking about walking up to a girl cold it's a very different scenario because you need to make that impression very very quickly and also by the very process of walking up and starting interaction with her you already have

in some way potentially put on a pedestal or shown some interest so a subtle lack of Interest after that is not going to get the job done you need to do a lot more a lot quicker and the beautiful thing is if you learn the skills you need to do to get that interest walking up to the or cold they're like nuclear weapons in that Social Circle right so if you can do it in that tougher environment it becomes actually incredibly easier in that easier environment so let's talk about that Paradox you walk up to

a girl you've shown the interest by walking up to the girl how can you possibly not be putting her on a pedestal how can you possibly not be needy in that environment and for this I want to give you a metaphor let's say you walked onto a car lot and you looked at a particular car and the salesman came up to you now you have done done a lot to show interest in that car already you got out of your house drove to the car lot you went out of all the cars there and you

selected that particular car that you're looking at you've shown interest in the car however how is the interaction between you and the salesman going to proceed are you going to have to sell yourself to the car you be like listen I want to tell you I'm going to be give a really good environment to this car I'm going to put it in the garage every day I'm going to get car washes on a regular regular basis I'm going to fill it with like premium gas right no absolutely not that's ridiculous right just cuz you showed

some interest in the car doesn't mean you have to sell yourself to the car the way that interaction is going to go is the salesman is going to sell that car to you and you're going to be very critical you're going to be going in there and saying like does it really get this kind of fuel efficiency I don't know I was really looking for you know the leather interior I'm not so sure if I like this one I might need a discount for that just because you approached the car instead of the car approaching

you doesn't mean you have to be the one to sell yourself similarly when you talk to a girl it's the same thing the frame and by the way what I mean by frame is the Outlook you have over the interaction the frame you should have when talking to a hot girl that you approached is you got my attention now it's your job to keep it or how about I'm interested but I'm not yet sold so a lot of times if I go up and talk to a hot girl number one I'm not going to go

up and just compliment her as the opener usually you can you can say hey you're cute I wanted to meet you but you are in that case already giving your value away and especially with the hottest girls I stay very far away from that what I'd rather do is is a semi-direct opener something like hey I liked your look or you seemed interesting so it's not quite so direct or if possible just a comment that's interesting like wow that is a crazy outfit you're wearing which it's potentially neutral it's not necessarily giving your power away

but regardless of what I open with the next idea I want to have is so you got my attention now who are you and I'm going to find positives find negatives in that so the way you want to look at this in a way is almost like you're doing an interview for the role of girlfriend and so the fact that she was attractive and had a good her first impression that's enough to get the interview but now you are screening for is this someone you really like do you like the same activities do you like

the same food are you emotionally compatible do you both like to go do the same things at the gym all these kind of things are ideas that you could screen the girl on and you could either like or dislike you could give her [ __ ] about them in fact even if you really liked the idea you could give a [ __ ] about it the top companies screen for company culture you can screen for girlfriend culture so for example one thing I particularly like in girls is I like fit athletic girls right I tend

to go to the gym I like to play sports myself let's say I find out that a girl like I played soccer let's say I find out a girl played volleyball I could screen her on that and be like wow that's cool that you played Sports you get some points for that right and the Very fact that I'm assigning points or saying that I like that thing is already putting me in the interviewer role if I wanted to be a little more of a hard interviewer screening a little harder I could be like oh that's

cool that you played sport but honestly like if you played soccer I would have fallen in love with you but volleyball's still okay that's more of a harder screen on the same idea and so I can I can phrase as a complete positive a partial positive or even as a negative if I feel the girls a little too high and mighty be like oh [ __ ] if you'd said soccer that that would have been the right answer so there are different degrees of this but the point is I'm giving her a hard time now

as the interaction with the girl proceeds over time you are going to have to let the girl know you're interested in her otherwise it doesn't make sense to continue spending time with her why would you take a girl's phone number if you're not a little bit interested why would you go on a date if you're not a little bit interested so how do you convey that amount of interest that it makes sense to continue the interaction while also conveying enough disinterest to keep her on her toes well one good technique for that is what I

call a push pull right you can say a positive and a negative together for example I can't decide if I love you or hate you right now or oo I really like what you said except for that part right those kind of things where there's a positive and a negative together and so you're showing some interest but at the same time you are still keeping that attention so now that you understand the concept that while you are initially interested there's still a process of winning you over that they girl can go through you can still

tease her you can still give her a hard time you can still like certain things and dislike other things I want to bring up a really key point and actually one of the key distinctions in my initial example of why is a Social Circle different than cold approach and this idea is a very old one in the study of game it's an idea called active disinterest all right what you need to do is be actively engaged with the girl while showing disinterest and the reason a Social Circle is much easier is because that active engagement

happens naturally without you having to try on a cold approach you have to actually try to engage so for example let's say you're out at a bar and you want to show disinterest in a girl the most disinterested thing you could do would be stand over against the wall and not approach her or even interact with your friends and not approach her if you did that that would be completely ineffective because she doesn't notice you not interacting with her you're not even on her radar yet what you need to is go interact with her enough

to be on her radar and yet make the nature of that interaction polarizing and have some negative spikes to it so one of the best examples of this in practice is actually how you would approach a group of girls rather than a girl by herself typically if you talk to say three or four girls it's very important to engage all the girls because if you don't the girls who are not being engaged will get bored or upset and pull their friend away so even if you had a great interaction with the attractive girl you're into

her friends would drag her away you need to engage everybody on the other hand if you're just engaging everybody the same it becomes a very friendly platonic interaction it's not man to woman at all and finally if you're talking with a girl who usually gets much more attention than her friends if you just talk to them all the same way and don't do anything polarizing or standing out or especially if you do things to put her on a pedestal and kiss her ass you're not going to make an impression so the right cocktail of behaviors

that works extremely well in this group setting is to be very nice and friendly and positive towards all the friends and actually a bit negative towards the girl that you really really like right so you might say stuff like you guys are awesome you guys are all my new best friends you I'm not so sure I'm either going to love or hate you and if we go back to this job interview metaphor it's like imagine if I was the CEO of McDonald's for all the friends I'm saying you guys all have jobs at one of

my restaurants you guys can all be Friday chefs just walk in the door you have a job waiting for you anytime you want they're all being offered something positive right it's a low-level thing just friend ship not a relationship but it's very very positive but the equivalent for the girl who's the target of your attention is more like M there's actually a board position up but um honestly I don't think you're quite qualified for it right the prize is much much much bigger but the actual Vibe is negative it's like I'm doubtful whether you actually

qualify it's much more flattering in a way to be considered for the board position than to be you know given the fry Chef position but at the same time there's much more tension and it's unlikely she's going to get anything that's the difference right so she's being screened for relationship so it's a much more prestigious position it's a much bigger compliment to be considered for a board position than given a fry Chef position but there's also a ton of Doubt over whether she'll get anything at all so let's talk about the ideal progression again in

that cold approach scenario of what the girl should sort of feel first she should feel like I'm interested enough to talk to you but I'm really unsure about you I don't think it's going to work out then over time as you spend more time together of course you can't stay with her for that long without indicating you like her a little bit hopefully during that time she's participating and also showing some signs she likes you so then it shifts from I don't like you or I'm not sure if I like you to you're starting to

win me over and you're starting to like her a bit more as you spend more time together you get to a point where you're making out you spend a lot of time together you're on multiple dates you're in a relationship of course it's clear you like her but now it's I like you but I like you but I still have reservations I like you but I'm not ready to sleep with you yet I like you but you know let's keep it casual I'm not really into a relationship yet so there's still that tension there's still

that uncertainty over where it's going and she still has something to reach for she still has a prize slightly out of her grasp to Aspire to and again to make this advice holistic to all situations you can see in that Social Circle situation this active disinterest is actually much easier to achieve because you don't have to go out of your way to approach because you are going to keep the group's attention simply by being a member of the group so you can do all these same things the same general tactics apply the same general ideas

apply but they're much easier to do because you don't have this underlying aspect of having to keep their attention at all times so so far we've talked about first of all your frame the attitude you have when talking to these hot girls how you should be the one deciding whether you like her as opposed to trying to win her over secondly we've talked about some specific tactics we talked about the push pull where when you're showing interest you also give a little bit of a negative Spike so you're not giving too much interest you're not

giving too much value away we've also talked about the idea of screening and qualifying right the idea of her having to earn your attention and you saying Oh I like that oh I don't like that Etc so those are a really good place to start once the girl does value your attention a little bit now there's another tactic you can use as well actually two which are takeaways and disqualifiers and a disqualifier is like the push pull but without the positive side right sometimes you're just oo I don't like that you said that or you're

kind of losing me there or something like that or uh maybe she says something yeah it was nice meeting you kind of that can be kind of a teasing one I'm just kidding when you actually do pull your attention away and she likes you that shows her overtly that she likes you she feels what it would be like to lose you and it it tells her that she likes you it may have been this like kind of nebulous thing it makes it very concrete for her it makes it a feeling in her body similarly doing

a takeaway so say you're having a really really good interaction and she's in a position where she's not about to leave like she she's locked into that venue or locked into that situation then sometimes you taking your presence away and coming back can actually remind her how much she likes your presence or especially you can even if she says something that you're kind of teasing her on or giving her a hard time about you be like ah yeah sorry see you later you come back she like no wait did I do something wrong Etc this

can be used but you do have to be very careful with it that you do it at a time when she's kind of committed to a location and it's it's not going to destroy the entire interaction so these are some attitudes some tactics some specific things you can implement this very good advice that was actually given in the video but there's one other another big problem guys have with implementing this advice which is that even before and underneath all the tactics a lot of guys just become bumbling buffoons when they're around the hottest girls even

Beyond using specific good tactics and useful tactics to attract the hottest girls the bare minimum is you need to be able to act like yourself around them right if you freeze up and can't even say something around the hottest girls that's something to address first or if you fundamentally believe you're not worthy of the hottest girls then that's something need to address first so typically when I teach guys about how to get the hottest girls it's actually a two-step process Step One is emotionally learn to treat the hottest girls exactly the same way you treat

all the less hot girls right you may have experienced in your life I know this was the case for me growing up that I would have one or two girls I really liked I put on a pedestal and they never got attracted to me when I was growing up but the girls that I didn't care about that I just acted like my best self around and was not trying so hard to impress and was willing to walk away from they very very often did get attracted to me and that's that's a phenomenon a lot of

guys have if you treated those really hot girls the same way you treat the girls that you don't like as much and especially in a Social Circle setting where they're going to see you over and over again A lot of times you'll actually start attracting those hot girls simply by treating them the same way you treat the less attractive girls but then once you have that as a baseline the information in the video we watched becomes very very good because now the major difference is the Potter girls are getting more attention and you do need

to do something to stand out right so fundamentally you need to be an attractive enough guy that when you get their attention you do good things with it and then from there you need to learn how to get that attention and that's when this idea of putting a prize on your attention the idea of qualifying framing push pulls disqualifiers takeaways all that kind of stuff becomes super super effective and we call these two different areas inner game and outer game the tactics are the outer game the beliefs and the attitude about yourself and the ability

to just be your best self is the inner game so I'm not going to go too much more into the inner game aspect in this particular video but there's tons more information about that all over my channel and also in my free course winner game if you want to check it out by the way you are subscribed to my channel right if not do it right now okay so that's it for this video but let me know what other questions you have about putting this advice into practice it's super key and I would love to

hear your feedback on it put that below and I'll see you on the next one