[Music] I've had three girlfriends in my life my current girlfriend who I've been with for 3 years happily my first girlfriend in college and my second girlfriend Kelly Kelly was someone who put me through hell emotionally and sometimes physically I'll start from the beginning Kelly and I matched on Bumble and upon seeing that we both attended the same College we based our conversation off that and any people that we may have mutually known after seeing each other for about a month we made it official and we dated for about 6 months like most relationships at
first everything seemed great and we got along fine but the illusion of being a happy couple faded after a few months when Kelly would start becoming very controlling and downright obsessive over knowing what I was doing at all times the longer we dated the more I realized she didn't have many friends at all maybe one or two that's about it so when I would go out to see my friends on the weekends without her she would always obsessively text me every 15 minutes asking me for proof of where I was if I were ever to
be at a bar without her she'd throw a fit she'd make me share my location with her after four or 5 months of dating it got to the point I couldn't handle it anymore she had too much time on her hands to worry about what I was doing constantly I couldn't even go see my friends without constantly being attacked and interrogated by her but one night things escalated far worse than they ever had admittedly I ended up at a bar and very drunk with a group of my drinking buddies we started at my friend Kevin's
house and I didn't intend on ending up at a bar when I got home Kelly was waiting in front of my mom's house for me with a batshit crazy look on her face this was one of the first nights that she laid hands on me repeatedly hitting me while screaming I'm a dirty cheater and other insane things all while outside causing a scene for the neighbors to hear after I had to grab her arms to get her to stop she shouted things like get off me I'm calling the police so I let go and told
her we're done this was officially when I broke up with her and her response was not good every single day I received paragraphs upon paragraphs ranging from Angry to alleged regretful back to angry eventually I felt more comfortable blocking Kelly for a while but that wasn't the end one of my friends who followed her on Instagram still sent me a screenshot of the picture she posted with his big ugly muscular guy who looked like he wanted to kill the person taking the picture I made a joke to my friend saying wow I see she upgraded
Kelly did the unimaginable though I was all cozy in my bed in the perceived safety of the house I was home alone as I usually was living in my parents house that was when I heard a pounding at the front door downstairs I jumped out of bed and went out to the living room to listen there was a man screams from the other side he was screaming open up [ __ ] I didn't acknowledge Him I didn't want him to know I was home then some random number was calling my phone when I didn't pick
up I got a text from someone threatening to kill me and telling me to open the door before he breaks the window I ignored these and called 911 I heard glass breaking from outside I looked out my window and I saw a familiar huge bearded guy right by my SUV he was smashing my windows I recognized the guy to be from Kelly's picture as I was on the phone with 911 I explained that my crazy ex-girlfriend sent her current boyfriend to my house to threaten me and he was currently damaging my vehicle I answered a
bunch of questions as police were in route all the while the man kept screaming things from outside and pounding on my door and sending threatening texts police showed up surprisingly quickly to my relief and they caught the guy still in front of my house they saw him step off the front stoop after he saw the cop car pulling up I went outside right away and showed the police my car and the texts and the big roid raging man was still yelling at me that I'm going to [ __ ] pay for talking [ __ ]
about him to Kelly I told him I hadn't spoken to Kelly in months and he said oh yeah what about the texts as he was in handcuffs already I said what texts and he accused me of being a bullshitter so after he was brought away in one of two police cars I gave the second police officer whatever information he needed of the situation between Kelly and I and he told me I had a good case for harassment and should definitely file for a restraining order immediately he told me to head to the precinct the next
day which is what I did but I also unblocked Kelly and asked her what she said to her boyfriend and why and after she responded claiming she had no idea what I was talking about I sent her a long text giving her a piece of my mind basically telling her about my getting restraining order and telling her to seek help I never heard from her again nor her crazy roid raging now ex-boyfriend according to my friend she deleted the picture with him literally the next day after that happened I currently have a restraining order against
both her and her ex-boyfriend Javier Cruz be careful who you decide to date there's a whole lot of crazy out [Music] there I dated my ex Kean for 2 years it was a toxic abusive relationship I endured a lot of physical suffering from it but I was always too scared to leave it I live with my single mom on a rougher side of town the place where I spent my entire childhood being a girl walking home alone at night here can be sketchy which was part of the reason why I stayed with Ken for so
long he is a big guy and I felt a sense of protection with him when he wasn't making me feel like [ __ ] a big reason I stayed with him though towards the end was because I was scared of how he'd take it if I broke up with him my mother always hated him though and she knew he was no good for me unfortunately it took me as long as it did to cut cut ties with him I did it over text one day though because I knew if I did it in person he'd
hit me or go crazy he still didn't take it well seconds after I texted him he tried calling me over and over I wouldn't pick up because I was scared so after the third or fourth attempted call he started typing for a few minutes and the text I got from him was a long paragraph cursing me out a lot of it in all caps I texted him back that we could talk about it on the phone tomorrow when he's cooled off he of course sent another paragraph and I didn't read this one right away because
I was about to cry and I didn't want to deal with it at that moment my mom was working her second job that night and wouldn't be home till around 2:00 in the morning I had class the next day so I went to bed early around 10:00 but falling asleep was difficult with my mind racing eventually though I did fall asleep I woke up in the middle of the night to a sound from the outside of my room I looked at the clock and it was around 1:00 a.m. it wasn't uncommon for me to wake
up to my mom getting home late at night after work I was just surprised because she was home rather early this night I sat up and saw something sitting on the edge of my bed I realized it was my cat Nala I got out of bed and went out into the hall and called my mom's name all the lights were out I knew for certain I heard something from out in the living room I turned on the living room lights but no one was here I went to the front door to make sure it was
locked and it was I checked through the window to the driveway and my mom's car wasn't here so I figured maybe I was just hearing things I went back to my room and shut the door then crawled back into bed Nala was still in the same spot on my bed she hadn't moved I tried to go back to sleep and I suddenly heard another sound I ran out to the living room again and my mom wasn't here still I suddenly realized Ken knew where we kept the spare key in the backyard what if he had
just let himself in I went back to my room and called my mom on my cell phone and told her I had already texted her earlier about my breakup so she already knew and was proud of me she said she'd be home in a little bit and that I could just be hearing house noises I laid back down in my bed Nala was still in the same position I turned on the lamp and went to go pick her up but I gasped when I saw her eyes lifelessly open and she wasn't breathing I picked her
up and confirmed it my cat was dead I wanted to cry but I covered my mouth I suddenly knew that Kean was in the house and that he did this to punish me I locked my bedroom door and called 911 and whispered into the phone that my crazy ex-boyfriend broke into my house and killed my cat I was told to wait in the closet in my bedroom until I heard the police arrive I stayed on the phone with 911 in the closet waiting at any time during this the front door to the house could have
opened and closed and I wouldn't have been able to hear it eventually the 911 operator told me the police were there apparently the door was unlocked because they let themselves in that man Ian had probably just left I went to the living room to find two police officers I was balling my eyes out over Nala now the first thing they asked was where is he and I said I think he left I showed them my cat and the text from Ken my mom came home shortly after I called her and she cried over Nala too
the police were not very helpful at all saying without any actual evidence that someone broke into the house they couldn't just go and arrest someone Nala had no stab marks or anything so as messed up as it sounds we couldn't even prove that she was likely murdered by Ken as Revenge to me the next day my mom had the locks to the house changed the spare key in the backyard was still there but Ken easily could have put it back I blocked Ken's number and all social media Outlets all the evidence pointed to him having
done it my mother and I went through the process of getting an order of protection against him and the judge issued us a temporary one before our court date the last time I ever saw Kean was in court where thankfully the judge determined that the order of protection would remain in place I still often think about how the first time I went downstairs Ken was probably somewhere in the living room hiding and watching [Music] me when I was in junior year of high school I had my first relationship his name was Mike he was a
senior at a different High School the next town over we met through Facebook he messaged me and we started talking from there we started hanging out and going to each other's games I'd go to his football games he'd come to my softball games we officially became boyfriend girlfriend after a few weeks since we were in high school though we didn't go on a lot of traditional dates like dinner or drinks we were just kids still our dates usually consisted of getting burritos going for drives or hanging out at his place since my parents were always
home and made it awkward in case we wanted to do anything the best way I could describe Mike he was a bit of a hotthead he was big for a 17-year-old that's why he played football but he didn't hang out with the jocks he hung out more with the stoner crowd and the regular crowd at least that's what he told me I didn't go to the same school as him so I didn't see who he was with during lunch I also didn't really meet a lot of his friends we mostly hung out just the two
of us as opposed to group things since he lived kind of far though and I couldn't drive yet it did get annoying and TR truthfully I started to develop feelings for this boy Andrew at my own School in my grade around the same time I felt myself losing interest in Mike I wanted to test things out with Andrew so one night when Mike was asking to hang out I asked him to pick me up so we could talk he knew right away something was off when I said that when he picked me up we went
for a drive and I told him that I think we should take a break he refused to accept that I was serious and angrily demanded to know what he did when I told him it's just that I felt the spark wasn't there anymore he got so mad that he punched his dashboard leaving a big indent in it he started yelling and scaring me so I was about to get out of the car but he stopped me and put his hand on my shoulder and said no no no and then asked me not to leave he
told me he's just angry but that he drive me home he put the car back in drive and started driving us as we drove he kept getting angrier as he kept asking for more details of what he did wrong he started blowing stop signs and that's when I realized we weren't going in the direction of my parents house I asked him to pull over and let me out and he yelled no we were approaching some wooded area and that's when I started getting really scared I had never seen him like this before but he was
showing me a crazy side of himself I got out of the car when he stopped it on the side of some quiet Road he yelled for me to come back but I didn't my mom came to pick me up Mike sent me an apology text later that night that I didn't respond to two nights later I left my house to walk to Andrew's house who I had plans to hang out with he lived only two blocks away from me on my way there I spotted someone across the street not too far behind me walking about
the same Pace as me they were wearing a hoodie with the hood up I couldn't see their face foot traffic on our block wasn't too common but it also wasn't super weird either the closer I got to Andrew's house the closer the person across the street got as I continued up the street I turned again and saw the person was now on the same side of the street as me my heart started to race I started walking faster according to my phone Andrew's house was coming up just on the right I texted him to come
outside please because I think I'm being followed he replied back okay I turned one more time as I heard the sound of shoes running on the sidewalk approaching from behind me and I saw the guy in the black hoodie running at me I screamed and ran as fast as I could for about 5 seconds before seeing Andrew run to the front of his house in confusion I turned around again and saw the guy in Black running the opposite direction down the street I keep saying the guy in Black but I know it was Mike that
guy had an identical height to him from what I could tell a few instances happened after that like getting calls with no call or ID and seeing Mike's car parked outside my parents house in the middle of the night my parents were aware of what was going on and one day my dad drove us over to Mike's house and knocked on the front door while I was in the car and had a long loud talk with Mike's parents I lowered the windows to listen and most notably what my dad yelled was that he doesn't care
how old Mike is that it's still harassment and if he keeps trying to contact me in any way that we'd get police involved it works Mike stopped trying to contact me after that for those wondering Andrew and I ended up dating for around a year my relationship with Mike was an early lesson in my life to watch out for red flags
