modern dating is a wild ride we all have the freedom to want different things so you never know where you might end up when you start a relationship as times change dating also changes modern dating in the age of the internet is more chaotic and scary than it's ever been today we're asking is modern dating making you more narcissistic number one dating apps no two people have the exact same experience when it comes to finding love that being said it can feel like we have fewer and fewer options when it comes to finding love meeting
new people is almost impossible especially as you approach or reach adulthood if you do not have a lot of ways to meet people you might be pushed towards dating apps with this comes the burden of making yourself as appealing as possible through a little profile of images videos and a few sentences it's almost like a CV for love that is a very stressful and unnatural way to meet people one of the few upsides is that you and the other users have a similar goal in mind dating apps being so visual and fast-paced requires you to
be as eye-catching as possible this can cause you to obsess over how you look going so far as to start editing photos and taking photos specifically for your profile the requirements of dating apps like good pictures and a solid positive bio or caption force you to embrace vanity to stand out this is one way modern dating can make us more narcissistic number two relationships challenge us to be better if you're lucky enough to find yourself in a relationship with or without the help of dating apps you might find that there are some large hurdles and
challenges in dating you may have to confront some things about yourself and you may find your flaws being challenged this sounds uncomfortable but it's healthy and necessary it also works as a direct challenge to narcissism a study conducted by Hong Jen published in the Journal of Social Psychology found that our attachment styles are good ways to predict whether or not we are willing to improve ourselves when when we think of modern dating we have to consider what it's like for the relationships that grow and last in those cases we are getting better and better at
acknowledging our faults with humility and therefore reducing the space for narcissism in modern dating number three we value ourselves based on the people we get with with dating apps being gamified there is an addictive aspect that pushes you to get with more people rather than find the best person for you because you have the ability to swipe on anyone you start to value yourself based on the people who swipe on you and the people who you get with the number of likes and matches does more to fuel your ego and make dating apps addictive then
the actual conversations and relationships that might Blossom as a result of using those apps studies show that men and women both derive selfworth from their relationships but men in particular feel like their social standing is affected by their relationships number four we have new resources social media is undoubtedly Rel related to dating in the modern era with that comes a lot of downsides and new boundaries that couples need to navigate on the upside there are a lot of content creators who have relationship advice or information that can help you in your relationship a lot of
these content creators are psychologists or relationship therapists so there is no shortage of great advice for relationships on the internet a lot of the resources talk about the value of humility in your relationships things that help you think about communication compromises and boundaries can all help you mitigate any narcissism sometimes we think the way we do things is correct until we hear A New Perspective being open to advice and learning to be a better partner can help you put your ego aside and figure out what it is that you and your partner value in a
relationship number five if they wanted to he would social media can also have the opposite effect rather than helping you find ways to handle relationships in healthy ways it might bombard you with negative perspectives on relationships for example the relatively recent adoption of the if they wanted to he would mentality while on the surface it sounds completely fair when you look into it it is extremely unrealistic and potentially toxic in some instances your partner might want to buy you the house car or flowers but can't in which case they do want to but simply can't
it would be unfair to hold someone to that standard and let resentment build it could also be the case of someone wanting to buy flowers make art or write poems but has no idea that it's something you want in that case they do want to they just had no idea that that would mean anything to you again it would be unfair to let resentment build over something that they are clueless about the if they wanted to they would can feed narcissism because it puts the burden of effort on your partner while framing you as the
one in the relationship who still needs to be pursued without offering clear communication or reciprocating that passion you do deserve all the love in the world everyone deserves love but it will always be unhealthy if you can't put an ego aside and recognize these relationship pitfalls number six your perspective matters there is so much that can make you a more or less narcissistic person your approach to relationships and dating online can affect your ego using people for validation and trying to impress or hook up with as many people as possible can turn dating into a
tool to boost your ego rather than a healthy process of life between our jobs and the responsibilities we have in life it can be extremely difficult to meet new people but if you can avoid dating apps that's the best way to avoid the gamification of Love ironically the use of dating apps can also damage your self-esteem rather than making you more narcissistic because you've put your best pictures and best description of yourself out there if your profile gains no traction it may damage your self-esteem what do you think let's keep the conversation going in the
comments everyone's experience with modern day te is different modern dating isn't necessarily good or bad but it might affect your ego and self-esteem if you enjoyed this video please leave a like and remember to subscribe to Psy too for more videos like this thanks for joining Psy too see you next time
