with the right mindset and a few strategic moves you can make your ex think about you constantly even if they swore they were over you I'm Brad Browning AKA breakup Brad bestselling author and breakup coach and over the past 15 years I've helped thousands through my one-on-one coaching and I'm here today to share with you all that I've learned helping people get a second chance with their ex now first off I know that it's easy to make your ex think about you you know just Spam their phone with messages show up to their workplace eat
100 chicken wings on Facebook live easy but the real trick of course is to make them think about you positively because you want to be on your ex's mind for the right reasons that's what's going to eventually bring them back to you so let's dive in with number one which is to change your mindset now this may seem strange but it's actually the most important factor in this process because you can't make your ex think about you if you're stuck obsessing over them you can do everything right but if you're going into the wrong frame
of mind it's going to be completely obvious and it's not going to work at all you may not be doing anything differently but it's going to come through in subtle and not so subtle ways like how you look at them your tone of voice or the way you focus on their needs rather than your own now trust me none of this stuff is going to be attractive to your ex and more importantly it does not make them obsess over you because one of the main reasons that your ex is going to think about you is
because they don't know exactly what you want or what you're thinking this is like a an unsolved problem in their mind and it's something that they'll return to again and again it's kind of like the famous Mona Lisa smile you know people from around the world come to stare at her and ask themselves you know what is she thinking but if you're still obsessing over your ex it's going to be obvious and that means they're going to know your feelings they'll see that you want them you need them and will stop at nothing to get
them back and that simply isn't attractive confidence is so if you want to make your ex think about you you need to shift your focus inward tell yourself that you will survive and you will Thrive even if your ex never comes back to you you now you might not believe it in this moment but keep reminding yourself and pretty soon you'll see that it is the truth and instead of worrying about you know what they're doing or who they're with ask yourself you know what can I do to improve my life right now because what
you're really looking for is happiness and while getting your ex back is One path to happiness and I'm I'm sure the best one or you you probably wouldn't be here but there are other ways for you to be happy right now and if you make that your priority you're setting yourself up for Success when your ex does finally return so start leveling up you know hit the gym pick up a new hobby reconnect with old friends do things that make you feel happy confident and fulfilled when you're genuinely thriving your ex is going to notice
and when they see you living your best life without them they'll start to wonder if they made a mistake and now that you have the right mindset let's move on to the next strategy number two take a step back from your ex now I know that after the breakup it's so tempting to you know text call stalk your your X's social media but if you've done this and you probably have because pretty much everyone does I'm sure you've seen that not only does it make you miserable it actually pushes your ex further away now this
happens for a few reasons one it makes you seem desperate which is just not attractive it creates a a dynamic where you're the pursuer and your ex is being pursued leaving them no room to pursue you or really to miss you since you're always hanging around and again it gives away your feelings so they no longer have to wonder about how you feel so instead take the high road cut off all communication for a while silence is powerful you know it creates a void that your ex can't ignore and when they don't hear from you
they'll start to wonder why you know are you moving on seeing someone else the more they think about why you're not reaching out the more you're going to occupy their thoughts let me quickly tell you about my client sheay now after her breakup with her boyfriend Daniel they were talking all the time you know they even seemed to be to be connecting but whenever she tried to get him to actually see her in person you know he always had some excuse too busy with work he was sick he had a boy night planned really sheay
was at the end of her rope so she signed up for my coaching and after I started hearing about her story the first thing that I told her was that she needed to go no contact immediately now like a lot of my clients she was afraid that if she stopped reaching out to Daniel you know it was like Throwing It All Away she was worried that he'd forget about her and just move on thankfully she did put her trust in me and she did pull the plug and less than 2 weeks later Daniel called her
and told her that he needed to to see her that night he told her how he missed her and the two of them has been together ever since at least as far as I know now her absence made him realize how much he missed her presence so don't hesitate you know make a clean break and let your ex chase you for once all right and number three use social media to your advantage now of course social media can be really tricky after a breakup many people really aren't aware of the message that they're sending so
their posts just end up making them seem desperate and alone but if you can actually understand how it works your posts can actually make you look confident and attractive to your ex the key is to post strategically not excessively so share photos and updates that that show you're living your best life you know post a picture of you hiking a beautiful Trail having fun with your friends enjoying a new hobby really these kinds of of posts send a clear message I'm happy and thriving but here's the secret you have to keep it authentic don't overdo
it don't use staged photos or fake positivity because you're ex can tell when you're trying too hard when they see you genuinely enjoying life that's when they'll start to question if they underestimated you really you know a little goes a long way here don't feel the need to post you know every single day in fact it's often when you take a little break from posting that your ex is going to reach out because their mind is going to be running wild wondering what you're up to and most important resist posting anything about the breakup or
directly addressing your ex nothing pushes people away faster than you know wondering when you're going to blow them up on social media that kind of thing needs to remain private or they're never going to be able to trust you again all right number four one of my favorites use the power of mystery mystery really is one of the most effective tools for making your ex think about you really this is one of the things that makes no contact so effective but it's also sometimes useful to give a little information that's only going to make your
ex Wonder more so really never overshare if you run into your ex or their friends keep your update short and sweet you know instead of giving every detail of your life you could just say something like you I've been so super busy lately lots of New Opportunities coming my way that I almost can't keep up you know something like that this really just it leaves your ex's mind racing you know what are those new opportunities are you dating somebody else are you maybe happier without them mystery just keeps them guessing which keeps them thinking about
you now this can be a hard thing to master since you're you're used to telling them everything but take this opportunity to change the dynamic and this has another Advantage too you know when your ex sees that you're treating them differently than you did when you were together it shows them that you have changed which is going to make them want to know how and why again more mystery it's also going to highlight the fact that things are different now you know highlighting the change in your relationship will actually help you win your xback in
a powerful way change is scary for a lot of people you know many of us see it as a a threat at least on a subconscious level it gives us a a sense of loss you know we're exchanging The Familiar for the unknown and this psychological effect can be enough to make your ex come running back to you in many cases or at the very least make them worry and make them think about you more and more all right number five trigger Nostalgia now the past is really another powerful emotional trigger because people often miss
the past more than the person so by subtly reminding your ex of the good times you shared you can tap into those feelings of longing and show them that losing you is losing a part of themselves now don't be too obvious here you know in certain situations sending them old photos or talking about old times can be powerful but more often it's better to be subtle so you know say the two of you just you went to a great concert in the past just posting one of the band songs on your Instagram story is a
great way to bring your ex's mind back to that time without making it obvious that you're doing it intentionally number six improve yourself now my clients to be honest often hate to hear this but the truth is self-improvement can be incredibly attractive so take some actual time to work on yourself not just to impress your ex but for your own growth like we talked about before you know hit the gym learn a new skill dive into personal development books because when your ex sees or hears about the new improved you they're going to be intrigued
you know they might think wait when did they become so so so confident so fit so accomplished self-improvement shows that you're thriving without them which makes you much more attractive in their eyes for example U one of my clients Kurt he started taking dancing lessons after his breakup just to boost his confidence and when he posted a video of himself dancing in an event his ex couldn't resist commenting you know wow when did you learn how to dance and that one comment reopen the door to actual communication again but there's another powerful force at play
here the human mind loves to simplify to create stories and that's why breakups are often boiled down to a winner and a loser even if we all know that there's there always more complicated than that we often can't help but think of ourselves as the winner or the loser of the breakup so maybe you clung to your ex more than you should have maybe you annoyed them and came off as desperate maybe you begged for another chance really in that case you know you were the loser in that situ situation but once you start to
live your best life achieve a high level and improve yourself you can shift this narrative in your ex's mind suddenly they start to feel like they're stagnating in their life while you're flourishing they think you know maybe now I'm the loser and they're the winner and of course everyone wants to be with the winner number seven let word get around sometimes the best way to get your ex to think about you is indirectly so live your life in a way that makes others naturally want to talk about you you know when mutual friends mention how
amazing you're doing it's going to plant a seed in your ex's mind take um my client David's story for instance after his breakup he started a coffee shop and he focused on really building his business to the very best of his ability pretty soon luckily for him it became wildly popular and he was actually about to open a second location word got around and not long after his ex Maria heard about his Success Through a mutual friend she reached out to congratulate them and they reconnected now I know that it's not it's not so easy
to start a small business and wow your ex with your success but what you can do is plant seeds in the minds of mutual friends again be subtle about this because if your ex finds out you're trying to let them know how successful you are it's going to have the opposite effect so when you do speak to mutual friends you know do a little humble brag here and there that's where you know you share a good thing you have going on in your life by Framing it through the problem that it's created so this is
kind of a Cheesy example but something like you know I keep getting random people dming me on Instagram to ask me out it's like you know leave me alone of course this kind of thing can be obnoxious if you overdo it but here and there done carefully it is a good way to brag without being too obvious and that brings us to number eight be happy without them for real now here is the ultimate secret to making your ex think about you actually do your best to move on when you're truly happy and content with
your life it shows now happiness is magnetic people are drawn to those who who radiate joy and positivity so if your ex senses that you're you're still hung up on them they're not going to feel the need to think about you but if they see you thriving and happy without them they're going to start to wonder you know how are they so happy without me did I maybe make a mistake this isn't about pretending to move on it's about actually doing it so focus on building a life that excites you I know that many people
resist this because they feel like it'll mean leaving their ex behind for good and admitting defeat but it really doesn't have to as we talked about you know talking to your ex right now isn't really doing you any favors when it comes to getting them back so if you're already not talking to your ex then you're already moving forward in the right direction now this isn't going to stop you from reconnecting when the time is right in fact it's actually going to make it easier because you're actively healing from all the negativity and resentment surrounding
the the relationship and the breakout if you're able to do that whether or not your ex reaches out to you or not to break the ice after a period of no contact you're going to be in a much stronger Place emotionally than you would if you just continued to obsess over them and number nine sign up for my one-on-one coaching program now if you're looking for a little extra help with this process I've got you covered I've helped literally thousands of clients win back their EX in seemingly hopeless situations and I can help you out
too just go to breakupbrad.com/coaching to find out how the process works when all else fails it's always helpful to get an expert opinion again breakupbrad.com/coaching to see my availability and sign up today I would really love to hear from you soon and with that that just about brings us to the end of the video remember guys it's it's not about manipulating or gamep playing at least for the most part it's actually more about being somebody who inspires adoration and attraction in your ex and the better you feel the more attractive you become to those around
you including your ex so Embrace this process and don't fall into despair remember you have a ton to offer and your ex will be lucky to get a second chance with you that's it for now thank you so much for watching please like the video subscribe and leave a comment I read to as many as I can and respond to as many as I can as well best of luck out there and see you next time
