hey everyone welcome back thanks for joining us today we've got a brand new story to share with you so let's begin I'm 38 years old and my wife and I have a 16-year-old daughter yesterday was my wife's birthday and I had planned to surprise her I took off early picked up some flowers thinking it would be a special day for us little did I know I was in for a shock when I walked in the front door I was met with a mess clothes scattered from the entrance all the way to our bedroom confused at
first I soon realized they were a mix of men's and women's clothes it hit me I had walked into my cheating wife's night of passion I couldn't process what I was seeing I heard the moans and screams of passion it was a numbing experience they were still at it I took a step back found my way to the living room and sat on the edge of the couch my mind racing that's when I noticed his stuff lying around in a fit of anger and despair I grabbed all of his clothes and took them out to
the driveway I dumped charcoal starter fluid on them and set fire to his belongings the only things spared were his keys and phone as I walked back into the house my wife wrapped in a towel was standing there with a bewildered expression I wished her a happy birthday but she just started crying the other guy emerged in a towel as well I handed him his keys and phone and told him to get out my wife said please don't do this to him I could not stand my wife defending another man what about defending our marriage
amidst the chaos my wife insisted on getting him a pair of trousers I made it clear that he has touched more than he should have and now he is not getting anything from me tempers flared and he tried to grab my arm I was more than happy to oblige I started punching him in the face he was soon on the ground and both his eyes were now bloodshot soon they would be black I kicked my wife out on her birthday she is now staying with her mom who unfortunately has a history of cheating too since
Tuesday I haven't spoken to her much but she has been blowing up my phone and our daughters I had to break the news to our daughter about her mother's infidelity trying not to go into too much detail but making it clear that she cheated our daughter is heartbroken and angry I hired a lawyer this morning and today I finally texted my wife I told her about the lawyer and said we could meet up later so she could try to explain herself I know it might be a bad idea but I need answers I'm struggling to
think clearly right now when I found them they were in the shower unaware that I was standing at the doorway the steam covered them but I could hear their laughter and giggling about the intimacy they had just shared it was painful I texted my wife telling her I didn't want to meet up today I can't stand to look at her yet she started blowing up my phone swearing that she can change claiming she's already gotten rid of the guy I told her not to delete anything from her phone I want to see all her texts
and messages we eventually met at a local coffee shop I recorded the conversation with my phone on the table she wanted to know why I was doing this frankly I just didn't trust her anymore she started saying she wanted to save our marriage that she'd given up on it but now she wanted to be the wife and mother our daughter needs I told her it's a little late she asked if I was ready to throw away 16 years of marriage and I threw it back at her saying it wasn't me who cheated I asked her
who the guy was he's apparently a stayathome dad from one of the homeschooling programs I told her she had to contact his wife if there's any hope for our future I asked how long it had been going on she said 2 months she claims to feel guilty and remorseful I told her it was for getting caught not for what she did as she had no intention of stopping she cried saying she knew it was wrong and that she was going to stop I called her out on lying I asked for her phone and surprisingly she
hadn't deleted anything she showed me the progression of their texts and explained how many times they met up I asked her why she could do certain things with him but not for me she said she didn't want me to look down on her for her desires as a wife and mother I threw it back at her saying I wouldn't have asked if I would judge her she showed me the text where she told the guy she couldn't have contact with him anymore she wanted me to tell our daughter to contact her but I refused I
won't Force our daughter to talk to her I also told her she needs to get into counseling to fix herself because something is seriously damaged inside her after our meeting I contacted a lawyer and started divorce proceedings I've reached a point where I just can't bear the weight of the traal any longer after she broke down in tears I gave her a deadline of 60 days before the separation papers were finalized I needed to see genuine remorse for the pain she caused both me and our daughter not just the shame of getting caught I suggested
she move in with her mother for now until we figure out what lies ahead I insisted she get an STD test and despite the separation I want to know her whereabouts at all times I asked for a tracking device on her phone own and regular checkins the trust is shattered and I made it clear that if she even Whispers to the person she cheated with consequences will follow I'm questioning the entire Foundation of our marriage wondering if she could have been unfaithful all along she claimed it was a one-time Affair but I expressed my disbelief
if she could do it once the fear is she could do it again the situation escalated further when my wife took a bunch of pills on Christmas Eve leading to an emergency room visit now we're all back under the same roof I had a conversation with her informing her that our marriage is over her selfish behavior especially on Christmas Eve traumatized our daughter it's become clear that I can't continue living with this narcissistic behavior in our conversation I reiterated that the damage to our family is irreversible she kept expressing a desire for us but I
called it out saying she'd still be with the other person if she hadn't been caught I've realized I no longer feel anything for her whether it's the trauma or something else all I can think about is moving forward without her she insisted she doesn't know what to do but I reminded her that she should have considered the consequences before engaging in the affair I packed up all her belongings and placed them on the back porch for her to retrieve I also decided to talk to the other person's wife feeling the need to address the situation
on that front as well the path ahead is uncertain but the decision to end the marriage seems inevitable at this point I'm beyond caring about what anyone thinks or says I've made up my mind I'm done my focus is solely on moving forward with my daughter my soon to be ex-wife is still out of the picture and I've chosen the no contact route with her while my daughter has the option to talk to her she hasn't shown any interest so far from what I gather my soon Tobe ex-wife spends most days holed up in her
room at my mother-in-law's place she seems to have been abandoned by everyone who knows her while I don't feel sorry for her there's a sense of pity for the situation she's in however last night I had a change of heart I decided to visit the other betrayed spouse and share the packet of information I had gathered about the affair I explained everything I could personally to her she asked if I was the one who confronted her husband and I didn't hesitate to admit it apparently he had spun a story about a road rage incident when
he came home with a black eye and his gym clothes we spent about 40 minutes talking and I laid out the extent of the Betrayal these two had committed behind our backs while I was there she called him and told him not to come home because she knew everything this morning she reached out to me and we've decided to meet again to go over the evidence possibly involving our divorce attorney since it seems she's heading in that direction too I've unblocked my wife for divorce related communication we've agreed on an uncontested divorce splitting assets 60
to 40 in my favor I'll be keeping the house and for now I have full custody of our daughter verbal communication with my wife is minimal and mostly revolves around our daughter and the divorce she's tried to bring up the affair a couple of times but I've shut her down I confirmed that she ended things with the other guy as there was some information shared between me and the other betrayed spouse that she doesn't know about in less than six weeks I should be happily divorced I found comfort in spending time with the other betrayed
spouse although I do not want to date her as of now but she seems to be an amazing woman I wonder why the other guy cheated on her it has been 6 months now and I am a free man Maria the other guy's wife is now dating me we have been spending time together and taking it easy with each other hopefully things will be good in the future thanks for watching if you enjoyed this video don't forget to like comment and subscribe for more stories like this see you next time