Japanese women are refusing to date Japanese men and the reason why is way more insane than you think this isn't just about attraction it's a complete shift in how relationships work in Japan and here's where things get crazy it's not just Japanese men getting rejected a lot of women don't want to date foreign men either there are massive cultural differences hidden biases and honestly some brutal truths that most people don't even talk about but before we get into that let's start with something shocking all right so there's a real phenomenon happening in right now which
you might have seen across YouTube and that is where men are giving up on dating entirely they're called herbivore men guys who have zero interest in pursuing women getting married or even trying to flirt some of them are too focused on work others are just tired of rejection and some they've simply decided it's not worth the effort yeah and the result a growing number of Japanese women are frustrated single and looking for Alternatives and yeah some of them turn to foreign guys I'm going to get myself a cute Japanese girlfriend and the thing that sucks
is most of the time it completely works you know obviously if uh you're a foreigner there's a lot of people who really like foreign people in Japan you can almost have an easier Time dating in Japan I know I had an easier Time dating here than in London but also that could just be my own experience in know the collective experience of everyone watching this it's I but this only applies to a small percentage of women and even then there are some major problems okay this sucks but it's true that a lot of Japanese women
think Western Men smell bad and no this isn't some weird stereotype it's a real issue and if you think that's bad it gets much worse in the west beards are a symbol of masculinity in Japan not so much a lot of women actually prefer clean shaven men so if you're walking into Japan thinking your rugged Chris Hemsworth beard is going to make you stand out you might be in for a shock when it actually turns women away don't need to beer what Dwayne Johnson in Japan to be attractive as a guy actually it can be
even a negative sometimes and that's no surprise because if you compare to Western women Japanese women are generally smaller and shorter and chances are that she's going to feel kind of overwhelmed or even scared with meeting a guy like this so rather than having a big muscular body these are more important usually and that's why they might look too fam to rest on people but let's say you pass the hygiene and facial hair test there's still one massive [ __ ] block standing in your way language this is the killer it's by far the biggest
reason why foreign men struggle to date in Japan most Japanese women don't speak English fluently and if you don't speak Japanese congratulations your dating pool just shrank to almost nothing there are plenty of stories of Western guys who thought they had a great connection with a Japanese woman only to realize they were stuck in a cycle of awkward Google translate conversations it's fun at first but the novelty wears off fast when you can't have a real conversation so what happens well in my experience foreigners turn to dating apps as like the first thing they do
and this is where things get really weird because Tinder in Japan it's a completely different Beast if you're a western guy you might expect it to work the same way it does back home swipe match chat meet up nope not even close first off good luck finding a real name Most Japanese women use fake initials random words or even emojis instead of their act ual names and profile pictures yeah half of them are either anime characters blurred faces or just food seriously some people literally put Sushi as their profile pick and that's not even the
weirdest part a huge number of Japanese women on Tinder aren't even looking for a boyfriend some just want to practice their English others are just curious about talking to foreigners but have zero intention of meeting up and then you've got the worst case scenario women who are straight up afraid of being seen dating a foreigner Japan is still a country where standing out too much is looked down upon and for some women dating a foreigner is seen as too different or even embarrassing are you not embarrass this is really embarassing YouTubers won't tell you this
but it's true for many people but let's say you do find a match you start talking things are going great you're about to meet up and then you hear this phrase I've always wanted to date a foreigner congratulations you've just met a gin Hunter gin Hunter is a term for Japanese women who exclusively date foreigners sounds good right yeah like who wouldn't want to be the type of guy they're looking for well here's where it gets a little messy a lot of gin Hunters don't actually care about you they care that you're foreign some of
them are just obsessed with Western culture some have a checklist of nationalities they want to date yeah this is actually happened from time to time there are stories of guys who thought they found the perfect girlfriend only to find out she literally had a list of countries she wanted to try and it's not just about Western men some Japanese women actually prefer Latino men middle Eastern men or even South Asian men because they find their features more exotic or masculine you never cheat right no of course so you never hang out with other girls right
no never so you never go to like you know those places like brel right some ladies also want a green card which I thought strange as I always see Japan as wealthy and amazing but the reality is Japan has a brutal work culture long hours insane expectations and basically no work life balance some women want out and dating a foreigner is their Escape Plan not trying to ruin your fantasy over Japanese guys I don't know why you have fantasy Japanese guys because Japanese guys are horrible in my opinion um but these are the reasons why
I wouldn't date a Japanese guy if I was a straight woman if I was gay probably it wouldn't be as bad I don't know but here's where things get even crazier a lot of Japanese women aren't just rejecting Japanese men they're rejecting dating entirely yeah and this is where the real problem comes in Japan is facing a massive population crisis the birth rate is collapsing people aren't getting married they aren't even dating there are entire businesses built around renting boyfriends and girlfriends because people are so disconnected from real relationships and for women there's a lot
of pressure the expectation is still there get married have kids be a traditional wife but modern Japanese women they're not interested so what does this all mean simple the entire dating scene in Japan is breaking down it's not just about Japanese men failing to attract women it's not just about foreign men struggling with cultural differences it's all of it a complete societal shift fewer relationships more isolation and the idea of romance in Japan it's disappearing and here's the big twist if you're a foreigner thinking Japan is some dating Paradise think again the truth is it
doesn't matter where you're from what matters is how well you fit into Japan itself and if you don't understand the culture if you don't learn the language if you don't actually connect on a deeper level you're just another Foreigner passing through I don't mean to sound like a dick here I just want you to see the full picture so the real question isn't just why dating in Japan is nearly impossible the real question is are Japanese women even interested in dating at all anymore kind of need to figure out if this is a person that
you want to be in a relationship with within the first few days people always say it's within 3 days don't kiss you don't hold hands you don't touch you don't have sex whatsoever and a lot of time the guy ask the girl if she wants to become her girlfriend as they say this is the confessed culture of Japanese dating and if the girl say yes yes they become couple officially after 3 days as a Japanese person it's so crazy to me that in
